Posifrickentivity all round, with a good healthy dash of project desperate. New thread, new luck, new BFPs! TTC after MC

[alyant79]

Come one, come all and join our rollicking new thread with slightly updated brand new rules

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S, UNLESS they are being illegitimately used as surrogate HCG detectors, in which case Rule (1) most definitely does apply
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

And as a grand finale, why not pledge to NEVER POAS before 14DPO?

Congratulations Sundance, that's wonderful! Think we all needed that ray of hope - over I could have written your post. I'm trying not to get my hopes up this month because I think I OVd, finally, on the side I still have a tube. I'm finding it harder to hope anyway, which is almost a good thing.

DH and I made up - turns out he didn't even know it was the right time! He was gutted when he realised he'd upset me, but I was still annoyed, because I'd told him twice that we needed to DTD, and I'd told him I was OVing on the right side and that came as a surprise too when I repeated it. Feel like he hasn't listened to a thing I've said about TTC this month.

He's suggested coming up with a different position each time we DTD cosmic - we've not tried it yet (haven't had sex since Sat!) but it's a good idea.

Have a fantastic weekend penguin and over - I hope you have great non-TTC sex without a single thought of what anyone's egg or sperm is doing!

P.s. I'd be terrible at dirty talk! I think I'd just crack up laughing - I'd be like Jess in New Girl. Although cracking up might take all the pressure off, so maybe worth a shot!

Yay for the BFPS from sundance. Massive congratulations!!!

Sorry for the BFNs though :(

Over and penguin, my wedding anniversary is this weekend too (Sunday). We started trying not long after the wedding so it's a bit depressing that it'll be a year soon with nothing to show for it.

Cosmic what about investing in some massage oil? Using that generally only leads to one thing in my experience!! X

cosmic, my idea for next cycle is to start reading 50 shades of grey around cd8 and see if that gets me in the mood or gives me some ideas!

Although I'm probably the only woman on the planet that hasn't read it yet.

Thanks all so much for your lovely words, it's weird that you all know first before my family but I wouldn't have it any other way, we're all in this together!!

Sounds like its still too early for some people which is hopeful, but I'm also very aware of what it feels like to log in on a Friday and realise you're not the one with the good news to tell, I kind of feel awful for anyone who might feel like that today, I'm so sorry....but I do truly understand!!

This will also sound silly but I will tell you lot anyway. I was also starting to get frustrated with my DH for making me feel like I had to take control of knowing all the dates etc and him not seeming bothered - we also went through several stages of feeling like the romance had long gone so I decided to make a bit of fun out of our situation. I'd make sure I get to bed first and then at some horrendously cheesy 'sex' music when DH came to bed. It was so bad we just laughed so much and I think it really really helped to get us through sometimes.

Try 'let's get ready to rumble' by Ant & Dec, or something from Barry White or Marvin Gaye.
I have a whole list btw!!!

penguin i haven't read that book either. I refuse to out of principle now.

seaside there must be a lot of us out there just like Jess!

aly I'm exactly the same! Besides I'd rather have the video in all honesty... It's just an acceptable women for women to say they like porn.... Porn is porn if you ask me and I'd rather have the visual ( if only for the fact that you can keep your hands free heheeee)

We use dirty talk but he talks and I listen, it's simply audio porn and it's incredibly sexy, he hated it at first but now he's fab at it!

Sundance your story made. Me think of Harry Enfields 'The Slobs' when Waynetta goes all sexy with a Flake when's be hears 'Sexual Healing'!
I've read 50 Shades! It's ok. It's not the best written book in the world but its quite tittilating! I read it when away from home. DP didn't know what hit him when I got home!!

aly good luck with holding out till Friday.

Really impressed with bbt, had the massive drop in temp this morning and AF has arrived this afternoon!

Congrats to sundance! yay for this week's bfp.

Been rather occupied offline; I brew mead as a hobby, which means once or twice a month I have a lot of racking up to do - pouring off the half-finished mead to separate it from the yeast - and starting new batches and writing up my notes. I counted it up today - I have 64 litres of mead brewing at the moment! Lots of different flavours. It amuses me that I have all this booze around me that if all goes well, I won't be able to drink! Lots of different flavours too. It occurs to me that maybe I ought to look into getting licensed and selling this stuff. Most of mead brewing consists of weeks and months waiting and not doing much, in between periods when you're very busy for a couple of days. It's something I could fit around a small child pretty easily.

AF seems to have finished already, so DP has declared we start DTD tonight. Going to DTD every other day and not bother with OPKs or anything like that. It's BFP or bust!

ark I bet that will really take the pressure off actually ;) good plan

Oh ark I love mead and I'd love to try all your different flavours so hurry up and get licensed - ill buy it!

Boo to af triple but at least your bbt let you know

aly It would take quite a while to get to the point of being able to sell -I've worked out I'd need £10-£15K in start-up capitol first, and it would take about a year before I had something drinkable to sell. At the moment friends get bottles free as birthday and Christmas presents or the occasional trade. At the moment I've got the following on the go: Bramble, Yule (tastes like liquid Christmas puddings!), Clover straight mead, Ginger, Apricot, Spiced Orange, Raspberry Pyment (a mead brewed with grape juice), Strawberry & vanilla, Marmalade, and Acerglyn - which is made with a blend of maple syrup and honey. I'm going to be starting off a new batch of Coffee mead soon, and a Chocolate one that will be turned into Chocolate Mead Liqueur through freeze distillation (the only form of distillation that's legal without license in the UK).

All this mead and I (hopefully) won't be able to drink it for a long time! DP might need some help drinking it all....

wow that's a shitload of mead and it all sounds delicious

Just started spotting 11dpo so think that old bitch bag is on her way. Bit gutted, but I guess it was the wtf cycle after last months bfp debacle!

DH did make me laugh though when said he thought I was pregnant and I asked why, he said because I've been farting and snoring so much.....

Urgghh, I feel crappy today. I woke up at 5am with a hangover and horrendous period pains telling me that AF had arrived. I haven't had them this bad since the MC.

Luckily we fitted in a pre-anniversary stress free drunken DTD session last night, so hopefully DH won't be too upset that we can't replicate our wedding night tonight!

Me too penguin. Immense hangover. No dtd for us as DH fell asleep in a chair in the living room after one too many. There is so baaaad photographic evidence of our behaviour last night!

No af yet but think due tomo / mon and can feel her lurking. Have pain killers and tampons galore at the ready.

We are away with a new born. And I was holding her this morn while her mummy got breakfast. So snuggly, I want one so badly!

boo to all these evil witchy AFs turning up. and boo to hangovers but hooray to the fun i'm sure you guys had last night.

haha sal, your DH is hilarious.

Gawwwwddddd I'm soooo fucking angry!!! I was upstairs being sick for the third time today in the bathroom and the window was open, I overheard my father in law in the garden making comments about how in other countries the women just shoot a baby out and go back to work etc etc!!

The fucking bastard! I'm sooo angry especially as he new what we went through when we lost the last one and to say things like that, and infront of a guest!!! I'm fuming!!!

penguin sounds as tho your wedding night was much more active than mine heheeee although I couldn't drink, and DH was quite drunk, plus I was scared to do anything incase it caused me to mc

fod your father in law is an arse. And he will have sounded like an arse to your guests too. Stupid man.

Thanks to all of you for ideas, hopefully next month will be a bit more fun :-)

Fod what an insensitive thing to say. It really pisses me off when men comment on things like that. They have absolutely no idea what pregnancy is like. No vagina, no opinion! Hope you are not feeling too rough.

I feel as though my first AF post mc might be about to arrive. We are going out for anniversary tonight and its my birthday tomorrow. The timing couldn't be worse so it makes sense that it will arrive soon!

Hooray hooray Sundance, applauding wildly and not at all jealous.

Just driving back up north after a week away camping with very little 3G so it's great to read the new thread and catch up. Sorry about the BFNs and stupid FILs. I forgot to pack my thermometer so charting is all messed up this month but maybe a break from it will do us good. x

Fod, Your FIL has no idea does he? I bet he is not involved with his wife's pregenancy or the newborn years. I can so see him commenting how labour is easy or that all babies sleep through the night, all children behave and have no tantrums.