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The Elderberry Pavlovas are pimping everyday – a lovely thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 7)

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CatsCantFlyFast · 16/03/2013 14:42

Newbies very welcome provided they meet the entrance criteria (TTC #1, over 30, TTC for 3+months, must have a special pot, NO instadiffers) and bring a bouquet of sausages when they join!

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EasterBunnyGirlie · 26/03/2013 22:55

Watching them just makes me want one more and more!!!

barkingtreefrog · 26/03/2013 23:00

Oh indeed. I sit there screaming 'I want a bump!!!' The dog rolls his eyes at me.

I don't want to be torn open to get baby out though. Nothankyouverymuch.

cherrycoconut · 26/03/2013 23:05

Good luck with your apt tomorrow Bunny I'm sure no need to be nervous but fingers x anyway x

Sorry about AF arriving Pip damn her. Merkin I can't believe your hours! I'm in Comms so on call 24/7 but more usually work 8-6 or 7 and a few weekends. That's bad enough...

Well not this week; plucked up courage to tell my (male) boss I was having a few health troubles today on account of not really holding it together very well these last few days. Didn't need to say much more than the big G word before I could see the panic in his eyes but he was very understanding in an awkward kind of way and said I should take the time I need. Obviously there is no real provision for managing my workload so I'll have to make sure that's sorted but it was pretty sweet of him and I will be taking the offer. My head's just too full of everything to be efficient at work at the mo as well!

EasterBunnyGirlie · 26/03/2013 23:05

I have to watch it when DH is out, he thinks I'm just torturing myself!

Bedtime now, up early for the docs in the morn! Results day!

Night y'all!

Pipbin · 26/03/2013 23:30

It's AF, but she's odd. It's like ewcm with blood in, and lots of it.

Bitch, I just want to hold a baby of my own, is it too much to ask.

Thundercatsarego · 27/03/2013 07:34

Morning all.

bunny good luck with the results today- let us know.

pip arse Sad

cherry that's really good about your boss support. Good.

merkin how many hours?!!

EasterBunnyGirlie · 27/03/2013 08:31

And the results are in..... Day 3 test all fine, hormone levels ok, no hideous diseases etc, got to have second blood test again as it didn't show any ovulation but that could be coz I had it on day 24 as I went with my average of 31 days and they have now regulated to 28/29 although it lands on a Saturday so I will be having a day 20 blood test doh!

So everything still up in the air, hubby has another jizz test in April so we shall see what that says!

Right I'm off to work, laters ladies!

Thundercatsarego · 27/03/2013 08:53

Hey bunny, good news!

CharmingCats · 27/03/2013 19:27

That's great news, bunny. And cherry, I'm glad that your boss was understanding - takes the pressure off a little.

OK....me, me, me.... when do I pimp with hope of an accurate result? Pos OPK on Thursday just gone, ov pain on Friday. Do I assume ov on Friday? As I don't know when af is officially late, should I wait 14dpo? I have my dildocam on Tuesday, which would be 9dpo, if I take Friday as ov. Could I expect a true reading with fmu on that day? Is it safe to have the test if I am pg by some miracle?

Thundercatsarego · 27/03/2013 19:32

Hi charming. When is af due?

Dildocam alone is fine if you're diffed- they can use it as an early scan method.

CharmingCats · 27/03/2013 19:40

Thunder, AF was due in January but never showed! I'm on cd100+, so not sure at all, hence not knowing when to test.

Thundercatsarego · 27/03/2013 20:03

D'oh! Sorry charming being soooooooo slow. Wot an idiot.

So ov hopefully happened Fri or Sat. People do get bfps from early like 8/9dpo but 14 or later would be a safer bet not to get a false negative. It depends in part how you feel about BFNs and if you did get a faint line but it turned out to be a cp. can you predict how you'd feel?

For example, I know my af is due 14-16days after ov now. I wouldn't test til after 14 days nowadays- that's because after my mc I feel strongly that I'm not just after a bfp, I want a whole healthy pregnancy and a real healthy baby at the end of it (sounds obvious but this is a change in reaction for me) so I'm not keen to rush getting the second line if it's not going to work out.
Hope ramblings make some sense....

CharmingCats · 27/03/2013 20:54

No worries, thunder - don't expect you to keep track of my cycles too! Your rwmblings make absolute sense. I can't tell you how I'd feel about a chemical, as I've not had a sniff of a bfp and there is a part of me that wants to see one! I totally agree about the healthy pregnancy though.

So, to sum up, I think I'll wait til Saturday 6th April, 14/15 dpo, as there's no reason to not have the dildocam. Just have to control myself til then, especially as I'll be on holiday from tomorrow afternoon.

Thundercatsarego · 27/03/2013 21:05

Sounds good lady. Good to have a plan though- you can always test a bit early if you get the urge!

Pipbin · 27/03/2013 21:16

So today I was talking to one of the ladies at work and she said, 'so you are off to a bigger house, will you be starting a family?' To which I replied 'well it's not as easy as all that.' She then went on to tell me that her twins were the third attempt at IVF. The interesting thing was that she had her boys when she was living in Sweden and she said that most mothers there leave having babies until they are over 35 so everyone has some kind of fertility treatment and everyone is very open about it. However, she is Serbian by birth and was getting married there when she found out she was finally pregnant and wanted to tell everyone. But her family wouldn't let her because they felt that being infertile was shameful!

Then later in the day I was buying a couple of bits at the self service till in Waitrose when I saw my fertility specialist was at the next till!

Thundercatsarego · 27/03/2013 21:39

Wow imagine infertility being shameful. Altho I guess a remnant of that must remain through a lot of cultures otherwise we'd all be much more aware of it like it sounds like it is in Sweden? It's a but like miscarriage I think- sadly it's so much more common than you'd ever know until you delve under the surface.

Sounds like a good chat tho pip

Pipbin · 27/03/2013 22:25

Its funny that when you start to talk about it so many people have a fertility story to tell.

CharmingCats · 27/03/2013 22:29

Hmmm, or people that tell you to enjoy practising....at least that's my experience of women at work.

CharmingCats · 27/03/2013 22:30

Sorry, am grumpy today. Going to bed now.

Thundercatsarego · 27/03/2013 22:33

Those people deserve a slap with a large sausage, charming

barkingtreefrog · 27/03/2013 22:39

Another friend is rumoured to be pg. With twins. Not heard it officially yet. I know they'd been trying as it was this friend that DP talked to about the SA only to find he'd done it the previous month. So they're a month ahead of us. I'm driving myself mad with trying to work out how far along she could be, as we've got our fertility clinic appointment in 3 weeks so they can't have been seen that long ago, surely they must have got pg before the appointment? But twins would be a bit of a coincidence? I don't know her well enough to just ask her direct out of the blue and although when I told her we'd been ttc she said they had been to, she didn't comment much further.
My turn soon please Sad . Somehow I'm doubly jealous at the idea of twins even though I only want one child!!

cherrycoconut · 27/03/2013 22:50

lol at thundercat! I think you're right though Pip, I've not spoken about my predicament to many people and yet two have had friends who've been through similar. Infertility struggles to conceive are definitely more common than you think.

Me, I'm still pretty wobbly and work is properly tough, especially this mornings interrogation by insensitive HR lady which made me sob my heart out. Aaargh, really didn't want to do that. Around and about at home I'm pretty much coping thanks to the support of DH and a couple of good friends which has been magical to rely on. Add a bit of pressure into the mix at work though and I feel like my head is so full it's going to burst.

So today I've written my task list up for my boss, briefed everyone, turned off my work phone and stepped away for a week. DH and I have decided to take an impromptu trip to the coast for a few days and head to Wales tomorrow; I can't wait to get on those deserted beaches, hike up mountains, feel the wind on my face and let go a bit.

Cats I'm totally with you on playing the waiting game, think I'd hold out if you can!

cherrycoconut · 27/03/2013 23:00

Tough call Barking but stay positive, sounds like you're just a few weeks behind on your own journey. Twins you say eeek!

EasterBunnyGirlie · 27/03/2013 23:00

cherry that sounds good (apart from HR lady), a week off will do you the world of good, you and DH!

P.s. do you realise we're are'nt as chatty as we once were, the last thread filled up in 7 days, this one is just trickling along!

EasterBunnyGirlie · 27/03/2013 23:05

Here I have decided that not getting my BFP this month is for the better, got big work piss up in April so couldn't be sober for that and get away with it and the holiday in may so I can have a few cocktails!!!