I get knocked down, but I'll get knocked up again, cos you're never gonna keep me down... The big fat posifrickintivity thread for people TTC after MC.

[SaggyOldClothCatPuss]

I thought I'd start the new thread and earn some brownie points with the posifrickintivity Gods...

Fertility friend app you say?
I've been planning my long awaited trip to Shetland for next year. As soon as we get back from the Lake District this year, I'm going to start paying for it, bit by bit. Considering its in the uk, it's really expensive! I am Soooo excited!

Sapphire that fanny fart story is brilliant - did your boss realise what it was or presume it was a normal fart? Not sure which would be worse though!!

Alice I'll try and be good and not POAS until fri 31st although not sure if I will hold out that long - that will be exactly 28 days since last AF - if I've not come on again by then of course! Not convinced I can wait that long but you never know. When are you testing?

Birds try the temping etc and see - I think different people react differently to how obsessive you become. If you go OTT I'm sure we will all subtly point it out to you :)

Morning - yes ttc definitely does send you crazy! We dtd - he's gone off to Ireland and I'm absolutely shattered!!!! Very early, undisturbed night tonight

I don't remember being this crazy after first mc .... Hope everyone ok and has a good day today xxxxxxx

Respect Emki

Birds I have had the RAGE lately too. Also hoping that it is a sign of AF being on her way, although I am only on CD25 of my WTF cycle. And given that my previous cycles were somewhat erratic, I am hoping that I won't be waiting too long.

Fod, realised I haven't seen you in a bit and last time you posted things were really tough. Just wanted to say the posifrickintivity/ Laura Ashley thread is thinking of you. Xx

Also hats off to Emki for dedication!

I only do yoga now at home to a DVD on my own! Since dd there have been many ff when doing yoga sooooo embarrassing!!!!!!

Birds and ddmrsfinch I posted on here a few weeks ago saying that I was in the foulest mood and kept crying - low and behold AF arrived - the first one after erpc was savage for me - maybe explain why you are feeling low .... Or it's simply because you've lost and hate the situation you are in - that is my general mood ATT!

Thanks for congrats - guess now its the 2WW!

GAH! Talking of the RAGE...
I'm out with my Mother today. If she mentions the FUCKING MENOPAUSE one more time I might have to get stabby! "We'll you are getting on a bit"... "Are you going to be one of those people who hit the menopause and its the end of the world"... "You are so touchy"...
I've just lost the plot and told her "NO, but I am ONLY 38 and trying to have a baby, so I would prefer it if you didn't keep on about it!"

Oh saggy how insensitive of your mum!!!! What can you do to let out your rage? Do you have any walls that need knocking down??? Or maybe just sit and do some deep breathing.... I've had people say it to me - im 38 too - some people get menopause early / maybe you were only meant to have ds ..... Hummm grrrrr - why can't people just not say anything!!

I'm really laughing out loud on all the talks about ff. Really emki didn't know yoga can bring on bouts of ff!

Saggy I can't believe your mum is so insensitive . I'm 38 too. When I had my second mc, the thought I'd no longer be a 38yo mum made me really sad. (It was due around my bday). I'm sure we are all well aware of that and don't need people reminding. It's the same with that Kate Garraway woman. It's so insensitive and condescending.

OLTT it's terrible and I'm sad I can't practice yoga in public! I did try wearing a tampon once .... sorry if tmi xxx

What did Kate Garraway say?

Googled and found out .... Does she not realise its not so simple!!! Hope I haven't embarrassed myself too much re- yoga ... - xx

No no emki I'm with you on the yoga...embarrassing isn't it.

Glad to hear I'm not alone with the RAGE. Not helped by the fact it should have been 20 week scan around now. Must stop thinking about things like that. saggy your mum sounds like she's being impossible - poor you. My parents came to stay this weekend and mum kept telling me how I should relax a bit more (NOT in my nature, or hers), that i was too tired (yes, from running round trying to cater for you lot) and at one point said 'is your eye a bit bloodshot?...oh yes it is isn't it' (sounding quite pleased she'd noticed that). Well thanks mum, now I feel even better. If I felt like punching her, then I can't imagine the rage levels you must be experiencing saggy!

In happier news, DH was surprisingly enthusiastic about the idea of temping (though he is a scientist so I guess I shouldn't be surprised be liked the idea of collecting data). He did start looking a bit iffy when I shared my newfound knowledge on cervical mucus though, hee hee! Off to purchase a thermometer now - if I can find one in boots...

birds I got my BBT thermometer from ebay.

You have my sympathy Saggy. Lovely as they can be, no one can quite get to you like your mum.

My Mum's top quote recently, "its amazing you're not skinny with all the running around you do". I hadn't mentioned my weight - and was actually feeling OK about my size having lost over a stone since MC.

Its just soo annoying! When I was accidentally PG and MC everyone was amazing. So supportive, just lovely. Announce that you are actually trying, and they look at me like Im insane! I suppose it just shows what they really feel!

Well done emki I did a return home for lunch last week! Glad i didn't read your story first sapphire!

I'm feeling quite positive at the moment even though I'm in 2ww not even sure how many dpos I am but should probably not test til early next week. I'm coming up to the time when I should have been going on maternity leave so not sure what ill be like for the next month or so but once edd has passed hoping it will be ok! Or even have my bfp before then.

Good for you floweroct we need all the positive vibes we can get - I'm feeling quite good too even though I'm at start of 2ww - also feel lucky that I'm off to France for a few days next week so that will keep me busy and not too anxious - am I? Aren't I? Can't be, could be??

After second mc I've told people we're taking a break from ttc as couldn't take the pressure of people waiting/ asking - even though I know they just mean well - I've said it's been too much and we just need to rest - this is why all of you are all so important as I have no one else to share embarrassing information with!!! Hee hee

birds you made me giggle when you said you'd been sharing info of ewcm with dh - can just imagine the look on his face and

I've tried acupuncture but not for ttc - but will next month ... She said she would help - I really like it as its so relaxing and calms me down x

Nearing the end of the 2ww here, although I think AF is on her way as I can feel that crampy 'wet' feeling (sorry tmi!) and keep having to check whether I've come on or not!

Oh well, if its a BFN, it means I can get rat arsed at my hen do and wedding!! Every cloud and all that eh? Xxx

OneLittleToddle - Ahh, that's nice having a cycle buddy. We can drive ourselves insane compare notes together.

So I'm still 'trying to stay positive' - I have started a healthy eating plan, and some exercise to try and lose a few lbs. Half a stone has crept on, I am blaming it on comfort eating. Hoping if I lose a few lbs I might feel better in myself.

Wondering what else I can try this month. Will be my second month of using the fertility monitor, got enough sticks to last this month, cheap opk's, temping...pondering whether to order some 'pre-seed' as have ran out of sperm friendly lube. Anybody reccommend it? Or Conceive plus?

x

sapphire & emki your ff stories made me chuckle yesterday. Very impressed with your dtd efforts emki you deserve a bfp after that.

sal so how long until your wedding now?

Well to continue the positivity vibes I've been feeling much better this cycle (2nd after erpc) and I think using the cbfm has helped. And this morning I got my first peak! I don't think I ovulated during cycle 0 and 1 so feel like my body is back on track. As today is cd20 I have ovulated before I expected as my app was telling me with a 38 day cycle I'd ovulate on cd25. So pleased we've been dtd since getting the highs on the cbfm and not following the app. This must mean in on for a shorter cycle that 38 days?

overanxious I'm using concieve plus. But I think it's not so different from preseed isn't it? I've also started the gym for about a month and have lost 1kg. I'm definitely feeling fitter. This will be my first cycle using the CBFM. I'm already feeling more positive looking at the fertility meter. liesl I'm looking forward to my first peak! But I guess I should be prepared for the no ovulation WTF cycles. My AF is definitely a bit off atm. I'm already down to light flow on day 3.