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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Ttc#2 secondary infertility?

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dildoos · 15/06/2013 07:16

Please join me for fertility idea swaps, cake eating, woe is me chats and general company and sanity saving x

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dildoos · 15/06/2013 07:20

I will start the thread with
Dildoos- 32 ,dp 30, dd5,ttc cycle 26, 3 mc in past year, fed up? Tick!

I have paid and seen specialist as cannot get help as have dd, his advice keep on trying and take aspirin when pregnant again!

Hope I have company soon x

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FingersCrossedLegsNot · 16/06/2013 15:04

Hi dildoos

Unfortunately (iykwim) I'm in a position to join you

My stats.....

Fingerscrossedlegsnot 29, dh 36, ds 7, ttc cycle 28, 2 chem preg in past year, fed up? Tick, tick oh and tick!!!

FingersCrossedLegsNot · 16/06/2013 15:11

It's so depressing though, especially when every month that goes by I worry about the gap getting bigger and bigger between my ds and any other dc we are likely to get. At this stage I'm starting to worry that there will never be any more dc for us and that just kills me.

Have you been diagnosed with anything? Had you trouble ttc your first?
My ds was a total surprise in my last year of uni but I thank my lucky stars every day that I had that surprise.

I have been diagnosed with pcos. My biggest problem being that I don't ovulate. At Christmas I finally got into the gynae clinic (on public systems in Ireland) I was put on clomid which resulted in two chemical pregnancies, I was devastated. I was then put on femara which was supposed to make me ovulate but not thin out my lining like the clomid. It was a disaster and has not worked at all.

So right now I am waiting for my AF to arrive sometime next week and I don't really know what to do. My next appointment is in August but I am thinking of going private.

Have you had your bloods done yet?

FingersCrossedLegsNot · 16/06/2013 15:12

Oh gosh that was a long post...sorry. Oh and just for vanity reasons can I point out that from my stats it should say that I am 28 not 29!!! Yes I'm vain.

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dildoos · 16/06/2013 17:25

Hey fingers crossed
Sorry you find yourself with me! I am 32 dd5 and dp 30, this is 26 th cycle but 3 mc in this. Time! Fed up fed up fed up booooooohooooooo
However not giving up I refuse
It's so frustrating hey? First took 3 years ttc with first partner . My dp has low count and been adv by gynaecologist aspirin when I fall problem is I haven't since his visit damn!!!! Sorry to hear your having trouble too have you any next steps? X

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boredoftrying · 16/06/2013 17:30

Can I join you?

My stats are: Me 34, DH 43, DS 4 years 9 months. Tried for ds for 3 years (unexplained), currently on cycle 54 (unexplained) and I've had enough!!!

FingersCrossedLegsNot · 16/06/2013 17:54

Next step with me will more than likely be a laparoscopy and also changing to go private.

Boredoftrying (great username btw) welcome, are you receiving any treatment? It must be very frustrating to be unexplained.

boredoftrying · 16/06/2013 18:30

Fingers crossed: I have had a years worth of Clomid which didn't do much, it made me ovulate earlier (Day 14 whereas I'm always day 17/18) but that was it. I shouldn't have even had it for a year but my consultant said it wouldn't do any harm and he didn't know what else to do!

I've had two laparoscopies, a HSG, a hysteroscopy and a couple of scans but everything was fine. They found some extremely mild endo during the lap but hardly enough to make any difference. It's so hard because I am constantly told that nothing is wrong but I feel like screaming that something but be wrong otherwise I would be pregnant!!

I would have IVF tomorrow but my DH isn't up for it at all, he has two children aged 16 and 20 from his previous marriage so isn't as devastated by this as I am.

Hopefully you will get your laparoscopy and that will show something fixable, for some reason I always hope that they find something they can fix rather than find nothing at all and you still have no answers.

Dildoos do they have any other plans for you other than just take Asprin?

My age gap is getting bigger than I ever wanted but I don't care anymore I just want another one!

It's so nice to chat to other people about it

Totesamazeballs · 16/06/2013 19:25

I need to join too ladies. I am TTC#2, and this is the sixth month but I have also discovered that I don't ovulate. Not sure why yet and didn't have this issue pre DC1. It's starting to grate when people ask me when we are having number 2.

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dildoos · 16/06/2013 19:52

Hey girls welcome welcome welcome! Come get mighty cross with us!!
Bored that's a lot of investigation so can imagine your frustrations!!!! No suggested nothing more for me at the moment except aspirin but don't seem to be getting a snifter of a bfp to try it grrrrrrrrrr!
My sil has 8 month old and up diffed again so I could cry all day everyday why not me too !
I feel a weight lifted having lovely ladies to chat to and share thoughts, feelings and tips with!

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dildoos · 16/06/2013 19:53

Totes - what will they do with the lack of ovulation would clinic help you? What say you bored? Xxxx

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Totesamazeballs · 16/06/2013 19:58

Hi, well, we weren't getting anywhere fast with GPs, being told that we should do OPKs for 3 months before coming back...because its 12 months before you can seek help ( even tho two consecutive months of bloods said no ovulation ) so we went privately and need to do some scans to find out what's going on.

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dildoos · 16/06/2013 20:05

Who have gone with? We decided Bourn hall in Cambridge , we had our first consultation near home and to try the aspirin thing , if I don't get another bfp as have had 3 mc will have another appointment to discuss ? Icsi but at mo see pointless as would mc?! ESP as £6000 a try .
Do you think you may ovulate late in month? Do you have regular periods etc? Do you have any signs of ovulation? X

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Totesamazeballs · 16/06/2013 20:42

Ugh, sounds awful Dil, just awful to go through 3. Have you had any analysis of why you are miscarrying? I had a missed MC and it turned out to be a genetic issue that was a one off, freaky thing. I went privately to find that out but I am glad I did.

I am seeing someone in London who is excellent. I do have regular periods, tonnes of EWCM and I did a dodgy bit of temp tracking which seemed to indicate a temp rise on day 18 of a 25 day cycle. I also tend to get OV pain on day 18 but my progesterone tests said no OV and OPKs also said no OV. Consultant thinks I might be overcooking the egg and not releasing. Who knows. Perhaps I have developed PCOS?

Totesamazeballs · 16/06/2013 20:45

Oh, and I hear you about the money!

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dildoos · 16/06/2013 20:53

Keep us posted totes- that sounds reasonable the explanation it not heard of over cooking before! However what these docs can do is amazing! Sorry to hear of your mc too . The last one my hog took 8 weeks too return to normal ? Yet no signs of an embryo so got a bit frustrated and cross with myself in end. Xxx

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Totesamazeballs · 16/06/2013 21:15

Don't be cross with yourself, although I know it's easily done. I blamed myself for my MC which is why we needed to find out why it happened. In fact, I blame myself for not being able to conceive now...I wonder if I lost too much weight through stress ( we had a stressy situation a few months after Dc was born and an illness)...or not eating well enough or whatever. You know? It's hard not to feel like a failure and get frustrated and go though the self pitying 'why me?' Cycle!

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dildoos · 16/06/2013 21:24

Totes- totally understand that whole cycle! I guess as we house the babies we feel responsible and it's because we are so in tune with our cycles we can never get away from all the stress. Are you eating a balanced diet now? I am just normal weight , a balanced diet although you know it could be better but need treats, I dong smoke I drink but socially what else can we do? Xx

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Hyland · 16/06/2013 22:15

Hi can I ask what the aspirin is for ( never heard of that being recommended before)

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dildoos · 17/06/2013 13:05

Better blood flows tops clotting ESP in first few weeks xx

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Totesamazeballs · 17/06/2013 19:05

Weight- wise I would say I am normal now - slap bang in the middle of the bmi chart for my height and like you, I eat OK...I have a weakness for dark chocolate and my tastes have changed a lot since pregnancy. I am pescatarian now and not too keen on acidic fruit. Bizarre. I lived on apples before, but rarely touch them now.

argylesocks · 17/06/2013 19:52

Hi, can I jump in with a question? We're on month 7 of TTC #2.

How did you find out you weren't ovulating? I've done the opk and always got a smiley face but that doesn't prove you're actually ovulating right? So how can you tell? Thanks!

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dildoos · 17/06/2013 21:02

Welcome argyle I had a blood test at 21 days at gp I ovulate but i know that's one of many ways! But a few ladies here maybe able to help!
Totes how bizarre with the acidic fruits thing? Pregnancy does weird things to us xx

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Totesamazeballs · 18/06/2013 08:45

Hi, mine was a blood test too at 21 days, and plus I didn't get a smiley face on the OPKs. If you get a smiley face then it's ok. I didn't think you could get one without ovulating as the LH surge which they detect is what tells your body to release the egg.

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dildoos · 18/06/2013 08:59

Totes that's what I thought too, I know you can get the surge and not release egg every month am assuming this would be then what they find with bloods? Someone also adv I should have bloods taken a various points of cycle for more accuracy but didn't really understand and worried that sometimes too much knowledge would be as for mexx

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