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A lovely new Fred for us This one will be full of fun and BFP's....well, it better be!!

Hi bugs. From what I've read , to benefit from having a scratch you also need good quality eggs (I.e it's not an answer to implantation in itself & has little positive effect on poor quality embies). That maybe the reason why clinics don't do it before cycle 1 - they need to know the quality of the eggs before recommending it for subsequent cycle(s).

Forgot to say bugs I don't know if they take non ivf cycle history (mc) into account. But as we all know, clinics can be very different in their approach to treatment. I think it's worth a shot & I would definitely have another one despite the fecking pain

Hello everyone

Buggerlugs sorry you are feeling down, and sorry for everyone else having wobbles right now. I just burst into tears at school today in front of the lady who organises our staff cover. Am emotional because Homerton Fertility Clinic contacted me today because they have a cancellation appointment available for me tomorrow afternoon. Am well excited because they kept saying I would have to wait another three months and am desperate to get going. I was crying in case no cover was available, but it is, so I am going. Hooray for having a supportive manager! Am all over the place. Could you ladies advise me as to any crucial questions you think I should ask? Or anything you wish you had known about your initial consultation? Would be super grateful for any advice...

Hi badhair. I think someone posted a list of questions to ask at a review appointment (after an unsuccessful cycle) on the last thread. I'm wracking my brains but can't remember who posted it. There's probably a good list on the fertilityfriends forum too. Glad you got an earlier appointment - that's great! I can understand why you got upset, we invest so much into this.

bugger sorry I don't know much about the scratch. Hope you get some clear answers soon.

Hi all,

Sorry to hear you're down buggerlugs - I've had crap times when I feel like that too. I never EVER thought I'd be that woman who can't get pregnant. Am beginning to think that it's a big lie that all you have to do is have sex to get pg. I think everyone else must know something I don't...!

When I was a young whippersnapper (so not yesterday, then!), I worked with with a lady who must be about the age I am now. She didn't have kids and wanted them, and I remember a great fuss being made over one of the reps who was pg - and this was a proper "poor-me-being-pg-is-such-a-pain-I-hate-it-feel-my-big-tummy-FEEL-IT!" humblebrag type - my co-worker would not speak to the rep when she came in and I always thought my co-worker was being rude. Can now totally understand, and catch myself thinking unpleasant thoughts about people who seem to get pg without even trying. Gah. Never thought I could be such a horrible person. I think that's the thing that really gets me about this whole process - I thought I was a better person than that.

Anyhoo, life on Buserelin continues. Had a bit of a meltdown at my bike today - couldn't get the wheel to sit properly after fiddling with the chain. Proper swearing and everything. My poor dog was the only witness, fortunately...

We've been ttc nearly 4 years - I assumed that we'd be popping out a baby in that first year and then deliberating about when we should start trying again for a second - HA! The arrogance...!! I don't know how I feel about adoption either. Haven't thought about it yet, really. I am pretty sure that I'll never be using birth control ever again...hope you're feeling a bit brighter soon buggerlugs. A good cup of hot chocolate helps. With a shot of brandy in it is even better...

Note to self. Do not inject buserelin into tummy. OWWWWWW! Going back to thighs for tomorrow's injection.

Buggerlugs - you are still young though - don't despair. Bikesaregreat - I am the same. Three pregnant ladies in the staff room and I am well jealous of their bumps. When they moan, I have to leave. One of the women is a year older than me and is having her 7th child!

bike don't worry, I'd be swearing at the bike with or without the hormones

bugger well at the tender age of 31 I was single (but desperately looking). I've known I've wanted kids since I was in my early twenties, but I just never met the right man until 3 and a half years ago. I'm 41 now, so think too old for the BESH threads! You're still young despite what the DM says. I think you have a good chance of conceiving with IVF. We all know how crap it is every time AF comes because even though we know it's going to come, we always hope we'll somehow miraculously get pregnant even though we know exactly when we ovulated and when we DTD. Hang on in there love, you've got loads of us cheering you on in the background.

Everyone is so fabulous on this thread - I do appreciate you ladies. Nobeer - thanks for the advice re. the questions to ask. I'm so excited to be getting going now with this. Obviously we would all much rather have a great shag (or even a really crap one, or several crap ones!), and get pregnant, but I truly hope and believe we will all get there soon. Who is next to test? Is it you, Wish?

Everyone is so fabulous on this thread - I do appreciate you ladies. Nobeer - thanks for the advice re. the questions to ask. I'm so excited to be getting going now with this. Obviously we would all much rather have a great shag (or even a really crap one, or several crap ones!), and get pregnant, but I truly hope and believe we will all get there soon. Who is next to test? Is it you, Wish?

Wowzers. I feel so proud to be a part of this thread.The way everyone rallies one another is just so fabulous. You lot are the best. I too am struggling with the hormones today I'm lurching from teary to raging anger. Sigh.
Anyhoo, snap out of it woman, still need to catch up on GBBO!

Watch it Brooker! Mel and Sue will cheer you up

Yeah badhair it's me

You are so right nobeer. I've just watched it. Fantastic! Beca's focaccia bread looked lush! You started packing yet lady? [frown emoticon]
badhair Agates posts on fertility friends have been v. useful to me whenever I've had a consult. One thing I would say is don't expect them to have all the answers, because they don't. A lot of the treatment really is trial & error, particularly with unexplained infertility. A positive mental attitude really helps though and gets you through the tougher days. Also, don't forget we are here when you need us. Looking forward to hear how you get on x

Sorry that sounded snotty, it wasn't meant to come across like that. What I mean is I'm dreading testing! x

Bugs A few months' ago I refused to buy anymore sanitary products then ran out of them when AF arrived & had to send DH dashing out on a desperate mission. What a fool...the witch always wins. Oh to be a mother. Even the word sounds out of my reach. It's the fact that there's no escape from it all that's the hardest for me to bare. You're either waiting for ovulation or AF, if not another ivf cycle. I'm fed up with thinking about it constantly.
Ladies, I am well pissed with it all today so off to bed before I moan you all to death
Night night you lovely lot xx

Hand hold here wish x

8 years ttc here. I can only say the emotions and stresses get less raw as the years go on, and you start to focus on other things too.
I still hope this cycle works, but past experience tells me it's unlikely so I am remarkably stress free. Scan for me this afternoon, hopefully my lining will have grown and I'll get a date for transfer. I'm thinking possibly Mon or Tuesday next week.
Seeing my doctor Wednesday to ask to be signed off for the rest of the 2ww.

Good luck with the scan today talulah

Good luck Talulah I'll be thinking of you x