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Over 37 & fallen pregnant please sign in here, need positive stories for my Sister................

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SomethingAboutMary · 12/06/2006 12:23

Hi i wanted to start a thread for my sister because she is 37 & keeps saying she is probably too old to get pregnant now & is feeling really down about a few things.She has a daughter who is 11 but would love another child.

She has just been told she has a lump in her womb which they think is a fibroid but not 100% sure yet.

So she is thinking that after she has had this lump removed or treated she (& if it does not effect her fertility) she really would like another baby but she feels its too late.

I have been trying to tell her its not to late at all.

So if you have been pregnant or are pregnant & over 37 please give your stories here so i can show her.

Also what age do you believe it right to stop?

TIA Smile

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OldieMum · 12/06/2006 13:36

I am 44 and due to have my second child the week after next. I had my first at 41. Best thing I've ever done!

dinosaure · 12/06/2006 13:40

I had my DS3 at the age of 39. Conceived very easily and had a problem-free pregnancy.

Mumbojumbo · 12/06/2006 13:47

I had ds1 when I was 37 and ds2 10 days before my 39th birthday (can't believe I had to work out how old I was with a calculator ShockGrin)

piglit · 12/06/2006 13:49

I had ds1 at 36 and ds2 exactly a year later at 37. Fell pg very quickly both times (have to say I got a real shock with ds2, especially as I was still b'feeding ds1 and he was only 4 months old...) Loads of women have babies in their late thirties or forties. As MI says fertility is a very individual thing.

blueshoes · 12/06/2006 14:09

I conceived twice at 37 - at the first attempt (sadly, miscarried) and after 6 months - fingers crossed for this ...

UCM · 12/06/2006 14:39

I was 37 yesterday and I am 8 weeks pg Smile

moondog · 12/06/2006 14:41

I had ds at 37.
Never occured to me that I was too old!

Piffle · 12/06/2006 14:44

Crikey I have a 12 yr old and am 36 and am ttc another one at least
I'm healthy, fit and prepared and folic acided up.
Bring it on!

notanotter · 12/06/2006 14:49

I AM 38 - 16 WEEKS POSTPARTUM AND PLANNING NUMBER 6!!!

suejonez · 12/06/2006 14:53

Single and adopting an under two year - yup doing it by choice. If your sister is in the London area I can hook her up with a group of single mums (or trying-to-be mums)over 35 that meet about every 6 weeks.

juuule · 12/06/2006 15:03

I had one at 38, one at 40 and one at 43. So no, I'd say it's not too late for your sis :)

velcrobott · 12/06/2006 15:07

I am 38 - will be 39 when baby is born.
Two of my friends just had babies : 40 and 41(her 1st!)
Cherie Blair was 45...

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SomethingAboutMary · 12/06/2006 18:19

Awww WOW thanks for such a great reponse i can not wait to show her this, i think you may well all cheer her up here.

She has tried to get pregnant over the years since her dd was about 2 years old but with no sucess (she has tried on & off) now they have found what they think is a fibroid so maybe this is why it has not happened? what do you think?

She does not know 100% yet that it is a fibroid & she also does not know the size, she has got to wait for her docotr to now contact her.

thanks again for sharing all your stories Smile

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SomethingAboutMary · 12/06/2006 18:25

Also one more question can you give birth naturally with fibroids, is it more painful?

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TuttiFrutti · 12/06/2006 19:32

I couldn't give birth naturally because of the fibroids. I tried to, because the fibroids hadn't been diagnosed at that point, but after a horrible 23 hour labour one of the doctors found "an unspecified physical obstruction" and I was rushed into theatre for an emergency Caesarean. The obstruction was a massive fibroid under the baby's head.

I know other women who have given birth naturally with small fibroids, but I think if they are large you don't stand much of a chance. Hopefully your sister will get a thorough investigation now and during any pregnancy, which will show how big they are and where they are situated.

I don't think enough is known about fibroids, and because they are not life-threatening I felt some doctors didn't take them very seriously. Also, so much depends on their size and location: they might stop conception or might not, they might cause a miscarriage or might not.

I would recommend going to see a nutritionist, which I did a couple of months ago to try a fibroid-reducing diet.

Gem13 · 12/06/2006 19:42

My friend was 41 and 44 when she had her 2 (the second was an 'easy' homebirth too).

Donbean · 12/06/2006 19:54

Im PLANNING to have my next one at 36/37.
Was 33 when i had my first and am not ready yet to have another one for a couple more years i think.
I will be 36 next month.

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SomethingAboutMary · 12/06/2006 20:21

Thanks Tuttifrutti great information there, she is now waiting to speak to her doctor to find out the whole situation, she was scared because she started reading the internet & was reading all sorts & scaring herself, so i have read alot of this thread to her over the phone & i have printed it off for her to read through herself.

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suejonez · 12/06/2006 23:10

Can I just add a note of caution. You fertility does decline quite quickly after about 36 ish (obviously varies for different women) and for every story on here of women who have conceived over 37 there are about 5 who have not (including me). Success rates of IVF for example in women over 40 are about 8% (dependng on clinic).

So if she's serious she needs to get on with it - she has an excellent chance of succeeding if she goes for it now or soon. I don't want to put a damper on everyone's lovely stories but you rarely hear the unsuccesful ones as we don't talk about them.

One friend of mine at 43 is bitterly regreting not realising sooner how quickly her fertility would decrease and that she had been trying properly in her 30's.

Feistybird · 12/06/2006 23:12

was 38 when 1st DD was born and 40 when 2nd was born.

Feistybird · 12/06/2006 23:13

SJ, you're right - DD1 born by ICSI

suejonez · 12/06/2006 23:16

To be fair my prolems werent caused by age, my hormone levels were good and egg quality was good. Just genetically crap reporductive system. But I met a lot of women in the process and most of tehm said they wished they'd realised quite how difficult it becomes over 40.

Still, lots of hope based on the stories here.

TuttiFrutti · 13/06/2006 09:50

SJ, excellent post, very sensitively put and you are absolutely right.

kaylasmum · 14/06/2006 10:22

I'd just like to add that i am 40 and after 9 months of trying and almost giving up hope i am 9 weeks pregnant with no 5. I also worry that people will think i am too old but really its nobody elses business. I was 17 when i had my first and at that time i was frowned upon for being too young.

Tracey

suejonez · 14/06/2006 10:41

Living in this part of London NO-ONE would think 40 was too young, it seems to be the norm! Congratulations - there is an older mums thread somewhere if you want to hang out with us wrinklies...