Hey folks,
(there is a bit of potentially upsetting stuff in here about natural miscarrige, don't read if fragile/sensitive about this.)
I'm tired and grouchy. Went in for D&C on Friday but ended up miscarrying naturally at the hospital instead. I'm 'glad', as would rather avoid the surgery and associated risks but still was a pretty horrible experience - I had to put the baby in sanitary towel bag after passing it and wander the ward clutching it while I searched for a nurse to give it to :-( - got ignored at nursing station).
At the second scan they also identified I have a malformation of the uterus called bicornuate uterus. I was 'reassured' that this is not what caused this miscarriage as a bicornuate uterus is associated with higher risk of second trimester miscarriage and pre-term birth, not first trimester miscarriage which, funnily enough was not particularly reassuring. There are very positive stories on here of people going to term, having healthy babies etc, but lots of scary stats/experiences on the internet in general too which naturally I'm paying far more attention to. Feeling a bit exhausted at the notion of how anxious I will now be for the entire duration of any future pregnancies. Still bleeding, in pain, upset at this bad news and generally feeling f^&ked off and sorry for myself. DSiL obsessed with posting pictures and quotes on facebook about the wonders of being a mum and how empty her life would be without her kids which is driving me bonkers. Husband lovely and sweet though.
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Disclaimer: I'm not terribly good at remembering everything/everone I want to respond to on these threads so apologies if I miss important stuff!
I would definitely be up for a Laura Ashley/Cream Egg ante-natal thread rather than joining on of the others {glares irrationally in the direction of the September 2013 thread - with exception of dietcoke and anyone else on there from here!}.
Bodicea (cool name btw) - sorry to hear you've had strange news too. Is it something they can do much about? Your post sounds reasonably positive so am hoping so. As you say, there is something positive in knowing in advance about these things (either to prepare psychologically for possibility of complications or, even better, being able to do something about it if interventions exist).
Hope you enjoyed your weekend IBIP.
Bzzbee and JBrd - I'm thinking of throwing myself in to the job hunting too. I've realised I was also really quite liking the notion of a year off and not getting that is a further blow. We deserve jobs that we like and plus it'll be nice and distracting. I've applied for one I like the look of already (during a positive moment) and hoping I'll have a bit of luck with that. Fingers crossed for you guys too.
Batkins - delighted for you - wonderful news.