The Elderberry Pavlovas are pimping everyday – a lovely thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 7)

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Newbies very welcome provided they meet the entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers) and bring a bouquet of sausages when they join!

Hi berries! Back from the bonkfest holiday. Dog has been hosed down, so has DH, both cats have accounted for and I'm collapsed on the sofa. Phew! AF considerately remained AWOL throughout, so even though I'm still going mental that she's refusing to show at least she didn't interfere with conjugal relations. Now CD42, lost the inner battle to resist pimping when I got home, still a no (shocker) so just want her to show up now. Although frog I like the idea that longer cycles might mean twins, I might cling to that for now!

Sidney my anniversary is next month, I'm desperate for a miraculous BFP before then as a present. Although I was also desperate for one before Christmas, New Year and my (old) due date. Fail on all counts. Better luck for you

barking poor you and poor Mr Sid. I have eczema down my legs and can imagine that on even more sensitive parts it's I'd also be annoyed though, think it's fair enough - just another straw to heap on the poor old camel's back!

bajas and boodle sorry AF rocked up. Perhaps you could ask her to give me a visit next time instead

pip nice of the friends to be considerate. Better than the sudden picture of a scan on FB which gets me every time, but still don't blame you if you had a little inner tantrum. I would have. But still, IVF appt! Exciting!

Berries!!! How are we this evening? thanks for the shag advice, or should that read advice to shag lol

haycorn good news that doc doing tests.

Oh barking I'm surprised you haven't gone barking mad, your poor hubby and poor you!

frog sidI'd love to have twins too to get it all done and dusted as only want 2 kiddiwinks!

Had to take one cat to vets this eve, she hasn't been herself lately and isn't eating much, vet says she is dehydrated and has very high temp, gave her a few jabs and if she isn't better tomorrow they will take her in and put her on a drip all this worrying about a non existent future baby and I forgot about my fluffy baby!

Barking AF is due Monday. This is always the lowest part of the month for me, when I brace myself for something disappointing while still clinging to a bit of hope. I do try to be optimistic but it gets harder every cycle. I have a Gp appt for Friday, and I'm going to ask what we're supposed to do next, and will probably beg for an HSG to check for a blockage. We won't qualify for NHS IVF (DH has 2 children) and beyond just wanting answers, I'm anxious to hit the ground running if in fact we do wind up going private in the future.

Meanwhile my cousin's idiot wife is still eating meal replacement shakes in an effort to lose baby weight from #1 (8 months old), and is a couple of months along with #2. Grrrr.

Welcome back Peanut. Sounds like a great little holiday away!!

Barking, I had eczema on my privates a few years ago due to stress and my GOD it was painful, and dtd made it even more so. I feel your frustration, but I completely understand that it might be a necessity to get it sorted before much more dtd can actually take place. I used a steroid cream on it, but TMI it never went too far into the sensitive parts so was technically 'skin', not interior, so not sure if it would be possible for hubby to use.

Sidney, I know we've said this before, but cousin's idiot wife sounds crazy. Only 8 months old and already upduffed with another is one thing, needing to get rid of baby weight is another (completely media induced) thing. Crazy lady.

DP has been using various creams prescribed by the doctor, and he got referred to the GUM clinic when it didn't clear up who cut a little bit of it off and did a biopsy (no dtd for 2 weeks after that!) to see if it was something different but they said eczema as well. It comes and goes and he's not had it for a while so it's doubly annoying that they're only now getting to him on the waiting list!

Watching last week's sad OBEM. DP out at the pub with best mate who's getting married tomorrow. I'm frantically trying to knit a bride and groom pair of mice ready for the wedding tomorrow!! Might have started a bit late but the wedding doesn't start until 4!! I'll probably be in floods of tears soon though which won't speed the process up...

Hi everyone, I haven't been temping but am about to start. I take it you can just go into boots and by a thermometer right? Can anyone give me any tips.

Hi Cate. It needs to be a BBT thermometer ie it gives temperatures to 2 decimal places. I think larger Boots may sell them but I got mine from Amazon. It's called 'Baby Mad' and cost just a few pounds. Do you already use an app to track your cycles?

Apologies for diving in and out with no involvement, I'm in a bit of a weird place. Have not TTC this month, no OPKs in the house and the only temp I have taken is when cooking caramel. Expect to O tomorrow or Sun but no DTD in the last week so no hope. Think my body tried to give me a kick today, have never had CM but today I had EW all over the place. Despite having no idea what is happening with everyone I hope you're all ok and things TTC wise are positive. I promise to catch up soon and come and fill this thread up for you!!

cate other tips... Take temp at the same time every day, or at worst 30
Mins before you wake up. So if you normally get up at 7 set your alarm for 6 or 6.30, take your temp then get another half an hours sleep! To help with that, get a thermometer with a memory function (the baby mad one has one) so your routine goes alarm, shove thermometer in mouth and turn on, snooze til the beeps go off, turn it off and throw it on the floor and go back to sleep, wake up, turn it on and view memory and record temp on app. The main two things you need to know other than that are about getting it in te same place in your mouth every day (aim for a heat pocket which you can google) and doing NOTHING between waking and taking your temp. Not even thinking for 30 seconds!!
May have cross posted but I know how lost I felt when I first started out...

I am moons behind but was it you cats or barking who was waiting for AF and FF said O had happened??

Not me merkin.
I don't usually get much EWCM, hence loving the preseed, but got lots this week - while camping and not dtd. Bloody typical.
Are you totally switched off dtd as well as everything else this cycle? Is DH being helpful and supportive while you're feeling a bit out of it after last month? Hope you've got someone in RL to talk to.

Hope you are well merk we missed you!

Cate It's this one I've got and others have recommended.

DH has not been great, I just don't think he 'gets it'. I did talk to a really good friend (while drunk) but felt v guilty as she desperately wants kids, is older than me and not in a relationship. I've been off everything, including DTD, since last month, but realised O was tomorrow or Sun today and suddenly got a bit panicky. However I feel very detached, like half panic and half 'well it would only be BFN anyway', its hard to explain. I get upset realising by Xmas I still won't have a baby.
Anyways I am sorry for disappearing, have missed you all. Will have a read back tomorrow, looking forward to catching up. Thanks to you all for being amazing, understanding and simply lovely. When you all get your Bfps and I'm left here on my own dusting the cobwebs I shall tell fables about you all

You'll get your BFP before me Merk.

pip why'd you say that? Tonight is my last chance of a baby pre me being 32 and 2 years since I came off the pill. I have great faith in everyone gradding before me!

You just need to pull yourself through this month merk you sound very down .

Welcome back Merks. So sorry you are feeling down. As awful as last month was for you it has at least proved that you can get pg which is surely half the battle. Every day on here I read about ladies who get upduffed after 8, 12, 16 cycles or much, much longer. We all will get our babies of that I'm sure. And when we do this hideous journey will have been so, so worth it! Having said that I completely understand your despair, I'm sure we've all been there. Take care of yourself and rant at us all you want! (((Hugs)))

Oh and there is a thread on here about women who have become pg after being sterilised (ffs!) so we should have no problem!!

What's everyone up to today then? I've got a wedding to go to, and two knitted bride and groom mice to finish beforehand! As well as shopping for a belt for my DP (he's best man and only last night realised he'd need a belt as the one he ordered online hadn't arrived). And walking the dog of course. Could have done with a lie in but woke up at 7!! Got the groom staying here so cooked breakfast this morning to see him through!!

Today I'll be busy doing sod all my lesson planning for next week. Very of all you teacher berries who have another week off!
Did two 6 mile walks and an intense Pilates class in the space of 4 days this week and am in agony and literally struggling to walk today so may go back to bed for a bit! Been seriously slacking on the exercise front lately so it's my own fault for being so damn lazy!

Hello! Lunch for my aunties birthday today, my pusscat seems better today so that's good. No DTD today, hubby too tired, aren't they rubbish lol

Have fun at the wedding frog! Today I will be hoovering up all the catnip on my front room floor and obsessively checking for AF maybe I'll tidy up a bit. Maybe.

Hi everyone,

Been a bit AWOL recently as have been lying low since this whole thyroid thing happened. Feeling brighter now altho trying not to think about not being in with a chance of conceiving just now.

barking hand knitted mice sound amazing- any chance of a pic?

thunder I've got one more foot to knit, then have to sew and stuff, will put a photo up if I get them done in time!!!!