We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

I've just got into bed. DP says "just so you know, if you come near me I'm calling the police!"

Guff thats fantastic news! I've been full of pregnant lady bitterness. Nice to have someone to be happy for.
Rockchick can't remember if I said it already but if not congrats too. Hope you are well?

DDMF glad you're back in the game, even if DHs timing annoying for this month.

Missm fingers crossed for DHs job situation.

We're on a kiddies holiday chosen for DS and place is full of ladies with bumps. Felt like I was in a nightmare yesterday. But i ignored MC advice and went swimming in pool at end of day. Brilliant fun.

Impressed with all the action. SMEP sounds exhausting!!

Hooray guff!! Congratulations!

at saggy's exhausted fella

Morning everyone else x

Bloody hell guff that's such lovely news, I'm really happy for you Hun!!! Seems to be a pregnancy boom everywhere at the minute but it genuinely is heartwarming when someone in here gets pg, gives the rest of us hope! Xx

Morning all. Just checking back in after a week of nice sunshine on the beach, eating lots of food and having wine/sangria with every meal.

AF arrived on my first day of holiday. I had the slight optimism that maybe it's my lucky week when packing the bags. It was 16 dpo and no sight of AF. So I didn't pack any tampons. My first purchase in Spain therefore was a pack of tampons and pads in the corner shop next to the hotel . Oh well, onwards and upwards, hopefully it'll be a better month for me this time round.

I haven't caught up with all the news. I think guff got a bfp from the last few posts. Huge congrats if it's true.

Glad you gad a goid holiday oltt but sorry af got you.

Feeling thoroughly rubbish today and really beginning to hate this ttc malarkey! Af due any day and feels like its on its way. Got three rounds of clomid left and then I think we are faced with the real possibility that ivf is our only option which would mean paying privately or waiting 2 years for nhs. But just don't know if I have the energy to go through it all. Sorry I am wallowing so please ignore me just hoping that by writing this all down ill get rid of my negativity! I'm hoping that once I've gone past next week which is my birthday (another year older and still childless) plus what should have been my edd that I can start with the posifrickintivity!

Awwww thanks guys This thread has been a lifeline, we will all get each other through to that BFP!!

Sorry the evil witch got you onelittle Make sure you extra indulge on holiday to make up for it.

Sorry you are having a crappy day flower TTC after MC is so blimmin tough

saggy your poor DH! Is he walking around with a limp?

I'm pretty miserable too!!! Had a complete melt down last night - had a comment yesterday about the mc I had last year - anniversary on Friday - lost baby at 5 months pregnant) which made my blood boil!

AF due on Friday too - so don't want her to come - really want it to happen now as really feel I'm falling apart - dh thinks I need counselling .

Trying so hard to resist POAS!!!! I need many fish slaps!!!

Sorry !! Like flower also hoping that by getting this dell down I ca cheer up xx

aw big hugs to flower and emki. I'm sorry you're both feeling so down
you've both got nasty anniversaries coming up which are bound to make you feel miserable - just let the tears come. If you try and hold it all in it won't be good for you.

OLTT i'm sorry that your period came but i'm glad you had a lovely time and lots of sangria.
rainbow i hope you do lots more swimming and try and ignore those bumps.

saggy i hope you left your DH alone and aren't in gaol somewhere.

SMEP starts tonight for us... exhausted just thinking about it!

Good luck aly !!!

Lol! No I'm not in jail! we did attempt DTD but decided we were just too knackered!
Gives new meaning to "shagged out"!

Saggy old is the using smep? We are going to give that a bash this month! Can anyone rx a good ovulation test please bought Internet cheapie but that gave me a positive every day ? Oh dear think they may have been a con
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Hi ladies can i join?

Started mcing naturally over wknd after discovering I'd had a mmc at 11wks (baby measured < 6wks) Pretty horrendous wknd, masses of pain & heavy bleeding, an overnight stay in hospital & an erpc yesterday.

Back home today & still feeling pretty tender. am not ready to start ttc yet, so am gonna lurk quietly in the background for a while til I'm recovered, but wanted to introduce myself & say hi & hope u don't mind - I also wanted to ask a question.

How quickly did you all start ttc again after mc? Its playing on my mind a lot. I feel so sad about the little bean I just lost, & I want to give myself enough time to recover emotionally. However it took 15 cycles ttc to get pregnant this time & I'm anxious it could take as long again, or even longer, so in a way am keen to get ttc as soon as possible, but a little worried about rushing straight into it.

Just POAS tonight and got a BFN!! So that means ERPC was successful, right? And we can officially start ttc again?

Do I assume Friday was day 1 of my cycle? I don't really want to start using OPKs (tho was tempted today) but at the same time don't want to get knackered by shagging too early!

Also, am I a bad person for wanting to ttc straight away.

Omama look after yourself. It is hard. I'm finding it hard. I didn't cry today (first day since I think). I am ready to ttc now. But it feels wrong. So wrong. Do things at your own timescale. Take care x x

Welcome omama sorry you find yourself here. 2be of course you're not a bad person for wanting that.

We started again as soon as stopped bleeding post ERPC and got AF a month later. Had no idea what day was what so we just enjoyed ourselves and took the pressure off in that month. Last week was fertile week so lots of baby dancing. Think I'm still recovering ;-)

You will know when it's right I'm sure. I do believe that although you feel physically ok quite quickly post ERPC your body still needs time to sort itself out. Emotionally it can take a lot longer. In no way tho are we being disrespectful to the babies that didn't make it by wanting another one, I truly believe that. bakingtins linked a wonderful article over the weekend that's a wonderful read. If you're lurking lovely lady can you link it on here xx

Omama welcome and so sorry to hear the reason you are here, it must be heartbreaking, hope you are taking care of yourself. I don't know if this helps as I had my MC very early and naturally, so it isn't the same I think as it sounds like you have really been through it, but we started TTC straightaway, I think it helped me feel positive, although we were told to wait for dating etc. However, since 1 AF, I think I was still raw and very emotional the first cycle, maybe waiting would have been a good idea as I wouldn't have felt so disappointed at not getting a BFP straightaway. We are now putting it off for other reasons, and although I am gutted I am feeling relieved that I don't have to do the 2ww for a couple of months, I am slowly coming round the idea of a short break from TTC.
I am sure whatever you decide to do will be for the best - I worry about it taking a while and it didn't take us that long really this time, although with DD it did.
I used OPKs to see when I ovulated, then we just talked about it and made up our minds then to try again - you could just see what you felt like when you know you are ovulating.

omama. Hi and big hugs. We started TTC in first cycle after 1 mmc and conceived in 2nd cycle. Sadly mc again. Started trying again straight away. Now on cycle 2. Still miss my beans but need to look forward not back. It can take some time for your cycles to settle. Some of the guys had to wait weeks for first period but once u get a BFN you physically are good to go physically. Emotion wise I think another preg will be difficult whether you wait or not that's how I feel anyway
2beornot. I ovulated a few days late in cycle 0 but think everyone is different. But you are good to go. Lots of us feel the need to get pregnant straight away it's natural.

dildo I am using cb digital dual ovulation expensive but finding it works better than cheapies
emki will be thinking of you this week. Hoping you get a BFP this cycle.

Emki, sorry you're feeling so down. The anniversary is bound to be dreadful. I am dreading mine already and it is ages away. As someone said upthread, whatever you feel is perfectly natural. Hopefully, once this milestone is over, it might get slightly easier although what do I know

Omama, sorry for your loss. I had a MMC (baby died at 11+4) at the end of April. I would've started TTC straight away but DH was reluctant. We waited for the first AF after the miscarriage (took 5 weeks to come back) then this was our first month ahem back in the saddle as it were. Whatever feels right for you. Perhaps wait until AF returns and then see how you feel?

Good morning ladies

May I join you? Firstly sorry for all our losses - whilst it is comforting that we are not alone it is a tragedy that so many have had to go through the pain

I had a MMC diagnosed (on my 44th birthday) at 11 weeks - our baby died at 9+3. I had an ERPC 15 days ago and I have just stopped bleeding and got a negative HPT yesterday and today. I was floored by it - emotionally rather than physically but we both want to try again as soon as possible given our age (the gynae at the hospital pretty much said - get on with it). It took us 9 months to conceive and I know we would be very lucky if we conceive again in that timescale but I am absolutely terrified that our LO was our only chance. It was my first pregnancy.

So i am back to the charting and POAS'ing - temperatures have been all over the place -is this normal after MC? Also is there any point in using an OPK in cycle 0?

hi omama and greenlizard and welcome
omama you should do what feels right for you mentally. we started ttc again straight away once the bleeding stopped (that is a buffer which gives you a bit more time to think about how you feel). It didn't work and here we are on cycle 4 now. Maybe this will be our lucky month!

greenlizard i'm sorry I can't answer yout temping question. I've only just started doing it myself this month. out of desperation

tobe bfn and no bleeding is great! all aboard the ttc train . Of course you aren't a bad person. It seems like most of us just want to get pg again immediately.

oh and dildoos I used the cb digi advance ov sticks last month and found them quite confusing. they gave me 4 days of high before the peak fertility, and none of that coincided with my physical symptoms. This month i'm using internet cheapies combined with temping. I'm v curious to see how the two compare.

omama sorry for what you've went through. I had a very similiar experience as yours on my second mc. The 12 week scan showed only an empty sac, measured at less than 6 weeks. Then the mc naturally started before the scheduled second scan. I bled so much that I ended up in A&E and then an emergency EPRC that night (and a stay in hospital overnight to recover). I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

We tried again on cycle 0 (ie before first real AF). You will know when it feels right again. Medically there is no reason to wait. I'm 38 so maybe that's why I felt strongly I need to try asap again. I still haven't get over the losses btw.

greenlizard I'm so sorry you are here too. I'm onto cycle 2 after mc. I got a bfp on cycle 0 after my first mc so it's entirely possible. I think I was into CD 30 before ovulation that time. The second mc was recent. And cycle 0 was a mess. BBT was normal showing a biphasic chart. Ovulation was CD 20, and then I had a luteal phase of 6-7 days. It got me so worried. But it was back to normal in cycle 1. HTH.

And I didn't use OPKs on cycle 0 either time. Just temping.

Hi green lizard, sorry you find yourself here. With regard to temping, I only resumed temp taking during my first full cycle after AF returned (5wks after MMC). However, it wouldn't surprise me at all if your temps were irregular - it isn't called the WTF cycle for nothing!

A negative HPT is a good sign though (oh, the irony), so hopefully once your hormones settle, your temps will settle too. Best of luck to you

emki how you feeling today? Are you going to poas tomorrow? I think af is on her way I'm 14dpo but can't remember whether it normally appears 14dpo or 15dpo and my phone appears to have wiped everything in my calendar so I can't check! But imagine af will be here before the days out :(

omama. Sorry you found yourself here my story is very similar with mmc and length if time ttc beforehand! We were going to wait until first af but it didn't arrive for 10 weeks so just waited for bfn which took a few weeks but I think I actually felt better once I'd had one af but I know what you mean about wanting to start ASAP I'm still here 6 months later :(

Any Friday poasers??