TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

Boo to BFNs. 2014 sounds like a great year to have a baby. How are you both feeling?

Boo sorry both. At least it's Friday. Really good idea to test on Fridays as there is nowt worse than bfn on a Monday. Trying to throw some positivity your way starfish as you are all stars
Meh though. This malarky can drive you to madness can't it? I also need to remove feeds containing babies. Also lying v low with friends as just don't want to be around preg people or people asking me nosily when ill be having one grrr

Yeah we're all going to nail 2014 aren't we?

Yeah I'm fine thanks tins, and repeating mantra that's it's not a bfp I'm after, it's a healthy baby. And I know that I need a bit more time to achieve that. I hate the waiting but for today it's just good to know either way. Speaking to my doc later so will make next blood review plan.

kat to those kinds of question.

Oh boo to bfns, but YAY to non-pregnant fun and getting blood levels sorted. And hooray to 2014 babies. It sounds like a lucky year. It will be the year of the horse in the chinese zodiac, which sounds more appealing than the year of the snake, which is was it currently is.

thunder I hope you can sort out a good plan with the Dr later.

Sorry about the BFN

Kat - I constantly get asked when we are having another especially as DS is 4 now. People say things like 'wouldn't it be nice for him to have a brother or sister' or 'you better get a move on you turn 30 next year' - I used to just smile at them and say nothing however sometimes it hacks me off so much I end up saying 'well we are trying but I had a mscarriage in feb' - that soon shuts them up!!

I agree ladies - 2014 will be a cracking year to have a baby!!! Xx

I am definitely in for a 2014 baby.

Earlier today I bled so heavily I was stuck on the toilet with blood dripping off. I wasn't expecting it to be so bad as my last mc was like a heavy period only. I rang the EPAU and they said I should go to a&e. I called DH and he has came back to take DD to nursery. He thinks we should go to a&e too. But I don't know what they can do that the EPU can't.

Boo to bfn. Year of the horse does sound much better.

Also boo to stupid questions. I've had a few of them recently. I know they're asked in all harmlessness, and I know I've prob definitely asked similar questions back in my naive days, but it just cuts straight to the core doesn't it.

I'm brighter today. Have a lovely weekend ahead catching up with friends which I'm really looking forward to. I think we're going to go with the plan of not trying for a bit, but with odd 'careless' moments so we don't feel out of the running completely. Had lovely condom involved sex last night which was oddly a bit of a relief. I suppose its a sense that its just about us that way if you know what I mean. plus I'm fairly certain I'm not ovulating anyway

OLTT. I would go to a&e just to be on the safe side personally. You poor thing. Hope you're as ok as you can be. X

Omg finally I've got ovulation sign on the CBFM! I take all the moaning back about it.
It's also possibily explains why it's taken so long for a BFP, im on day 17 we have usually stopped/taken a break from TTC by day 16 since I was convinced I Ovulated early and that's the info I got from OPK when I tried them.

Sorry about all the BFN. Here is to us all getting knocked up in 2014.

Year of the Horse eh? Well that has to be my year! Horses are my animal, I have 5 and a half!
I sometimes wish people in my family would harp on about babies. mad as that sounds! they all seem to think that the MC was an anomaly, and that I shouldn't want anymore because I'm old and have teenagers! Not one of them ever says anything about trying again or even mentions
the baby at all. I sometimes feel that all of the lovely positivity they showed at the time was just false.
If it wasn't for my lovely special friends it would almost be like the baby didn't exist.
I'm really sorry for the BFNs, but I suppose we can all draw a line now and have a fresh start now. End of one year start of another.
Galloping into 2014 with Posifrickintivity!

Year of the horse eh...must be all that time were spending with our stallions.

saggy Its so shit when family ignores it because it makes them feel uncomfortable. Everyone I know (except DH ) never mention Noah its like well 4 whole months are past what's the matter now?!
DH did point out its partly to do with other people having never met the babies we lose to them until a family/friend mets the baby and holds them tHey aren't really a part of their lives they are just an idea.

Sad and relieved. Did you POAS in the end?

Sorry, missed the last page so massive cross post! littlebairn - hoping to get knocked up before 2014!! But here's to 2014 babies

I'd go to A&E too, OLTT. Just to be safe.

Oops I did actually mean 2014 babies not actually having to wait till then to get knocked up during 2014.
Gad I hope I get a break from all the shagging in 2014 we don't have the stamina to keep it that long!

santa we are sad and relieved together. How do you feel about next month? I had a good chat with the doc who seems to suddenly be treating me as a patient rather than just the numbers- hooray! So I can go back in a week and a half for another check and we may make a small adjustment to my meds then. She even mentioned TTC this time without me having to say anything. God knows what my notes must look like.

OLT I hope you are in/have been to a&e by now. And I hope you're ok duck.

cam I'm pleased you're feeling brighter- sounds like the weight is off your shoulders a little bit- good!

saggy and little that you feel your lost babies are forgotten by others. My friends and family are the same but I have to say I don't really mind. I explained to DH that the EDD fast approaching feels weird and sad but I don't share that any more widely really.

Still loving the idea of all those ponies saggy, I wish we lived a bit closer cos I'd be round like a shot with a handful of carrots.

I'm off to a christening this weekend. Hmmmmmm! Nah it's alright really, I'll go and make the right noises think to myself that my baby will be much better than theirs and then slope off down the pub.

thunder I feel a bit strange about the EDD I have no idea how I will feel on the day. Last week I had a few tearful days but since then I've been fine cheerful even. Not sure if I should book the day off work,it's likely we will visit the cemetery anyway. Never mind what to expect when your expecting I need a what to expect when you've MC.

On the whole I'm looking forward to moving past the EDD then I feel like I can really move on put the pregancy behind me. I will always live with the fact I have a dead baby but I can at least put the actual pregancy behind me.

OLTT hope you did go to A+E and have been either reassured or sorted out. I had major bleeding with first MC because tissue got stuck in cervix which meant uterus couldn't contract down and attachement site just kept bleeding. Once it was removed it settled down straight away but I did need fluids. Better to be safe if it is worrying.

LB hope Noah's EDD passes peacefully. I found after first MC once I was past the first EDD the feelings got much less intense, it was like I'd accepted I wasn't going to have a baby before I could accept the loss of the pregnancy, if that makes any sense. I do still sometimes think about how old she would have been now, but I think in terms of moving on it's a good date to have got beyond.

thunder good news that your doctor is a bit more proactive now. HOpe you can make some minor adjustments and be all set to go for next month and a Jan 2014 baby.

I'm driving myself 2WW mad even though the consultant told me I wasn't likely to ovulate this month. DTD around the appropriate time anyway, and today have lots of blood tinged CM, and I'm going "implantation, implantation" when no doubt it's just WTF cycle weirdness. Somebody slap me with a big fish, I need to get a grip.

OLTT I hope you're sorted now. It's a horrible time.

tins. what stage of the cycle are you?

LB yay for ovulation, for approaching EDD

I'm going out to dinner tonight with 3 pg friends, one of whom has the same EDD that I had. We were preggo buddies together I'm going to have to drink LOTS of wine. And then go home and shag DH senseless because I think I might have messed up my dates. Still a bit of EWCM today and we haven't DTD since tue. Should have tried harder wed night instead of crying.

I'm being a bit 2ww obsessive ATM as well. I can't decide if I am imagining certain symptoms, and I did POAS this morning, but think I was looking so hard I could see the watermark on the test. AF due in 4 days, so that's 4 more days of obsession then I can relax!

alyant don't beat yourself up it's so hard when to predict when to DTD. We've been DTD since Satarday going to have to do tonight and tomorrow too. But the has cerainy been cycles were we did it at totally the wrong time.

saggy the 2ww is dreadful I just want to know BFP or AF so I can get onto the next cycle.
I've noticed I have a emotional cycle as well as the physically
week 1 no BFP convinced I'll never get pregant again.
Week2 slightly more positive but realistic, fine with the BFP.
Week 3 excited while we DTD convinced this cycle with be IT.
Week4 start imagining pregancy symptoms worrying it hasn't worked.

LB love your weekly emoticons. I feel exactly the same. I'm convinced my boobs are a bit sore from all the poking I keep doing to them

Bonkers time. I wonder if our OHs have a thread where they chat about wtf their rational OH has gone?!

I've been feeling incredibly sick. Slight achy boobage. Emotionally all over the place. No cramps, no pre AF spotting. Even if I'm not pg, at least I'm feeling Something this month. Which means my hormones are doing something!

Hmmm Saggy - I had a "is it a watermark, is it a line" squinty thing 2 Friday's ago - which was early for me too. So will be keeping my fingers crossed for you

Hi folks olt you need to get yourself to A n E it's imperative your safe and looked after, hope your ok it's a horrible experience...very emotional too as it marked the end for me and a moment of realisation ( hope that makes sense)

LB yayyyyyyyy so so so pleased for you

Thunder so pleased that your feeling and being treated better...hope you find yourself feeling posifrickintive now cxxx

Can't join in on the testin as I'm hoping my next test will be a pregnancy test...cross your fingers for sticky beans
I know what you mean about all the questions, my colleagues keep asking if we are trying again but I'm afraid to answer, partly because I'm a proportional lecturer with a zero hour contract and that they are trying to establish the likelyhood of maternity leave (or an excuse to get rid of me if we are TTC) and partly due to the pressure just wish I didn't show so soon or blew up to the size of a elephant so that I could keep it under wraps til at least 20weeks

Thanks Chocolate. Im trying really hard not to get my hopes up. I keep telling myself not to get excited. It was only a watermark. I have EVERYTHING crossed!