TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

Spanish double congratulations!

Fod good news - make the most of it

Lucky I hope this time you live up to your name and are not coming back. FX.

Everyone else step away from the antenatal threads they will only make you bitter.

Thanks to whoever was asking about my scan (can't look back sorry) I'm pleased that was all ok as was worried they'd either find some horrendous scarring from post-partum surgery after DS2 or that my ovaries had shrivelled to the size of raisins. Think she was right about me not ovulating this month though - seem to have missed out ov signs completely, unless it's going to be a really long cycle. Sigh. I just hope they find something that gives us a reason why this has happened and preferably they can do something about. Will be a bit gutted to go through all the tests and end up "unexplained" though I know that's quite a likely outcome.

I had a crappy day at work today and spent most of it thinking "I should be on maternity leave anyway, I should be having a baby tomorrow (both mine appeared on their due dates)" it's really hard not to torture yourself.

Oh gosh baking- it must be awful to be hitting your due date xx

Congratulations to you with BFP - well done! Gives me hope!

I'm new to this thread, invited over by Bakingtins.

I have had 2 mmc in the last year, one at 20 weeks and one just recently at 9 weeks. Its now been just over 7 weeks since the ERPC and I'm waiting for AF to arrive..... very frustrated as want to start ttc. We were going to ttc after the ERPC but after a couple of weeks I just became too stressed and so decided to wait - however now Im REALLY stressed as AF not here. I know i'm not pg too as did a test.

I have really found reading this thread helpful - everyone saying stuff I have been feeling - it's really hard what we're going through and so many people just cant understand what we're going through - but hoping its just a matter of time until we all get what we want.

I have one DD who is three, so I know I can do it - unless she was just a fluke!

Like some of you many of my friends were all pregnant when I was last year and now have 5 month old babies - that was very hard when they were all being born. Now my neighbour has just said she is expecting and the EDD is the same as my last pg - 18th September - I'm happy for her, but it's hard to not think - why can't it be me!

So i've had a rubbish few days, as my patience not that i ever had any has gone! So i'm going to be put lots of effort into being amazingly positive and hope that we can all leave these thread soon!

Anyone out there had to wait over 7 weeks for AF to arrive after ERPC? xx

Bakingtins i know just how crappy it is to go through the due date, last november I cried the whole weekend, and going back to work on the Monday was terrible, I basically stayed in a foul mood all week.
I'm thinking of you and thank you for introducing me to this thread xxx

Spanish - amazing news!!!!
Fod - congrats on the positive opk!!

Sorry for the short post - taking a break from making DS birthday cake - every year I stress myself out with it - this years creation - an angry bird cake and I am no Mary Berry so goodness knows how its going to turn out!! Xx

Spanish - wow congratulations

Fod - great news (but hope you are too busy with your sex festival to read this any time soon)

Hope you guys don't mind if I stick around on here a while longer? I have popped a toe in on our graduates thread, but still feel that posting much on there is tempting fate. Will keep quiet at the back though.

Mummy - I am impressed - I have chickened out on DS's cake so far and outsourced the making both times (lots of peopl seem to be setting up as cake makers/decorators round near me)
But I have been looking at the Lakeland cake pop maker and thinking that it surely can't be that hard.... I have til November and could have a big bubble cake perfected by then..... (look out for barely used cake pop make on eBay)

Have been awake since DS woke me at 3 (nightmare) he went straight back to sleep, I am wide awake and bored

Morning ladies. Sorry I've not been around, have been struggling with all the pregnancies going on around me. 3 best friends all due within a week of when I was. Congrats to all those that have had BFPs recently, fab news.

First AF after mc arrived yesterday morning and it is already the heaviest I've ever had. The spooky thing is that it arrived exactly to the day it would have been due if I hadn't got pregnant. Not sure if that's coincidental or I've managed to fall straight back into my cycle. The dates my app gives me for ov are when we'll be on long weekend in Rome so not sure how many sights we'll see!

Spanish- wow double congratulations!! How very exciting. Is twin pregnancy more common after MC?
Fod- hope you have been very busy!! Wedding abroad sounds good.
Bakintins- big hugs - it's so horrible thinking where you could have been. I just keep thinking my baby whenever they come will be so worth this wait

Emki- sorry you find yourself here but it's a great source of comfort to be able to have support from people who know exactly how you feel.
Topslou- hurrah for AF, hope it didn't make you too sad but instead is the beginning of the cycle that will result in a baby.

I'm finding early pregnancy very anxiety provoking, so greatful to be pregnant but full of worry. Just taking one day at a time and hope lots of you lovely ladies will join us soon..

welcome emki glad you decided to come across and join us.

mttab impressed with the cake prowess. I regret doing a DIY cake every time when I'm up at 11pm trying to stick it together the cocktail sticks and swearing ( totally over ambitious castle cake for DS1)

Tops trying hard to think of suitable names for a baby conceived in Rome......

I have decided that the consultant has no idea what she is talking about and to mark my EDD I am going to ovulate and conceive this w/end. How's that for posifrickingtivity totally unrealistic ?

Wow a lot has happened in one day. On phone so might miss people, sorry.
Spanish, twins! Wow that's exciting. Must have been such a relief to see those heartbeats.
Lucky, fx for you. Apparently most women have some spotting during their pregnancy.
Tins, what a horrid day.

And fod, yay for ovulation!! Woo

Bakingtins- very posifrickingtive! Fingers crossed you get ovulating ASAP.

Emki- welcome. I'm sorry to hear your story. I hope you're not here long.

Jmf- I know exactly how you feel. Trying so hard not to get too excited/ plan ahead too much. However.... Poas this morning again and the line is definitely a lot darker! Not really due AF til next week sometime so all looking good. Just hope this one decides to stay.

Hugs to all xxx

lucky- how are you now? Still spotting? If it's just spotting I'm hopeful that it's nothing to worry about. Plenty of women have spotting and healthy pregnancies. Fingers crossed for you.

Morning all!

I'm making , anyone want one?

lucky are you there. We don't want you back here either, in the nicest possible way.

fod hooray for ovulation! I loved seeing a positive after mc as it feels like everything is starting to work again.

Hi emki

tins I really feel for you in relation to the EDD I've not approachedind yet but I'm dreading it.... I was hopIng to be pg at that point thought it might make it easier
Post ERPC AF can be light or late or not at all, remember you've just had all the lining of your uterus lining taken away so even if you did have AF it would be very sparse.... Mine was minimal and your body needs time to rebuild the lining too.... Don't panick' hope that helps

Fod by EDD for my first MC I was pregnant and past 12 week scan which made it much easier - I felt like I was back on track IYSWIM. Would have worked out like that this time had I not MC3, but it feels really bleak to have gone through the next 6-7 months and be no further forward.
I'm going to try to find something positive to do to mark the day since my ov plan is probably nonsense on EDD of first MC I bought a baby-related charity gift, it seemed good to honour the baby that didn't make it by helping another.

tins I think that is such a lovely idea. I hoped to be pg by the time of my due date but that's not going to happen now. I think maybe I'll make a donation to a children/baby charity that day. Thank you for the inspiration x

baking that sounds like a good idea, have you thought of booking a long weekend away or a holiday? It might be just what you need....you never know once the pressure is off and your away relaxing .... Baby dust may land at your feet cxxx

It's all si pants isn't it? Such a huge journey

Congrats spanish!

So got a bfn again yesterday but still no af yet. I'm now just hoping it comes soon so we can start again with ttc rather than a wtf cycle!

Hi everyone,

Sorry to have been away, trying and succeeding to keep myself busy. What a rollercoaster this thread is! So exciting about choc and blackholes (any more news on that faint line?), congratulations - and double congrats to Spanish!

Sorry to see new faces, and a hug to fod, you poor thing. I hope you get a weight taken off your mind very soon about that lump, and that your brother's ok.

I've really needed a real life fish slap this month, I wound myself up into the most ridiculous state. I convinced myself i was pg, took FOUR tests (sorry, broke all the rules), af was three days late totally screwing with my head, and obvs arrived today. I have taken myself in hand, and promised I'm not doing this next month. Also DH has gone to sea (naval reserve) for 2 weeks, really bad timing, but thank god my Dad's coming for a week tomorrow, which will def keep me sane.

Needed an action plan, so am going to acupuncture next Sat, to try and calm my hormones down and sort my stress. Has anyone ever tried it? Shot in the dark, but heard some crazy stories about it helping fertility. Also spoken to DH about adopting. Seems extreme I know, but we were always going to do it after having our first child, and if I'm not pg in 7 months or when I go actually insane trying we're going to go for it first. I just need something practical to hold on to.

Anyway, sorry for huge post, have to unload before Monday starts, need to try and clear some brain space for work!

Hi ladies, hope you have had a good day!! The cake was a success and DS loved it so worth the late night icing!! I think I will just buy one next year though as I woke myself up at 4am last night shouting "don't drop the cake" so think it sent me slightly loopy!!

I'm cd20 at he mo and waiting for ovulation - should be in the next 5 days - oh how I love the long cycles - not!!!

Xx

Nice one! Sounded like an amazing cake! That is long, was it always that long mummy?

It's the worst not knowing my cycle anymore, not knowing what to expect when. Don't know why it's so screwed up, it was fine for the first 3 months after ectopic surgery. Grr.

Lol, I meant has your cycle always been that long, not was the cake long!! Very badly worded!

bakingtins I love your idea and I'm going to do the same in retrospect of my last EDD. Hope you have some brighter days this week.

seasidelily I've just been to acupuncture - a lady I went to ages ago who I really liked - I went 4 weeks after my ERPC to try and sort my head hormones out. I have no idea whether it works but I felt very calm and relaxed afterwards - though could have been because I was lying down for a hour in the day which I never get the chance to do. I think it's important to get some TLC and have things to look forward to ... Go for it I say. I'm going back after AF arrives - still waiting for first after ERPC Grrrrrr

I hope everyone has a good Monday and hope AF arrives for me but not for those TTC xxx