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[hopefulgum]

Starting the new thread for you wonderful ladies before I fly off into the sunset.

May this thread bring us the happy news we've all been waiting for.

Mozzarella, I'm so sorry you have this stress, especially after your last pregnancy, and that you have to wait for some answers. Sending you hugs.

Congratulations notsoold on the arrival of baby Joseph. I hope your wound is healing nicely now, and your are enjoying your lovely baby.

Irish, I'm so pleased you've made it to 13 weeks. I completely understand the continuing worry though, I didn't go public til I'd had my 20 week scan and felt a little more confident that the baby would be ok. She seems absolutely fine.

mozz I echo others concerns about how stressful the cmv issue is for you. With dd3 there were 'markers' on the scan that suggested a cmv infection, and I had to wait for bloods (TORCH?) to be tested. Everything was fine, but I do remember googling to death all the implications of what an infection might mean. I think on balance most people are ok, even with an active infection, but of course we automatically think of worst case scenarios. I do remember a thread quite recently on cmv in the antenatal tests and choices section - it may well be worth posting there for some advice/reassuring stories xxx
Gum I wouldn't worry about lack of symptoms just yet - how are your temps? It would be so wonderful if it were to be your month!
Morien good to hear from you - how are things going?
I've posted a few photos of Laurie on my profile - top 2 I think

Congratulations notsoold - hope all's going well and you're healing.

Diege - he's just lovely!

Mozza - I'm sorry you're having so many worries again. It does seem horribly unfair and I hope you get the best possible news in November. Step away from Doctor Google but Diege's suggestion of posting on Antenatal tests/choices sounds a good one to me.

Gum - I'm crossing my fingers for you. You know, I think you should try for as long as you feel you want to. You'll know when to stop.

Irish - so pleased for you - though I do understand that it must be stressful. Keep the faith! I'm cheering you on from France!

Morien - congrats on a girl!

Calibee - sorry army life is not helping with baby making...

Sparkly - hope things are going well for you. I'm intrigued by the unusual name as my user name completely outs me! It was the only name we agreed on so I do hope if ever get preg again we don't have another battle over girl's names.

So, I bought some OPKs to try and see what's happening with me. Things have been all over the place but perhaps having a terminally ill father I've got to give myself a break?

Hi to everyone else and those lurking.

Hi all, just a quick message to Diege to say congratulations on your birth. I am so happy to hear that your latest baby arrived safe and sound.

It is great to hear the positive things happening to so many on this board. I do try to keep up occasionally.

Gum I hope that you get pregnant before Christmas!

Diege lovely photos, what a cute little boy !

Isadorable I think you definitely deserve a break with everything you're going through at the moment. How is your father doing? Will you be coming over to the UK again soon to see him? Thank you for the good wishes from France! xxx

gum hope your DS is feeling better.

Mozza sorry to hear about your worries with test results, hope it all turns out ok for you.

CaliBee hope timing works out ok for you if you dtd before DH left, it's ironic that his training was scheduled for just the wrong week though!

Hi Morien hope you had a nice weekend away, how many weeks are you and how are you feeling now?

Sparkly I didn't really have a lot of choice about going public about my pregnancy as I look quite pregnant already. People had noticed at work before I said anything! I'm quite small so my bump seems to pop out very quickly(I suppose especially as it's my eight pregnancy too!).I'm glad your lo is doing well.

Hi to galwaygal and everyone else.

hi everyone. just a quick hello from the hospital on my flat phone...been here all night with ds. suspected apendicitis. having a scan this morning and hopefully get blood results soon. had about two hours sleep. just want my poor ds to feel better. it has been awful seeing him in such pain. will hopefully know more soon.

cant wait to see your pics Diege.

Aww Diege, he is gorgeous!

Spoken to surgeon and it looks like it isnt appendix thank goodness but staying in for observation. Hopefully head home later today. Gosh it is so stressful when little ones are sick isnt it?

Just popping on quickly before the school run to say hope DS makes a speedy recovery gum, you must have been so worried, what an ordeal to go through. I know you'd rather be ill yourself than have your children go through something like that, you feel so helpless seeing them in pain. At least they've ruled out appendicitis,hope you can get back home soon.Look after yourself too, you must be exhausted xxx

gum you poor thing . You must be relieved that it isn't appendicitis but how worrying for you. Have they given you any idea as to what it might be/have been? I remember when dd3 was admitted to hosp last year (with what turned out to be an ovarian torsion) how difficult and complex abdominal pain can be, and how (frustratingly) it can often just be 'colicky' type pain. At least if there is anything causing the problem you will get some answers. A big bunch of for you xxx
Thanks for all the lovely comments re: ds - he is a little cutie though does have a good set of lungs on him! Not a bad night at all last night (have had a few shockers) - Woke just the once at about 2.30, then not until 6.30, which is very bearable indeed for me. I do struggle when it's 1am and then 4am though...Braving town today on the bus. I am much more relaxed than I was with say dd1 on buses etc with a new baby. I remember being mortified if dd cried on a bus/anywhere public, but try and take it in my stride now. Hopefully it will be ok, but a bit nervous. Dh has taken older dcs to waterpark so at least I don't have toddlers etc to deal with.
Hope everyone's ok - lots of positive news coming through at the moment xx

I hope ds is doing better and they maybe find out what's causing it. I have had a couple of hospital stays with dd and it is exhausting. Take care of yourself too!

gum I'm really sorry for your ds, I hope he's better now and you'll get some answers soon...
I have a positive story to report! today one teacher in my school told me she naturally had a baby at fifty, she felt pregnant while waiting to start some fertility treatments after a major surgery to her uterus..
Doctors advised he to terminate because she couldn't carry the baby to term but she just didn't listen to them and now she has a beautiful toddler...

Hi ladies.I havent posted for awhile, been abit downhearted about ttc.I have still been lurking & wish all the very best to everyone & praying we all get our bfps soon :-), was due my af yesterday. Im too scared to test!. I have like a heavy pulling bloated pain, but maybe coz my af is gonna show any minuite?.If no af by the morning,Ill probably test :-).x.

Hello everyone. I am pleased to say we are home and DS is much better. I am so relieved they did an abdo scan and found the cause of his illness and could rule out appendicitis. Thank goodness! It turns out he has Mesenteric Adenitis. I am relieved because it is no longer a mystery, we are treating him with lots of TLC and pain killers, and we came home and I slept in my own bed 9 hours straight. DS slept for 12!! He is really perky and happy this morning. I am still keeping him home for a couple more days, just to be sure. Apparently it can flare up again.

Thank you all for your good wishes. I really appreciate them.

Diege, how did the trip to town go? I hope it was smooth sailing. Your little man is adorable. I sooo hope I can be blessed with a wee one soon. Even after the stress and anxiety of having a sick little boy - all night awake at he hospital- there were a few moments I thought, "thank goodness there isn't a wee baby to care for right now", and, how would I cope with another child etc,etc, after a good night's sleep,I am still as keen as ever. Mozza, what a heart warming story about the woman who had a baby at 50! Perhaps I should just keep on trying? I guess only I will know when enough is enough. I just really want to be one of the success stories. I know we all do, and what's more, there are so many on this thread.

Diege, I've not been terribly impressed with my temperatures this cycle. They aren't nice and high. Of course they are above coverline, but not a hell of lot. Anyway, I wonder if that means progesterone isn't high enough? I am taking the B complex, hoping it may help. According to FF I am only 6dpo, so it's still early days.

mazzie40, I hope you have good news soon. Your symptoms definitely sound like a possible pregnancy, especially as you are late. If it isn't this time, hang in there, you only have to read this thread to see how many success stories there are.

Well, I had better get a few things done whilst DS is ok, this thing seems to have him fine one minute, flat the next.

hopeful how worrying for you. Dd2 had several episodes of adenitis between the ages of about 5 and 10 years 2 of which ended up in hospital stays. She did eventually grow out of it.
I am feeling more and more disallusioned with army life. The Afghan trip is now a surety and from August next year and there is also talk of relocating the whole barracks to another part of the country. This would make any jobs i applied for locally a commute away should the move go ahead.Despite making every effort to be neutral and friendly ...I atended a wives meeting last night and sat alone whilst the other wives gathered in their groups. For the first time in my life I just do not fit in!!!. Feeling a little "woe is me" just now....I think I may need to do some serious thinking.

Hello everyone.

diege, what a little cutie - he's gorgeous. How did your trip into town go?

Hopeful glad your DS is ok. Hope you all recover from the hours at the hospital soon...

Cali I'm so sorry you're finding things tough at the moment. Ex-MIL was an ex-army wife, and from her stories I always thought it sounded like a difficult role to play. How are you getting on with the nails you were doing? (At least that would be transportable, wouldn't it? If the barracks were moved in the end...?)

Am really pleased this morning - IMO my DSCs watch way too much TV/spend too much time on the computer, to the exclusion of just about everything else (as much as the screen time per se, it's the fact they do nothing else that bothers me - they don't use their imagination at all, nothing creative). I've never liked it and have tried to convince DH that we needed to change things but he's always brushed it off (life's easier for him if they're stuck in front of the TV), and I've tried hard to offer them alternatives - but without DH's full support it's hard, as I'm not their parent. I've been getting more worried about it as my pregnancy rolls on, as I really don't want MY DC to grow up like that (don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to ban TV - I just want some variety and balance) - so I raised it again the other night, and to my surprise DH was in complete agreement. We agreed on times when TV/computer are and aren't allowed...and when I got in from work yesterday the DSCs were jumping around, shouting, 'Morien! have you seen the games table papa's bought today?' - mini ice hockey, mini table tennis and mini billiards (DH said, 'I thought we needed to offer an alternative to the TV to tempt them away from it at first', and I didn't say that I'd been saying that for the last couple of years ) The TV didn't get a look in last night, and this morning before school was the same. I know the novelty of this particular toy will wear off, but at least it's shown DH that there ARE alternatives (he said as much on his way out this morning). There was such a lovely atmosphere at home last night and this morning, them all playing together and speaking to each other (and to us) instead of sitting staring at the TV in silence - and the laughter The kind of atmosphere I'd want to bring a DC into...

Anyway, after that digression (sorry, but I'm so ridiculously pleased about it that I just wanted to share it ), back to business. Got my monthly gynae appointment this afternoon so I will report back after that. These appointments come round so quickly, it's amazing - I'm 24 weeks now and my thoughts are slowly turning to buying a few things in preparation for the baby's arrival.

Cali, sorry you feel you do not fit in, but maybe it will change when you have been there longer? The others probably have been together for some time, have they not? Of course there is the possibility they are somewhat ageist, you probably being older thank most, but it should also pass when then novelty goes away, I hope.
Can you do something else than sitting and chatting together with them? I mean, ask someone out for a run or gym session, where you have common ground and can effortlessly communicate? You did quite a lot of sports, I believe?

Morien, 24 weeks is a viability line, that is great to reach it effortlessly and without troubles. Well done! And I so see the point of weaning from TV. My 8yo boy broke his Nintendo last week and this gives us more face time, too, even if computer is still working. TV is not an issue in our family, none of us really does more than news and politics program, so boys not too used to watching the wretched thing:-)

Hopeful, good your child is better!

Gum - delighted they found out what was wrong. It really helps I know, and that both of you are recoveriing!

Calibee - my mum was a service wife. She didn't always fit the mold either. I know what that life is like - not easy at first. The friends she did make have been lifelong though. Keep being you, I'm sure it'll improve.

Morien - good for you for getting new ways to play in place at home. It can be difficult to get kids moving. It was one of the reasons we moved to have a garden so she could be outside rather than stuck in front of the tv. She loves terrorising the snails and lizards and watering the plants though we can't seem to convince her not to pick all the flowers!

Irish - my dad is doing ok though on a lot of morphine. He is having radiotherapy to try and have more time. It is heart breaking to realise he is dying. It comes like an electric shock on me every now and then. I am hoping to be there for his birthday in November but is difficult to LAN. We don't know if it has spread yet. They're testing him end of the month.

Well, I am ovulating right now and was so ill with a migraine last night we've done nothing about it. Perhaps tonight if it is not too late? Gum I also know a mum who's first was born when she was 50. It does happen!

Love to all

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Diege...adorable pics.
Thanks for the supportive comments....Jas i think you are right on the ageist thing. I also suspect that on first sight being older, the girls think DH will be "high up" the ranks and when they discovet otherwise they scarper. Lol. I chatted to one gorl at yhe gym today who is lovely...infact I poured my heart out a little. She suggested we see welfare and explain situation. My guess is the army wont help...but its got to be worth a try.
On a plus....dh is back off exercise tomorrow and i had a positive smiley opk today which prop means ovulation friday for me....woohoo...!!!!

Yes Calibee - I know how you feel on being the older woman! People dont know what to make of you it is true. Good luck for ov and glad to hear you made a bit of progress in terms of opening up.

Hi ladies.

I've woken up with a bloody cold! Obviously picked up at the hospital, then all the stress and lack of sleep...bugger. Very snotty this morning. Which worries me because I have a dental appointment this afternoon - 45mins to fix an old filling. I am not sure I'll cope with 45 minutes of breathing through my nose! Also, not good for the dentist if I am breathing germs all over them. I think I might have to reschedule, but I already have three times and I am sure they will think I am hopeless!

My temps are lousy this cycle, so I am not holding out any hope for a bfp. I did have a weird and sudden feeling of nausea that came and went at lunch time yesterday, but I still don't feel hopeful.

Isadorable, sorry to hear about your migraine, how awful. I think DTD on O day is a good idea, you may still catch the egg.

Cali, sorry to hear that you are feeling you don't fit in. It must be very difficult. But great news that Dh will be available during O time! Yeehar!

Well, it is back to work for me today, DH will stay home with DS. He's so much better, but has gotten very used to all the attention and doesn't want to go back to normal (clever boy!). I think we might have a few tears while re-establishing boundaries. Sigh!

Gum, sorry you have had such a worrying time with your DS, glad he's on the mend now, but miserable for you to now have gone down with a cold.

Calibee, I hope things improve soon.

Diege, Laurie looks gorgeous, I hope you are feeling less tired and healing well.

We are off to on holiday to the Med at the weekend, DD2's passport has arrived, and I'm hoping not to spend the next 36 hours packing as it always seems to expand to fill the time available.

Thank you Hopeful & glad your ds is ok :-). Still no af for me. I havent tested yet, but really should tomorrow morning, Im now 3days late. I have had a couple of symptoms but I`m not really taking any notice coz I have learnt that pg symptoms are similar to some symptoms befor af. Hope everyone is ok :-). Have a lovely holiday Sparky.X.

mazzie that is sounding very good to me. Three days late and you haven't tested! Woman, you have a will of iron!

Sparkly, thanks for your good wishes. I know what you mean about packing. I often wish I had someone else to do it, or I could just go empty handed and buy what I need when I get to my destination.Of course I could never afford to that. When we went to Bali this year many,many people said, "take an empty suitcase, the shopping is so good and cheap, you just buy everything you need there", well I am glad I didn't listen because we didn't really get a chance to shop until much later in the holiday. Anyway, good luck with the packing, and I hope you have a glorious time!

As for me, I went to work yesterday and left DS with DH. I spent most of the day preoccupied and worried about him, and desperate to get home again! I also felt an incredible tiredness, I suppose it's almost like a post-stress thing, and I still feel it now. Or perhaps it is a pregnancy tiredness Unlikely. My temperatures are so shit this cycle. They are just not reaching the lofty heights you'd expect of a pregnancy. However, I did check some "charts like mine" on fertility friend, and there was one almost identical which was a pregnancy chart, so, hope springs eternal!

I've cheered myself up by buying a gorgeous new red handbag off ebay. My lovely red handbag was ruined when we went to the hospital and DS's drink spilt through it, it seems to have wrecked the leather. But that's ok, because I have a lovely new one!