Tentatively Trying for Number Two - if you had a tough time in pregnancy/birth/conceiving/carrying your first child....

[BarbiesBeaver]

I couldn't find another thread like this so am hoping there are some more people out there who had a bit of a traumatic time TTC number one and are now considering trying to repeat the process again.

Perhaps you had a long time trying or fertility treatment for your first child, or were ill during pregnancy, or suffered a traumatic birth, or had losses or miscarriages along the way.

Perhaps reading the other TTC2 threads brings back those painful memories of month after month with no BFP, or if you aren't sure you even can have another child, or if the faint positive line after pissing on a stick is just the start of the stress (will it stick this time? Can I afford fertility treatment again? Oh no what will work think if I need months off ill again? How on earth will I get through the birth? etc). I thought a dedicated thread for those in this situation might be useful and allow those going through similar experiences a safe place to share their fears and experiences. And drink plenty of virtual gin and eat plenty of hard core cake along the way!

My background - I am a previous BESH (they are a friendly bunch partial to gin) and had fertility treatment for my PFB. I had a couple of miscarriages along the way. The clock is ticking and my eggs are getting more wizened and ancient so am thinking of starting the whole horrid business again. And it's a bit scary.

Perfect timing there, not. But glad it gets things moving. Hope the scan goes well.

Small person isn't in the slightest interested in her paddling pool (which usually serves as a ball pool in the lounge). Might be because when I first put water in it was freezing! She does like her sandals and sunhat though, preferably paired with a woolly cardigan....

Temp finally went up this morning so we can stop SWI, at least until it randomly drops again tomorrow.

Scan went ok this morning so I've just done my first stimms jabs next scan is Thursday

Hope everyone else is ok it's gone very quiet! Hopefully no-one has melted in the heat yet

Is the for the fact that you're stimming, or are you some kind of weird masochist who enjoys stabbing yourself?! Seriously, I'm glad the process is going onwards. Here's to lots of lovely follicles developing.

May I pop in? We have been TTC #2 for nearly 2 years now (cycle 22). DD took 16 months of trying and resulted in a v v long labour, failure to progress in stage 2 and an EMCS. Have had tests done by GP, I'm ovulating ok, DH's SA fine. Had appointment at fertility clinic 2 weeks ago and feeling a bit more positive about the whole thing. Just waiting for AF to arrive so I can book my HSG. There is a fair amount of anecdotal evidence that the dye in the HSG can flush out some obstructions, so I am hoping we'll get lucky. If not, its self funded IUI (I'm saving up for 3 goes). AF three days late, but my cycles vary and I caved in a POAS yesterday - BFN, so not too hopeful.

Welcome TeaDrinker. Glad you're at a feeling more positive point in this whole thing, it can be so soul destroying. Any sign of the droid? (sorry, old habits die hard - droid = BESHspeak for periods, and I've never managed to get out of calling them that!) Or can we still keep fingers crossed for a BFP?

Small person has decided the paddling pool's fun after all, but won't take any clothes off to go in it! Nor will she then let you take the wet clothes off. I'm sure it's character building or something, although I'm not sure who for.

It's quiet in here - is everyone out enjoying the sun? I'm at the imagining symptoms stage of the month so am clearly being as sane and rational about these things as usual....

I'm around :) too hot for me outside today! Been for a scan this morning and it looks like I have around 5 follicles so hopefully a couple of good eggs in there fingers crossed. I go back on Saturday for another scan and I think egg collection will be early next week.

I hate the symptom spotting it occupies far too much of my time even when I'm not having treatment and getting pg is very unlikely ironically when I did get pg with DD I don't think I really had any symptoms

No, I don't think I really had any either. Not that early anyway. Logical brain seems to go out of the window though.

Yay for all those follicles - is that a similar response to previous rounds? Fingers, toes and everything else crossed for you.

I think my pregnancy was pretty standard, just everything else fell apart! My dog died, then my grandad, my partner left, I was in a car crash, had to move back in with the parents and I was made redundant...

I was induced for DS as I was over with high blood pressure, they sent my sisters home (birthing partners) and I went into labour not only without them but no one else on my ward either! That was 10.30pm. Hours passed of them trying to fob me off with paracetamol before they decided DS was in distress and I needed an emergency c section. Then they rang the sisters, 2am. They arrived as i was being wheeled in, finally in gas and air. DS came into the world 2.59.

Worst experience of my life.

TTC#2 though 😄

Sounds like you had a rough time Fifi

Quick update from me - trigger shot tonight and egg collection on Thursday morning!

Goodness fifi, that sounds like a rough ride. I'm guessing you've got a new partner this time, hope the rest of life is looking better too.

Do you have an idea how many eggs are looking hopeful Dave? Fingers crossed for tomorrow. Do they fertilise them tomorrow too?

Oh good luck for today Dave! Let us know how it went. Feet up tonight I think for you!

Hello fifi sounds very traumatic. Welcome to our little battleworn gang, grab a gin ice lolly.

No shagging or gore here at all. Not sure what is going on. Should I see my dr if my periods don't return soon do you think, it's been a few months since I stopped bf'ing. Can't say I'm keen to involve the medical side even at this early juncture, I'm fed up with it!

How are the rest of you?

I'm back from egg collection :) we got 6 eggs which I'm pretty pleased about as I was expecting around 4!

Will find out tomorrow how many have fertilised

Yay for 6 eggs Dave, that's great. Fingers crossed for fertilisation.

I dunno how long these things should take Barbie. What does Dr Google say, or have you been restrained and not searched? I suspect the GP may well just say give it more time, at least if yours is as clued up on anything fertility related as the ones at our surgery seem to be (ie not very).

Sorry for not updating

Out of the 6 eggs 3 fertilised normally and one went a bit funny!

Today we have 2 nice looking embryo's the other one didn't develop like it should so I will be having them transferred tomorrow morning as long as they both keep on developing well so I'm keeping everything crossed!

Don't worry about not updating - you had other things on your mind. Am still keeping everything crossed for the embryos to carry on developing, and then to find a lovely warm cosy place to implant.

dave that's fantastic. Hope they keep on going and get put back aboard the mothership tomorrow.

Back from the clinic with 2 embryos on board

It's a waiting game now! Test day is 12th August so let the symptom spotting madness begin

Yay, go little embryos!

Everything crossed Dave! That's really encouraging news.

How is everyone? I'm knackered - the small person has decided that screaming is more fun than sleeping this week (although she was a bit better last night) so we're exhausted. This does not help with SWI....

I have however decided to go back and try acupuncture again - still as cynical as before, but it 'worked' last time, so just in case it wasn't a coincidence.... I found it really helpful to have someone to talk to about messed up cycles, short LP and so on last time, so we'll see what it does for my sanity this time.

dave all the best with your 2 on board!

alexandra well my ds also thinks being up very late these past few weeks is helpful, sigh!! Hope acupuncture helps. I started 2 months ago and agree having someone to talk to I think is what is helping me, plus some time to relax!! Started using CBFM again this month to see where cycles are.

Just checking in to see how Dave is - I so hope the news is good, but am leaving champagne on ice for celebrations, and large jugs of cocktails for drowning of sorrows, so we're covered either way.

Hoops is the CBFM proving useful? I tried one for a couple of months but the second month it never gave me a peak (despite temps saying I oved) meaning I missed the window for SWI. So I gave up. Off to acupuncture tomorrow which reminds me I should print out my charts and look up where the clinic has moved to!

Barbie any sign of droid returning?

I'm afraid our news isn't good - test day yesterday was negative