Hello everyone 
Not had a chance to log on at a PC for a bit but have been following on mobile devices - I'm with baking in losing the will to live if you have to write things on ipads/iphones, particularly when I can touch type!
I think the last post I did I said I was waiting for DH to come and DTD... rest assured, we haven't been doing it all this time (feels faint at the mere thought of DTD for two days straight).
So, apologies if I miss a few things or seem out of date but:
CBFM someone asked some questions about it. So far I've used it on two months (once after 4 cycles trying to time it right, once after 2 cycles of seeing what happens) - both times it worked first time. The peak showed and we DTD that day and the next. I've just used it again this month so wondering if its going to be 3 in 3. However, I've stopped POACBFMS immediately after getting the peak, as I can't see the point. I really can't believe its going to tell me much more if I keep peeing for the next four days other than that the surge of progesterone/LH has ended and I'm back to low fertility.
Announcements Totally with you in that FB is a nightmare for announcements. And I dread being confronted with the news face to face. However, what you have to try to remember (and I think it does help) is that people are not being deliberately insensitive - most of the time they are actually trying to do the right thing, but if they've never been through it themselves, they just won't have a clue. Its hard for us that have been through (and are still going through) the pain of a mc and the stress of ttc again, but for everyone else, it really was just a "thing" that happened to you, and a bit like a broken leg, as soon as the plaster is off (or you are back at work following an mc) people forget that you're still damaged/ hurting inside.
My sister was one of the "insensitive" people who did something that really really upset me immediately post mc. Because she was my sister, I could tell her so, and she was mortified - she said she just never considered that angle. So I think we have to take responsibility for our own well being and tell people if they are doing something that hurts us. If they're a true friend, they'll understand and if they don't understand they can fuck the fuck off so I think a true friend will understand if you say "I'm really happy for you, but [please don't surprise me news that you're pg face to face] [please understand if I find it hard to see you for the next 17 years few months] [can we make it a child free occasion]".
Also tell yourself its not your baby they're having. And there is no limit to the number of women who can be pg at anyone time. And you can go home and stuff your face with blue cheese, rare steak and red wine while they just balloon up like a michelin man.