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Legs in the air.

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Writerwannabe83 · 04/07/2013 18:41

Hello ladies Smile

A colleague of mine told me that in order to increase the chance of conception I should lie on my back with my legs up against a wall for half an hour post sex!!

Obviously I know it is silly - but I still did it last night!!! Grin

Also - this is a seriously TMI question but I do need to ask it.

After sex, how much sperm do you find leaks out of you?? Blush

Even after having my legs up for the wall for about 15 minutes I still found there was quite a lot of leakage when I stood up, haha.

I can't believe I'm talking about this!

I guess I just thought that all the sperm would be shot up to where it needed to be???

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RaRaZ · 15/07/2013 10:01

I was wondering if he'd had the snip too.... I've no idea how common it is, but that's one possible reason why he wouldn't care about not using contraception. Or perhaps he already knows he's infertile.

OhBuggerMe · 15/07/2013 10:50

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 18:21

OhBuggerMe : that just made me laugh out loud!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 18:28

I can't believe what I'm reading.
It's because of people like you that my partner has left me as a single parent.
Because he read stories about women like you and can't see how I could have been 23 weeks pregnant without knowing or being deceitful.

Disgusting.

Know I know the stories he read actually do hold some truth.

internationallove985 · 15/07/2013 19:00

People like me, Makeitupasyougoalong. Where did you pluck that one from. I am a single mum and I know how challenging/rewarding it is it is and I am sorry for your experience but it most certainly is not down to me personally how things have worked out for you. x

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 19:02

Make it up, your post makes no sense at allConfused

MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 19:15

You should know what your doing Is wrong then.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:17

She is saying that she didn't find out she was pregnant until she was 23 weeks along but her partner didn't believe that she hadn't known about it and so left her.

I think she then implies that her partner had read/heard of women who deceive men in order to conceive and that is why he didn't believe her when she said she genuinely hadn't known she was pregnant.

That was my understanding of it anyway. Sorry MakeItUp if I misread Smile

I'm sorry your partner has left, is it a recent thing? x

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yamsareyammy · 15/07/2013 19:20

I think you are an intelligent woman.
I think that you know deep down that your behaviour is wrong.
But, as you say, you walk over people to get what you want.

Did your parents teach you to do that?

yamsareyammy · 15/07/2013 19:23

fwiw, Makeit, I know a youngish woman who went to full term, and only knew on the day that she gave birth, that she had been pregnant. It is hard to believe, until you personally know someone yourself.
Not that that helps you at all. Sorry for your predicament.

internationallove985 · 15/07/2013 19:26

I've never came on here and said what I am doing is ideal but sadly we don't live in ideal world...If we did I'd be winning the euro illions every week!!!
I am trying to create a new life... The way certain people have gone on you'd be forgiven for thinking I was committing the crime of century.

Oh buggar me... I have to say this or I'll bite my tongue off or would that me fingers... I am far from stupid yes he could have other "Fuck buddies" other than me. My personal circumstances only allow me to see twice a week so how the hell do I what he's doing when he's not with me, I'm going to be brave enough and say this to you and I await a flaming.... Well here goes..... How do you do your D.P/D.H is not sleeping with other women behind your back. The honest truth is you don't!

Please try not to be smug... The fates don't like it....xx

MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 19:28

Writer- you got it. Sorry it's very very emotive subject for me.
It's not recent no, dd is 10 months now and I'm okay. It's currently a bit raw as the scenario about being deceitful has just been slung into court about me.
Bit raw you see.

Just makes me really angry and sad because cases of deceitful women like this make men think twice about their partners.
My case is more involved, but, the short bit is: he left me as he thought I'd tricked him into having a child.
The man I loved, my best friend.

So you know it's wrong, don't do it, wait for the right man to have a family with. I look at tiny babies and feel broody, doesn't mean I'm going to go to such lengths.

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 19:32

That's a horrible situation but shows what an arse your partner is if he thought you'd trick him.

ZolaBuddleia · 15/07/2013 19:36

international, I'm confused now. Are you saying that he does have a partner, or that you do, hence only being available for dates 2 afternoons a week?

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:36

MakeItUp : what an awful situation to be in and I can see why it must be so hard for you to read this thread - and see somebody flaunting the same thing that you are being accused of but would never do. If I could give you a hug I would Smile I won't probe into your situation but we are all here when you need to rant or need a shoulder to cry on x x x

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:38

Zola : "available for dates 2 afternoons a week" - I don't know why, but that made me laugh out loud!!! Grin

Maybe it is the image of casual sex being referred to as an afternoon date similar to when children have Play Dates Grin

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 19:50

I'm okay, I have my own thread that's hidden now. I'm just seeing this thread as a huge red flag to a bull.

I honestly thought these stories he had heard and read didn't exist. Now I've read this thread.
No wonder some men are so u trusting.
I'm aware I got a bad one, and he can't have loved me that much to not believe me but still I can't believe anyone would do this.
It's not just that its deliberately sabotaging a unborn child's possible relationship with its father. Every child has the right to a relationship with the father, sadly in this case the child may not even get that chance.
Why you would do that and find that acceptable is beyond me?
I'm fighting for my dd to see her father. I'm trying to get set times and days (he just wants whenever) so that my daughter can never turn around and tell me I didn't do all I could.
In this case what are you going to say to this child, if the father walks away, are you going to tell them why? Or are you going to do the whole daddy is a wanker routine?

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:58

I'm guessing she will go for the latter as opposed to telling the truth....

I also worry about what example is being set to her daughter? That it is okay for a woman to have unsafe sex with a man she doesn't know just so she can have a baby for her own selfish reasons....

Great lesson to teach your daughter...

If I ever learnt that I had been conceived in such a vulgar manner I don't know who I would cope with it.

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 19:59
  • how I would cope with it.
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valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:03

Very few babies are conceived within marriage and moonlight and roses!

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Writerwannabe83 · 15/07/2013 20:05

I can't help but feel you are supportive of what International is doing? Smile

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MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 15/07/2013 20:11

That doesn't mean a baby should be conceived in this manner.

I'm not all in favour of the rose tinted dating, marriage, house then baby but this? Really?

Writer agree whole heartedly with you

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:13

Actually I'm not at all as I said in an earlier post. What I can't stand is all this 'poor unsuspecting man' and blaming her for everyone's misery. In an ideal world babies are conceived within marriage but it's rare that everything is ideal. I had ds when I was married with a long term partner but tbh my biological clock was ticking louder than big Ben and I wouldn't like to assume that I wouldn't do what international is doing. I would not entertain the idea of a sperm bank.

valiumredhead · 15/07/2013 20:14

If I hadn't have been in a relationship

FourLittleDudes · 15/07/2013 20:20

I think a man who chooses to have sex with a casual partner without a condom without even asking if their partner is on the pill etc can't be to concerned about a pregnancy, everyone knows that unprotected sex sometimes leads to conception its not like anyone is pretending that they are taking precautions. He's made his choice to take a risk.

Good luck to you International. Plenty of babies are born to parents that don't want them, don't look after them, don't j is what they are letting themselves in for. At least this baby is wanted and loved.