TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

Sorry short reply earlier. Was out and caught a quick couple of mins while waiting in the car to catch up on here! I always use my phone and I'm afraid I can't remember who's posted what and can't go up to look!

Re: fb, thank you all for your lovely messages. I was just stumped by the fact that both announcements had same due date as my lost babies. What are the chances? Made me but I'm delighted for my friends of course.

Liesl- I hope too that it isn't AF for you. I feel decidedly un-pg today though, so don't think I'll be getting a bfp on Friday.

Anyone else totally obsessed with having a(nother) baby? Dp asked me what I used to think/read about before ttc, and I don't actually remember, lol!

Choc- the feeling if limbo must be horrible. Have you tried a digital?

Eeee you are a chatty lot! Waves to the newbies but that you are here IYKWIM, i skimmed the thread and can see that we have had a lot of recent MCs so i am sending the love xx

I am totally with you all on the pregnancy announcements however i also agree with Santa people who havent been through it just dont know how to break the news. FB probably makes it easier in a twisted way as they dont have to say it to your face and can do a block announcement IYKWIM.

As an example - I hate ultrasound scans as i have had so many bad experiences with them now, with the first miscarriage showing no bubba, then the second miscarriage - well i had loads of reassurance scans which did reassure us but then we were hit with the 20 week which was bad then the 21 week which showed no heart beat, so yeah - ultrasound scans are the work of the devil to me. Well EVERYONE seems to announce their pregnancy on FB via a pic of the 12 week scan. I just look at it and selfishly think 'well yeah - thats just your 12 week scan - you have got a long road to go down yet. Which is awful i know

Martha- very about your ultrasound experiences. A very close friend of mine has similar feelings towards them.

Wouldya credit it?! Another announcement with due date same as my first lost baby's due date! Argh!

Hi ladies, please can I dip a tentative toe onto this thread? Had a MMC diagnosed at my 12 week scan on Monday, baby had died around 8 weeks so had ERPC today. As soon as I feel physically recovered I want to start TTC again, so no idea how long that will take!

Already have an amazing, healthy DS who recently turned 2 so I know I can carry a pregnancy to term, however it was far more difficult to conceive this time so I'm concerned and don't want to wait ages before trying again.

Hello newbies, sorry to see you here, hugs to you if you're finding announcements hard (had a couple of crackers in the last few days) and am keeping fingers crossed for all of you POAS tomorrow.

Quick update. MC a week ago now but HCG levels still haven't fallen (around 260). Scans all clear so they don't really know what's happening. Am having to find reserves of patience and steeliness that I didn't know I had as I now have to wait till Monday for my re test and scan to make sure all is ok. If levels still high then it's a laparoscopy. Am so fed up with all this - pls lots of finger crossing for Monday that HCG has fallen through the floor and I can then start trying to move on.

In the meantime? Off to work...

Weasel sorry this is dragging out for you but I am surprised they are making a fuss if it's only a week since you MC. It has taken me three weeks each time to get to a negative HPT and other than checking that HCG wasn't rising nobody has raised an eyebrow. Had your levels fallen since the last test? Is there something else that is making them concerned? I think I'd be asking for a 2nd opinion before letting them anywhere near me with an endoscope! 260 really doesn't sound that high.

Morning and welcome to all future bpf buddies.

Nowt doing here really just thought I'd pop in and say hi. Something's going on with my hormones so obviously a surprise pregnancy probably either stress or thyroid related.

Who's poas tomorrow?

Hi rock, nice to see you and some others from the miscarriage board. Seems a nicer place to be

martha loving the positivity, and v sorry to hear about your very sad late loss and subsequent useless work colleagues!

rock sorry to see you here, but welcome.

weasel I agree with baking, 260 only a week after mc doesn't sound very high. Very sorry that you are being put through all this confusion, and hopefully everything will hav sorted itself out by monday.

Nothing new here except that we should be having sex-fest over the next few days: ov due tuesday according to phone app (but i think it'll be a bit earlier than that) and hubby has just announced that he's super busy at work and might be too tired. he'd better perform or else

Rockchick- hugs and . make sure you take as much time out/off work as you need xxx

I'm testing tomorrow still- though don't feel pg, and now have beginnings of AF cramps.

Oh FFS on your behalf blackholes - loving your name BTW - i sing the song in my head whenever i see you i looooove Muse

Nothing new here today, told DH i POAS last night and he looked like this as it was a few days too early. i am convinced i am not PG this month as we only DTD twice (busy month!). Anyway i promised him lots of shagging this month so that cheered him up!

I got some cadburys buttons on offer in Waitrose help yourself!

Good luck to all the POAS tomorrow - i shall check in for updates

Cadbury's buttons - yum! thinks about raiding the kids' Easter egg stash
Good luck to anyone POAS tomorrow, hope we have the same successes as last week.
I've been to see consultant for a scan today and happy to report all bits in good working order. She thinks I either won't ovulate this cycle or it will be a long one as follicles not v big for dates, but not a surprise if it's a WTF, only 2nd cycle and don't have ov signs yet on day 14.
More bloods..... and a wait until June to get all results.

Aw thanks Martha! me too! They're awesome live

Best not pass me round those buttons... If you want any left, that is!!

baking- good working order sounds posifrickingtive xxx

Hello! Just wanted to pop back to say thank you for all your lovely welcome messages. alyant it really is horrible to get all the way to 12 weeks to be told bad news - very cruel. Although horrible to hear you've experienced it to, it helps to hear that others have survived it IYKWIM.

Last 24hours were grim beyond description, but think I'm over the worst of it now. Thinking about ttc as soon as poss is getting me through at the moment.

Absolutely love the POAS rules on this thread! Good luck to everyone POAS tomorrow, keeping my fingers crossed for you all! X

Hi newbies....so sorry you find yourselves here.... MC sucks!!! It's horrid and no one has a clue what we are going through ;(

I'm still testing....still no ovulation! Went to the drs and he just said well you've only been testing since mid march so wait and see...( so good to see tax payers money being so well spent!)

On another upbeat note I found a lump in my thigh so I've got to go for blood tests as my brother currently has myeloma cancer, mother had breast cancer and my estranged father (using the term loosely) died of bowel cancer..... Wow I must have been a complete bitch in a previous life! Cancer should be a form of natural selection and only develop in rapists, murderers and peadophiles!!!

Sorry rant over just so fucked off at life!

Sorry to hear that fod it must be the last thing you need right now. Hope it turns out to be something innocuous. I think your past life theory is pants though. Crap stuff happens to lovely people all the time, otherwise none of us would be on the thread. It's very unfair that yet more is being heaped on your plate though. I hope you get reassuring results quickly.

I am having a BAD day today.
Its the first one for ages. Everything was so lovely round here when we were PG, teens were thoughtful, DP was supportive and I was just so happy. Everyone was motivated to get the house tidied and sorted out, and we weer all full of plans.
Everything is back to normal now.
Add to this that I dont appear to be working properly, if Im ovulating, its late, and my LP was short last month. DTD has totally lost its appeal, I appear to have lost my erm... orgasm... and DP is lukewarm about DTD at best!
So today, he had taken the afternoon off, for sexual purposes and instead I spent the afternoon blubbering on his chest!
But, on the posifrickintive side, I have vented, DP knows that I am struggling, and he can help me get it together and m going to look into Agnus Castus, and B6 if LP is short this month.

Hi everyone.

Have actually got a bit of time to write a real message for once!

fod what shitty news- you poor thing. I really hope you get some good results from this.

hi mini and well done for getting through such a hard time. Onwards and upwards now. Look after yourself.

tins great news about the scan today- that must be a relief?! Although I imagine you want to come out of this with some answers about the mcs in terms of there being something that can be done about it? It's really good that things are moving along and you can tuck them off the list as you go. Are you ttc as well at the mo?

marthas lucky you having a DH who looks forward to the shagging! I think mine just feels the ttc pressure too much sometimes and I understand that. especially when I'm a hysterical cow

weasel that's good they didn't find any big problems. Like tins says I'm surprised they're so on the case? I just got sent home and told to ring up if I was still bleeding after 3 weeks. It's good that you're getting support though.

Hi rock, and welcome.

blackholes arse. (the announcements). But fx for poas tomorrow.

for saggy too. Hope venting and getting it out of your system has helped. Lots of pressure and hormones at the moment- don't forget that! And give yourself a bit of a break if you can. Or kick the teens so they do!

On a happier note, I am now oficially an employee rather than self employed, so WHEN I get PG again I will be eligible for SMP and SSP if i need time off due to PG related issues.

Hi thunder how are you doing?

We're not not TTC IYSWIM? I don't think I ovulated after the MC and from the scan today doesn't look like this will be a normal cycle either though it could just be a longer one. Not preventing anyway, if I did happen to get pregnant before the tests are complete then I'll get precautionary aspirin, high dose folic acid and extra TLC. I'm relieved about the scan as I did have a nagging worry that the surgery I had after DS2 might have caused damage, or that my ovaries would be sad shrivelled little raisins with no eggs left, neither of which appear to be the case. She said not to worry about the slight increase in TSH, her cut off is 3.5 for pregnancy.

How long until you get your TSH result back?

Hello lovelies!!

Hello to the newbies - so sorry you are hear - so sad that some many people find themselves in this situation but there is lots of support on this thread xx

Fod - sorry to hear about your lump - I'm keeping everything crossed for you Hun. How is your brother doing at the mo? I completely know what you mean about the doctors - I am planning to see the doctor at the end of May (unless i get a BFP) and have to make sure I get the right Dr - I find the younger ones more open to listening to my worries and fears.

Saggy - sorry you are having a bad day - they can come out of no-where can't they. I too think my cycles are messed up since the miscarriage - my LP is shorter now which is concerning me - big hugs for you lovely x

I have a busy weekend coming up as its DS 4th birthday - we are off to London tomorrow and party at the weekend - he is SO excited!! Xx

Just jumping on to say see you all in a week, we are off to the Lake District this weekend to see the ILs then off to Center Parcs for a few days. So i shall be off line - but will check in for some BFPs tomorrow hopefully

blackholes have you seen them live? me and DH saw them at Glastonbury in 2004, DH was right at the front, i was a wuss and went to the back!

fod holding your hand, and old friend on the other MC board coined the phrase for me 'Cancer is a Cunt'. I am certain that you just have a cyst, but i am sorry that the C has hit you with a shitty stick. It took my best friend from me and i will never forgive it. But yes, i really do think what you have sounds like some kind of nasty water retention/cystic kind of thing. Perfectly natural for you to be freaking out (in the style of King Julian from Madagascar!)

Big love to you all, i see you all polished off the chocolate buttons