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Legs in the air.

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/07/2013 18:41

Hello ladies Smile

A colleague of mine told me that in order to increase the chance of conception I should lie on my back with my legs up against a wall for half an hour post sex!!

Obviously I know it is silly - but I still did it last night!!! Grin

Also - this is a seriously TMI question but I do need to ask it.

After sex, how much sperm do you find leaks out of you?? Blush

Even after having my legs up for the wall for about 15 minutes I still found there was quite a lot of leakage when I stood up, haha.

I can't believe I'm talking about this!

I guess I just thought that all the sperm would be shot up to where it needed to be???

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internationallove985 · 15/07/2013 20:20

It is due to commitments (working) that we only see each other twice a week.... Erm not that it is your business Winterwannabe.

Shock horror I am having U.P.S!!!! XX

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:23

If I'm honest, and I wont speak for everyone, but what shocks me about the whole deception isn't the fact that she is doing it, but more because she seems to be so proud of herself for doing it.

Almost like she thinks she is some Independent Woman type figure, if that makes sense?? Some kind of Martyr.....

In my opinion, it is her blasé, 'I don't care about lying to people to get what I want' attitude offends me more than the actual deed.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:31

And genuine question:

If you do conceive, do you intend on telling him and hoping he will stick by you and maybe turn your FWB into a relationship?

Or are you going to break it off with him and raise the baby alone?

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:43

Writer-I don't get that at all from international's posts. I see a woman desperate for a baby that's all. Who on earth are we to judge?

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:46

I'm not judging what she is doing, like I said, it is her attitude I find difficult to understand. She has said herself that she feels no guilt about what is doing and that is quite happy to lie and deceive people in order to get whatever she wants.

They just aren't personality traits that I can take to, that's all.

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:48

Why is it better if she feels guilty? Guilt is a useless waste of time.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:54

I don't want her to feel anything.

She feels what she naturally feels and such is the nature of her personality.

I just know it is something I could never do. That is probably why a lot of us are reacting the way we are, we can't understand it because it isn't something we would consider.

But, everyone has different morals and different reasons for living their lives the way they do and that is just life I guess.

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:57

It isSmile

OhBuggerMe · 15/07/2013 21:14

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 21:17

Writer- I completely get that too, that's what's made me angry

FourLittleDudes · 15/07/2013 21:23

I don't think and sounds proud of herself, she sounds sure of her decision and confident in her abilities to raise a child.

Its almost like some posters want her to be beating herself up over it, crying with guilt and feeling awful.

She is doing nothing different to what he is doing - having unprotected sex knowing it could lead to a pregnancy.

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 21:25

I agree four.

yamsareyammy · 15/07/2013 21:36

But Four, she is doing the added thing of ttc. He isnt. He may be being naive, or casual about unprotected sex, but he is not actively ttc - as far as we all know, international included.

international. Is there anything on this thread, anything at all, that has made you think twice about what you are doing?

You havent answered one or two of my questions. Obviously you dont have to, and perhaps they are too near the bone.

But generally, when people go through life, and keep burying their feelings about all sorts of things, it leads to problems, both practical and emotional ones, later on.

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 21:37

If he isn't wearing a condom he is ttcGrin

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 21:39

But has she told him it is unprotected and that she isn't using contraception? No she hasn't - because she knows that if she does tell him the sex will stop.

Yes he shouldn't just presume International is on the Pill or that she has a Coil or whatever, but I think he deserves to know that she isn't and so make a run for it or wear condom. He should have that choice.

No man should ever have fatherhood forced upon them - it is just wrong. This is a life that is being created and I don't think any woman has the right to make the decision to bring a baby into the world without the consent of the father.

And as to her doing nothing different than what he is...

He thinks they are just having casual sex, a bit of fun.
She is using him in order to get pregnant deceitfully.

They aren't the same things at all.....

I think she does need to have to the Contraception talk though because there is a chance he may have had a Vasectomy and so she could basically be wasting her time. At least if she knows he has had one, she can break it off and go back down the pub and try and locate another stranger to have a baby with...

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yamsareyammy · 15/07/2013 21:43

Not sure if you are joking valium. I presume you are.

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 21:46

I am half joking. If he isn't wearing a condom then why would a baby be a surprise?

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 21:48

She is PURPOSEFULLY not having the contraception talk because she knows there is no way the guy would knowingly have unprotected sex with her.

He may be stupid enough to not wear a condom but I'm pretty sure he is clever enough to realise how ludicrous the idea of conceiving a child together would be.

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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 21:53

Not clever enough to west a condom though eh?Hmm

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 21:53

Wear

yamsareyammy · 15/07/2013 21:54

Maybe he thought he had had the conversation.
Maybe he misheard.
Maybe, if he is doing the same thing with others, he has got confused.
Maybe he is reckless.
Maybe he isnt bothered one way or the other. Either because he may want one at the back of his mind. Or maybe because he would have no hesitation in scarpering.
Could be other reasons I havent thought of now it is nearly nighttime.

yamsareyammy · 15/07/2013 21:55

He maybe has had the snip maybe the most obvious one.

yamsareyammy · 15/07/2013 21:56

Maybe he knows for medical reasons that he cant have one.

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 21:57

But it doesn't actually matter a hoot-no condom =a baby more often than not. He has to take 50% of the responsibility.

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