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The Elderberry Pavlovas- All aboard the Berrycopter. Thread 14

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funkymonk · 03/09/2013 20:23

The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooh we are strict...please note your house may be at risk if you do not keep up repayments lol

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CharmingCats · 23/09/2013 20:29

Sore throat from shouting at the children today. Feedback from deputy was that I need to be more jolly. She did say more than that, but that was the upshot. Didn't bring any work home tonight in an effort to be more jolly tomorrow. Ha!
barking I know you are avoiding fb, but I have a good method of not seeing any babies, but still enjoying our group there. Do you use an app or on puter? If on the app, just leave it on the berry page and don't log in to your newsfeed.
Had a nice chat with fc nurse, who purposely called me late due to teaching. She didn't really answer my questions about the pessaries, so I'm hoping that I won't need them. We shall see. Cd 33 here and no sign of ov, so hoping they'll give me what they gave boom to start af so I can get going with clomid. They'll let me know on Thursday.

Off to eat dinner and relax now. Bid you all adieu x

Bunnygirlie · 23/09/2013 20:47

So first a kitty then a puppy, could this be an animal based cluster?!?

Foodylicious · 23/09/2013 20:50

Just found this one sid www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/1793238-Could-I-be-pregnant-and-not-know-it

really very ahhh!! poor love either way but this thread has been going for months!
have replied, but kind of wish i didn't now, dont need something else to get into (sausage wangs self)

PuppyMummy · 23/09/2013 20:56

Fingers and paws crossed bunny Smile

barkingtreefrog · 23/09/2013 21:13

Looking good for frogs too then?!

I'm having a shit day Sad. Was kinda holding it together until suspected pg wife of DPs best mate pulled out of yet another social event incompatible with being pg Angry. Really upset. This is DPs best man. He confided in him when I had the mc and he didn't say anything. He's probably trying not to upset us but it's not helping. Managed two days without crying and now I'm a mess again. In tears and shaking. I hate her, I really do. We were trying for 22 months and she goes and instadiffs. It would have been amazing for DP and his best mate to have this shared experience and now we've got to sit and watch them have what we both want more than anything, at precisely the same time that we should be having the experience ourselves. All those keys dates - including our wedding, she'll be there with the bump I'd pictured myself having. How do I handle this?

Foodylicious · 23/09/2013 21:41

Oh barking, how horrid!

Its a F night mare isn't it? Sorry its so overwhelming, just let it take its course and let it all out for now. I have unfortunalely had pretty similar stuff to cope with, with close differs and very small babies. I did not think i would get through it and had some really dark moments. But the agony does ease and being around them is almost nice sometimes! I remember well counting the number of times a day I had cried and how long I had gone without crying and being totally shocked by how overwhelmed I would be next time. they do get further apart though and cut a bit less deeply sometimes.

I withdrew reluctantly from those it hurt to be around - just for a while as you need time to get through this without extra triggers if you can help it.

I have found I am better now I have started ttc again, but my MC was in May so it has been a bit longer. I never thought I would feel positive about any of this again, and at one point I was ruling out TCC again as it was too painful to comtemplate.
But here I am planning a 4th night of seduction (trying to stay awake!) and clinging hopefully on.
Biggest hugs on their way to you, is DP at home??

mrswalker13 · 23/09/2013 21:45

Barking I don't have any useful strategies or suggestions. I just wanted to say I'm thinking of you; it is such a difficult situation. Be gentle with yourself.

barkingtreefrog · 23/09/2013 21:56

Thank you MrsW.

Foody it's just horrible. Withdrawing isn't going to be very easy as this would mean withdrawing from the whole social group and would make me very isolated, we do loads together as a group, usually seeing them at least twice a week. DP and his best mate speak and meet up all the time. Not to mention that this is DPs best man and we're getting married in 5 months. I don't even like the woman as she can be a complete bitch to other people, which makes it harder.

DP is home but he doesn't really get how much worse this is, the matching of dates, than everything we're already dealing with anyway.

Bunnygirlie · 23/09/2013 22:11

Oh barking I just want to give you a big hug x

Pipbin · 23/09/2013 22:53

Hello Ladies, Sorry I've been away but I've been taking a bit of a break from TTCing.

What news? Have you all got your BFPs?

Foodylicious · 23/09/2013 23:58

Hi pip this is my first month back ttcing, so being hopeful (and a bit scared)!!! hope you doing ok, you back on the ttc bus soon, or not quite yet??

BlindKitty · 24/09/2013 03:42

charming my boss told me to be less impatient! Ft like saying 'you should take a leaf out of my book love and maybe you'll get things done!'

charming barking I like my fb idea better where she constructs an alias but uses some kind of porn name!!! Think of the fun we could have naming you!

bunny the copter is a bit like an ark atm but we definitely have an opening for a rabbit!

barking I really don't know what to say either but I wish I could make it go away

Thundercatsarego · 24/09/2013 07:57

Hi all,

barking that is so painful- I totally understand how upsetting it is. Can you ask her outright if she's pg? I think knowing for sure will help. It's still totally shit and not fair but I think it's easier to deal with facts rather than guessing.

Hi pip, not long til next cycle eh?

Bunnygirlie · 24/09/2013 08:29

Morning!

Good to see you pip we missed you! Think you have only missed one BFP, our old friend puppy Smile

How are you today barking? I agree with thunder, can DP just ask his mate to confirm things?

Hope you all have a good tuesday(the worst day of the week)!

BlindKitty · 24/09/2013 12:25

barking are you sure she instadiffed? Would it change how you felt if she'd been ttc for ages?

sparechange · 24/09/2013 14:02

Hi berries!
How are you all? What have I missed?
puppy congrats!
Boo to sid and un-MN hug to barking

SidneyBristow · 24/09/2013 14:07

barking hugs to you, i can only imagine how much harder this new development is making it for you Thanks in a way though, the fact you don't like her bc of her attitude almost makes it easier for you to feel alright about not being all that thrilled for her - easier to feel not-so-nice towards not-so-nice people, right? Thanks

hi pip how are things?

ho-hum day here; day 4 of clomid and I feel very "aware" of my pelvic region, almost like I have gas, but in the wrong place Blush just feels strange, not painful but strange. How i miss the days when i didn't feel any obligation to pay so damn much attention to my body...

barkingtreefrog · 24/09/2013 18:08

kitty definitely instadiffed (trying a maximum of 3 months which is an instadiff in my book well actually I'd be Envy of anyone who took less than a year) DPs mate told him when they started trying. Actually suggested it was a competition to see who could get diffed first Sad .

thunder I've almost asked her a number of times, just can't bring myself to. Will have to ask DP to broach it but feel bad as I know he's hurting as well so didn't want to put that on him.

I can't shake it, just feeling so sad all the time. Had a lovely Saturday and an ok Sunday but it's all fallen apart again since. Pg colleague has started wearing maternity clothes and I almost started crying in the staff meeting. Cried all the way home instead Sad .

IamKuma · 24/09/2013 18:16

Hurdle 1 crossed; had GP appointment today, now armed with DIY chlamydia test and a blood test slip for a zillion different tests to be done CD 1-4. GP sent an immediate FC consultation request though and we will should have all of the test results back by the time we get the appointment. I should perhaps have asked about the wait but didn't think to do that. Now I just need to find a way to convince DH that it will be fun to go off to the hospital to provide a 'sample'..... any suggestions welcome.

barking sorry things are tough Flowers, like bunny says, would it not be easier if you just knew one way or the other? Surely if you DH confided in his mate he can just ask him?

sid thinking of you on the Clomid.... no advice to proffer I'm afraid. Didn't Boodle have discomfort from taking it?

IamKuma · 24/09/2013 18:24

Sorry barking crossed posts. Men and their competitions Sad. Maybe DH will feel better knowing one way or the other too? Perhaps his mate is just worried about saying something in case they upset you after the mc? Doesn't make it any easier though.

Thundercatsarego · 24/09/2013 18:37

Can you just text her barking? If you think it would help?

Good work with getting things moving kuma. It's a shame we can't just withdraw sperm from our blokes while they sleep. Would have cut out a lot of the ttc angst in our household at least.

BlindKitty · 24/09/2013 18:44

barking erm yep classic instadiffer. Yep, I'd be upset too but agree you need to find out then you can confront your feelings.

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funkymonk · 24/09/2013 20:32

Evening eveybody.

Barking I'm so sorry that you're feeling so sad. I don't know what to suggest either. I guess the not knowing for sure bit is making you feel worse?

Kuma was that the first time you have spoken to your gp about ttc?? I saw mine on 7th Sept and they did absolutely nothing other than refer me to the fertility clinic, or Infertility Clinic as it seems to be called round here. They've splashed that all over the appointment letter as well bastards. Kick a woman while she's down why don' they. Fertility Clinic sounds so much more acceptable.

Feeling pretty frustrated here. I've well and trult f*cked up my cycle. Cycle day 18 here and not even a hint of a positive opk. Always ov cycle day 17. I blame the b6. Have stopped taking it now. Grrrrr Angry

Hi pip. Hope you're doing ok.

sid hope your gassiness subsides!!

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Bunnygirlie · 24/09/2013 20:34

Ugh barking I hate instadiffers!!! I agree, anybody who gets pg under 12 months is a jammy git!

So sorry it's all so tough, hugs x

kuma glad to hear you are starting your FC journey :-) Just tell DH to do as he's told! Mine had to do it 3 times!!!

Foodylicious · 24/09/2013 21:08

funkymonk how long have you been taking b6 for? do you ever have the odd cycle that is longer than others? is this one maybe??

I have just Ov'd on day 18/19 so am starting b6 again (have 28-29day cycles).

Just taking 50mg though, I know some people take more but I am worried about how much to keep taking when I get my BFP (I know 50mg is ok for morning sickness)

kuma just make sure he watches you putting on nice pants on the morning and he can think about you in them all day!

going to wait this cycle out and then go to gp to ask for re-referal to fc

*help*Also had smear reminder last week, trying to book for strait after AF was not successful so will have to wait for next month, bit of a nightmare, what you you girls do about timing your smears???????