Anyone else going to start ttc next month?

[Coffee1Sugar]

Anyone like to join me on this journey of conception?! Going to start in May to ttc no 2

Hi Mushi Mushi. Thanks for your reply and I am sorry about your experiences and I am pleased you got the all clear and I must say you have a lovely way with words I prefer to call it making love rather than shag.
Just suppose you were in my shoes single not getting any younger and broody what would you do? As you said in a previous post you were considering doing something similar to me, but you're fortunate that you don't have to. xx

I had a 'no strings attached' type thing going on with a friend of mine. I considered getting pregnant with him, but I'm glad I didn't because I would never have met my partner a couple of years later, with whom I am now ttc. I was lucky I suppose. I understand your sense of urgency but why don't you consider sperm donation? That way you don't have to worry about catching anything. Or just wait and see how things get on with this new bloke? Like BNmum says even if it's just a short relationship at least you will know who the guy is.

I know it's completely unreasonable, my manager was quite apologetic as she knows what the procedure is for, but there will be no one else in the team in the office that day and we can't have other employees going without contact for an entire day (HR dept) so I was left with no choice basically
I know it's only another 8 days, but I have been waiting since late March to get it removed, so it's just dragging it out even further for me plus I will be going on holiday soon afterward, kowing my luck I will ahve my withdrawal bleed for my entire two week holiday!

But C999, "shagging" is exactly what you are doing. "Love" doesn't seem to come into it for you. Unless you count the eventual love you will have for the child, I suppose. This is one thing I've really struggled with when reading your posts and I feel like it somehow cheapens what I have with my OH

And Mushi is right, the moment you have unprotected sex after an STI test, that test becomes invalid. It only takes one infected partner to blow the whole thing out of the water.

As so many people have now said (both on this thread and the other one about ONSs), why not consider a donor? That way you're at least getting sperm which is safe for you and the unborn child and is coming from a man who's made a conscious decision to help someone become a mum.

Finally... you keep mentioning your age, but you're 37 not 47! There is still time to meet someone with whom you could "make love" and bring up a child. Have you looked into internet dating... some people on those sites make it very clear that they are hoping to have a family and it can all move quite quickly.

Sorry for the long post - been bottling some of that up. I promise I'm not trying to flame or attack you, and I apologise if it comes across like that, but as we're all revealing such personal stuff on this forum I felt it would be disingenuous to just continue saying nothing.

C999 I'd have to echo excatly what Mushi and others have said. I also have largely ignored your posts, I a not trying to be mean or rude, I just have strong opposition to how you are going about conceiving a child.
As well as putting yourself in incredible danger (of STI's as well as at risk of physical harm from these strangers) you are doing your potential child and the unsuspecting father a huge disservice.

hi can i join??! Have read through the posts and seems a bit out there on a few comments however each to their own, however are you informing these guys? why not go to a sperm bank or have we gone through this?

Anyway we are ttc number 3 have two dds, dd1 5, dd2 4, dd2 was a devil baby/toddler so completely put dh off another, however she has blossomed and i actually loved her bloody mindedness!

we did the deed on cd18 and cd 20 and have had massive cramps etc however i always had implantation bleeds with both girls within 5 days and not this time and unfortunately experienced 7 miscarriage and 1 ectopic prior to catching dd1 so fingers crossed.

xxx

Welcome flowerandrandd Have a

Sorry to hear about your previous miscarriages but congrats on having 2 dds. Finders crossed for a BFP later this month

Welcome flower !
Day 13 for me today. I swear time is standing still. Just like the 28 reports I'm yet to make a start on...

Ladies, what do you think, I need some advice! Have dtd days 6,10,12. I don't know when I ovulate as this is first month post mirena and I've given up with opks. I don't really understand at what point you begin the 2ww. I presume I should dtd another couple of times?

Goldenhandshake. You've said your little piece so now its only fair that I get to say mine so here goes "you weren't ignoring my post when along with 2 other people you refrered to me as a troll", but that's all in the past now over done with and gone, and I am not the sort to hold grudges.

We are living in 2013 not 1320 and I can assure you that I am not the only women sleeping around to get pregnant. x
Monstamino. and I am not trying to attack or flame you either. I'm not stupid I know what I am doing is going to have more people against me that for me. Now I hope what I say next does not cause upset but I refer to the line where you said/typed said that what I do cheapens what you have with your O.H. Well I do fully apologies but unlike everyone else I do not lead a prefect existance. Taking this away for a from ttc for a moment. I not allowed to have sex because I am not in a relationship. x

C99 - of course you're entitled to sex and motherhood. But you need to realise that you will get voice of disapproval on here because what you're doing is potentially dangerous to yourself physically and emotionally as well as the consequences for a potential unborn child. People on here share lots with each other, just be prepared for your way of ttc is not exactly "the norm". I don't see why you're in such a rush. As another poster said, you're 37 not 47. Plenty of time to actually meet someone you love.

Thankyou for your reply Coffee 1 sugar. I do agree what I am doing will be met with lots of disaproval and very validated I suppose. I know what I am doing is not the norm, and for all I know the men that I have slept with could be infertile! One thing I will say about myself though at least I have been honest

It's taking me along time to admit this but I think I been rather over sensitive to what has been said to be, and I should be showing gratitude for everyone's concern. It may come across that I am horrible nasty person but I.m not. I'm just desperate to be blessed with another child, like yourself, but I suppose if it doesn't happen at least I have been blessed with 1 beautiful child, there is probably a women somewhere breaking her heart crying because she cannot even have 1 child.

Who knows though perhaps something will blossom with this guy I met on Friday. xx

Coffee, isn't the 2ww the 2 weeks between ovulation and your period? Assuming your luteal phase is 14 days. Basically the 2ww is waiting until your period due date. But now I've just re-read your post and you don't know when your period is due, so I have no idea. errrr.... so I'm glad I cleared that one up for you. Ahem.

Yes if I were you I'd just keep dtd and hope for the best!!

Mushi - you're more clued up than me . Ah well more sexytime even though I remain cynical about this month.

Hi coffee I would keep dtd. On a normal 28-30 day cycle most women ovulate around day 14, if you have a longer cycle it's likely to be later so I would keep going. If you have any opks left I would start those about now and see if they detect anything.

coffee - I think your best bet is just to DTD every other day since you do not know when you ovulate this month. Not worth timing it and then by chance missing your ovulation.

OH and I only DTD once during my fertile window (due to previously mentioned issues) but as I actually do quite enjoy DTD with DH, then we aren't going to stop there.

C99 - as usual it appears you missed the point. Goldenhandshake's point was rather simple - It is not making love if its done with a stranger whom you do not love, shagging is a much more appropriate term. Regardless of how you feel about the phrase. I feel your use of the term "make love" quite distasteful too and I couldn't care less if you shag around. I suppose it would be a small concession on your part if you perhaps referred to it as DTD instead? You seem to feel that its unfair for us in loving relationships to use that phrase but expect you not to but then what we're doing isn't the same as what you're doing is it? See you need to think of it this way - if a woman came on here and told us she was planning on getting pregnant to her DH but he didn't know (as he wouldn't agree) then we'd be pretty judgy too. Oh and since I'm replying directly to you - I'm quite sure "feeling sexy" isn't a symptom of ovulation.

Sorry, I got my people mixed up , it was Mushi and Monstamio who said the shagging thing - sorry, I did read them all (as I've been lurking) but so many names :)

Welcome to the thread flowerandrandd and anyone else who I have missed.

monstamio I won't mention all the practice tests I did last week too! Think I might poas again in the morning, just internet cheapies. I've been feeling really bloated over the past week, which is something that rarely happens, maybe it's a sign. I've not had any spotting though, so I'm thinking it's maybe unlikely I'm pg.

c99 I really hope everything works out for you, would u consider putting ttc on ice while u see how this potential relationship develops? It must take some courage to do what you're doing, do u have any friends or family that you can speak to about it?
Hi flower

Sounds promising tiny I don't think everyone gets spotting do they? Let us know how the POAS goes tomorrow

I also have internet cheapies but planning to hold out until wednesday the end of the week to test again. Otherwise I will drive myself crazy. Or should that be crazier?!

monstamio that is true, although I think more do than not from what i've read (and I've read quite a lot the past couple of weeks!) but we shall see. I'm still hopeful!

Keep us updated with your poas too, maybe I'll have some good news in the morning...

Note to self - order more tests!

Good luck POAS in the morning tiny :)

Well?!?

Hurry up tiny I've gotta go to work!! How many times have you dtd this month? Really rooting for your swimmers

Good morning everyone. I'm back lol. My time is coming up on CD10 due to ovulate in 6 days according to app. Shall start using opk maybe Thursday? As its my daughters birthday tomorrow so would be great to nail it this month (no pun intended ;) ) do we have any bfp yet ladies? Xx

Thanks everyone and sorry to keep you waiting

BFN I'm afraid but when I twist it in the light and squint with one eye shut I could swear there was a tiny line

Maybe there will be a line there when I get back from work, it seems to happen to others!

AF due on Friday, so I'm going to try and hold out till then now. Or maybe Thursday.

In other news, I'm off to the GP now to get my itchy nipple examined again. I had to go to the breast clinic last month, it really shook me at the time, but all is well and it's just a skin condition thank god.

Secretly glad I don't have really sore boobs today!