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4everhopeful · 08/03/2013 00:09
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MummysLittleSunbeams ·
09/10/2013 22:29
CANCER-FREE!!!!!!
Too tired & drunk to write anything else!! 
4everhopeful ·
11/10/2013 08:36
Quick pass through, have to say HUGE congratulations to Mls!!! Bet you are overwhelmingly relieved! Think you've been an amazingly brave super trooper x
Moon l o v e d reading your birth story! A sentance I'm still thrilled to be writing! 
Sounded like you were very brave, and it was very painful the way he was born, stressful early days too, but bet you're an old hand now and you and your boy have found a lovely little routine?
Shroom all I can say is - 24 weeks?!?! Fantastic amazingly brilliant stuff my lovely!
Big waves and apologies for lack of personals, had to post when saw the news! Am BF my only 10mins in the day I seem to sit still! Summer started school last week, but knew my whirlwind girl wasn't a fan of 'mat time' from playgroup, but getting there slowly, and still tears every time i leave her 
so on early pick ups, though she's apparently fine after a few mins... Poor sausage had so much to adjust too, and is still suffering from this horrendous virus, been awful, Teddy got it too, both had conjunctivitis, streaming noses, terrible coughs, me too as well! Barely slept for 2 weeks! 
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CurlyLikesShortShorts ·
11/10/2013 21:05
Yayyyyyyy fantastic news mls you must be still grinning away. What a relief. Well done brave lady xxx 
Big waves to rumours and 4ever and shroom :)
Any news on your friend cloud? having been through it, it's hard not to think the worst but then sometimes it turns out well like rumours pregnancy with ds2 or barbie with dd even with a nerve wracking start :)
neeko are you stopping work altogether in July or just for the summer? 
sorry I am so behind on emmsy news 
for 4ever :)
CurlyLikesShortShorts ·
11/10/2013 21:07
You might need one of these too lovely lady
Just the one though 
Neeko ·
11/10/2013 22:43
Are you drunk or just skint after handing round all that alcohol curly?
The promotion will be over by July as I'm covering a maternity leave. I'll be skipping into school next session!
4ever sounds like you've had a tough few weeks. Hope it settles soon.
Half term here. Happy weekends everyone.
littlebellsmum ·
14/10/2013 20:42
Hi Moon yes, it does get easier and yes, you will get your life back and no you are most certainly not doing a crap job - based on the fact that your job is to grow that tiny, little baby into a big boy and he's put on a whole pound this week.
It's really hard when they are tiny as you and your dh feel like you are living separate lives - I clearly remember it with all mine that you end up writing off the first three to 5 months. I also remember choosing to ignore the books pretty quickly - you know all those booked that said to get the baby to sleep in the evening, you need to do evening feeds in a quiet dark room? yeah, right - even with my first, we were back downstairs really quickly so that I saw dh.
I can't give much advice on breastfeeding as I didn't do it for very long as mine didn't get enough milk from me but I know there are plenty on here who can give advice and am sure they will be along soon.
What I can give advice on is to do what it takes to get through this - with DD1, at 1 month we moved from breast to bottle and she became a different baby, slept well, got into a lovely routine and I loved my mat leave. With DS, he settled during the evenings really well but woke early and would not get into any sort of routine - for the first month, he pretty much slept with us and we shared the morning chorus - I went back to work when he was 5 months and was pretty knackered as he always woke before 5, often much earlier. I remember lots of going to bed early in evenings with him. With DD2, well. we co slept for the first 3 months at least - I didn't even share a room with DH until she was at least 6 months as we needed sleep and we all slept better that way. I found my sling invaluable as again, routine was not her thing.
So, you know your baby best and you also know yourself - could you got to bed really early some evenings? I know it will feel like you get even less time with DH but a couple of good nights sleep will make you feel much better. Go with the flow, expect to be tired at work - also expect for it to feel much less important and congrats on the weightloss Stop beating yourself up - you're a great mum, doing a great job and you just need to believe it
Neeko ·
14/10/2013 21:35
Hi Moon. Bless you, my lovely. I remember those days really clearly. Blue calls it being in the trenches and I think she's right.
I promise you it will either get easier or you'll get better at dealing with it!
You've clearly doing a great job as your wee man is putting on weight so well. Give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done rather than berating yourself.
I know it feels like all you are doing is feeding right now but he will get quicker and go longer between feeds. I'm not sure how strongly you feel about feeding yourself. It was really important to me but I would have gladly given the occasional bottle of formula if DD2 would have taken one. The fact that you have him taking a bottle of expressed milk is great. Expressing is a total faff isn't it? (And I threw litres of the stuff away trying to get her to use a bottle -sob!) I also remember thinking I'd never make it to 3 weeks and I did 13.5 months!
Just do what feels right for you as a family. There's no right or wrong way to be a mum. Every child is different and you know him best. I would say that a few moments of crying won't do him any harm though and you don't have to jump out the shower the moment he starts to grizzle. Try a sling or a vibrating bouncy chair for a bit of respite.
DD2 was an awful sleeper as a baby. She liked her pram though and when I got to breaking point DH would walk her for hours to allow me to rest. Enlist any family member who is willing to do that!
Btw she is a great sleeper now!
Don't worry about going back to work. The thing that has struck me most about being a mum is what you manage to cope with.
Finally take a deep breath and try to enjoy this time. This is the most intense relationship you will ever have in your life but it will pass in the blink of an eye. I'd love to be able to go back in time to feeding my girls in the silence of the night when it feels like the rest of the world is sleeping and only the two of you matter. (Only for half an hour or so tho)
Be kind to yourself.
MummysLittleSunbeams ·
15/10/2013 11:55
Awww moon massive hugs to you. Yes it is bloody hard in the beginning. Have you tried fenugreek? Its fantastic for upping your milk supply. Even if you have a good supply it's great if you want to express.
Secondly you must buy a baby sling. I wouldn't have got through the baby stage without one. I had this one www.lifftslings.com/
It allows you to do normal things like make a sandwich or have a poo with your baby sleeping peacefully wrapped around your body! Also you can transfer the baby into his Moses basket still in the sling.
Thirdly things usually get a bit easier at the three month mark & then the six month mark.
Lastly, please be kind to yourself. You are doing a fantastic job. Us mummies who have lost babies are at a higher risk of pnd as we have higher expectations of motherhood once our longed-for babies finally arrive.
Sorry if I've repeated what anyone else has said but I'm having to skim-read as dd2 has tonsillitis & is now on steroids for a bad chest, dh is in France this week & I'm operating on next to no sleep!
CloudOfStarlings ·
15/10/2013 22:27
mls you're supermum!
moon it's hard to believe but you will long for his tiny newness again in just a few months' time.. but yep it is so hard at the start when they are so demanding. He will start to feed for shorter lengths of time, honest! And sleep will come too.. if he needs changing/settling at night ask dh to do that & you just do the feeds if you need to sleep. Also second getting a sling.. both of mine loved the Close sling as babies it would send them straight to sleep. Is there a sling library near you rather than buying one?
It was bad news for my friend today btw, no heartbeat :( and a heartless doctor apparently 
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