Over 37 & fallen pregnant please sign in here, need positive stories for my Sister................

[SomethingAboutMary]

Hi i wanted to start a thread for my sister because she is 37 & keeps saying she is probably too old to get pregnant now & is feeling really down about a few things.She has a daughter who is 11 but would love another child.

She has just been told she has a lump in her womb which they think is a fibroid but not 100% sure yet.

So she is thinking that after she has had this lump removed or treated she (& if it does not effect her fertility) she really would like another baby but she feels its too late.

I have been trying to tell her its not to late at all.

So if you have been pregnant or are pregnant & over 37 please give your stories here so i can show her.

Also what age do you believe it right to stop?

TIA

I had my last child at 38 and don't think I did anything remarkable, although I can understand that it might not seem easy if you had not had any children by that age and wanted to start on your first. But even so, there are plenty of women who don't have children until they are 37 plus, as this thread shows.

I was told I couldn't conceive after an ectopic pregnancy destroyed a fallopian tube and left the other badly scarred 10 years ago. Then, hey presto, at 37 I was suddenly pregnant! Dd's nearly 4 now and it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me.

Oh yes, and my two closest mum friends didn't conceive until over 40 and they are brilliant mums.

I'm delighted to know that against all the odds a woman who is over 40 can still be a brilliant Mum, if!

sam - the thing is, Suejonez is right, and although there are loads and loads of us who have conceived without problem at 40 plus, that is of no relevance at all to another individual woman who simply cannot conceive at that age - for the individual it is a yes / no situation, not a question of keeping trying.

And not sure what you mean by the right age to stop? She can find out whether she is still producing eggs - aside from that why should anyone decide to stop before menopause?

If by the right age to stop you mean practically - then I would just add that many clinics won't treat women over 43 with IVF unless either their FSH levels are low or their having egg donation. Obviously if you're not having reatment I wouldn;t bother stopping until you feel that there is as age at which you do not want a baby. Eg a friend of mine conceived for the first time at about 42 and miscarried, she and her husband decided not to try again as she felt "too old" to be getting pregnant at 43+. For what its worth I thought she was nuts and she was an exceptionally young 43. But hey-ho, each to their own.