TTC #2 and turning into a nut job! Part 2!

[BartBaby]

Still ttc. Still nutty. Come join us

Will really aim to try relax am on hols with dp and my best friend and her family and of course my gorgeous girl so hopefully enough to relax! Now looking into the fertility monitor! Has anyone on here tried it? X

Oh dildoos - sorry your AF has arrived but I'm glad the waiting is over and you can start again. That's how I always look at it although feel rubbish.

I know exactly how I feel - I've stopped logging into Facebook because there are new babies and new pregnancies everywhere - mainly to my friends with children around the same age (or younger) than my dd. It makes it all the worse when nothing is happening for us. my Dh is understanding but he doesn't feel the disappointment in the same way as me. He is convinced it will be ok, and I've convinced myself the opposite - probably not healthy. I wish I could relax...I do try but it isn't easy. So glad that you are all here to understand how each other feels!

Hope your holiday can be relaxing and you get plenty of DTD time!

One sorry your at that low point too! I agree I avoid pregnant people situations however work with a good friend who's preg and she is wonderfully sensitive to me! However feel another friend about to tell me too

I'm sorry dildoos...it's so gutting isn't it.
I think abi is right about relaxing but also although we say it only takes one time and sometimes it does, most people I know have fallen pg when they have had dtd LOADS during the fertile time...have you tried smep? I'm doing that next month if no bfp this time!

Yes we are going all out for smep this month too! Dh is a bit worried I think!

I was tempted with a clear blue fertility monitor too but think I might wait before I shell out the money.

Dh is going to start taking a vitamin supplement too - he suggested it and it can't hurt!

Just a quick one as on training sesh all day today but just wanted to send you hugs dildoos

Ttc is so heartbreaking and soul destroying so am with you on this.... It's so hard when everyone is pregnant around you (take my NCT scenario) and trying and failing to 'relax' when you want something so so badly.

My DH cracked last night when I made him dtd just in case i ovulated late, not understanding why we should be like this when both other times I was pregnant it was when we were relaxed and 'just did it a few times when I thought I was fertile'. If only it was that easy to revert.

Hugs for you xx

dildoos it always sucks when AF rears her ugly head, but I find I start planning dtd days again very quickly, and then start working EDD if it does work. Oh yes I too am a glorified nutter!!! I hope you manage to enjoy your holiday. Sorry I have no weird and wonderful tips!!!

fedup how I long for the days when I was ttc my dd. I had literally no idea about ovulation, fertile days, 2ww etc. I basically knew AF arrived every 28 days and you needed to dtd. Shocking really, but then I fell first cycle!!! Now I'm obsessed with dtd on set days, looking out for EWCM (although I still don't really know what that is) and symptom spotting.

Still no AF but still got period like pains. So I guess it's late this month

Big un-mn hugs to all who need it

Hey gang. I'm sorry to hear about af dildoos. Thats so disappointing.

Fingers still crossed for you stone.

Fedup, it is a bit heartbreaking. It took a year first time round for us, god knows how long it will take for #2...

I really do need a hug here. My frers are still showing positive and temps are up. I took a hospital test and line is barely visible so obvs hcg still v low. I'm planning on going to epu on Friday. I'm sure they'll tell me I'm a fool. But I want to know when will I ovulate again! I want to have a baby so much. I told my mum about whats been going on and she started wittering on about the royal baby. I too feel jealous and pissed off with hearing about babies all fucking day (sorry).

Getagold- so sorry about your experience and your mum going on about a baby it's so hard on you!
Hugs to you! X

Thanks guys, just sobbing here and dp not getting why I want a fertility monitor and I just want to smack with a stick!

My mum is useless too geta In respect to my situ. i just get told to 'well, do my plan' which is basically to stick a thermometer up my fanny and only have sex 4 days after my period which is when I apparently must ovulate. Any other time is wasted sex. A very odd conversation to have with your mother.

And of course extremely Useful and sympathetic when totally miserable and exhausted most of the ttc techniques? She couldn't quite understand why I hadn't responded to her texts...

But I also would be going totally nuts if I were you geta, so hang in there and you will get your answers soon. They can't think you are nuts. And ffs, can we get more nuts than we are already? So just indulge and be nuts - you have a bfp(or multiple) and no clear pregnancy so you want answers and in my opinion you bloody deserve them rather than this total head fu*k of am I, aren't I!

Hey all!! Hugest hugz to all that need it, dildoo, geta ..... well all of you really namely because you are all going through a tough time whichever stage the cycle is at, I would say me for a hug too but I would feel insanely weird hugging myself !!

Glad to see we are ranting on here and giving great support for sure!! I still have no af and too damn scared now to Poas, how bloody sad am I as a nutter eh! I should love poas normally really eager, but this time round im too scared....whats that all about?!?

Im sorry, I was going to reply in a bit more depth but knackered and only just had a stooopid pot noodle for dinner which im so gonna regret as had to take my mum to dentist and she suffers from anxiety so needed a bundle of support!! Sorry probably not making much sense abi shut up

Anywho, not sure if I can be brave enough to poas tomorrow morning if af doesn't turn up overnight. Should I?! Dream sweetly ladies. x

I can only say that if it was me abi I would POAS rather than prolong the agony.. But that's just me! I'd rather know ASAP whether bfp or not, bit then I'm clearly impatient / like to prepare myself for the worst - ie if bfn them at least I can gear myself up for af. But that's how I like to deal with it.

Willing a bfp to come for this thread though.....

Fedup you are so right. I think tiredness has kicked in I need to grow a pair and get on with it!! If af hasnt turned up by tomorrow although I think it will, then I will poas!

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Ooohh good luck abi i wouldnt have been able to wait this long but i do see what you mean though. I have fx for you

Im with you fedup i prefer to know earlier on if its going to be a bfn and then i cant get my hopes up so much i suppose.

Just a quicky anyway im going to try a d get another hours sleep before ds wakes up. Although he could wake any minute. I hope the rest of you are ok. Big hugs geta one and dildoos . And i hope af hasnt caught you yet stone

Im about 9dpo. I gave in and looked at my calander but as i didnt use opk's im only going on that the last few months i ov on cd14. So could be wrong this month still. Had a bit of nausea but still no other symptoms. Definately feeling the nuttyness now. Really want to poas. But im resisting buying them, then i have none to use!

Soooooo abi? Fx for you.

So I had some drinks last night, not loads and felt so sick all might and couldn't sleep - ended up making myself sick at 3 am as knew it was only thing going to get to to feel better. Lets say I'm feeling just a little rough on the train this morn.

However I'm also 5 dpo (ish) and was feeling sick most of yesterday (even before drinks!) but think its just heat / what I'm always experiencing between ov and af. My sore boobs have completely gone too which is both a good and bad sign depending in what i choose to believe today

bart I have two cb digitals and 2 frer at home and feeling the tension building between us at only 5 dpo, god help me!! Really not positive this month though as despite doing SMEP (minus the one day when DH was out) I just don't feel it this month. I hope you got an extra hours sleep in! Ds was still snoozing when i left at 6.30 this morn which I actually hate as I don't get to see him before work!

How's everyone this morning?

Ps. My highlight of yesterday was bursting into tears on male colleague (thankfully a peer) about my mc. He was very good about it though and didnt go all awkward on me. I know his wife had 3 mc and is now pregnant 13 weeks with dc # 2. So in odd way, although it was a bit embarrassing I feel encouraged this even after all the sadness and tough times they went through they are now having their long awaited second child (and dc 1 is only 3 so not a huge age gap). Positive news amongst the tears!!

fedup no i didnt get any more sleep he was up at 7 and i hadnt gotten back to sleep by then. You are in with more of a chance than me this month. We only managed 1 dtd at the right time

Abi have you poas? I would not have been able to hold off. I, too, would rather know before af as then I can feel the disappointment in stages.

Fedup - mums are weird! Why does yours think those would be your fertile days?! And why do they offer advice when all you want is empathy. My friends who have never ttc just don't get it either. I'm so glad to have found loads of other nutters!

Bart - not buying them is the only way. That blasted boots bogof offer on frer has totally enabled my addiction. My friend's a nurse and got me some hospital ones which are nowhere near as sensitive, so I could probably poas every day until christmas.

abi have you poas yet???
Oh no is the frer offer still on? That just fuels my madness...3dpo and already symptom spotting...although I can't spot any obviously!

abi ??????

Ooo exciting - fx for you abi!

Fed up - you poor thing - I hate bursting into tears at work but sometimes you jus can't keep emotions in. I'm glad it was someone who understands and he was supportive. And that is a positive story about them having #2 after 3mc

Not much to report for me, I'm just lurking and waiting for AF to go. Only cd 5 so just waiting until I can start testing with opks on cd10. I get fed up of waiting for key times of the month and wishing the rest of the time to go quickly! But I guess we all do that a bit reall...

Abi????? Where are you? Still in shock with bfp say there looking at the +++++++ I hope x

Where are you abi ?! We need to know!!

One I start with opks on cd 8 and good thing as this month it was pos on cd9! I hate the 2 ww. The 'lower' down cramps have begun that i used to think were pregnancy related / implantation but quickly realised no, and was told my the doctor no, apparently it's 'just me'. Helpful!

geta without being rude I'm not sure my mum is particularly bright. Although my dad is super clever so I can report I'm somewhere in the middle!! She obvs thinks we all ovulated at same time, and her's happened to be 4 days after the end of her period so apparently mine should be too. Funnily enough though, I think she was right this month so I should swallow my words. But... This was an usual month. I agree, you just want empathy... And a bit of love not more advice that you already know...

Indeed, was just thinking this morning how its so nice to have a group of, albeit faceless, ladies to talk to who genuinely get what I'm going through - thanks ladies xx

I clearly need to steer clear from boots if their bogof is still going.... Yikes! We got one of those pie chart bank statements through yesterday and I had visions of one day opening it up to a huge segment of spend saying 'pregnancy tests, opks and other pointless ttc paraphernalia' !!!