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Over 37 & fallen pregnant please sign in here, need positive stories for my Sister................

55 replies

SomethingAboutMary · 12/06/2006 12:23

Hi i wanted to start a thread for my sister because she is 37 & keeps saying she is probably too old to get pregnant now & is feeling really down about a few things.She has a daughter who is 11 but would love another child.

She has just been told she has a lump in her womb which they think is a fibroid but not 100% sure yet.

So she is thinking that after she has had this lump removed or treated she (& if it does not effect her fertility) she really would like another baby but she feels its too late.

I have been trying to tell her its not to late at all.

So if you have been pregnant or are pregnant & over 37 please give your stories here so i can show her.

Also what age do you believe it right to stop?

TIA Smile

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LadyTambaOfTambaTown · 12/06/2006 12:25

Well Ive just found out my mom is pregnant and she is 43!

SecurMummy · 12/06/2006 12:30

My mum had my Dbrother at this age (I think she was 48) took a little trying time, but nothing too spectacular (few months I think). It is def. not too late!

jampots · 12/06/2006 12:32

my mum was 38 when she had twin sister and I

singersgirl · 12/06/2006 12:37

Not me, but 3 close friends of mine and my step-sister. My mum's mother was 45 when she was born (what I believe is popularly known as a 'menopause baby').

singersgirl · 12/06/2006 12:39

Actually 4 of my close friends - in only one case a first baby, but still lots of examples. I know more mums at school who have had babies after 37, so it does happen to lots of people.

CarolinaMoose · 12/06/2006 12:40

My MIL had her fourth at 37 Smile

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SomethingAboutMary · 12/06/2006 12:41

Thanks i am going to print this thread of & give it to her, I have told her she is not too old, persoanlly i don't believe she is at all.

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niceglasses · 12/06/2006 12:42

Currently have 3 friends all pg and all aged around 37 -39. Had my last one at 36 - not uncommon at all now I think. Good luck

mazzystar · 12/06/2006 12:46

Of course she's not too old!

One of my friends had her first at 40 and second at 43. All in rude health

Another good friend is currently pg with her first, baby due 1 month before her fortieth. She has fibroids too.

Good luck SAM's sister!

TuttiFrutti · 12/06/2006 12:49

I had my first baby at 37, and am now pregnant with second and will be 39 in a few weeks time. I also have fibroids - really big ones, some as big as tennis balls - which the doctors thought might stop me getting pregnant ("We only usually see a womb like this when we're doing infertility treatment") but it obviously hasn't stopped me so far! Conceived both times naturally and on first attempt.

Fibroids can make miscarriage more likely (she says keeping her fingers firmly crossed for this pregnancy), but you can have a successful healthy pregnancy even with an extreme case like mine, so tell your sister she shouldn't give up on the idea.

BonyM · 12/06/2006 12:49

I had dd2 last March and I will be 40 this August. Pregnancy was very straightforward and I had a wonderful home birth.

My dd1 is 8 and the two girls absolutely adore each other - no regrets whatsoever.

Btw, Dh is 48 this year - dd2 is his first child and he thinks fatherhood is the best thing ever!

poppiesinaline · 12/06/2006 12:55

My mum had me at 40 (4th child). 37 is not too old :)

katierocket · 12/06/2006 12:56

Mariella Fostrup had her first at 41 and second at 43

israel · 12/06/2006 12:58

37...NOT too old at all...I had my first at 30...second at 40...my son is now 5...and Im 46....
tell your sister not to worry.

hotmama · 12/06/2006 13:05

I had dd1 when I was 37 and had dd2 just before I was 39.

I am 40 next year and we are thinking of having a number 3 when I am 41. I was really lucky and got pregnant the first month I tried - with both dd's.

I had fab, uneventful pregnancies though the births were stories - but I don't think this was related to my age!

Apparently, there are now more births in the over 35's then amongst teenagers.

Your sis isn't too old - but tell her to get cracking! Wink Smile

motherinferior · 12/06/2006 13:08

Fertility is a very personal thing. She may be past her most fertile, or not fertile any more...or she may be like me. I had DD1 at 37 and DD2 at 40.

Normsnockers · 12/06/2006 13:09

Too late at 37, I only started then !

Had ds1 at 38 and ds2 is due in Sept (I'm 41).

EmmyLou · 12/06/2006 13:17

My sister has just had her third at 43. She had her first baby at 37.

Another friend of mine had first baby (IVF) at 39 and second (natural conception) at 42.

speedymama · 12/06/2006 13:20

I have fibroids and it took 3 weeks to conceive my twins. I was 38yo.

intergalacticwalrus · 12/06/2006 13:20

My friend had her first baby at 42 following years of fertility treatment. However, she actually conceived naturally 4 years after her last IVF cycle!!!!!!!!!!!!

My next door neighbour has just had baby no 3 at 38. She conceived no problems, in fact I think it was a month after they decided to start trying.

hotmama · 12/06/2006 13:21

Isn't this a nice thread - I feel I'm in good company thinking of having a third. (Not just yet as dd2 is only 17 weeks) Smile

Marina · 12/06/2006 13:23

As MI says, it is a very personal thing but I had ds at 35 and dd at 40. Apart from those already listed there are a LOT of Mners past and present who have hit the jackpot at 37 or over...Blu, Aloha, Tigermoth, WWW
What's potentiall important is that she has successfully had a child already :)
Good luck to her!

speedymama · 12/06/2006 13:26

Same here Hotmama. We are still deciding about a 3rd and if we go ahead, I will be 42yo.

BettySpaghetti · 12/06/2006 13:32

I had my second when I was 37.

When I had my booking in appointment with the midwife she went through the checklist that identifies any elements of your pregnancy as slightly more high risk and therefore need consultant led care rather than midwife-led care (eg. previous problem pregnancies, if you are diabetic etc). Anyway it seems that being over 35 is no longer one of the"criteria" whereas it used to be. I think it is now 40 (?).

(Don't think I explained it well but I hope you see what I mean)

wilbur · 12/06/2006 13:34

I'm going out tonight with a great friend who is pregnant for the first time at 41.

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