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TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 13:49

Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

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ChocolateCremeEggBag · 11/04/2013 22:34

Evening all.

I popped into Boots on way home tonight to stock up on sticks. Teenage girl walked past while I was perusing the choices(FR or CBDigi) picked one and toddled off, then thought fuck it I'll get both. Go back to the aisle and girl is there looking at the tests. I make a stupid comment about how there are too many to decide on and she said "I think you are wanting a different result than me". Turns out that she's 3 days late and terrified she's pg. felt vv Sad for her, told her not to bother with the expensive ones if she is already late as they are for mad women like me who are testing super early. Really hope she gets the right result for her.

fod27 · 12/04/2013 00:26

Hi guys, thanks for the supportive comments... I was soooo frustrated earlier, I've always tried to be a good person and would give anyone the shirt off my back breasts flirted about so I find it really hard to take in or understand why this ia happening to me,

My brother has just finished his chemo and is due for a MRI tomorrow at Birmingham hospital so we should know more then...fx. Part of me thinks sod it and focus on baby making but then the other side of me thinks that's selfish if there is something's wrong with me etc

On the upside tho I've just done a ov calculation online and I have another four possible days of ovulating left

BlackholesAndRevelations · 12/04/2013 06:24

Gosh fod- that's tough Sad Sad I hope upon hope that your lump is nothing nasty. You poor thing.

Martha- oh yes! Seen them a few times. Best was when at wembley we managed to get wristbands to go in the backstage area- I could've thrown a stone at matt Bellamy (not that I'd want to!) plus we were out of the moshpit (which I haven't been in since I was about 18, so don't blame you for standing back!)

In other news....... I have a faint line on a FR today! Trying not to get hopes up as a) might not be a BFP and b) if it is... Eek. Last two of these ended in blood and tears.

Anyway I have my fingers tightly crossed for more. Will keep checking in xx

Lieslvontrapp · 12/04/2013 06:41

Congrats blackholes!

Bfn for me :-(
Let's see if af comes on Sunday. If not could just be a wtf cycle but I'll test again if no sign.

Fx for you Chocolate

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 12/04/2013 07:18

fod - fx for your brother tomorrow. I totally get the "why is this happening to me" feeling. Hope the lump is just a random cyst, but better to get it checked for certain.

Congratulations blackholes - a line is a line no matter how faint as I've been told. It must be true as my super faint line is now a slightly stronger line on the FR test and "pg 1-2 weeks " on the CBDigi - finally!
Feel relieved and shit scared at the same time - cue even more knicker watching and symptom spotting..

Liesl - here's hoping you have a shy bean and you get yours on Sunday (just don't tell Thunder)

GardenWorm · 12/04/2013 07:38

Fab news choc and blackholes! Grin

JanieLovesCake · 12/04/2013 07:53

Woohoo chocolate and blackholes!! That's fab fertile Friday!!

Thundercatsarego · 12/04/2013 07:57

Hooray choc and blackholes and sorry for the bfn liesl, fx it's too early and you'll get it shortly (don't tell thunder)

Thundercatsarego · 12/04/2013 07:59

Not sure about how this works- you come up with a system to get bfps and you're the one left at the end of it all without one!!

Bakingtins · 12/04/2013 08:02

Congrats to choc and blackholes!

liesl you're not out yet. Stay away, witch.

Anyone else testing?

Thundercatsarego · 12/04/2013 08:05

tins I'm ringing for my results this afternoon - if they're back and the secretary will give them to me! Phone appt next Friday with the doc to discuss them.

MarthasHarbour · 12/04/2013 13:20

Get in choc and blackholes Grin Grin that is awesome news! I love fertile fridays!!

Mine not so today as AF arrived but i am ok about it. I have decided to be on it like a car bonnet Hmm next month and already starting to work out my fertile days. And i promise promise not to test until fertile friday! Grin

choc i actually felt Sad for the teenage girl, i hope it all works out for her and all is ok. My friend always said it was shit that we spent our young years doing all we can to avoid getting PG then in our (well my - she didnt want children) 30's all these shitty things just happen to stop us carrying a bubba Sad

Aaanyway - FX for sticky beans and safe healthy pregnancies

See you in a week as am off now x

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 12/04/2013 14:13

Blush Thunder - look at it this way - think how much good Karma you are storing up from all these BFP's - all due to the Fertile Friday system, think of the £££'s you've saved us by making everyone wait until Friday to POAS well maybe not me
Flowers and Wine for you

What goes around, comes around I think - you are def due some good vibes soon

Thundercatsarego · 12/04/2013 15:02

Ahh choc! I will try and take some sort of sneaky personal achievement all these bfps! I really am thrilled for everyone, just having an ungracious spoilt brat moment. Blush

Blood results are in, I'm down to 6.1 after 4 weeks. Obviously not low enough but going in the right direction (I was over 15 in Feb, and 7 last December). Hoping to speak to a doc this afternoon as to whether my med levels should be raised.

Sorry af came martha and still hooray for the bfps!

JanieLovesCake · 12/04/2013 15:20

Aw thunder, I'm sending you a hug, and i totally agree with choc. Will you PLEASE have a bottle of red wine for me tonight? Pleeeease? Appletiser just doesn't do it on a friday xx

GardenWorm · 12/04/2013 15:37

Thunder that's an impressive drop in levels - your BFP is getting closer. Stay positive! X

GuffSmuggler · 12/04/2013 16:42

Hi all, am trying to get to know you all but it may take some time, sorry about all the ups and downs you've had but you all seem to get each other through.

Fod sorry to see you are having an extra crap time Sad

Am glad to see some BFPs to keep everyone going, congrats chocs and blackholes (thunder I'm pretty sure if you invented the system it will have to work for you soon!)

So today is a sort of good day, after what has felt like a lifetime of continuous bleeding through the miscarriage and then EPRC I have finally STOPPED BLEEDING, horray. The irony is now I will desperately await more bleeding to know AF is back.

So a couple of questions which I'm sure they've been covered before. When they say no trying before AF turns up (my gynae actually said to wait 2x AF but there is no way that is happening) do any of you bother using contraception before it comes? Would it really matter if I by some miracle got PG before AF?

Oh yeah and how on earth do you get in the mood post MC to DTD?! Confused

MarthasHarbour · 12/04/2013 16:47

aww guff come 'ere

First of all congratulations on the last of the bleeding, i have been through this twice and remember only too well the despair of going through the MC and having the constant flow of bleeding to remind you. Sooo, in answer to your question, we started TTC straight away again both times without waiting for AF. My GP said the only reason they say to wait until after next AF is so they can work out the dates.

If you get PG during the WTF cycle, then they will just have to guess your dates from roughly the time of the MC. So keep a note of your dates, when you started MCing (as if you would forget Sad) and when you stopped bleeding (today - hoorah). I would recommend you do a cheap test to see when you get your BFN, you might still have pregnancy hormones in your system which would show a BFP. So if you can bear it then do some cheapo tests every day and note down when you get the first BFN

And masses of good luck. So sorry you are in this position x

MarthasHarbour · 12/04/2013 16:49

and i know loads of people from the other thread i was on who got PG in the WTF cycle - seriously it happens all the time.

As for getting in the mood, just be prepared that the first time you DTD you may both be a bit emotional, me and DH were both times Sad but got ourselves through it

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 12/04/2013 17:11

guff when I was MC-ing I obsessively googled and got lots of stories of BFP's with no issues before first.
Re getting in the mood: I told DH we had no chance of getting pg so this was "just for fun" which got him in the mood then.
He has said since that he felt like a sperm machine on the "ov day" and much preferred the practise runs before and after (yes I have lied to him about how it all works Grin bless him)

fod27 · 12/04/2013 17:41

Thanks for the nice comments guys...it really is appreciated, thunder im on the same boat huni so we can be partners in crime! Let's aim for June? For a BFP

Congrats to choc and black

My brother got to the train station this morning to recieve a phone call informing him that his appointment had been cancelled as his dr was off sick!!!! Hope it's nothing serious or terminal he is left in limbo now as he was on chemo and has been told to take a week off after his MRI and now he doesn't know what he's supposed to be doing! Bloody NHS

GuffSmuggler · 12/04/2013 19:11

Thanks for the advice, am feeling more positive about getting back on the TTC rollercoaster already...

So once you get a BFN after MC how long can you expect to ovulate after that?

fod that is awful your poor brother Sad

alyant79 · 12/04/2013 20:37

Yay choc and blackholes!! Bugger liesl, but it's not over yet. Bad luck Martha. Hugs.
Fod that is all completely rubbish. The world is really a crappy place sometimes and isn't fair at all. I'm sure the lump in your leg is nothing to worry about though.
Guff, yay for the end of bleeding. I was also told to wait for first af. I think that was cos of the mifepristone pill I had for the medical management. I did lots of my own research though and decided that it was only necessary to wait two weeks, which conveniently was the end of bleeding anyway. Didn't work out that first month anyway Sad, but it does for lots of people. Fx for you

YoniOldClothCatPuss · 12/04/2013 20:45

Aww, bless! I have been that teenage girl staring at the PG tests. a long long time ago It's bloody scary!

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 12/04/2013 21:01

Guff - I think I ov'd towards the end of bleeding ( EWCM and a twingey ovary) so I'd start ttc - ing once you've stopped bleeding/feel like it.
Bfn came a couple of days after so I don't think you need bfn before you ov. That's just my experience though, but basically see what ov symptoms you get and DTD as much as you can. Good luck

Yoni ( Saggy?) - I have been thinking about her all day, really hope she just had a late ov, poor thing

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