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[MrsHuxtable]

As if ttc wasn't nerve wrecking enough, we like the extra challenge of getting that BFP while still breastfeeding a baby or toddler. While this isn't an easy endouvour, it certainly isn't impossible as many graduates on the previous threads prove.

I'm posting a link here for any newcomers about fertility while breastfeeding.

kellymom.com/bf/normal/fertility/

Am also wonderig if you'd like to have some sort of stats for the tread members. I'll just start myself.

MrsHuxtable, 29, ttc#2 from April, on pp cycle 4, luteal phase defect

I suspect it will go ok as he has hardly been suckling at all for weeks. He barely tolerated my left breast and would feed from my right for a few minutes at most. It made me feel quite sad as he used to love booby but I know how much he loves his solids and for him he obviously fills up on his meals and so has little appetite for milk.

I will quietly lurk on here look forward to hearing some BFPs in the near future xxx

Good luck sebs (mainly for you as it sounds like he will do fine!) Also I'm sure nobody would mind you continuing to hang out here with us if you want.

I definitely know what you mean about the sadness, just the last few days my ds has had a really sore throat and has gone on feeding strike. He asks for it, then gets extremely upset as soon as he gets anywhere near, I think it must have been really painful to swallow and now he's too scared to try but desperately wants the comfort, it's heartbreaking. I'm also devastated thinking this might be a sudden, unexpected end to bfing. He has not bfed at all for 48 hours now, I have been expressing twice a day but not sure that will be enough as I'm not very efficient at it.

DH is trying to cheer me up by pointing out this may help us with ttc, which is a fair point just not the way I would have chosen to do it!

Sorry about all the illness Blackberry, winter is rubbish, hope you're all on the mend.

Cat I think we're having a similar problem, no AF for over 2 months here and bfns, let's hope bfps (or even AF) arrive soon!

Wave hello to squidgers and joyful!

Hi all!

No AF and no BFP. But I don't really mind at the moment as I am very tired with dd and with working on my new business, so probably for the best. But having said that if only AF would come I could get on with things properly, until then I feel a bit ..... In limbo? Weird. Mister it is difficult waiting isn't it when you don't know how long you are waiting for! At least if I got AF I could actually enjoy my little glass of wine!

Anyway thanks all for telling me about your co sleeping. We realised we'd been doing it for a couple of months but guy accident when I'd got too tired for the back to sleep struggle in the middle of the night. Dh is in the spare room for this week then we are going to try to set up the cot as a sidecar cot at the weekend. I think we may need to think again when dd gets more mobile but hopefully it will be a good solution for now. Dd is so much calmer at night when she is with me! She doesn't even feed too much maybe just twice during the night, no more than before really.

Sebsmummy you have done a fantastic job with bf seb and you should be very proud all the best of luck for your impending BFP!!

Bb I hope you are all better soon. We are currently fingers crossed temporarily all in good health which is the first time in many months!!

By accident. Not guy

Go Blackberry go! Hope this is your month. You were right about the feeding gap kick starting things, AF arrived this morning. Probably explains why I've been quite so emotional over this nursing strike, but it's good to at least know where I am.

Ds is still refusing all feeds, the last time he bfed properly was Monday morning I hope it resolves soon, but am afraid he might never decide to start again.

How is everyone else?

Hi all! Checking in, still no AF here or BFP.

We are enjoying the co sleeping blackberry, my DM is not so understanding though! But I love it and am getting some great sleep.

Mister I'm sorry about Ds, I hope it turns a corner. Blackberry all the best for your marathon! .

Thanks Blackberry, I have tried feeding when sleepy / asleep and at all times of day, different locations, positions etc and nothing is working right now. He is back to eating solids normally so I think the pain that caused it has gone, will just keep offering and expressing for now and hope hope hope that he decides to start again. The closest we have got since Monday was last night and this morning when he fell asleep with his mouth resting on my nipple (firmly closed!) in bfing position, progress from screaming and throwing himself violently away from me!

Can I just ask you and cat about the practicalities of co-sleeping? I think it might help but we haven't really co-slept since ds was about 6 months and he usually just wants to play when I bring him into our bed these days. Do you go to bed with them or put them to sleep in a cot and move them when you go up/they wake up? Or put them to bed in your bed and join them later? Also, I don't have a bed rail so not sure it would be safe? Obviously ds shouldn't sleep under the covers, do you just put them on top or sleep without covers yourself? Sorry for all the questions!

Cat sorry AF is still a no show, I have been in that position so many times and it is so frustrating. I think the longest I had to wait for AF to show was about 9 months (Not due to pregnancy!), I really hope you're not waiting much longer. Do you feel at all like AF is near? I knew something was up for the last week or so as I got quite emotional and came out in spots for the first time since ds was born (ugh).

Oh wow! 9 months! Well I had to wait 42 days as AF arrived thus morning .

So first cycle ( not counting the one that started before my first AF iyswim ) was 36 days, second cycle 42 days.

I am now going to chart with a vengeance!!

And have a ( only a little one though, what with the co sleeping)

Hey all,

Well sorry about the silence from over here. I do not know what to do or where we are. So Squidger had tonsillitis two weekends ago. She had high fever etc so for a good few days breast milk was all she could manage. Was so pleased I was still feeding....now we have gone backwards in that it kind of reminded her how much she likes it/it's comforting/it's fun as she is now after booby CONSTANTLY. We are literally back to where we were pre any sort of weaning at 12ths. 3 mths of nightweaning and cutting back all reversed.

I am so torn. What do I do now?? She clearly wants booby. I really believe our attachment relationship is paramount so don't really want to deny her something so nurturing. I am 39 in Dec and will have to go through ivf for any chance of a sibling. I am hanging out here hoping to get AF back as need to have had 2 periods before I can go back to the clinic. I have to have completely stopped during any treatment. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck.

God I was so hoping AF would come back and I could keep going a few more months but feel like we were working towards a sibling. Now I don't know what to do.

Sorry, anyway how is everyone?? Hope you have managed some time to rest after yr guests Blackberry. So much work when people stay.

How's the charting going Cat?

Mister - my dd goes to bed in her sleeping bag in the cot - then when she comes into our bed I take her out of it and she goes at the top of the bed in the middle with just her toes under the quilt if it's cold. I don't use a pillow and DH is well trained now and can sleeps on his side on a inch strip Bedrail was handy when she was little but I don't trust it now as she is inclined to launch if she wakes. We are both very adept at grabbing an ankle whilst still asleep.

Sorry for all the moaning. Night all xx

Hey Blackberry, she's 15mths now. Seriously debating picking a date and going for a complete stop. Can't see how she would be so upset though I think having a sibling is really good in general - and I certainly want another baby - at this rate I am running out of time though. I just wish I would fall pregnant but no AF and short luteral phase normally with swimmer issues too so rather unlikely Maybe I should go for a sudden change in routine to try and force AF back - maybe try a 12 hr break. I really wish she'd self wean so I don't have to force her xxx

Hello to all the newbies on the thread!

Posting in part to get this thread back in my threads section as for some reason it had disappeared and I like lurking and keeping an eye out for your BFPs

All well here, 15 weeks now and down to morning feed only, although I think DD and I really like that cuddly moment so will be hard to drop that final one before baby arrives...

Fingers crossed for everyone

Hi ww!! Sounds so very exciting! Good to have you lurking!!

Mister, we were co sleeping by accident for a couple of months. Dd and I would lie down together to feed and fall asleep like that, with my arm round her. She never moved, I would wake up if she did, so I didn't feel,worried she would fall out. I did get a back ache however and also bad wrists although I think that might be partly hormonal.

Dd is nearly 9 months.

This weekend we rigged our ikea cot up alongside the bed as a co sleeper. It isn't foolproof, I wouldn't leave her there in the day alone as the rail is only a few inches high, but it does give us a bit more space to spread out and I can put her in there in the middle of the night and tuck myself up in the duvet for a bit which is great!

In the evenings I leave her once she is asleep for a bit and go downstairs but I think we only have a few more weeks before she will be able to sit up on her own from laying down and then I think we will stay in the room with her. I don't Mind because she sleeps through the tv and I have my dinner really early anyway, before I put her to bed.

Squidgers, that's a really tough situation. Are you with dd during the day? If so can someone have her fora few days as maybe distraction would reverse the number of feeds. Maybe she is still feeling poorly and will reduce feeds as she recovers.

Just read that back, I don't mean someone else having dd a few days continuously of course!, I mean a few hours a day

Hi all!

Yes it's good to have pregnant lurkers - we need to rub off some baby luck

Well Squidger is full of cold so nothing drastic going on here. I work 2 days a wk and she is fine with her Oatmilk (slight dairy allergy) but as soon as I come in...thing is its so natural for her to want to feed and for me to feed. Will try the nightweaning again and just ordered some of those cheap ovulation sticks off Amazon. (Are they any good?)

Thing is we are tired too! I know what you mean Blackberry! The days I'm in work I usually end up asleep with Squidger and DH ends up on the sofa asleep in front of the telly. Not v wild

LH surges to all x