Fabulous Fecund Over Forties TTC: fertile,prolific,fruitful and productive. Hand over the bfp's and hand them over now!!

[hopefulgum]

Starting the new thread for you wonderful ladies before I fly off into the sunset.

May this thread bring us the happy news we've all been waiting for.

Congratulation Mozzarella ! That's really good news. Hope your teaching isn't causing you too much stress at this time, try to take it easy if you can.
gum sorry to hear about your FIL and I can see it must be difficult for your DH at the moment.
Also isadorable, it must be hard to worry about your Dad from a distance,I hope his treatment is successful.
Diege your baby boy is HUGE! Mine were all under the weight he is now at birth and they were all overdue, DS by 2 weeks! When will they decide re a natural delivery or c section?
Sparkly sounds promising that DH is opening up and talking and glad that baby sparkly is doing well.
*CaliBee" you sound like you're settling in to life in NI, hope your DD has a lovely visit with you. Doing that course sounds like a really good idea, it's a skill you could use to start your own business any where, I presume you'll have more travelling with the army over the next few years?
When is your DD1's baby due?
Hi Morien and notsoold, glad to hear your pregnancies are progressing well.
I'm counting down to my next scan next week. I'm feeling tired and nauseous a lot of the time, which is great, I'm not complaining! When I stop feeling ill I worry even more though. And I know from experience the symptoms can still remain after things have gone wrong! I went to see the GPs last week after the scan to book in for antenatal care. It wasn't a doctor I normally choose to see and she was less than enthuasiastic or encouraging about my pregnancy,just commented that she assumed I was aware of the high risks of conditions like Down's at my age and filled in forms without much further comment. We've not told the DC yet,though the girls may start to notice soon,I have definitely changed shape. I don't know what that's all about since the little one still isn't much bigger than a bean!
Hello to everyone else
p.s. gum even if I'm not posting very often,I love reading your posts,please don't stop!

Irish - I imagine it must be extremely nerve wracking, not least after what you've already been through. Keep taking it a day at a time. I remember the panic I felt when I didn't feel sick, when I didn't think she was moving enough (I really craved full fat coke, something I hadn't drunk in years, rationed myself except when I really needed the reassurance of her dancing around. Someone gave her some coke not long ago and she's always asking for it now. I won't give it to her - I hadn't made the connection till now!)

I told my gyne we'd like another baby but I wondered if it was too late. He pulled a face like he was sucking a lemon. He's very old school and a lot of doctors won't be positive I guess but it isn't up to them to decide things. My pain doc sent me to see a psychologist cos she was so surprised I would risk another pregnancy. Psych was/is lovely about it though. It is for you and your family to decide these things and your doc to take care of you. I will be thinking of you next week. Thanks for our kindness re my dad.

So many goo dress,congratulations to new bfp-owners and best luck. It is giving hope for us all, I repeat. So happy for you.
I am uneventful these last weeks, ttc at the quasi-right time this cycle, due to my work left home at CD 12, but I elieve I did ovulate thereabouts as well. No opts this month, my cervical mucus is good enough indicator I believe. Feeling relaxed about the whole ting, maybe indifferent, but happier than mpatiently waiting to OV, then to test.
Good luck to everyone, off to plane to return home now....
Yours,
Jass

Good morning ladies.

Nothing much to report here. I think I must be in true peri-menopause now. It is taking longer than usual these days to ovulate, and I have no sign whatsoever of cervical mucus. Any suggestions??

OPK was negative last night, so I did one when I got up this morning and it is so close to positive that I recorded it as positive. It's CD14, so it is about time. I will test again this afternoon to see whether the surge was missed overnight or if it is yet to come. I had planned on SWI last night, but I was feeling a bit sick (nauseous) after dinner, so there was no action. The sickness was so like morning sickness that I foolishly took a preg test this am. I knew it would be negative - I still have low temps as I usually do before ovulation, but I thought I'd check as it really did feel like pregnancy sickness. Maybe it's ovulation sickness?

I slept badly, and woke before 5 am, so I think today will be a struggle, and I'll have to have a nap when I get home from work so that I can muster up the energy for SWI

I will be glad when I finally get a BFP and THB. [praying/begging emoticon] It will be a relief to not have to have sex [yawn]

Good to see some action on the thread. Isadorable, I am sorry to hear your father is unwell. How difficult for you when you are far away.

Jass, it is nice to hear from you, and great that you are feeling relaxed about things.

Irish, that GP sounds like an idiot. Why on earth talk about the risks when you are already pregnant. To me that is just silly, and presumes that you have no idea. A bit insulting I think. Anyway, don't worry what anyone thinks. We all know you are a wonderful mummy and your baby is very lucky to have found its way to you. I hope you continue to feel sick and tired, but don't forget it can wax and wan. I have everything crossed for you.

Mozza I remember you saying that you thought your timing wasn't very good this cycle. Was it just before you went on holiday? Perhaps the holiday was just what you needed for the little bean to burrow in.

I must go and feed DS his breakfast. Have a lovely day.

Just poking my head in quickly to say congratulations to mozzarella! Fab news, wishing you a boring and uneventful pregnancy

All god here, very very busy, trying to keep my head above water (only just!)

Will write more detailed some other time!

Thank you for your kind words of encouragement Isadorable and gum, I was having a very shakey day yesterday( when my nausea seemed much better so I thought the worst) and it really helped!
I have to admit I caved in to the panic though and booked a private scan for today.I was reassured to see my baby is growing,now measuring 8w4d and everything looks normal.I was able to listen to the little heartbeat which was amazing.I know it's still early days and I've lost one later then this previously but for today I'm still pregnant!
Isadorable that's really interesting about your DD and coke. When my mum was pregnant with me she craved a particular brand of brown sauce,never liked it before and never liked it after I was born.When I was little I loved that sauce and wouldn't eat my meals without it!
Sorry to hear you didn't get a good reaction from your gynae either, but as you say it's not their choice or decision to make.
gum was your next opk positive? You must be exhausted if you were up from 5am, you sound like you have such a busy life and pack so much into your days anyway! Hope you managed some SWI.
Hi Jass ,JBrd and everyone else.

Hi Irish - delighted to hear you got to see your little bun again and all is well. I think it is totally normal to feel wobbly! As to the food and drinks - it is amazing isnt it? I ate lots of fish, potatoes and broccoli when pregnant with her (craved bland things when normally I like quite spicy things) and she adores all three foods. Infact, as soon as we get in the supermarket she says - "Mama, fish!".

How's things Gum? Hi to everyone else!

Congrats mozzarella that's lovely news
Great news too irish about the scan - hopefully you will feel reassured enough to see you through to the next appointment xx
Gum fingers crossed you have the energy later on tonight! Will be sending you energy vibes and just think how pleased you'll feel to get it out of the way
Back from the mw - did I mention she is the most useless, disinterested mw to walk the earth - all ok, baby is measuring big (she said he feels around 7ib now) and fundal height 39 weeks. Had to remind her to listen to the heart Booked in for next week, though she said I needn't bother but I am quite anxious about this whole big baby/low placenta thing so said I'd prefer an appointment before I see the consultant the week after...
Hoping everyone is ok - quite eventful here in the snug at the moment!

Thanks everyone for your congratulations.. I am actually quite overwhelmed by this new job and don't have time to think too much about being pg..tomorrow I'll meet a class with a student who is already known by the juvenile court and social services...gulp!
Irish good to hear you were reassured, it's already a big step..
Time to prepare my lessons now..

Good Morning from Down Under.

Mozza, it sounds like you have some hard cases at your school. I hope the lesson with the "juvenile" worked out ok. Do you have a support system for teachers, for when students are really misbehaving? At my school, I know that if someone is behaving especially badly, s/he can just be easily removed from the class for that lesson (or however many lessons it takes) until they are put on a contract for reentry. It really makes things easier for teachers.

This morning all the teachers are having a "stop work meeting".It isn't a strike, just a couple of hours where we aren't at work, and we'll meet in the town hall to talk about the cut-backs and how we'll fight back. So all my kids will stay home today. They could go in at lunch but as we live out of town I'd need 40 minutes to drive them and I can't do that. Charlie is pleased, he much prefers being home than going to school. In fact I had a meeting with his teacher on Monday as I was concerned there was something happening at school, but apparently he's fine there, he just prefers lounging at home. Who doesn't?

Diege, your midwife sounds awful. It is just as well you are educated and experienced in these matters so you are sure you get the care you need. With the low lying placenta and big baby, I am surprised she didn't want to keep a better eye on you.

Irish, I am so pleased to hear all is well with the baby. I know what a nerve-wracking time it can be.

Jbrd - busy is good, right? Come and see us soon with all the details.

Well, I did another opk yesterday afternoon, and it didn't seem as + as the one in the morning. But I've done another this morning and it is much darker. I still wouldn't say it is as dark as the control line, but I am using cheapo internet sticks. They are so skinny you can hardly see them I won't buy them again, but as I bought about 40 of them I may never need to buy them again Anyway, we DTD last night and I'll try again tonight, but I will be happy with every second night if DH isn't up for it. I am feeling twinges in the ovarian region this morning, so perhaps I will ovulate today?

I have decided I simply must get pregnant this cycle because I want to be belly buddies with diege, and as she's about to pop, it has to happen now

Besides, I really have been waiting a bloody long time for my baby

Hopeful, these internet cheapos are actually quite sufficient, as they give you the period when you are likely to ovulate. It is not exact science anyway, whatever better sticks claim, but you would know you could not ovulate before the day it turned darker, and that you ovulated no later than the day after the first day it started to go lighter. If it remains almost pos for several days, it probably means you are taking time to ovulate and might finally not manage this month, otherwise they return to neg in more or less 3 days, I have noticed. They do the job, and I never bother with more than one a day, and then SWI every other day until they go back to neg territory. Takes about 4 shaggatons to get there. Mine usually get a pattern of one quite light - next almost or truly pos - another one like that and then fourth day clearly on downward trend. So, I would start SWI on the first hint of a line (I do not have line at all before the time of OV approaches, and I htink this is exactly because cheapos have less color in them - good actually).
Mozarella, maybe being busy keeps your thoughts about pregnancy at bay. But stress is bad, of course....
Irish, close to 9 weeks is wonderful. Every day the chances it will end in a baby are growing:-)

jass, that is reassuring. I took another opk last night which I would consider definitely + and again this morning, definately +. And I am having proper ovulation ache right now - it is quite obvious and ouchy. I am pleased we DTD last night and hopefully we'll go again tonight, but then I think I'll give myself permission for a break (3 nights in a row - quite unusual for me!)

I went swimming yesterday afternoon, and today is a fast day, so I think I am doing my best to be as healthy as possible. It kind of keeps me feeling positive too.

I am running out of time this morning, I have had to do some baking this morning as it is a colleague's birthday today and we'll have a special morning tea (I won't be having any tho' as I am only on 500 cals today ).

I had better go check on it as my oven is very dodgy.

HAve a happy day everyone

Hello ladies,

Just popped on as I heard a rumour that diege was feeling a little anxious.

Can I just say lovely that you know how I feel about growth scans, they are notoriously innacurate and misleading. Unless baby has iugr ( restricted growth over a period of time in utero ) then any other weight givIng information is mIsleading and not imPortant. Fundal height depends on so many factors, position of baby, fluid, mums position, ie laying on back etc.
Scans may suggest baby's limbs are !!!% whatever but until that baby is born they cannot know for sure.

Sometimes babies get stuck, fact, BUT a lot of the time, and many midwives would agree here, it is down to bad management of labour, woman being induced for non medicAl reason, rushing labour. It is very unusual for women to grow a baby in normal circs ( no vest diabetes etc ) that she cannot birth.

A larger than average baby is no reason for a cs, especially when it is baby number 6!!

Hope that helps, you know where I am x

Hi to anyone else that knows me and congrats to the recent bfp's x

Hey lia great to hear from you, and wise words indeed . I don't think (well I know I wouldn't) ask for a cs just because baby was seeming big. The complicating factor is a low placenta (at 34 wks, being rescanned at 37) which would usually I am presuming define the mode of delivery anyway. If it has 'risen' then I would 99% go for a normal delivery I think - if it's grade one or two I'm not sure what my hosp options would be but would discuss. How are things with you and yours anyway? Wish you were around the corner to come with my appointments with me..
Gum come on now, 5 weeks to be bump buddies . After that, you're on your own . I will always remain a cheerleader though and hopefully will always remain on this thread. Hope you manage your mega 3 in a row session!!!
I agree with jass about the internet cheapies - never got a line darker than he control one myself, and always white as white before surge and after. I did count the 'nearly' line as a positive though when I was doing them and assumed it was an ink issue or a narrowly missed surge.
Off to bed now - really shattered just with one dc at home today - work is definitively much easier!

Helloo Lia66, how nice to see you.

Deige, unfortunately my DH was very tired and went to bed hours before DS and me, so there was no action last night and would you believe I actually have EWCM yesterday. Grr! And today my temperature is up, so yesterday was O day. I have to be content with the two days beforehand, surely there'd be some swimmers in the right place?

So onwards to the tww. I shall keep an open mind and hope for the best. I think it would be better if I had no expectations at all and then got a nice surprise, but that's not me, I will be keeping track of every little twinge

It is the weekend here (this week seems to have flown) and we've only one week of school til spring break. Hurray! Not that things will slow down all that much. Two of my DC's have got two weeks of swimming lessons, so we'll be heading into town every weekday morning. Plus DD's got a friend coming to stay and I am sure there will be a lot of other stuff going on. I'd also like to do a little trip to the city, which will be hard to juggle with the swimming lessons, but maybe DH won't be a grumpy bear (as he is about these kind of commitments) and will take them along for a couple of days, so I can get away. I would like to meet my DSis's new partner despite all the controversy surrounding that relationship. I support her because I just want her to be happy. It is sad that both families have been split, but she was very unhappy in her marriage and it is for the best.

She told me yesterday that her DP's family have "disowned" him because he left an unhappy marriage. So silly!

Well, I'd better run off to the farmer's market, then a swim at the pool before picking up DD from a sleep over. It never stops here

Hopeful, not to worry. I read our yesterday's post and wanted to say that you should rather do it every other day, it is sufficient and actually recommended for oldies, I.e. keeps the sperm quality even. Every day may result in lower quality sperm, as the process is too heavy on those old gonads:-)

I just tested whether my tap water is pregnant. No, not crazy. I got a light pos on Inverness blue line test. Notorious for false positives, but only one you can by in Lux. It was pos. A cheapo I bought back home was neg. and Inverness remained pos when in the spring I went through miscarriage, but beta was 0,1. (Not on the same day though). So, I coul don't believe this line until it is proved my tap water is less preg than me. Hence I wasted 12 euros to see on 9-10 DPO whether I am pregnant. My excuse is that if am need medication ASAP. But... I thought I am calm now:-)

So far, while I entertain you with this crazy story, my tap water seems unpregnant. But I will wait for 15 more minutes to be sure.....

jasslet us know about your tap water! If it's a true bfp we could go back to our old deal, don't you think?

Tap not preg. That means I am. Started pred and mentalling. Weirdly hope it is at least not chem, so I could have hope a little longer. The straws we are ready to grasp....

I suppose congratulations are in order then Jass? I am amazed at how easily you get pregnant. I hope this one's a keeper.

Yes, I have heard every second day is good for oldies too, but because I can't be sure when I will ovulate I want to have had sex as close as possible to ovulation, so I keep at it, IYSWIM. Anyway, I know I did my best and will now have to wait and see. My temperature has had a nice rise, so I know I have ovulated.

How is everyone?

Jbrd, have you had any test results in?

There's a large percentage of ladies on this thread who are up-duffed: Morien, Diege , notsoold , mozza , Irish and now jass. I wonder what the average age is? It just shows that being over forty doesn't mean you can't get pregnant

I am starting to feel a bit left out, so do you think I could get the next BFP?

Jass...congratulations!!!! Fx everything will go well!!! Xxx

We can do the averages, I am 43. And I guess I beat the averages by being fertile every other or third cycle, only ending in nothing normally. Another squinter line this morning (different test, pink dye, less sensitive than the cursed blue dye test). So on with pred, but I expected more to be honest, if this wants to be a sticker.

I guess if women below forty get 90 % pregnant in one yea and we 85% in one year, then we being around 15 year maybe we should have 11-12 pregnancies per year at least? Enought to be exited all year around:-)

Congratulations Jass - one day at a time, but for today you ARE pregnant!
Gum you are most deserving of the next bfp! I think you've done sterling work this month, especially with a under the weather dp - bet he didn't need much persuading though
All ok here. Mum doing her 'usual' - have suggested they might be able to come over to look after the dcs if I have an elective section if placenta still low, so they would know the date etc etc. Dad fine and will take a day's annual leave but mum's behaviour very odd. She may have something on...couldn't come over the night before 'because of the dog' , my sisters/her friends couldn't pop in to feed the dog etc as 'they have dogs too' doesn't think she could cope with the dcs even though chances are they'll be in school/nursery, plus are not what you'd call 'difficult' (I think she means the 2 year old who is literally in to everything) so would need my dad there too...TBH the whole debate is exhausting me, and there was I thinking the one advantage of an elective section would be so I could plan. Maybe I should just take the hint...Arghhhh!!!!! Sorry to rant - feel better now!

Not really a poster here, more of a lurker but enjoy reading all your news. Lovely hearing of all the bfps, keep them coming girlies! Maybe one will rub off on me too

Diege, it will be fine, in the end everything works out. It always does. Can you have a few friends on standby with whom kids are familiar and who can help out your mum? I understand though grandmother reluctance towards toddlers. Mine would not even consider it and she is only 72, I was really disappointed when at 64, when my third came She was barely capable of managing a grandchild. Mainly because She refused to wear glasses, is blind as a bat without them and risks just loosing kids...but wanted to have my son with her, so had to be real rude sometimes......

Congratulations jass - thought I might be joining you but AF is here far too early instead. Diege - I hope it all goes well, I am sure it will. Gum - I am crossing fingers and toes you're next.

My dad's cancer is aggressive and inoperable so I am getting organised to go over to uk. With a two year-old who is in everything in tow... Might have to stay at my aunt's.