The big fat posifrickintivity, but only on a friday thread - TTC after MC and not lose your head

[Mummytothearkbuilder]

Ladies - a brand new lovely shiny thread for us to fill! Enjoy x

Hi all,

Just checking in, how are we all doing? Hope those if you who gave got your BFPs are feeling super positive & all's going well. To those of us struggling, just hope the posifrickintivity bubble hits us soon. 4 weeks post ERPC Weds & still no positive OPK. Getting really down about it now especially as cant really avoid the 2 women at work with their 14 week bumps. Just keep thinking I should be 16 weeks but I know the only person I'm hurting is myself. Bring on Sunday - going to stuff myself with eggs!!

Thanks Mummy, I'm feeling ok. It was unzipping a suitcase full of history! So many memories of people who are gone, and those special baby moments that I just want to go through again! I do think that the tears are cleansing, and they are getting further and further apart, it just takes so much out of me! I've done nothing all day really!

Cheers for the nice comments all. baking sound like you've having a pretty tough time of it and i don't blame you for feeling numb about everything. I do think that an escape to wonderful Yorkshire has to be a good thing. Are you originally from there?

Fx mummy

AF arrived this morning - gutted doesn't even cover it - I was just starting to let myself believe it could have worked this cycle - feel like I am reliving my miscarriage

I need some help / posifrickentivity to get through today at work and I have 2 questions that you may be able to help with:

I am only 8-10dpo so this is a short LP - can I fall pregnant with a short LP - can I do anything to make it better? I've heard something about vitamin B??

Secondly - I went to the drs in December as I had been trying since may and he said once I had been trying for a year they would so some investigations and talked about clomid. When I had the miscarriage he said the year of trying starts again - that seems so unfair - would you guys wait another year before going back? I have endometriosis and irregular cycles so don't want to wait longer than necessary and risk these things getting worse.

Sorry for the whinging waffling rant - you guys are so knowledgable and I don't know who in RL I can ask these questions too xxx

Oh dear mummy, I'm really sorry af got you. It sucks.

Ok here's some stern but friendly words from me.

1. Even though af's arrival is shit because you just want to move on and recover and have a healthy pregnancy, there is a good side in that your body is recovering- look its working again at least. Crappy silver lining I know- slap me if you like?

1. I don't know too much about short lp's but I think you can still conceive with a short one. Is it something like 10days + is 'normal'? I have heard of people doing things to lengthen it- not sure which vitamins, but maybe acupuncture?

1. Sod that doc's advice I say, and start fighting (politely). Arm yourself with as much information as you can and ask for help if you need it. My epac doctor said even though we conceived within a few months first time round we shouldn't hold back in asking for help if we had a delay getting pg again. So yeah I would- find someone who will listen and help you.

Better dash but hope you're ok.
for you x

hugs mummy. I think the first (and sometimes second) AF after mc can be a bit variable in terms of when it comes so I'd try not to worry too much.
It's still early days, so perhaps this month will be the good one :)

I don't have any suggestions on how to try and make your cycles more regular.

I agree that sounds totally unfair re the starting again, especially when you know about the endometriosis and irregular cycles.

So I'm back from a work trip and ttc started in earnest last night.
I'm almost certain that it won't work this month as the timings all look wrong, but you never know. Was 2 weeks post ERPC yesterday, and bleeding only just stopped the day before, so... Fx.
Actually tbh if I do get pg this cycle it would be terrible timing for lots and lots of reasons. But despite knowing this I'm still desperate for it to happen....

Just dropped in to see how you are all doing - sorry to hear some people are feeling down - sending all the best wishes I can your way - hang on ladies X

Hello and sorry to everyone feeling low at the moment. Freezing cold weather doesn't help either.

mummy sorry to hear about af . I guess the best way to look at it is as a fresh start. Re luteal phase length, fertility guru Toni Weschler says anything from 10 days upwards is absolutely fine, so try not to worry if you can. Agnus castus is a herbal supplement that can help and vitamin b6 50mg a day is supposed to be good too. Hope this helps x

I'm feeling a wee bit better today. The cramps have gone, and so has the tiny bit of pinkness I had yesterday. The Posifrickintivity part of me puts it down to implantation. at is due between Friday and Wednesday, so you never know!

Morning all, AF the bitch got me too today. But (mummytotheark) I'm trying to take this as a positive, because there is no guarantee that I would have ovulated between ERPC and now, so my failure to get pg this time around is just nature's way of ensuring I'm working properly for the next cycle.

[I'm not that gutted as I knew this was going to happen as I got a BFN on Friday].

Also, AF has shown up just in time for the 2013 bus. No pressure or anything but I MUST GET PREGNANT THIS MONTH. (setting myself up for a fail)

Do you think its worth going back to the Dr or the EPAU to discuss whether I should be doing anything? They muttered about starting investigations after two identical mcs in six months, but I've heard nothing since.

Hey all! Havent been posting as much mainly due to constant panic but wanted to pop in and say hi!

Yorkie- so sorry about fil. I have heard really good thinks about accupuncture, someone I know who had pcos had it and within a couple of months got pg. with a sticky one. Baby boy born last month. Maybe worth looking into- can also help regulate cycles.....

Mummy- see above too! Also, I would definitely get a second opinion on that. I dot believe the waiting a year should start again but it seems to depend who you speak to. Go back and fight it!

Santa - I would chase it up. I was fuming to be told no to investigations after 2, and from what I have heard, the more you fight the more likely you are to get a sympathetic person and get help.

Hope everyone else is holding up okay. Sorry it seems to be a stressful time for all at the moment, chocolate eggs will help this weekend :)

Sorry to hear that mummy and willsanta. As thunder said the horrible silver lining is that at least you know your bodies are working as they should. Still no AF or positive OPK for me (& def no pg). No-one tells you how frustrating the after effects of a MC are! How am I supposed to TTC when I'm not bloody ovulating?! Grr!

How are you doing ibelieve? :)

Hey ickle. Stressing. Massively! But just taking each day as it comes. Waiting for time to pass. Not a lot else I can do really. I'm such a nightmare, I think DH is sick of me freaking out every 2 minutes, but he is being very understanding. :)

Always playing a "waiting game": waiting for AF, waiting for BFP, then waiting for each of the 40 weeks to pass successfully.think I need to develop some patience. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way :)

Hi ladies, thank you so much for taking the time to reply to my (slightly depressing) earlier post - it means so much!!

I am feeling a bit better than this morning -DH is being wonderful about it - he is always full of bags of posifrickintivity bless him, I think I was just a bit shocked when it arrived this morning (although I was due this weekend) as I had no pmt, no stomach cramps or no massive headache (which is standard with me), the only things I have had - and still have - is really bad back ache (which i dont normally get before AF) plus it is a very strange AF - it is mainly brown brown (sorry to anyone eating their lunch) and is super light - pretty much only when I wipe and hardly anything on the pad.
Normally, becuase of my endometreosis, my periods are so heavy and painful that I have to take medication from the doctor otherwise I am house bound practically - any idea whats going on??? Could it just be getting back into the swing of things following the miscarraige?? I took a pregnancy test on Saturday (max 7dpo and it was negitive but no shock there!)

xx

This sounds like what I had last week. I rang the ward I was on to have my ERPC as was worried I was still bleeding from that & they said it could be AF (I'm not convinced as only lasted a few days) but the gynae nurse I spoke to said that my AF's may never be what they were like before in terms of heaviness, colour, length! I've since read it could be an "altered period", meaning the last of the ERPC remains. Hope I haven't added to your confusion!

I wasnt sure what it expect from the first AF but didnt think it would be this different - my miscarriage was 15th Feb and I had a positive OPK on 15th March so assumed everything was settling down. I had a complete natural miscarraige and when I had the follow up scan she said my womb was completley empty - who knows though, the whole things is bloomin confusing!! I really was gearing myself up for a horrific AF but its the opposite so I guess thats a good thing - if I have to have AF I would rather it be light!! x

I can't remember who it was, but I think I remember someone posting on here that their first AF started out really light for a couple of days and then got heavy.

Not sure if it's the same at all, but my first AF after I had DD (about 13 months later after I stopped BF) was really quite light - similar perhaps? body getting back into the swing of things???

I haven't had first AF yet after mc, so can't give my experience to that.

I'm hoping its my body getting back into the swing of things - I happy for it to be light, it makes a change from the horrible heavy ones I normally have!! x

Hi MummytotheArkBuilder - my periods since natural MC in Dec have all started with lightish bleeding on DPO8-10 and then got heavier through to DPO14. Really annoying as I started to hope it was implantation bleeding each time.
I used to have relatively light periods before DS, then they were 2 day quite heavy blasts - but not painful before MC and nothing before DPO14.

Doesn't much help you but hope you have lots of choc/drugs ready if things get more painful later on.

I am on CD15 - no sign of ov and DH leaves tomorrow for golf weekend so here is hoping I get some hardy swimmers up there later who can stick it out for a few days.
I am going to start the Easter celebrations early tomorrow night in retaliation - I am planning a Deeeelicious supper of Twirl on toast, followed by boozy bananas (baked with rum & sugar) with two episodes of Revenge to catch up on with no moaning in the corner.

Just have to get through Zumba tonight to earn it!

Thanks chocoate, my DH mentioned implanting bleeding when I spoke to him earlier (he is always optimistic) but I think it is the start of AF.

Enjoy your lush sounding supper and revenge (I LOVE that show!!) x

Oh Mummy - it "could" be implantation bleeding but I would out that out if your mind and prepare for AF. Then if bleeding disappears, you can always do a test (but leave it til at least DPO14-15).