TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

[bonzo77]

I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

Bonzo77 36yo, TTC#3 (2xDS), Cycle no: not sure, 6?
ELR 36, TTC#3 1DD 11, 1DS 8, Cycle 4

Thyroid is borderline hypo at the moment and dips lower every now and again but dr is very cautious so not medicating me, which is fine but a struggle sometimes.

Whoops missed a few inbetween my post!
Bonzo77 36yo, TTC#3 (2xDS), Cycle no: not sure, 6?

MrsW2809 27yo, TTC#3 (1 DS 1DD), cycle no: 0! - coil due out in 9 days!

2lilGirls 30yo, TTC#3 (2xDD) Cycle no. 5

ELR 36, TTC#3 1DD 11, 1DS 8, Cycle 4

Can I join in the conversation too. TTC number 3, at 42. Got BFP very quickly, in Feb (dtd once!), but unfortunately that ended in a mc at 6 weeks. BFP again in July, and was devastated to miscarry again at 5 weeks. Due to irregular heaving bleeding on and off since then, I became anaemic, so we decided to wait, on doctors advice, for 2 normal cycles before trying again. And now we are ready to start again. Be nice to have company to rant with. Desperately hope we can get a sticky bean this time. I feel like there is a baby boom in my area, all I see are new babies, or ladies due to drop any day, and I feel soo sad/jealous when I do. Can I add my stats, think I might be the oldest one here.

Leons 42, TTC 3, 1 DS 6, 1DD 3, Cycle 1

welcome Leons. You poor thing, you've really been through a lot this year. I really hope you have a safe, easy pregnancy very soon.

Still no AF. The test I used today was a clearblue digital and I've been googling it just now, it seems it's not very accurate and lots of people get bfns on it but bfp on first response etc.
I'm probably clutching at straws now? I might get a FR tomorrow and finally put myself out of my misery.

2lilgirls I get the clutching at straws thing I have done it every month since ttc but some of these stats have got to be true haven't they!
leons sounds like you have had a rough time fingers crossed that's all behind you now.
Had my gp app I've got labyrinthitis apparently can take upto 6 weeks to recover, also he is sending me for full bloods to test my thyroid and my anemia caused by menaragia (heavy periods) and I've also got a mucus cyst on my lady bits! Proper name bartholins cyst. Also fell out with my best friend this morning. So apart from that I'm fine!
How's everyone else??
P.s. 2lilgirls I will be texting again in the morning too!!

Did you test ELR?

Bfn for me on first response, definitely out. Ah well, maybe next month. Must have ovulated late.

ELR I fell out with my best friend. Admittedly it was a loooong time ago. Turns out she wasn't that "best" after all. Hope that your fall out either is a mistake that works out ok, or a case of "good riddance". Sounds like your GP is looking after you, and investigating your concerns. I had a bartholins cyst once. It really was very painful, but went quite quickly.

2lilgirls I think we all clutch at straws. I'm not sure if the discovery of internet cheapie pg tests was a bad thing (means I test all the time at random and inappropriate times of the month), or a great money saving tip. I have massive bag of them. And another one of ovulation tests!

Sorry to hear of all the bfns.

Dhs work not looking utterly stable at this point, think he's getting twitchy feet (he was made redundant two months before dd2 was born) about no 3. Just have to keep 'persuading' him!

I always test early. Always swear I won't and always do!

Thanks bonzo she's a good friend but has different values and morals to me and so we shall see!
2lilgirls I didn't test this morning as couldn't find the ic's and didn't want to waste an expensive test! Will hunt out the ic's for the morning!
Yes keep persuading him orange!

2lilgirls, how old are you? Am I the oldest???

Well, AF starting atm, so that is me out too! Oh well, lots of pre-Xmas tipples :-) I really don't think it's going to happen for us! Not sure how I feel about that. I do want a third. But on the other hand, life is good now, why mess with it!? What if something went wrong? Having a newborn at nearly 40 - can you imagine how tired I would be!

It does make me wonder though, how many people I know with 2 thought maybe they would have one more, tried for a while and when it didn't happen after 6 months or so, decided to stick with 2.

Right now I'm thinking I'll give it til I'm 39 (June) and if it hasn't happened by then, to sort out some long term contraception.

leons, so sorry, I didn't see your post! Clearly you are the oldest! I am sorry to hear of your mc's. I had an early mc before Ds2 and I vowed never to put myself through it again. Yet here I am... Mine are 6 and 3 too, although DS1 is almost 7.

So my stats are
Cakecrumbs 38, TTC No. 3, DS's 7&3, cycle 4 (although actually stopped contraception in May! trying 'properly' since Aug)

cakes I know what you mean, why rock the boat? But then I think aaah wouldn't it be nice to have one more!!
Found the an ic test and another bfn!

bonzo, yes at least mine is also a 28/29 day cycle this month too.

ELR, I get one of those cysts every so often too - particularly annoying when you are ttc! They can not return for years sometimes though.

Watching with interest if you dont mind, have DS1 (3 in January) and DS2 (5 months) but just can't shake the feeling of not quite being done yet...

We had a 'scare' this month (unprotected sex once followed by af being 8 days late) and whilst it really really wouldn't be optimal timing (in a flat that is quickly getting too small, in the process of buying a house but massively complicated and may well fall through at any point) and with usual fears of no time/no money...still had moments of being excited inbetween the crippling fear!

So just looking for some positive stories or horror ones to convine me I'm done and 3 would be a terrible idea! to bear in mind for the future

Congratulations too dines

Have you all told people that you are ttc? We haven't told a soul, apart from I've told to one old friend who I only see every 6 months or so that we've stopped using contraception. To everyone else I pretend we're sticking at two!

My mum knows. That's it! I also pretend sticking to two!

Hi guys, It's been exactly 5 weeks since I took my last pill. Still no AF, it's bugging me now I want AF to turn up so that I know things are back to normal cycle wise.

Have you tested sj?

I am trying very hard not to get a bit obsessed ttc at the moment. Feeling very broody. I thought I would be more relaxed with number 3!

Seriously sj. Put us out of our misery. POAS!

orangefizz im like u, trying not to obsess, its hard not to when so broody though. Im not relaxed about it at all, I worry it wont happen because of my age and if doesnt I know in years to come I will have a sense of regret. I know im very blessed with my 2 dc, but just have this thought that number 3 wld make us more complete, sorry might be a bit silly. I suppose being pregnant twice this year we were gearing up to be a family of 5 twice and if I hadn't gotten pregnant at all maybe I wldnt feel so broody.
Sorry to rant and rant but where else can u rant.

Just a quick question.. Thinking about TTC DC3.. But we are getting married next year... WWYD?? I didn't think I wanted a 3rd (DP does) but now I'm thinking otherwise, and don't want to wait until TTC until the summer. But do I want to be a pregnant bride.. No. But I'm so broody!! Ahh.

I poas last friday(15th) and it was neg. I am feeling so sick today. Argh!

I'd poas again sj!

I got married in between dcs 1 and 2 coffee and would have started ttc much earlier but I too wanted to wear the lovey dress etc. it was fine and actually the age gap was better as it was I think. A friend was pg with no 2 at my hen do and I was SO jealous!!

I'm feeling stressed because we've decided that the max age ago we want between 2 and 3 is 3 years so now I'm worried it won't happen. I also think I will always have a bit of a regret if we don't have a third child. Silly really given that I also worry that three might be a stretch in every way!

No 3 is a much harder decision than 1 or 2!

Yes, POAS again. It's been over a week and still no AF!

orange I think you just get the age gap you get. It's not really under your control. I'm just hoping I get pg before DS2 starts school. Because a) i'll be 40 by then, which seems old, though I know it's not really, and several of my friends have had babies after 40. And b) I don't want to go back to work in a less part time way than I am now, as I said I would when my youngest is at school, and then find I end up taking another career break.

Anyway, I'll be CD8 tomorrow, so out come the OPKs and time to get shagging despite what I said about the next few months not being a great idea timing wise

done it, neg again, my pill has seriously messed my body up lol x