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The Elderberry Pavlovas who will graduate (thread 12)

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CharmingCats · 15/07/2013 20:08

Roll up, roll up for the best discussions of ewcm, opk, ic and double dying you'll ever have. Probably.

The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooh we are strict...please note your house may be at risk if you do not keep up repayments lol

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CatsCantFlyFast · 26/07/2013 08:38

Happy do you know when you O'd?

barkingtreefrog · 26/07/2013 11:25

Well, DP's alarm went off at 7am as although we're both on holiday we had loads to do, and I took my temp then fell back asleep, as did he fell asleep that is not took his temp and we both woke up at 10am!! Argh!! So much to do!! But obviously I had to check in on here first...

pip hope your weigh in goes well today!

Bunny smugbook is rubbish. I had the same yesterday, but not even someone who is a friend on facebook (I think I dropped her in the last big cull I did). She is a friend from school and the last time I heard from her she was living abroad with her boyfriend and seemed to be in no hurry to settle down. She posted on a mutual friend's status and her profile pic is of her and her daughter. It floored me. Horrible isn't it? Flowers I'd like to think that I could see good news like that and be happy for her but my immediate thought in my head is bitch Envy. Out in the pub last night and bumped into friends who told me a mutual friend from years ago had just had a baby. Great. Everybody's having a bloody baby except for me!! Friend I met earlier in the week with the 1 year old was talking about the buggy they have and how much they cost etc, but then said to me 'but don't get any of this when you need it, just call me and you can have our stuff'. Another friend was talking about her baby carrier (the back type like a rucksac) that her son has now grown out of and said 'you can have this'. They don't seem to have any problems believing that I'll get pg, why couldn't it just be that easy?!

Sorry, I was supposed to be sympathising with Bunny and it's just turned into me, me, me and I've upset myself now.

So anyway, to continue about me, me, me I think actually you were all right and I should have gone to the doctor at the start of the week. Angry at myself for jumping to conclusions about DP's 'trimmage' and not looking at alternative answers. Now a second berry (thanks kitty) mentioned thrush I googled it and had no idea pain during sex could be a symptom. I always assumed thrush was itchiness and a lumpy discharge, neither of which I had noticed. I'm not sure about self diagnosing and treating though as I've never used canestan? before and don't know whether I should use it if I'm not sure it's definitely thrush. So I've booked a telephone appointment at the doctors. A doctor should call me this afternoon and then make an appointment to see me if necessary. Why didn't I listen to you all at the start of the week instead of only now doing something about it so close to Ov and when we're going away for month this weekend?!?! Angry.

And while I'm on that subject, CD13 here, -opk again today (did 2 yesterday) and still high on cbfm whilst previously I'd get peak after 4 days of high. So no Ov on CD14. Which means it could be during our travel time on buses/coaches/planes. Marvellous. And when we get to America we're staying with a mate on her sofa bed in a room with no door....

Sorry, will end the me, me, me now, DP just got back from town and wants to know why I still haven't taken the dog out...

Aquarius1 · 26/07/2013 13:27

Boo to FB bunny - I know that feeling- hope you can shake it off and enjoy the rest if your day.

barking I often think the 'everyone's popping them out except me' thought too. must be wrong if we're both thinking it! My sis who doesn't have kids pointed out to me recently that I seem to live in a highly concentrated environment of parents / babies and perhaps I should widen it a bit. She's right- I'd just come back from a christening where we were the only couple without kids/bumps -was close to tears for most if it - definitely needed a full on sausage wang....

Pipbin · 26/07/2013 13:33

Barking I get dreadful thrush and it results in painful sex for me. I've never had 'lumpy discharge' with it. I get itchy but I find that I notice it the most when wiping after a wee. Last time I had it I used canesten pesary and cream but it didn't do the job. I wen't to the doctor and got the oral tablet instead. If you are not sure if it's thrush then it's best to get it looked at.

I think that people who have just 'got pregnant' find it very hard to understand what it is like for it not to happen. My closest friend, who is very supportive just stopped using contraception and just got pregnant, and her husband only has one knacker!

Oh, dildo cam went OK, consultant was happy with what he saw, and they didn't weigh me!

ladybunnikins · 26/07/2013 14:38

That's great, Pip, so it's all systems go!

happylass · 26/07/2013 15:21

S'ok panic over. AF found me. Not really a surprise - 4 shags per cycle will not a baby make!! Decided not to stop this cycle after all. In Greece for shag week next month so would be foolish to waste opportunity of being chilled and having time for lots of DTD action! Definitely stopping after that though!!
Pip glad all was well at docs. Hugs to everyone having a tough time x

Bunnygirlie · 26/07/2013 18:10

Hey! Thanks for the sympathies pip aquarius happy and of course Mrs me me me barking Wink

Hope you get your bits sorted soon Barking

Yay pip!

Boo to AF happy but yay to holiday shags soon! We are planning a holiday in October to coincide with shag week (although obviously I will be differ by then)

I managed to shake off the blues, out with some lesbians tonight for a chinese so hopefully no baby talk or pg announcement Grin

Pipbin · 26/07/2013 18:47

You say that. The pregnant couple at the clinic when I was waiting today were two women.

CharmingCats · 26/07/2013 19:10

Hello all,
Sorry about the fb announcements and people offering baby stuff before you're even diffed. Ive had that too.
How was the phone consult, barking ?
How's the holiday going now sid ?
pip so pleased it went well today.
Am watching ncis having been into work this morning and had a lazy afternoon. Lovely. DH took the day off, so came & helped this morning. Not up for dtd today, but having people to stay tomorrow, so need to get on with it tonight or in the morning.
Do you think all this eod/3 times a week/shag week tension is detrimental? I know, I know, if we didn't monitor, it would take longer to get diffed. But, is there something in the psychology of not caring? I remember the GP telling me to dtd when the mood took me... Hmmmm. God knows!

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BlindKitty · 26/07/2013 19:28

bunny I know 2 lesbians that had iui actually! They've split now, which is a real shame for the little girl (the biological mum had an affair with a man!)

barking I feel like we've talked about your bits a lot lately haha Grin

pip as if they didn't even weigh you after all that panic?! Maybe they were just trying to scare you?

happy gutted re your af but you're bound to get diffed on youre hols

Where's boom today?

CatsCantFlyFast · 26/07/2013 21:21

Bad news for Twinks, might want to pop in and offer a hug

BlindKitty · 26/07/2013 22:42

Oh no, that's so sad :-(

happylass · 26/07/2013 22:56

So sad about Twinks. Have already been over to offer my commiserations.
Thanks for the AF condolences ladies. I actually feel absolutely fine about it as opposed to last month when I sobbed for 3 days solid! Funny how it affects you differently each time isn't it!?
Had my latest set of test results back today from the GP - all good i.e. I'm ovulating, I'm immune to Rubella and I don't have Chlamydia! One step closer to the FC. Just another cd21 test to do now. Bunny has your appointment come through yet?
Well night all. I'm pooped after a day of trying on wedding dresses and a night at the races with DP. Catch up with you all tomorrow!

Bunnygirlie · 26/07/2013 23:26

Poor twink Sad it must be so tough

Luckily our lesbian friends are a bit younger than us so no turkey baster surprises Grin

happy nope still waiting for our letter, DH chased them today. Been 3 weeks since GP appointment and 17 days since they apparently sent referral off not that I'm counting

I know what you mean about some months affecting you more than others, for some reason month 5 was bad for me, I cried for hours, then hitting 12 was weird as we were away on holiday with friends so didn't get chance to be upset!

happy did you find any nice frocks?!? Tell all!

barkingtreefrog · 27/07/2013 00:44

charming phone chat with doc was good. She said the treatment wouldn't do me any harm if it wasn't thrush so go for it anyway, and left me a prescription to pick up. I also had to do a swab so they could test it. She was very understanding when I pointed out it was our first cycle of clomid and I was on cd13 so not dtd wasn't an option. She also managed not to laugh when I said DP had had a cesarean 7 weeks ago, she just said ' he had a cesarean? ' and I mumbled something about meaning a circumsicism, but they both started with a 'c' ......

happy you can't leave us with that! What did you try on? Meringues? Lace? Long train? Halterneck? Fishtail? Find one you liked?

kitty I'll shut up about my bits now, hopefully I'm now sorted Wink .

BlindKitty · 27/07/2013 08:39

barking haha I'm only teasing, that's what we're here for anyway! anyway, it was you dh's bits last month! Pmsl at 'caesarean'. My patients do stuff like that all the time, e.g. 'I have some Dom perignon (champange) and now I feel better', instead of ''domperidone' (antisickness).

happy and bunny on my 2 year anniversary of ttc I practically had a meltdown week! Feel fine again now, much more accepting than I did before

So going to be so bored today! Dh is staying at his mates in Sheffield (on strict instructions not to drink). Have practically bled my phone book dry and everyone is busy grrr!

happylass · 27/07/2013 09:26

Morning all. Yes I now have a short list of wedding dresses. Definitely going for a fishtail style with a bit of lace. Tried on a big meringue and I just felt stupid!! I'm 5ft 10 so that was a lot of dress going on!! Going to visit a few more shops when I get back from hols plus have second try of my favourites from yesterday - exciting times Smile.
Barking glad your problem is getting sorted. Bunny it was about 3-4 weeks after referral that the FC clinic sent for me so you shouldn't have too much longer to wait.
Off to a food festival today then a wedding party tonight. Have a good day all!

Bunnygirlie · 27/07/2013 09:46

barking hope everything is sorted soon, even if DP has had a cesarean Grin

kitty I had a weekend like that a few weeks back, DH had stag day and all my friends were busy! Hope you find something to do, perhaps some treats and a good film?

happy yep hope I don't have to wait much longer!

Very excited of all your wedding plans!

BlindKitty · 27/07/2013 10:21

happy I prob looked stupid in my meringue but my exact words were 'I want to be a mo fo princess so I'm getting the ridiculous dress!' Grin bet a fish tail would look great though

bunny managed to find someone to keep me company!

So hungry, toying between branflakes or a bacon sandwich...my diet will power is clearly waning!

BlindKitty · 27/07/2013 10:29

Omg my friend (my age) on FB has just posted that her daughter started her first job this week!!! I still havent even had a sniff pf a pg! although she did have her when she was 17!

barkingtreefrog · 27/07/2013 10:30

happy sounds great, I do love a bit of lace on a wedding dress!

I'm Angry and frustrated this morning. CD14 and still no peak on cbfm, still no + opk. I had such high hopes for clomid making me ov much earlier and we're running out of time before we'll be travelling. If it doesn't happen by Monday I won't know what's going on as I won't be able to temp again until Thursday due to being on a coach on Tuesday and on a plane on Wednesday. Pimping might be difficult as well. Thursday will be in a totally different timezone anyway, so not even sure if there's any point?

I need some guidance wise berries!! Should I take all my opks/thermometer/cbfm with me to America, or just give up until I get back? We're moving around all the time and spending a lot of time in a tent. I'm unlikely to be waking up at the same time each morning and setting an alarm in a campsite is probably considered antisocial...
Depending on timing/arrival of AF veering off my yellow brick road here seeing as Ov hasn't arrived when expected I'll have missed the end of this clomid cycle and will be almost 3 weeks into the next cycle. Looking forwards to when shag week will be next cycle, it falls when we're flying again, and staying on another sofabed with others in the room, and then flying home and travelling up north again by coach. ie dtd extremely unlikely. Grrrrrr Angry.

So, basically I need to start thinking positively about clomid cycle 3 in September!!!! Hmm

barkingtreefrog · 27/07/2013 10:55

I decided to share these worries with DP. He cut me off and told me to stop stressing. So I'm now crying. Will return to not talking to him about it more than necessary and ranting on here instead. Sorry berries. Does clomid make you more emotional? I never usually get this upset until the day before AF and this has been the second or third day in a row I've been in tears now.

BlindKitty · 27/07/2013 11:09

barking me are stupid sometimes - they think very one dimensionally.. 'Have sex, get baby' whereas we know all the other shit that goes with it. Apart from 'meltdown week', I didn't really have any emotional issues with clomid but my friend said she had really bad 'clonus rage'

When I went to Thailand I totally screwed up monitoring my cycle, confirmed by ff!!! I'd just continue having as much sex as poss for now

ladybunnikins · 27/07/2013 11:20

Barking, personally when I go on holiday I leave all the ttc paraphernalia at home apart from the lubricant and just try to dtd eod while away. I also try to limit what I say to DH for similar reasons to you!

Looks like CD1 for me again but this will be the last cycle before IVF. We had our appointment today to go through all the paperwork and hand over the money. He gave us a sample schedule, not sure how I'm going to fit it all in around work, will have to speak to someone about taking leave at short notice.

BlindKitty · 27/07/2013 11:51

lady how exciting! I have my iui appointment on Thursday!