TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

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I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

I only got a positive this morning!!! What an amazing Christmas present. Weren't even meant to be trying properly until next month so had left it until a 5 days after what I thought would be the danger zone!!! Period due on Christmas Eve and became suspicious when a hot bath made me light headed and wine made me feel sick!!! Can't believe it!!! Fingers crossed all fine. Good luck everyone else xxx

Congratulations, what an amazing christmas present,

well to update I poas yesterday and it was a bfn, weirdly wsnt disappointed our relieved so not sure what that means, thn got af at around half 5,

Wil be talking to dh to see are we properly going try in the new year, but fur now I had a lovely bottle of chardonnay all tomyself yesterday, and have plans for new years eve, santa have us all wonderful presents amd ds was most excited about the little pack of buttons he got in his stocking which was hilarious, happy to have our little family happy and v healthy and looking forward to the he year,

Best of luck to all still on the 2ww and merry christmas,

Haven't been writing lately sorry . Af arrived mid dec and have now just tried again in the second cycle . BFP due around 8.1. I think so on the dreaded 2 ww again. Not feeling positive at all due to past experiences and will try not to think about it until then . Crazily symptom spotting last time though so don't know if I can . Merry Christmas to all . Hope you've had a lovely time ! And congrats to all lucky ones with recent BFP!!!

Yay for claryrocks! That's mighty lucky missing out on ttc totally!

Nordicmum - my af is due on the 8.1. Think I Ov d yesterday....

Glad to hear you're feeling ok with the bfn mmmbacon.

Happy Christmas everyone

Sticking my head around the door, congratulations Clary! And FX for everyone else x

just found this thread and has been great to read... we are still debating ttc no 3 , some days I cannot imagine anything worse now we are through the baby days which i found hard, but stopped taking pill 2 months ago to see what happens - took 18 months to concieve ds1 and only 2 weeks after stopping pill to concieve ds2 which was a slight shock!

15 month gap between ds1 ( just turned 3 ) and ds 2 ( 22 months ), 1 emergency c section and 1 elective, hospitals in general scare me and the thought of walking into the operating theatre again petrifies me although not as much as going through a 5 day labour with ds1 being back to back and getting to 9cm before being told c section lol

worries for having a 3rd mainly around money, cars, no bedroom space, both ds's bad sleepers and i work late shifts and cant afford much mat leave... but with all that i simply dont feel finished and would rather have a small a gap as possible as it already feels massive compared to my current gap :) I think im mad and just so used to being obsesed with getting pregnant its not secnd nature, and as pp said DH has tentativley agreed to unprotected sex purely to get more !!!

Congratulations Clary! How fantastic, what a lovely christmas surprise.
Welcome Clara. As you will have seen a lot of us are in the slightly petrified camp!
AF is due on Monday and am planning to POAS on Tuesday (just so I know if I can drink properly that night!) otherwise I wouldn't bother. Only cycle 1 for us and tbh it was a bit of a half hearted attempt

Congratulations clarys!

Clara tbh I'm totally petrified! Just today I thought will I be able to go through pregnancy again (my births have been ok ish), I'm very bad at coping with the worry and am so so nervous let alone the exhaustion.

I just finished my first period post miscarriage so this will be our first proper lets try for a baby cycle but I'm still far off taking temperature etc. I think we'll just have lots of unprotected sex for now.

good luck for Tuesday HaveYou, the one benefit of getting a BFN will be you can have a drink at new year :)

fingers crossed snowpink, sorry to hear of your mc. I used the clearblue fertility monitor when TTC both times before and it was brlliant , also took b12 vits and natures own clomid soy isoflavens for DS1 and got preg 2nd month using them , i cant seem to just stay relaxed hehe

so nice to hear im not alone in being scared of another another, all our friends have 2 with no desire for a 3rd so its hard to talk to anyone about. I forgot to say I had terrible SPD in both pregnancies with crutches from 20 weeks so the thought of that with 2 toddlers plays heavily on my mind and does make me think sticking at 2 is by far the easier option!

Clara, I think I'm only relaxed for the first three cycles max and then I'll get some ovulation sticks too. Luckily I fell pregnant both times easily, just kept track of my cycle days but you never know, not getting any younger. I've never had SPD thankfully and can't even imagine the pain! Is this something like you're bound to get in every pregnancy?

Hi all can I join the thread. Just fallen preg with my third.......v nervous and v excited!

Welcome and congrats Girlsville!

Am really nervous about poas tomorrow. .... af was due today. Told dp I was going to and he paled! Said it was just precaution before tomorrow night......

BFP! Eeek!!! I really can't believe it...

Poor dp...... he's going to be going pale again. We did agree to try but only on the basis it would take months. We DTD once
. It's his birthday this morning. .... oh god.
Still sleeping like a baby next me with ds2.
My phone is buggering about with mumsnet and we're off on holiday for a few days so good luck to anyone else at the end of their cycle..... and happy new year, may the end if 2014 see lots more babies.

Wow congrats everyone with bfps! Brilliant news!

Happy new year to everyone - pretty sure I'll be snoring away well before midnight!

congras gurksville and have you :) great start to the new year ! when is your due date? how did your dh take the news?! xx

I think due date is 12 September. Eek! We have a 15 month age gap between dd1 and 2 and are in a really nice stage now. Dh is pleased but a bit nervous as to how it will affect things!

Just checked -8th sep. Was sure it would be a late aug bday so that's good news I guess! Though with elcs and ds1 came at 38 weeks so will need to be carefully timed!
Dp was fine..... calm. Though he is far from himself! Wewere ao busy lleaving the house yesterday morning it only sunk in half way along the m4.
Well, am 4+2 or something like that. Already had my first daytime nap and just tasted the boys pasta and pesto - it tasted so awful, like paraffin or something, sobitter and still got the taste in my mouth (3 adults all tasted and said was fine) so..... early start to symptoms....

I might be the same have! Faint bfp this am, should it stick around I'd be due 18.09. I get induced at 38 weeks as have a blood disorder so we'd have very simular edd.

How are your symptoms?

V quiet here at the moment!

OMG.....what is going on in this thread? i am very nervously saying i got a bfp tonight and too scared to tell dh even tho he saw me buy the tests .................... due date would be 20th sept but i would have my section at 39 weeks same as last tie i assime... i am in shock and cant believe theres so many of us having bfp's this week?!

i have had cramping all day and felt very emotional the other day although thought i was ony 10dpo today so too early for syptoms :S

the thought of having a 3.9 year old, 2.5 year old and baby is surreal !!!

Congrats Clara! I can't begin to imagine what life with three will be like......

Me nether girls ville... its the sleepless nights, carrying car seats, being carried everywhere, I would want a new double pram as both ds's still use a pram now to keep them contained while out shopping...

I am honestly worrying ive made a mistake and how will we cope with this when things are so much easier now :S

I know the feeling! My dds are just playing so nicely together and am trying to picture what it will be like with the third!
But dh and I have always wanted 3 and thought it was better to get allthe early years out the way while we are in the mindset. Think much harder to go back to a newborn if you have much older children.

thats true and why we wanted small gaps, I think i found a 15 month gap easy in alot of ways as ds1 was still a baby and had only started walking 3 weeks before ds2 was born ..... but now ds1 and 2 are proper toddlers it seems like a different thing altogether!

when are you going to see the dr / mw? I think last time i went at about 5 weeks to make sure scan booked in time etc but again it just feels so weird to be thinking pregnancy dates and times again!!

Have you told dh clara?

Congrats by the way!

I had another slightly less faint line this am in the proper timeframe so I guess a line is a line... DH seems slightly shellshocked! Did say a ds would be nice though!

It is weird to be back to this again, my girls will be 4.5 and 2.5 if all goes well and this baby arrives in Sept. I hate pushchairs, highchairs etc and the nearly two year old doesn't use any of those now... Oh, and the sleep...!