The Elderberry Pavlovas, sausage bouquets, one giant sofa and the Gü pots of destiny! (thread 9)

[Bunnygirlie]

Come on ladies, this is the one! Time for some BFPs!

The smallprint- Berries have a strict entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers)

[MrsB00Mbastic]

Morning!

Thank you lovely berries for all your wise words and offers to pound some sense into DH and doctor I may yet take you up on that . I'm feeling a bit better today. At least now I know there's no hope of anything happening before August at the earliest (and from what those of you already at FC have said, not much happening after that either..) so I suppose I can stop clinging to the thought that I'll get a magic pill to fix everything and just get on with it. I've phoned the doc back to see if she can refer me for CBT sessions, if not I've found a private lady that will do it...so moving forward, mentally if not physically!

Congrats foodie/trying, hurrah for a BFP at last (and only a bit , honest!)

Aw bunny pants to wonky cycles! They know how to balls up planned bonkathons don't they!

Also, why don't we have a [pants] emoticon??

pip you eggmeister you!

[Thundercatsarego]

Hi all,

Firstly I'm passing on a big thank you from my under 30 MN friend who read your comments about what she can do re her long crazy cycles- you've given her lots of food for thought.

pip nice egg production there! Good luck with the rest of your crazy week.

bunny that's shit, sorrr hun. Amazing how much difference reflexology is making to your cycles. I can see that the chance of not ovulating could be a worry, but also an explanation which is better than just a mystery of why you've not got pg yet? Hopefully they can get you fixed soon. Is that what clomid can help with?

mrsBOOM (just typo'd to mrsBOOB and it made me smile, I meant to say yesterday that I agree with the others, you are fine. In fact you are doing really well so don't let those shitty attitudes knock you. Good work on taking action and taking steps towards getting counselling.

I'm fed up today. Just sick of it all. Wish I could curl up on the sofa with the beautiful quilt and watch films all day. With chocolate.

[Frogcatcher]

Congratulations trying/foody! Let's hope it's the start of an elderberry BFP goldrush.

wow pip i think you should nc to something involving lots of eggs! That's great news though.

bunny I'm with you on the wonky cycles & confusion over Ov. I had a positive OPK on Monday evening but temp still hasn't gone above cover line so I can't have Ov'd yet can I? OPKs with FMU yesterday & today showing fainter lines but didn't do one yesterday evening as didn't get back till late. If I'm supposed to do OPKs between 10am & 6pm I'm going to have to bring my pot to work! Oh well, probably a good thing that O is yet to be confirmed as DP fell asleep anyway. Grrrrr - in fact double grrrr - as he had specifically asked earlier that evening if it was a green day.

[Frogcatcher]

Also chin up thunder. Is AF on her way? I've lost track of everyone a bit without a list! Virtual chocolate being sent through the ether &

[Thundercatsarego]

Thanks frog, I'm on cd4 so she's already here! Just fed up of all the waiting and going into yet another cycle where I know it can't happen for me. I know berries will know what I mean! Thank you for the chocolate though.

I have to recommend cbdigiOPKs as you can do them with fmu and no confusion over whether there's a smiley or not! I have mastered only using 3-4 a cycle now too although I know I'm lucky in that respect.

[Frogcatcher]

Thanks thunder for the recommendation on the CBdigis. I'll bear it in mind but think I'll persevere with my ICs for now until my cycles settle down a bit or I get the hang of them a bit more so as to avoid bankruptcy! I used OPKs from CD8 thru to CD21 last cycle!

AF to shag week is the worst time I think. At least in the 2WW there is that stupid bit of hope still.

[MrsB00Mbastic]

Aw thunder, sending you cyberchoc. I can thoroughly recommend hiding under the pity quilt to snaffle it.

Frog sounds confusing. And how very dare Mr Frog fall asleep when froggy good-times are on offer? Tsk.

Can I interest anyone want a CBFM? Never used, got sticks with it and everything - I bought it, ripped open the packaging in excitement, realised it needed batteries and therefore I would miss using it that cycle, and then one of you lovely berries told me it was no good for long cycles anyway. So don't need it, and it's up for grabs if anyone would like it cut price before it goes on ebay

[barkingtreefrog]

I've got one, but I'd be interested in cut price sticks if you'll sell them separately!? I've switched to opks as I can't afford to keep buying the sticks for the cbfm but assuming I get clomid in July I'd like to track my cycles for a couple of months with the cbfm to make sure I can overanalyse those cycles to death and make doubly sure we've made deposits on the correct days!!!!

[MrsB00Mbastic]

And I thought 16 and Pregnant was bad. Worst instadiffer programme in history

barking you're welcome to them! Send me your address and I'll whack them in the post. How much do they cost normally? It's a 20 pack, is a tenner reasonable?

[Thundercatsarego]

Thanks boom

[Frogcatcher]

Ugh MrsBoom that is truly awful.

Just had a terrible instadiffer experience at work when I had to have a performance chat with a 30 year old I manage & she announced that she is 6 weeks pregnant. I knew she wanted to have kids but apparently "it happened quicker than she expected". I was totally professional, congratulated her, promised not to tell anyone else yet & now got back to my desk & feel like crap. Mr Frog out tonight too so expect to see me on the pity sofa later stealing chocolate & quilt from thunder. Especially if the OPK has gone haywire too.

[Thundercatsarego]

[SidneyBristow]

Ugh! They had to be American didn't they! I swear, we're not all like that. I mean clearly we're not all pregnant else I wouldn't be on the thread , but I mean not all Americans are tacky as hell and fame-hungry.

Sorry about your coworker Frog. Is there anyone at your work who knows you're TTC? I only wish more of us could've said "it happened quicker than we expected".

Off to yoga tonight. It's going to be a regular thing at Casa Bristow, mainly bc I hate being a mushy cow but also so that if anyone suggests I do something to relieve TTC stress, I can slap them with impunity instead of wondering if they might have a point. Hmm reading back on that, it might take more than yoga...

Feel better thunder and frog, here have some Thornton's choc cakes I've been hiding from DH & SKids saving

[Frogcatcher]

Have fun at yoga. I'm contemplating a whole weekend retreat over the bh w-end as DP is working & I feel I could do with de-stressing & time out from everyone. It doesn't look like too much of a hippy one that I've been eyeing up.

No one at work knows I'm TTC but you don't need to be a rocket scientist to work it out - I'm 37, moved in with DP last year & I've openly talked about how we're trying to move house. I guess some people might expect us to be married first. It's not the kind of job/company where you would be open about it anyway.

[Bunnygirlie]

Thanks boom thunder frog wonky cycles are pants (new pants icon please MNHQ)

thunder I know what you mean, if something is wrong then maybe they can do something, doctor wants me to go back next month for another day 21 test but I'll be on fecking  holiday so another delay not exactly sure what clomid does to be honest

Any of that cake going spare?!?

[barkingtreefrog]

Boom you have mail

Feeling any better today thunder?

Pip forgot to admire your egg collective, apologies. Vv impressive. You could give my mate's hen a lesson, she hasn't laid a single egg yet... And one thing that crossed my mind earlier, IVF chances at 30% always sound low, but isn't it meant to be only a 20% chance each cycle anyway? Just to try and put a positive spin on it! I haven't given up the idea of spending every day next cycle chanting some positive mantra in an effort to get myself upduffed through sheer force of positive thinking!!

cats I'm catching up late I know but what did you think after your chat with colleague about jobs? I'm in a similar position. I was very ill a few years ago and doctors at the time told me I wouldn't ever recover enough to get back to the classroom. After being off sick for a few months I left my job. Long story short, I started back doing one to one tutoring, then occasional days supply, then got a part time job 2 days a week and now I'm doing 3 days a week. It's been a slow process but I'm now pretty much recovered and could go back full time - but obviously that would mean finding a full time job and in order to do that potentially leave a school I'm doing well in... I considered speaking to management about covering the maternity leave starting in September, but then they'd have to find someone to do my job, and one day a week I'm senco so I'd still have to do that so someone would have to cover me etc etc and if I should actually manage to become upduffed myself that would complicate things further and I don't want to mess everything up. Also, I quite enjoy my current role and if I did get pg it would be good to come back part time afterwards, I can't imagine teaching full time and being a mother without messing up one or both roles. So on the one hand it would be good to have the money coming in for full time, and potentially get maternity pay based on ft salary, but I don't want to walk out of a job that would be ideal if I ever when I have a child. It's so difficult!!!

[BlindKitty]

cats loving the inspiration stories, keep em coming!!! We need em!
Wish I could get my cat out atm! She tends not to go out through winter (her choice!) but now I can?t seem to get her to go out. Think the neighbours kids have scared her. Although being blind, I don?t make her, as its not like she can stay out all day anyway.

pip great news on eggs. Lol at how you automatically thought she?d be an instadiffer (generally what I think whenever anyone announces their pregnancy lol)

boom have those women never heard of baggage ?or paedophiles for that matter--?

sid I?m actually loving yoga now! Actually thinking I might just do it myself on the beach in the mornings on holiday!

[GooseyD]

Thanks Bunny for sending shuttle back for me, Barking pointed me here from the tumbleweed short LP group but I got left behind.

Can I have a space on the sofa?
Just turned 38
TTC: no contraception since summer 09, properly trying since summer 11
Luteal phase 6-7 days
AF due tomorrow when I can book my HSG
Just engaged but confused about where a wedding fits into all this!!

[BlindKitty]

goosey congrats! wouldn't worry about the wedding. I'd just plan regardless and if a baby comes along then so be it. So tell us about the proposal!!!!!!

[CharmingCats]

Hey, barking. I've had a chat with the deputy today too. I left teaching 6 years ago as I hated the lack of work life balance but have always missed it and wished that I'd asked for help, but I was young...
I applied for a couple of class teacher jobs last week and a couple of months ago and haven't been short listed. Made me rethink things. Do I want a full time class teacher job etc. I'd like to develop my role as TA. There's a mat cover coming up and intervention teacher roles, so I've asked to be kept in the loop while they're planning for next year. She also talked about PPA cover and getting more teaching on my cv. I'm going to start doing intervention groups for 3 mornings a week now at a higher pay scale, so it's better.
I totally agree that I can't see myself being a teacher and mum. I think there are options for other roles, like the one you're doing. Do you want to teach more, or just feel you should? Mat cover could be a safe way to try it? I'm trying not to think about getting upduffed affecting things at work. I'd give them plenty of notice to find someone to cover me, and go from there. I want to stay where I know for now, as I was finding it very stressful coming home and filling in applications after work. That's only a fraction of the work I'd do as a teacher!! I think a frank conversation with management can't hurt. No need to mention ttc, as it doesn't affect anything right now. They're probably planning for next year already and even more after Whitsun, so good time to sew any seeds. If you don't like the sound of what they come back with, you can always stick with what you've got. Even if you do the mat cover and SENCo, get diffed, you could return to something similar to your current role. Anything is possible!! Have a chat now - get in there early!

[CharmingCats]

PS, barking, well done on getting back up to 3 days a week. I know how hard it is getting back into it and what an achievement it is.

[GooseyD]

Thanks BlindKitty - he proposed in a sea front restaurant on holiday, was lovely. I was on cloud 9, but a week after back from holiday we had my long awaited consultants appointment which busted the myth I had somehow made up that treating luteal phase defect was a simple 'here's some progesterone', job done! Now I'm on track for HSG, then Clomid, followed by IVF if needed. Just arrived on this thread and haven't seen your summary!

[BlindKitty]

Goose ah thats nice, did he have a rock ready or did you get it together afterwards?

I'm 33, and we 2 have been ttc since summer 2011 23 months not that I'm counting. Had my hsg, tried 3 months of clomid, dh had his sa and I've had all my blood tests and nothing seems to be wrong although not a sniff of a pregnancy to prove that! I'm starting iui hopefully in June.

This is a good forum to be in (and the brookers one) if you need some support/advice/comfort! Of and we can't abide instadiffers or people who routinely post pictures of scans and baby bumps on fb (unless of course that is you haha!)

[happylass]

Welcome Goose. I too am engaged and, in a wildly optimistic moment a few months ago, we booked our wedding for August 2014 as DP assured me "we'll have had a baby by then" Now with less than 16 months to go there's not even so much as a hint of a BFP in the air.
Think there's gonna have to be a few months later this year where we lay off TTC so don't risk giving birth as I'm saying my vows but other than that I figure what's meant to be will be

[Wimwom]

Hi berries, I'm making a brief appearance from my lurking - sorry I'm just a rubbish poster and you are all so much more interesting than me! Sorry about all the af's turning up - I'm on what feels like worlds longest AF after starting thyroxine. No idea what's going on. Back to my quiet corner!