TTC no 3? Anyone just started / about to start / about to start thinking about it?

[bonzo77]

I am absolutely not going to go nuts about it this time like I did for no 2. Because my kids have each other and won't be alone looking after their ancient parents in years to come. But a 3rd would be a bonus. And part of me doesn't care either way, and another part cannot wait for a lovely little snuggly new born. And part of me is enjoying getting my nights back, and my body, and is worried about the money, the lack of bedrooms, the need for a bigger car, having another miscarriage, or high risk pregnancy, a 3rd CS, a baby in intensive care. But then 5 months of no contraception and nothings happening..... The baby is 11 months, and we said we'd start putting more effort in once he is 1....

Anyone in the same boat? Want to hang out and worry / pretend not to worry?

Girlsville - snap, my dd1 would be starting reception when the baby was born too if all goes to plan!

Hi,

I have been lurking on this thread for a while as had mirena removed in November, then bled on and off for 2 weeks as they struggled with removing it, I put it down to that, we DTD every day I wasn't bleeding then tried to every 2-3 days following that as had no idea where I was up to, tested over Christmas and got a really faint BFP on Saturday, they remained faint, waiting until tomorrow to test again, hoping it will be darker. Had symptoms from about Christmas Day, so not sure how far on I am but suppose its about 3-4 weeks. Wasn't expecting it to happen so soon. I have 2 boys already aged 5 and 3, think my due date is round about my eldest birthday but have been induced 2 weeks early both times due to GD. Already trying not to eat much sugar or fat or put on much weight, worried might not get rid of it afterwards. My partner is starting a new job, so looking at another car, was looking at a piccanto but now considering a mireva! Not rung the midwifes as think they only come to the surgery on a Tuesday, when I'm at work and don't want them to know yet. I had a mc before my first child and bled at 6 with both boys, so waiting to see if that happens again. Good luck to everyone. I'm already suffering with loads of symptoms.

So I stupidly test tonight on a clear blue that came in the shopping at 7pm and it was negative. I should have waited for the morning but when I have tests in the house I am compelled to use them in some strange way! Anyway it is cycle day 28 tomorrow and my cycles are 26 to 30 so will try first thing, although apart from sore boobs no symptoms and with other two boys - I have convinced myself I knew by now :(

Aghhhh will update tomorrow morning with test results. As I already have two children, I know rationally I should be grateful and try not to obsess but it is so hard not to feel a bit aghhh, also as I had the MMC last year I feel a bit more stressed that it may not happen...

After reading your posts, going to google baby aspirin...

Hi, I've just discovered this thread and would like to join in, please I've been posting on other boards here but this seems more the place, from bonzo's OP.

We have 2 beautiful dds aged almost 5yo and 20mo. They both took a while to conceive; dd1 naturally after 9m and dd2 two years and 6 cycles of clomid.

DH started saying around dd2's first birthday in April last year that he would like another baby. I've not been too sure about it (mainly due to the stress of conceiving dd2). It's the practical things mentioned on this thread that make me worry - as well as the issue that I'd have another ELCS (assisted vaginal delivery wih dd1, ELCS with dd2).

Yet thoughts of another newborn to love and cuddle are becoming more prominent ...

To those of you who have had two ELCS: how was the 2nd compared the first? How did your body fare second time?

I only have the scar, no overhang, no other issues. Just wondering if I'd be so lucky if there is another!

I have just read through all of the posts which has taken me an age! Feel as though I'm up to speed now though:) congrats to all the recent BFPS!!!

I am on cd 13 of a 28 day cycle so am going for it this week :) I'm on,y on cycle 1

I love hearing of people's BFPS who is testing next?

Congratulations to all bfps and welcome to all newcomers!
Sorry would post more often but my mumsnet app keeps crashing, very annoying.

I think I'm in the fertile days at the moment, dtd over the weekend but it's so hard to find the time during the week when dh comes home at 10.30 pm or later and the kids wake up at 6! So unless my fertile over a weekend or holiday, it's looking a bit bleak

Sorry, every OTHER day. Just the thought of every day makes me feel faint.

Fingers crossed for ovulation at weekends for you snow!

Started an ante natal ttc no 3 thread just now

Hi molotov. My second section (elcs, first was emcs) was way harder to recover from. Maybe just chance, maybe cause it was a bit of a rush as crash call just as they were starting. Or maybe due to what my community midwife loved to refer to as my "pendulous abdomen" (said in broad Jamaican drawl PENDULOUS abdomen......) The resulting devastation (overhang, drooping stomach and crepey skin) is a bit worse than first time round but not much.

Thanks for that Reward

I'm almost 31 - I was 29 when I had the dd2. I'm pretty trim and a healthy weight but tummy has softened since dd2! I like it; feels more 'womanly' somehow but I do wonder how I'd here fare after another pg/CS.

The decision whether to have another is strange compared with our first 2 - bonzo summarised the feelings perfectly in her OP.

I really enjoyed having dd2 to myself whilst dd1 was at nursery. That gives me to at least December this year to decide ...

It is a preferable situation to be in: I was desparate for dd1 and literally ached for dd2. Another baby would be a lovely bonus, I think. I just don't know when to start playing the conception lottery because I don't get pg quickly!

And not nice to be described as 'pendulous!' What a cheek!

The thought of having a son is lovely; another girl would be wonderful, too. We would have our own 'three graces'

And it's thoughts like this thar jar against certain practical thoughts

Link to Orange's antenatal thread

Hopefully lots more can come and join over the next few months!

Bonzo, you'll be with us before you know it! The first month of DTD every other day did the trick for me! (though the thought of it was so tiresome).

It was the tiniest spots, but as I never had even that with DS1, DS2 or my MMC it made sense to get it checked. All is now well and pootling on. The EPU were slow, and I didn't want work to know so had a private scan which was great as evening, and lovely obstretician did it which was reasurring.

I shall pop my head around orange's spanky new thread.

In honesty, despite dreading the return to work, it has been easier than a week in during the pouring rain of last week, with flooded playgrounds and DS1 - 6 and DS2 - 3 literally bouncing off the walls.

So, I shall keep popping back to check, and want to drag you all over to the antenatal thread ASAP..

Lots of babydust, love Bunny x

Hi girls, not posted for agggges.....my first period after stopping Cerazette turned up on the 11th of December....it had taken 9 weeks to appear!!!

Now I'm confused about whether or not my cycle is back to normal? If it was then I should have got my AF yesterday....but nothing....

Would have to be a miracle as we have only done the deed once this month :-/ possibly around cycle day 10/11?

hmm!!

oh and congrats to everyone with a BFP :)

I'm going to the Gyn today to have a scan, just to make sure everything is alright after the mc (I actually didn't go to the doctors after it happened as they are very quick here with d&c and I already had more than enough of those)
Otherwise I think I'm the 2ww now, AF due around 24.1.

Hope all is ok snow.

Been on holiday... Nothing to report. DTD a few times when oving, but DH wasn't well, so probably not as often as required. Had sore boobs all last week, although AF not due til this weekend. But now boobs don't seem as sore, just usual pre-menstrual tenderness I normally get. So, I don't know what that is all about. Too early to test anyway.

So, can someone update me on who is pg??

Wow, so many BFP's, congrats everyone.

here you go cakecrumbs

TTC
Bonzo
squeakybeaky
inadreamworld
winterbluessummersoonish
radiatormesh
snowpink
nordicmum
mmmbacon
missingmarbles
sj257
molotov
cakecrumbs

Pregnant
orangefizz
stinky
haveyourtriedarewardchart
clara85
bunny
girlsville

sounds like you're where I am. AF due anytime between now and thursday really.

Yay! It's all good, so there shouldn't be any problems with ttc!

Whoop whoop snow!