The BESH plumbing is blocked up. Where's a man with a big tool when you need one?

[FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn]

Welcome to the BESH plumbing thread, where we have blocked pipes, dirty u-bends and leaks aplenty.

Newbies are welcome to seek out the BESHtionnaire submit highly inflated quotes for consideration. Instadiffers will be massively overcharged and sent packing.

Hmmm, this job is gonna cost a bit

Mine just said "Injection"

I have rebelled against lunch at my desk and am lying on the grass in a nearby park and marvelling at the midday light. CD66. My record is over 100 days. I wonder if I should waste a fiver myself. Just for fun

Don't you have a stash of internet cheapies for POAS emergencies?

Lying on the grass in the park sounds good. I went out for lunch with HWCA, night shift tonight and am ultra sleepy so going back to bed for a bit.

Hest is suspiciously quiet too

Yes I noticed that. One of the aforementioned devices is for her, worry not.

Sorry for being a rubbish BESH, hags. Am veh busy and trying not to menkul xxxxx

But before I go, BB, very interesting info on the low blood pressure/athleticism thing. I nearly passed out on the loo the other day. I had to have my head between my knees. It was a low point, I must say (it was the morning after the IUI)

Hags, what are your thoughts on counselling? Has anyone else had it? I went today for the first time and tbh I feel a bit underwhelmed by it. Basically he said almost nothing while I blabbed about stuff that came into my head. I was hoping for (and asked about) something a bit more... constructive I guess. I was hoping for some suggestions of ways to think about things or even some therapeutic tasks that I might have resisted doing . Just something more than just me talking. It just seems not to be his approach. Plus the only time he can see me clashes with a big regular work meeting so yet again I feel like I'm struggling to reconcile my job with my well being. What do you reckon? Anyone had a hard first session but stuck with it?

Anyway, enough of the me me me.

drizz hope you're doing ok with all ze drugs
euro hurrah for ET. Have everything crossed. And fx for the menkullers hest and frank. Sorry to hear about rubbish friends and lonely feelings. You have the BESH to be your pals though - what more could you want? Bet you dont get fainty-poo information from them, eh? And norf maybe your droid will turn up as soon as my blardy ivf paperwork

Fizz I've only had one counselling session and it did me the world of good. Hand on heart I've only had one blub fest since the session in March, a real result!

I definitely did most of the talking and she asked occasional questions. There were a lot of tears and snot but I felt like a weight had been lifted afterwards.

We discussed how none of this is my "fault". I've done nothing wrong to cause this situation and the universe is not punishing me for bad deeds. We also talked about finding ways to keep me occupied, stopping the negative thoughts creeping in. As a result I have taken up cross-stitch

Perhaps you just need to try a different counsellor? Did you find this one yourself or is he an NHS one?

fizz I had one session at my clinic when I was struggling with downregging for IVF. I talked about feeling like a failure and simply not wanting to be doing IVF and all of the other things I was feeling at the time. She head tilted and sympathised, but that was it. I found it pointless and didn't go back.

I do use my acu sessions to unload a bit though. It's an hour where I don't have to spare anyone's feelings and can say what I am feeling. I find that more helpful, tbh.

I reckon it is getting a counsellor that suits you and knows what fertility-shit is all about. I went to one several times when I was falling to pieces left right and centre post-MC (although I got hold of her during the successful cycle, cos I was not coping). She did make me do horrid things - like write a letter to the child that the MC should have been and stuff. But it helped loads. It has made a huge difference to my well-being since, but the DRing drucks are more powerful than any coping mechanisms I picked up.

The clinic was not particularly useful. Agreement on not another LP cycle, promise not to do the crazy-extra-DRing time you had to do euro, and the suggestion to stick it out til stimming as it might be better can hardly be worse. But up to me, because only I know whether I can cope...

How long do you have to go before stimming, drizz?

fizztula, my counselling experience was the same as yours. Uncannily so, in fact. I used a counselling service accessed through work - maybe that was why they were a bit crap. I was definitely disappointed.

Frank - some Dame Judy cross-stitch inspiration for you:
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I've had a lovely afternoon out today with a friend who has often been a bit weak, supportive-wise, but who redeemed herself by being completely lovely all afternoon, letting me talk and explain without it turning into a different conversation. Perfect :)

I've not had counselling, but think I will give it a go when we get cracking with stimming. I don't expect it to be any help, but I could do with a ragey self-centred rant at a real life person who doesn't actually matter, if you see what I mean. HOTB is normally fine for ranting to, but I can't really expand on the guilt to him - guilt because it's me who's barren, not him. He'll tell me it doesn't work like that, which I know, but it don't stop me feeling like his lack of fatherhood is all my fault. Which it is, even if it's hardly a choice.

I haven't had any counselling yet. I asked my GP about it and he said there was no funding. I'm going to approach the clinic next week to see if I can see someone as we are now in their system. I'm not finding any of this easy and apparently the clinics counselling is with their specially trained nurses and all the nurses we met this week were lovely so I'm hoping it will be helpful.

Rasp that sounds like a good idea. My clinic offers 1 free session for women on my treatment (OI) and 2 for women on IVF.

I had generic rather than fertility counselling, about a year ago I think. It was crap, hated it.

Ill take as much as I can get! I probably just need a good cry on someone other than people who are emotionally invested or will feel upset with me or guilty or like they have to come out with messages of hope!

I think for fertility isshoos it probably needs to be fertility counselling? It's a very specific thing, I would imagine generic counsellors are probably say there wanting to ask about your relationship with your parents and your childhood or is that stereotyping :)

I wonder if counsellors have counselling or if they could counsell themselves?

Spigot?

Isn't it some sort of plumbing hardware? I am imagine g some sort of stopcock/washer/nut thing.

I was just trying to keep to the theme. I should have gone for something hilarious about o-rings.

Summat like that Norf I could make a crude joke about blockages in pipes owing to this blardy wind. Honestly, it's foul