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The Elderberry Pavlovas who will graduate (thread 12)

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CharmingCats · 15/07/2013 20:08

Roll up, roll up for the best discussions of ewcm, opk, ic and double dying you'll ever have. Probably.

The smallprint - Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, NO instadiffers, must have a special pot) and def no mention of baby dust or baby dancing UGH !!! Ooh we are strict...please note your house may be at risk if you do not keep up repayments lol

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BlindKitty · 23/07/2013 18:49

I don't get pmt (although dh doesn't know that as its a great excuse for frankly being a witch)

BlindKitty · 23/07/2013 18:56

charming what is with pils and crap food! My mil does it all the time, I swear she wants us to be fat but her chocolate cake is so damn good

Oh and you know how I said yest that our friend had just announced she was pg? Well our other friend has just announced her pg!!!! Arrrgh!!! So at the dinner party in a few weeks, out of 4 girls, 1 has just had a baby, 2 are pg and 1 is clearly baron grrr

Bunnygirlie · 23/07/2013 19:25

cats you aren't silly, just watched them leave the hospital and now want to sob!

kitty that's crap Sad

BlindKitty · 23/07/2013 19:31

bunny I know! Right off to congratulate them talk about 2 faced

Boomgoestheweasel · 23/07/2013 19:33

Oh phew, I didn't totally kill the thread!

I thought I'd give pre-seed a bash this month bunny. Then found Sainsbury's doesn't have it, only the Durex play stuff (in cherry flavour....not sure if swimmers like cherries?), and I won't have a chance to get to Boots this week...so that's that idea out of the window, we'll just have to go with the 'lots of shagging' option and hope the swimmers make it through!

RB has just been displayed to the waiting vultures crowd. Hopefully now we can all forget about his existence for a bit!

Boomgoestheweasel · 23/07/2013 19:38

Sorry, took so long to write that that I crossed with loads of you!

charming I was also tearful/angry at the radio this morning, playing baby songs and guessing names on every bloody channel. It should be US goddammit!

kitty BAH humbug. Well done you for being able to congratulate them, hope your teeth don't appear too gritted!

Off for an evening stroll/dogwalk with husband. Then hopefully getting our mojo on for the first purposeful shagging session of many!

ladybunnikins · 23/07/2013 19:50

Boom, I ordered preseed plus from amazon, didn't bother with the applicators though. Currently using conceive plus (which doesn't come with the applicators) from boots online.

BlindKitty · 23/07/2013 20:46

boom I got mine from amazon. The applicators get it high enough for the sperm to travel not that it's done me any good yes, teeth were firmly gritted but it was only over a text and I'm so god damn rehearsed fake that I tend to pull it off!

Foodylicious · 23/07/2013 21:28

oh boom the rain was awful this morning but only got caught in it for a few minutes from the car to work.
Kitty, bunny it right that's crappy and it also utter crap you are not barren
ooh charming get yourself stuck on MFP with me, I finally got under the 9 stone mark this week, though I think some of this is dehydration!

Not sure what is going on with me and how much comfort to take from this...
as you know i mc it the of may at 8 weeks. prior to this I had been timing dtd with calendar for 16 months and it was on the 17th month I used OPKs, did not get surge until CD20 so read like mad and took loads of vitB in the hope of lengthening luteal phase. For whatever reason that worked and I took the late OV as a sign that we had had our timings wrong all along as would get EWCM around day 12-16, so figured the two were not compatable a week apart.
Anyway to get to the point I finally had first AF after mc weds before last, stuck around for a few days, stopped then started again for another few days.
Noticed what might be EWCM (bearing in mind I have not seen any since april so kind of forgot what it's like!) for the last couple of days and thought we are off ttc until september, thought I would try an OPK, really did not expect anything but got that smiley face! CD14 here so part of me wants to think yay, at least the last one was not my last egg (been having nightmares about that) but the other part of me is not so sure as AF was so odd and maybe my body of just still screwing around???
Any comments on this ramble greatly appreciated Grin

On a more Sad note have found the family time at the weekend pretty hard, was ok on sat seeing my sister and her 2 little ones and my brother and hi pg wife for a couple of hours, but saw them again on sunday and just did not want to be there. SOOOO pissed off with myself as pre mc I would have been all over my SIL asking about her pg and all sorts, just can't bring myself to do it and its horrible, like that bit of me has been lost. Also got left alone with baby for far too long and found myself stuck not knowing what to do, feeling awful being with her, but feeling more awful about feeling awful. Grrr have not been able to have a proper cry for a few days and it gets me so irritable when it builds up.

long post over, sorry!

Boomgoestheweasel · 23/07/2013 22:06

Foody cycles do tend to be ballsed up after mc, but from the sounds of the pos opk and ewcm, you're probably back on track! Woo! Is there a reason you're not ttc at the moment?

Sorry you had a hard time with family. I can totally relate to the whole 'feeling awful' cycle of misery, hope you manage to have a good weep and let out some of the frustration x

lady, kitty oooh might buy some off t'interweb then. Will probably need more ic hpks anyway for getting my BFP on so might as well make it a bulk ttc purchase!

Something tells me I'm not going to get any action tonight, Mr Boom has locked himself away in his study and is pointedly moaning about his back hurting to establish an excuse. Sometimes he's so apathetic about ttc I could just slap him - doesn't he realise that we need to actually SHAG in order to get knocked up? Aren't men supposed to want endless sex? It does nothing for my confidence either that he just doesn't ever seem to want to, I'm not very body confident at the best of times. FFS. Angry

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CharmingCats · 23/07/2013 22:27

That's shit, boom. These menfolk are odd sometimes.... Hope his back makes a miraculous recovery.
Sorry about your weekend, foody I think the feelings you describe are completely natural, so try not to feel bad for having them. It must take time. I agree with boom regarding your cycles.

Feeling rubbish due to the heat. Watched rb footage on news. Feel even worse. I don't think this coverage will end soon. Media blackout methinks.

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Bunnygirlie · 23/07/2013 22:28

boom we currently use conceive plus but have pre-seed to try once it runs out, it hasn't helped yet though.

Good to see you foody was wondering how you were. I don't really have much advice, I can imagine it could take a while for your body to settle down again but no harm in trying. My friend was told after her mc to try again whenever she felt up to it.
Sorry to hear family time has been tough, bug hugs!

Omg boom I know what you mean, I also get the I'm too tired, too stressed, back hurts, throat hurts etc all the excuses! We spend our teen years thinking sex is all men think about and wanna do, how come when we need to do it they don't wanna! I keep saying to my hubby it's like expecting to win the lottery without buying a ticket! It drives me loopy!

Foodylicious · 23/07/2013 22:29

in 3 weeks we are going to be in oz and thailand for a month, its really hard not ttc but I cant bear thought of being in such early stages so far from home and the stress and worry would ruin our trip which we have been planning ofr a very long time. I have to keep reminding myself of this cause right now i want to say screw it all and ttc and not go on hol! Also you not meant to fly so early on either if we were lucky ttc anyway.
Thanks boom for the support, it does help a bit. and can you get Mr boom a bit tipsy and let you do all the work??

BlindKitty · 23/07/2013 22:33

foody it's so hard, it really is but you'll get through it. In fact, we'll all get our babies in the end, we're just taking the scenic route

boom mine does as he's told but I wish I didn't have to tell him!

BlindKitty · 23/07/2013 22:34

Anyway, tmi coming but I actually have pins and needles in my feet for being upside down for so long.,,

Bunnygirlie · 23/07/2013 22:43

Lol kitty no such thing as TMI anymore! I tried the opposite earlier, lying on my front with knees on pillow, quite uncomfortable!

barkingtreefrog · 23/07/2013 23:30

foodysorry about the family stuff but cycle wise it does sound like it's sorting itself out quite nicely Smile.

cats I was being quite stoical about the rb until they started talking about Charles being so happy to be a grandfather. That's when I started crying. My dad is in his 70's and loves babies, but still doesn't have a grandchild and I can't seem to give him one Sad.

boom I'm a little worried about timing this month as DP has another stag do at the weekend, which is when Ov is probably due. He's usually reliable enough when I request it, but sometimes he's 'just too tired'. I'm still struggling with it hurting. Tried again last night with plenty of foreplay and loads of preseed, but in the end the only way I could tolerate it at all was in the missionary position (I think it may actually have been the one and only time we've done it like that!) as it stopped him going too deep. I was worried it wasn't deep enough for the swimmers to get to the right place though. Having a night off tonight as it's still sensitive Sad. I really don't understand what's going on, as if ttc wasn't stressful enough, it's now painful!! Angry

barkingtreefrog · 23/07/2013 23:45

Should have stayed off google. This is exactly what I was afraid of Sad .
What can I do?
Other google results all back it up. There's an increase in friction and irritation and it feels raw and tight and painful. Not found any sites solving the problem for me Sad .

Foodylicious · 24/07/2013 00:12

Ok barking - TMI ALERT DO NOT BE OFFENDED
more that I would usualy share but have now had a good cry a couple of rather generous JD and cokes.
In my experience there have been a few (ehem not saying how many) in my younger days, maybe 3 out of 4 not circumcised.
Personally pretty much all circumcised were more 'satisfying', but yes friction was an issue with a couple of the larger chaps (maybe the reason they had needed the circumcision in the first place??)

I would maybe suggest they when you have past this dtd window you and oh ban full sex for at least a week but keep things going otherwise, lots of cuddles, massage etc.
On the few occasions in the last 8 years we have been together we had experinced a 'drought' in this department due to stress or whatever, the first few times have been a bit uncomfy/painful as I think you 'shrink' a bit when you abstain for a bit. maybe this is just what has happened with you?? and as we are ttc we are putting ourselves under more 'activity' than is usual.
Also even though he is maybe completely healed he could have had a bit of thrush or something?? this would certainly not help you so maybe get some cream, it can't do any harm.

Really hope it is something you can find a solution too, can you get him 'ready' and reduce the time of the final dtd at much as possible??

sorry again for the frank and TMI content, but like I said, bit tipsy. Off to bed now.

BlindKitty · 24/07/2013 06:04

Maybe you you just too dry the other night and now your still sore from the previous friction iygwim? Non stealth shaggers would just take a break but we obviously can't!

Tallyra · 24/07/2013 07:05

I agree with goofy. I think the break has just made you unused to it. I had similar after my 1st mc, I didn't want to do it for ages and egging back into it took a while. don't give up!

and foody, don't worry either. it took me a few months to settle back down each time so it sounds like you are well on the way.

hospital later today. they gave me a pimping pot but it's the same size as a blood one - I'm gonna need a funnel for that one!!!

Tallyra · 24/07/2013 07:06

silly phone spellings again, sorry.

CatsCantFlyFast · 24/07/2013 07:38

Argh you just fell off my I'm on list so had to come and hunt your down to post! Rushing as am late for work...
Ps someone (Foody?) mentioned not flying in early pregnancy and (after frantic googling) its a myth... Flying is fine its just some people don't want to due to the nausea. Thank goodness as I was on a long flight the day before my bfp, and have been on 6 flights since!

Tallyra · 24/07/2013 07:42

6 flights? wow! I don't envy you, I dislike flying intensely.

CatsCantFlyFast · 24/07/2013 07:45

Ps Tally I was given one of those tiny test tube pots to pee in at the doctors. My face was a picture but all my pimping practise paid off and I didn't wee on my hand spill a drop! Was v proud and smug!

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