TTC #2 and turning into a nut job!

[gemmeg]

Ladies, bring me back down to Earth before it's too late! I'm TTC #2 and its only the 2nd cycle and I'm already doing my own head in not to mention my OH.....we're not the kind of couple to have regular sex when not TTC (much to my disappointment ) so it's a real effort for DS to, erm, pull his finger out as it were and DTD every other day. With DS1 I had no idea about CM and OPKs and just used an ovulation calendar for timing but this time round I'm in danger of falling into the OPK trap! I'm aware of my constant whittling and DH even said that he hopes I get pregnant this month so he doesn't have to listen to me begging for him to do it just one more time! Anyone in the same boat?

Abibub that must be so frustrating!! With dd I tested day before AF due as was going away on a hen weekend and got a BFN. tested 3 days later (when I got back) and got my BFP then! But then this time got a BFP a eek before AF due and got a faint positive. I guess hcg levels in early pregnancy just vary lots. Fingers crossed.

Mummy hope you enjoy your day and manage to forget about ttc for a short time at least!

gemmeg fingers crossed for you and wintet too. Hope you both get BFPs in the next 1-2 weeks!!!

gemmeg I could have wrote your OP! We're now on the 10th month of ttc and I've been using ovulation sticks for the last four months. I was confident that this month would end with BFP but I tested this morning and it was as a - I'm now well annoyed as I've been suffering of pg symptoms for the last week (like I did when pg with my DS) so I was hoping for a success.

I still have to read all the comments but it is good to see I'm not alone

Hi ladies

AbiBub - not sure if it helps but I had a pregnancy test at the doctors and it was negative, couple of weeks later I wasn't feeling right so tested and it came up positive - at my scan I discovered I was much further along and it transpires that when the doctors had tested I was actually 5 weeks pregnant! Basically what i am trying to say is it's not over until AF arrives!!

Gemmeg - thanks for the info - 3dpo - it's going to be a long 2 weeks!! Xx

Evening, how have your weekends been ladies?

I've had a lovely one but feel distinctly like AF is on it's evil way. It's not over til it's here, I know, but my hopefulness has gone now for some reason. Stupidly poas this morning and of course it was a bfn. I knew it would be as I'm only 9po. I'll leave it now until Wednesday for trying again unless AF shows up.

Hey Ladies!

How has your weekends been? Mine has gone waaaaaay too quickly for my liking, and I haven't managed to get any work done either! Hey ho, catch up tomorrow I guess!

Well last night I decided that I was fed up of waiting around, so I said to OH lets just get jiggy! dtd, and had a bit of spotting last night. woke up this morning with more spotting, about an hour into the morning I started to get an all too familiar headache brewing, and then this extruciating abdomen pain. Went upstairs to the loo, (sorry if tmi follows) but good amounts of clots and bright red blood, and again sorry if tmi, that sort of womb smell that was present after I had DS. I have had that before when I had chemical pregnancies, so I can only put it down to that. Bless my OH he thinks its all his fault (even though I instigated the getting jiggy!). I have reassured him. I burst into tears when it happened, but am ok now, as my mum has always said that there is always an underlining reason why these things happen. I have a gut feeling that the very faint line I got on that first afternoon test was the remaining HCG in my system after a chemical pg and then by the time I tested again, and again, and again, they were all negative. I said to my OH about this, he still feels bad, I said to him, we can look at the positive of this that he may have just unblocked me to have a af and clear my system out for a blank canvas month! So it looks like we will be trying for a little longer. Does mean now that we wont have a 2013 baby like I hoped, but there is probably as good reasons for this, for which will not become clear till later on maybe! Thank you all for such wonderful support though, has really helped .

stone its not over till AF arrives, so keeping all pinkies crossed for you!

mummy - how was your day yesterday?

winter dont lose hope yet till AF does arrive, I am keeping all pinkies crossed for you here!! When is AF due ? (lets hope it doesn't arrive for all good reasons!!).

How is everyone?

Bless you AbiBub - sounds like a rubbish day for you Hun :-( I hope you are feeling okay. I have to think 'everything happens for a reason' line too as it was the only way I could deal with the miscarriage. I too am definitely out of the running for a 2013 baby as my long cycles mean if I get a BFP this cycle I will be due early 2014 - 2014 sound like a fab year for a baby!!

I had a lovely birthday thanks - I have a huge extended family and we all live close to each other so it was an excuse for a family get together - it's my Nans birthday too so we always try and do something as a family :-)

Stone & winter - don't give up yet - it's not over until the nasty AF arrives!!

Hope you have all enjoyed your weekends xx

Ahhh yayh mummy glad you had a good birthday, and a happy birthday to your Nan too. :0) its nice when family can get together and have a good time :0)

Bless you thank you, I love that you are positive and that makes a huge difference, as I am totally the same, we cant change the past, but only learn to cope better as time goes on. It also helps to deal with future things if we need to. I think you're right on the money for 2014 babies!! My af has slowed down this evening but im hoping that it actually gets heavier tomorrow for a mass clearout!! I am using towels this time not tampax just to monitor and also clearout as naturally as poss (sorry if tmi) !!

Hi All - I'm out, AF turned up today. There's always next month I guess. Best of luck to all those still in. x

Sorry to hear you had to go through that abi but I'm happy that you now know either way and can get prepared for the next cycle. Bless your OH though! He sounds very caring.

A quick question...do any of you give up little vices in the 2ww? I love my 1 cup of freshly ground coffee when DS is napping. Do you think it's bad to drink any caffeine in the 2ww? Other than that I drink decaf tea and water/juice. I also exercise 3 times a week (nothing amazing, just dance about doing Zumba in my living room). Do you abstain from exercise? Sorry that wasn't really a quick question!

Good luck for the next cycle cabbage!

Sorry to hear this Abi, thinking of you. All the best for the next cycle cabbage!

All a bit confusing here (although am resigned to AF). Last few days have been classic for me pre-period. Touch of back ache, spots, v emotional-nearly cried at kids birthday party yesterday! Today though, have weird pain like a stitch that's been sitting behind my belly button all day, and boobs v tender. (Tmi alert) - some discharge that looks as if it's bloodstained too. Think it's most likely to be AF with weird stitch pain, but have now given myself a glimmer of hope by googling implantation pain/bleeding...

Poas yesterday (I know, I know) - bfn. AF is due today acc to app...

Oh abi I am sorry to hear about your horrible experience. You sound very positive though so I'm glad to see you're doing OK. 2014 sounds like an ACE year for a baby birthday. Fingers crossed next cycle will be the one x

gemmeg How is your patience doing a few days in? I haven't given up caffeine during the 2ww but have given up alcohol altogether - can't handle hangovers with looking after DS is a big part of it but I want to give myself the best chance. My bmi is high so I'm more concentrating on that aspect at the minute and failing miserably!

Glad you had a lovely weekend mummy, and you're right, 2014 will be a fab year to give birth! It will happen for us all, I know it!

Sorry you're out cabbage at least you can get on with the next cycle and hopefully it will happen this time. It still sucks though x

Asmidge I've been stupidly poas too. BFNs all round. I am 10 dpo today and yesterday was convinced AF was on the way (think I have worked out I have a 12 day luteal phase) but today have had strange lower backache today which I never usually get with af so am a teeny weeny bit more hopeful. I'm not going to poas until Wed again when AF is due according to my app.

Oh bollocks. Just after I posted that I went to the loo and there was some bright red blood when I wiped so I am assuming AF is just a little early. Pretty sad now .

Oh well, onwards and upwards to cycle no.3 of trying, which is not long at all I know but DS was concieved when I was on the pill so I was hoping we would be lucky early on...silly me.

Quick hello to winterpansy... Sorry to hear it seems not to be this cycle, fx for your next one though. Xxxx

Can I join in?

Been ttc since mmc at 12 wks in november. I have DD who is now 2.5, have always found it hard to get preg. All my mummy friends are either preg or have already had DC2. Am currently 10 dpo.

I hate the 2ww. I always spot inthe last weekbefore AF and always convince myself its implantation bleeding .

Anyway wish me luck; due Weds / Thurs so not too much longer of the craziness..

Oh winter sorry to her AF made an appearance - treat yourself to something nice to make you feel better.

Welcome squigglypig - this is a fab place!! I love posting on here and saves my poor DH from me chewing his ear off about TTC - good luck Hun - I hope AF stays away.

Yes, I can't really talk to DH about it - he's lovely but always really optimistic "Maybe this will be our month" etc and I hate disapointing him. I know we're blessed with DD but I just would like her to have a sibling really. My sisters and I aren't partic close but I love it when I do see them and want it for her.

Aww leaf thank you for your lovely message, good to hear from you. How are things with you?

Welcome squiggly! The more the merrier! Sorry to hear about your mmc. I know what you mean about other mummy friends already being 1 step ahead. My DS is 22 months and most of the friends I made when off on ml last time are pg or have recently had a baby. It is hard but we'll get there. Keep us posted on your results x

Thanks mummy It's crap but I'll pick myself up and get DH all ready for round 3. He's still at the 'not complaining' stage of being used for a week or so per month so I'll take advantage of that for sure!

Abibub I'm really sorry to hear that. Hope you're ok. Sounds like you're being really strong.

Gemmeg a doctor once told me that when you first get pregnant your blood supplies are actually separate for the first ten days. He told me this because I was panicking about getting drunk and smoking before the BFP for DS.

Welcome squigglypig! This thread had become a lovely place to be for us nutjobs. Plenty of support and no judgement of me and my POAS habit

Hey All!

So sorry I havent been on, been trying to keep my self busy! Wowser we have a few more posts since I posted!!

Hello to the extra nutjobs on this particularily nutty thread! all good banter, tmi's and fun to chat about on here, and we all love been fabby supportive! Which brings me onto......

All you lovely ladies, thank you so much for all your kind words/thoughts. You are all wonderful .

cabbage sorry to here your out :0( but at least thats a new cycle to start from.

gemmeg I don't cut out vices (namely bcos I cant afford too many of them!!) but I think it's down to the individual, go with your gut instinct on it. I wouldn't think that one fresh cuppa would do any harm. If anything it could be beneficial if its keeping you content (content mummy means content body )Thank you, yep, fresh slate and all and OH is very sweet about it, but sometimes he's too much of a horny bugger, but I put that down to the fact that he's 5 years younger than me (could be a beneficial thing this cycle if I have the energy!!)

midgeThank you! oooh I really am keeping pinkies crossed for implantation, that pinkish in the discharge sounds promising, but I don't want to get your hopes up. Needless to say, I hope it is what you hope for. keep us updated?

winter big hugz. Sorry to hear AF has appeared. But onwards and upwards, clean slate and all, and lets hope this cycle creates good things . Thank you for the kind words. 2014 babies here we come eh!! .

nomore hello! Thank you for kind words and support, how are you?

In fact, how are we all?? I was shattered about half an hour ago, but just had to pop on and reply before bedlington!! x

Grüß Gott! (as we say here in Austria!)

Sorry to hear AF has arrived winter but here's to 2014 babies!! The number 14 seems to be coming quite important in my life....I was married on 14th Aug, DS arrived 14th Oct and with some luck I hope to have a 2014 baby . Something strange has happened to me this cycle....I am actually very relaxed about the 2ww!! Wtf? I honestly keep "forgetting" about it but then I am only about 4dpo so I may get twitchy just before AF is due.

Thanks for the info nomore I shall bear that in mind when I'm panicking about my constitutional coffee!

Welcome squiggly! Feel free to pour your heart out...that's why I originally started this thread as I didn't want to bug DH with my endless talk of TTC and it's become a brilliant support network.

Hi AbiBub - I'm good thanks. About 9lbs off so far on my crazy Atkins diet and I feel better for it. As of this morning I am no longer overweight! That has to be good for something!

I'm glad we took a break this month as DH put his back out just before I was due to ovulate, so it would have been a write off anyway. Looking forward to getting on with it again next month but have another 2 weeks to shift more weight.

Gemmeg - no problem. I'd never heard it before but if a doctor says it, it should be true, shouldn't it?

Well I'm clearly being mental this month as I just went to buy some sticks in my lunchbreak after promising myself that I would not get any until I was at least 2 days late. I'm only 11 dpo so its too early so I'll save them. Think I'm due Thursday/Friday not Weds/Thurs like I said yesterday. At least I've given up symptom spotting (sort've). Having had two pregnancies, I can say they were both different and that I had no conclusive symptoms.

So I'm now 4 days late and I either want a BFP (did one before bfn) or AF to turn up as this waiting game is driving me mad!!!

abi poor you.

Good luck to all of you waiting to poas any time soon...

StoneBaby - 4 days late sounds promising - are your periods normally regular?

I was feeling super positive today but then this afternoon someone I know posted her 16 week scan picture on Facebook - her due date is the same as mine and I just felt really sad looking at her scan picture of a perfectly formed little baby and knowing that's how mine should be. I am going to de-friend her (I hardly know her - she used to be DS's key worker at his old nursery) so don't think she will be gutted about it (I still feel like a massive cow though) but don't think I can read all her pregnancy updates knowing I should be going through the same thing :-(

Anyhoo - onwards and upwards - positive thinking all the way from now on!!

Hope you have all had a good Tuesday!

XxX

mummy so sad for you.

I'm normally very regular so I don't really understand.