Eggcellent Egg Buddies - a thread for those IVFing in November, December and January

[eurochick]

New thread. Welcome back to all the regulars. Welcome to all the newbies - please come and join us if you are IVFing or thinking about. The regulars are a mine of information at this point!

Do you realise that this will take us through a year of egg buddy threads? I believe Karbea started the last one around Xmas time last year for those cycling in 2013 and I immediately jumped on it as I was about to start my first cycle in January. Blimey.

res I am so so sorry for you. Look after yourself, tomorrow is a new year and hopefully will be lucky for you.

Oh Res I am so very sorry. I hope you can get out of work. Keeping everything crossed it's not ectopic.

Well done to starting Bugs and Bunny. It will go so fast now.

Welcome back Stars and Pip. Stars when is AF due? I'm doing short protocol this month, I'm only on CD 7 so still got 2 weeks to wait.
Pip I did have bleeding for a few days on LP after my period but I was stimming at that point and they said it was some of my lining. Maybe it's still leftover from your period?

Motor it's great to hear it's all going well. I have known NoMaybe on mn for a few years. She is doing really well, she is having a little girl. I really miss Juicy/Prammy and her funny posts.

Euro hope you are hanging in there. Not long to wait now.

Fish I've been thinking of you lots. How are you doing?

Waves to Tallulah, Brooker, Nobeer, MaryP, Fab and everyone else.

Forgot to say hi to Hatters, Beetle and Twinks

Does anyone remember me posting a few weeks ago about my drugs not getting delivered? Well I did eventually get them after waiting in for 3 days. Anyway a delivery has turned up this morning with another load of drugs. It's definitely a duplicate order. I tried to refuse it but the guy wouldn't take it. He said I have to take it up with the company. I've been on hold for over an hour, just got through to someone. I told them half the story and then I got cut off. AIBU not to contact them again? I know they must be worth a lot of money but surely it's not my problem to sort out (I will of course give them back if they contact me). What do you guys think I should do?

Res. That's dreadful news, you must be devastated.

Cups - keep them. If they can't be bothered to monitor the delivery properly, why should you? And I might be in the market for some 2nd hand drugs myself soon so maybe we could do a deal ;-)

Got my hCG result - 83 - so definitely failing pregnancy and unlikely to be ectopic. Can't believe how little blood/pain there's been but it has been going on for 2 weeks so should soon be over. Hey ho.

Onwards - has anyone had IVF m/c then gone on to FET? How long should I wait? Tempted to start DRing on CD1 of next AF...

PS Thanks for your messages. You're all so kind, particularly considering my woeful absence from day to day.

Kinda wish my cousin and her 6 month old weren't coming over later but they live 300 miles away so it'd be rude to cancel.

Just had thought that frosties might not thaw properly and am now paralysed with fear. I HATE this stuff.

I'm just jumping in to answer respisa's question on IVf MC FET. I figured it may/not be useful here rather than a PM.

So I started IVF May, MC Aug 1st then, FET Nov but this would have been Oct but I had to have another mock transfer so ET delayed by a month.

3/4 of my day-5/6 embies defrosted (all done for NHS funding reasons which I still feel awful about), 1 didn't expand very well although it did defrost and 2 were transferred. I had natural FET so no DR just scans and crinone. It didn't end well but my clinic are stating bad luck even though I'll be investigated for MC's.

Your clinic will be able to tell you their defrost rates - this has increased across the board recently as clinic's use a new freezing process. Mine has a 83% defrost rate.

When the ET was cancelled in Oct I fell to pieces (cried for 4 days straight). I realised then that Oct would have been too soon after the IVF and MC and was determined to sort myself out before Nov. I had a lot counselling and acupuncture, that 4 week delay made a huge difference and I was calm throughout.

Maybe I did still rush it but I wanted to try to be pregnant for the EDD of our first baby and wanted all traces of IVF to stay in 2013. We are still happy with our choices as we have decided to stay away from TTC next year bar investigation. In fact I'm glad it stays in 2013 and am kind of looking forward to 2014 as I see it as a year of reclaiming myself after 2 shitty years.

respisa do what is right for you I can only tell you my story - I do not have any advice. You will probably have to wait for your review anyway which depending on clinic this can take a while. Personally, I would take time to grieve (advice - sorry), reasoning being that I ended up in a state over my lost fertility as well as grief for my child and anger at the unfairness and cruelty of it all. How long that takes depends on you I guess.

Shit - another essay I'm so sorry. I wish you all a happy new year as far as possible and may 2014 be a happier year for us all.

Fish.x

res it's good that it's not ectopic but still such awful news. Have you been able to leave work?

When I mc'd I felt desperate to try again asap. But in hindsight, having to wait a few months (mainly due to work travel) was a good thing. The mc affected me more physically than I had realised, and of course the emotional side needed to heal as well.

Thanks Fish. I hear what you say but the need to press on is overwhelming! Just said goodbye to cousin's 4 (not 6) month old. Didn't help.

Euro, the generous (!) senior partner let us all go at 12.30.

res awful news, hugs

I did it! Well when I say I did it, I meant my hubby did it! After getting the pen ready with the needle out I started freaking out a bit so DH took over. Gonna have a few glasses of fizz tonight before I give it up for at least 9 months

IVF ICSI has begun, guess I really am in the gang now

Hurrah bunny! You are on the way!

res um, yes, very generous! I am amazed that you have managed to spend the afternoon with a baby. You are nails. But do give yourself a chance to grieve when it sinks in. x

I'll be having a very odd NYE. The first one that I will have spent sober in over 20 years. And the first one ever that will be just me and mr euro at home without any guests. I have the dread today - I feel the most "normal" I have since my BFP - and this is around the time it went wrong last time. I have kept busy today, which has been good, but in quiet moments I am menkulling.

I hope we all much better 2014s than we have had 2013s. As for 2013... well, don't let the door hit your arse on the way out, eh?

respisa I think with 'this', there is no right or wrong as it is so personal and difficult. I think if you want to go again you should.
I am thinking of you tonight. Words are just not enough but I am so sorry that you are going through this. I hope the next few days are not too difficult. .

I must say the natural FET was so much easier and quicker and no where near as demanding as fresh.

nocups thank you for thinking of me, we are coping the best we can. I am still a mess but we will be ok. We have to be.

beetle I am thinking of you tonight. I hope you are ok.

To the cyclers, newly pregnant euro, motor all of the lurkers diffed and learning, to those who are in 'healing' mode. I wish you all the best for 2014.

P.s pram still lurks and is doing very well!

euro we cross posted - I hope the menkulling reduces, remember this is a new and different pregnancy. Are you keeping busy tonight? Can I drink for you? NY is a big deal to me it always has been and it seems weird to be home just the two of us. I'm hoping to be asleep before midnight.

You are right - respisa is hardcore! So many here inspire me with your strength. It has got me through some dark days.

As for 2013 I'm a bit scared to flip it the bird in case 2014 is watching - I think 2013 watched last NYE as I cursed 2012, but it can definitely get to fuck.

Hello all

Res- I'm so sorry to see your news fish has very good advice, it's all so personal what to do next. Give your body time to recover lovely xxx

2013 has been horrid. Beside a few golden glimmers of love and luck on here, it's been pretty grim.

We have made a huge personal decision. We are moving forward in 2014 with donor eggs. I don't trust my body and my shit eggs anymore and I want to do what gives me the best chance. I have no issue whatsoever with genetics therefore, I'm just gonna do it.

We have found a fab little clinic in the Czech Republic and we are hoping to book for Easter.

Perhaps I haven't given my own eggs a good enough chance? Perhaps I should make more effort with my own eggs?? But after 3 cycles of zero fertilisation and not one blastocyst and poor embryos, I'm cutting my losses.

I'm at peace with this decision.

I hope you all find peace in 2014 as well my lovely friends xxx

Hi Tame.

Good for you. I can say with certainty that at no point between my BFP on 15 Dec and today did I ever think this was not my baby despite the donor egg (dodgy as it turned out to be).

Everyone else, please forgive today's self-absorbed posts with little or no acknowledgement of where you all are. I will catch up mentally soon, I hope.

Euro - don't overthink it cause it will be what it will be. Of course, I failed to follow this wise advice myself!

Res- thanks

And again, I'm so sorry to see your news xxx

I think the recent cancelled cycle just made my mind up. Although it was nothing to do with the eggs, it just confirmed that I'm emotionally not able to cope with the gamble. Using my eggs is a gamble, it's not the option with the best odds.

I'm afraid I'm not commited enough to another genetic child to keep pursuing it.

Hello lovely Tame that sounds like the right decision for you, well done on getting there

AFM my mum is now pretty poorly and we are thinking that she's exhibiting Parkinson's/dementia symptoms but unfortunately she discharged herself from the hospital against their advice and whilst being bonkers isn't considered bonkers enough to get her back into hospital. You can't make this stuff up. So my sisters and I have got to work out a way of caring for her when she's currently decided that we are all in cahoots against her....hey ho...

I wish everyone the best for a fabulous new year and new beginnings. 2013 can fuck off, roll on 2014 I shall gorge myself on champagne for all you ladies who can't!!

Res - so so sorry to hear your news.

Here's to 2014..may it be the most positive and amazing year for everyone - and yes, 2013, bugger off, we're ready for a new year!

res I'm really sorry to hear your terrible news xx