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TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

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bonzo77 · 06/11/2013 14:59

I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

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Cakecrumbsinmybra · 13/01/2014 17:37

I am starting to get a bit down about it now tbh. Sad

OrangeFizz99 · 13/01/2014 18:17

Oh no cakes sorry to hear that.

Ttc is a bit of a bitch even third time round apparently.

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bonzo77 · 13/01/2014 21:53

oh cakes it doesn't get easier does it? Biological clock, age gaps, the though of still dealing with all the newborn stuff (not to mention delivering a baby) when we're practically OAPs. I'm the same. No contraception now for about 8 months and nothing. Obviously we should all be counting our blessings. I had a big rant up thread though. How long does one leave it before investigating I wonder?

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bonzo77 · 13/01/2014 21:55

hmm. maybe it's 7 months. still too long. it's not taken this long before. but then I've not been this old before!

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Tranquilitybaby · 13/01/2014 23:34

Actually, I found my recovery to be quicker after my second section. I did have a mild scar infection, but as I was bf, I just cleaned it with salt water each day (as per midwive's advice) and it cleared up easily.

My overhang on my scar is a different matter :(

Cakecrumbsinmybra · 14/01/2014 11:08

It doesn't help that I can't talk about it with anyone either. Well, I could, but for some reason I just don't want people to know we're trying. Partly because of my age and the chances of failure and mc, I think.

I've decided I am going to make an GP appointment, it's been 8 months without contraception for us, and 5 months of trying properly. We won't go down any complicated route, but if there is something simple that I need to do, then I should find out. (I have no idea about fertility treatment though, so perhaps this doesn't exist?) I should probably try something holistic too - a diet overhaul/avoiding alcohol/doing acupuncture?

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bonzo77 · 14/01/2014 12:02

cake I'm in the same boat as you. Totally. I'll prob wait till September before going to the GP. I'd love some reassurance that my insides are not all furred up with adhesions. And that I'm definitely ovulating.

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snowpink · 14/01/2014 22:14

Go and get it checked out cake, especially if you fell pregnant easily before (and certainly if you've experienced any problems). Maybe I would fib a little and tell them you've been trying for over a year, not sure if they do much if it's been less than that.
I only speak to a very select few about ttc no 3. With no 1 and 2 it was different, everyone expected that from us and most of our friends were in the same boat, but with no 3 I fear that most think we're bonkers if that makes sense.

inadreamworld · 14/01/2014 23:57

snowpink same as you I have not told any of my friends that we want a 3rd baby as a lot of people will think I am bonkers especially as my DC are 2.8 and 11 months. Also we have 2 girls and if number 3 doesn't come along or if number 3 is a girl I don't want them to think I am sad because we didn't have a boy because that isn't true. In fact I had a dream that we had a 3rd girl so lets see what happens......

snowpink · 15/01/2014 12:34

Argh! And now a good friend of mine told me she's pregnant with her third, due around the due date from my miscarriage! Of course I'm happy for her and she held off telling me until some time had passed since the mc, but still! I wish I was a little more determined this cycle. But next cycle we start this dtd every other day! Bit more focus! Wink

HaveYouTriedARewardChart · 15/01/2014 12:48

Cake - I'm right that AF not due till this weekend? So still reason to keep fingers crossed. Good luck anyway and keeping fingers crossed for you and others.
It took 5 months to conceive DS2, not really long at all in the grand scheme of things but it felt like forever, given that DS1 was the first month. I really sympathise.

Cakecrumbsinmybra · 16/01/2014 18:38

Yes, I am going to get it checked out as I need to go to GP for something else anyway so I might as well get the ball rolling. Ha ha, yes I also don't want people to think I am trying for a girl, because we're so not! snowpink that is really hard. Yes, I am determined that we dtd every other day this next month, but lord the effort!!!!

haveyou, thank you, but AF is definitely on it's way. Oh well, who wants to be heavily pregnant in July/August anyway? Wink

Cakecrumbsinmybra · 16/01/2014 18:39

Thanks for the support everyone btw

mrspuddleduckie · 16/01/2014 20:04

Hello everyone - have been reading this thread since Christmas, as we are hoping to start TTC for third baby in April, for a 2015 baby

Congratulations to all the BFPs so far :)

I have two DSs, aged 3 & 1, and want to have one more baby quite close in age - I'm 28 and fell pregnant with both boys on first month or trying, but this time I might try and DTD quite a way before ovulation, just to experiment with the Shettles theory (even though I logically know it's all make believe!)

I had my Nexplanon implant removed today and will be OPKing and charting between now and April, hoping that this is enough time for my cycle to settle down a little bit

It's great to have a thread for baby number 3 - I know my friends and family will think I'm mad

HaveYouTriedARewardChart · 16/01/2014 20:17

Ha ha cake not me oh god

Shock

Meanwhile over on the graduates thread the symptoms (and the reality) are kicking in.....

MrsPuddleDuck what's the theory?

maxpower · 16/01/2014 20:34

Hi all can I join you? I have a DD (7) and DS (3). DH and I have just started ttc #3. I'm 37 so time is against us a bit. Previously it's taken us well over a year ttc each time but DH has been uncharacteristically enthusiastic about getting the job done this time ;-) I'm interested to see how long that will last :-) We'll have to be pretty regimented about dtd as he works shifts including nights and weekends and I work full-time m-f so we basically have to take every opportunity we have!

mrspuddleduckie · 16/01/2014 20:46

The theory - which is totally unproven, but will give it a shot - is that girls are most likely to be conceived if you have sex 5 days before ovulation and boys are more likely to arise from sex on or closer to ovulation day. Both my boys were O-day babies, so I'm just going to see experiment for fun! Truthfully, I just want a baby, don't really mind the sex - I just have a great girls name leftover from two boy pregnancies and I want to use it!

OrangeFizz99 · 17/01/2014 09:39

mrspuddleduck - same for me but t'other way round. Boys name very ready to go post two dds but a third dd name will be tricky!!

I read the shettles book but dh (science phd) poo poohed it.

inadreamworld · 17/01/2014 09:47

mrspuddle I didn't know it was called the shettles theory but a woman came up to me the other day, saw I had 2 DDs and went in to a lengthy explanation of how I could get a boy (something about sex on Ovulation day). I don't care whether have a boy or another girl and sounds like a lot of stress to me, not into charting and OPKs!!

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bonzo77 · 17/01/2014 09:51

welcome max and mrspuddle

I'd read about shettles, but TBH we seems to find it so hard to get pregnant that it doesn't seem worth reducing our chances further. I do know of two people who had girls after following it and some special diet, one had a girl after 2 boys, the other after 3 boys (and then had another boy).

Fortunately, we don't have any names, as we have used our boys' names, and never came up with a proper girls' name.

Well, AF is late. According to fertility friend it was due yesterday. But that would be a 30 day cycle, and my longest ones have been 34 or 35 days, so I need to wait till monday or tuesday really to test. But I don't feel pregnant.

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Tranquilitybaby · 17/01/2014 12:45

Hello, I've been lurking but just wanted to post. Considering (well more me than DH to be honest) TTC no. 3. I've been broody for about 4 years now on and off. I just can't shake it. I'm 36 now though and my dd is 12, DS 9.

I've gone through all the cons / too big an age gap now, I feel that I'm getting too old, it'll be like starting again, I suffer from health anxiety, but even after all that I'm still broody!

DH just keeps saying he doesn't know, it's probably be wonderful but he's scared and he doesn't want to be an older dad (he's nearly 40).

Anyone else gone through similar before starting TTC? X

snowpink · 17/01/2014 12:49

We dtd way before ovulation and both times we had boys, although it worked for my friend. Now I'm like bonzo, I'll just take anything. (And secretly I'm hoping for another boy...)

Good luck bonzo! Fingers crossed for mon/tues!

maxpower · 17/01/2014 12:57

Hi tranquillity I think we all go through our own pros and cons when thinking about ttc #3. I'm lucky as dh is keen for a third.

Good luck bonzo

HaveYouTriedARewardChart · 17/01/2014 13:59

Good luck bonzo!

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bonzo77 · 17/01/2014 15:51

tranquility welcome. I'm also 36 and DH will be 40 soon. On Monday in fact. You'll have a decent age gap: fewer concerns about fitting in car seats and picking double buggies than some here. I'm the first of three, with a big gap. My middle brother and I certainly helped a lot when the "surprise" arrived.

Suddenly feeling very sick. But I think it's more to do with the pain from my thumbnail which I bruised in a freak accident involving slippery decking, unsuitable foot wear and a large knife. TBH I got off lightly!! Still no AF though.

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