Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

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Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Right, coming back from holiday as a married woman (waahaha...I'm too young...I'm only,...aehm,...30). Had a lovely time and a great wedding day, with amazing weather. Everything was really, really nice.
The remaining hcg in my bloodstream seems to have been washed out/drowned/killed by the rather copious amounts of alcohol consumed in the last few weeks. AF arrived today (six weeks after mc, four weeks after last "period-like" bleeding, which apparently wasn't actually my proper period), which hopefully means that my levels are low enough for me not to have to worry anymore.
We can get on with it now!!

Congratulations to the BFPs I might have missed.

Hello ladies

I'm back from holiday along with AF, grrr!

congrats to Sundance

Huge boos to all the AFs that turned up and BOO to stoopid FIL.

OLTT your post up thread is exactly how I am feeling. I got pregnant quickly with DD and then also quickly with 2nd pregnancy (MC at 20 wks) then took 4 months for 3rd pregnancy (MC at 8 wks) and now i'm 4 cycles on (even though I MC in Feb it took nearly 3 months for cycle to start) and feel that maybe this is not going to happen again - and I'm 38 - a few months off 39 - arrghh!!!! my mum and sister both said , maybe you should go and be checked for fertility probs which made me burst out crying. Rationally I know that it will take a few months or can take up to a year!!!! (Can't wait that long!!!) but every month and a BFN is DOING MY HEAD IN!!!

Im being drastic this month - NO ALCOHOL!!! I did have quite a bit last month - so now im convinced that's the reason AF arrived, also only 1 cup of coffee a day instead of 2 ..... and exercise -it's going to be hell!!

Hope you all have a good bank holiday weekend x

Welcome back emki, funny and misschord. On phone so can't check back so hope I haven't missed anyone else.

I hope your wedding and honeymoon were fab funny

Thanks ladies I'm glad I'm not alone in this ... Btw I love the no vagina no opinion hahaaa genius

Welcome back everyone!
emki since the arrival of AF I have been enjoying my coffee and also got my hair coloured! Was before controlling my caffeine intake but now thinking wth!

triple I go from one to the other each month - last month I was 'let's be relaxed - drink, coffee etc pretend I'm not trying ..' This month I'm thinking ' ok maybe I over did it - show some restraint ' next month who knows!!!!

Morning all xxx

Lol. Yes last month I completely abstained and only had one cup decaf tea and go AF for a reward! So decided to go back to normal.

Question on AF post mc. My first AF was heavier than normal and this (2nd one after mc) AF has been pretty light and on CD3 it seems I am almost towards spotting. Usually per MC I had 2-3 days of heavy to medium and a total of 6 days AF. Have others noticed a change post mc and should I be worried about this? Does this mean my lining is too thin?

triple ummmm I've had two mojitos!!! Not a good start!! Not sure re: AF everyone I've had has been different - but I wouldn't worry - if you're next one is very light maybe ask gp x

Hello all, may I tentatively mark my place here with you again? I only graduated a short while ago, back in July, but sadly, it wasn't meant to be (again). After the early scan showed an empty sac and no heartbeat at the beginning of August, I miscarried on Thursday.

Not sure where I'll go from here, and the thought of ttc again makes me very apprehensive right now. But I still dream of sibling(s) for DS, so I think I need to get back to it eventually..

However, they will now do some investigations about my recurring mcs (this was the third in a row), so I guess we need to wait for the outcome of those first anyway.

So sorry you are back here jbrd. I was so happy you'd graduated as you joined this thread with me at the same time. Lets hope the doctors find it's something easy to fix for you.

Af arrived here :(
Celebrating / commiserating with copious drinks.
Fuckety fuck fuck. Not pregnant by EDD :(

jbrd that's truly awful, but try to see the silver lining (I know it's not much and I don't mean at all to undermine your pain) but maybe you will now be well on your way to finding out whats causing this xxxxx a friend of mine lost 3 after that she had a injection with her 4th and viola!!! Thinking of you xxxx

jbrd so sorry - thinking of you xxxxx my sister had 3 mc and they found out her blood got too thick to flow through placenta and with her 4th pregnancy she took baby aspirin to thin her blood a bit - voila baby boy - these stories probably don't help but just to say I'm thinking of you xxx lots of virtual hugs and

fedup sorry AF got you x

My next AF is due on my EDD ....:( rubbish xxxx sorry there has been so much bad news today xxx

jbrd so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope though that you are able to get some answers soon.

Im so sorry Jbrd. Im sure you will be back graduating again soon. xxx

Oh, so sorry Jbrd, how very sad. I really hope the answers come in helpfully soon.

Decided to try and do something about feeling like I was making all the effort, so just asked DH if he'd like to put my monthly dates in his diary. He was so touchingly up for it, really keen and seemed grateful to be included - we went through them together, and now he's got my AF due dates, OV dates and the days we need to DTD in his filofax for the next 3 months! We'll see if it helps him remember, but I feel much better that we're in this together again now.

Seaside, what a great idea! Not that my husband ever looks at his diary (he relies on me to tell him), but I wonder whether the shared responsibility would help me to stop feeling like a nag.

Very sorry JBrd and Fedup. Take it easy. xxx

Jbrd so sorry to hear that, thinking of you.

Not been on for a while, had af 6 weeks after mmc & started ttc this next cycle. Temp still all over the place & finally got +ve opk 2 days ago on cd 22 (usually ovulate around cd 18). Then the stupid witch turns up today. So I've had a 23 day cycle - usually 28-35 days. Does it sound like still screwy from mmc? Just can't figure why I'd get +ve opk so close to af?

Thanks misschord - don't know why I didn't do it from the beginning!

Know how you feel fedup - my EDD was the 22nd. That was a crap day. AF due on Friday, not getting hopes up, but would so love this all to be safely over.

omama does it mean you had a 2 day luteal phase this cycle? Do I read it correctly that this is cycle 0 or 1 after MC for you? Then I wouldn't worry too much at all. It is all part and parcel of MC sadly. It will take a few cycles to settle back to normal.

I also am having a wtf cycle atm, and this is cycle 4. I was normal for cycle 1-3. But today is CD8 and first day the CBFM asks for a stick. And it read high fertility. Really WTF. I don't usually ovulate until CD 16 or so.

Oh no JBrd, what sad news. I know the ladies here are all lovely but I bet you really didn't want to find yourself back on this thread again. Hope the tests can give you some answers.

OLTT I'm not convinced about cbfm, after getting 19 days of high in a row last cycle starting from cd6. I'm going to give mine one last chance to behave itself this cycle before it goes in the bin.

Welcome JBrd. So sorry that you find yourself back here. What you have been through must be so upsetting so I hope you are getting looked after.

My AF didn't show up to ruin my birthday or anniversary plans. Still very crampy though so hoping it will show up soon and then we can crack on with trying again. I'm quite nervous about the first AF post MC as I've heard they can be awful and I found mine bad enough before the MC.

Oh no jbrd I'm so sorry :(

Sorry for af fedup. I think she'll be here too any minute. Due today and my temp dropped this morning. Boo hiss. My temps were soooo high that I'm wondering if something started to implant but failed. I'm very very very crampy, much more than usual