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Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

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Thundercatsarego · 06/02/2013 21:32

I couldn't bring myself to call her a bitch, we still need her help! Come on ladies, let's do this thing....

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Bodicea · 12/02/2013 10:43

I am a sonographer, for my sins. Currently sat in freezing cold lecture theatre on mandatory training, bored out of my mind!!

Bodicea · 12/02/2013 10:45

That last message was to cam x

Bootyboo · 12/02/2013 12:20

Hi all - can I jump on to join you too? Had an early mc back in October (got BFP, 3 hours later told the BETA was too low) found out just before I went on holiday so pretty shite time! Was my first pregnancy

Been trying since but no joy - think my body was a bit messed up for a few months after, even tho I was only 5 weeks, I was hoping that the old 'you are more fertile' afterwards might apply to me - sadly not...

And I love Cadburys Creme Eggs - any chocolate eggs - any chocolate really Grin xx

CamomileHoneyVanilla · 12/02/2013 12:47

Ooo, a sonographer. Very interesting. The sonographer who broke the miscarriage news to me was brilliant and lovely so am now feeling very affectionate towards them. Must be a bit emotionally gruelling at times.

Hi bettyboo. Welcome yet sorry you have to be here.

diyqueen · 12/02/2013 12:58

Welcome bootyboo and sorry you find yourself here. Hopefully your body will sort itself out soon and you'll be luckier next time, fingers crossed for you.

Thanks bakingtins and camomile, I'm feeling a bit better today. I think it was my friend's new bump that really set me off yesterday. Better get used to it though, it's only going to get bigger isn't it!

I think af - if that's what it was - has maybe finished now (but who knows!) so back to trying properly again this month.

bakingtins, how are you? Keeping fingers crossed for you, you so deserve for everything to go really well this time.

SpanishLady · 12/02/2013 15:03

will no doubt be wrong but... I think I can feel the start of mittelscherz today which if you take the day I started bleeding from my MC would make today the usual time I start getting it - I start to feel it and get a + opk around 13th day of my cycle - so I might do a ovul test to see - we arent ttc until after the next period so Im interested purely from the perspective of 'getting back to normal' and if I ovul then a period is 2 weeks away!

I am really hopeful

CoffeeandCremeEggs · 12/02/2013 15:21

Afternoon all. I'm lurking around not posting much and waiting for O. No sign yet which is good as I'm away from the sperm provider DH until Thursday evening. Am then going away again Monday morning so hoping to O in that window and get lots of action in. I normally o around cd17, which will be Saturday, so I'm hopeful that the timing will work out.

Feeling whingy and full of cold. Hope everybody's well. Any poas-ing action coming up?

SpanishLady · 12/02/2013 15:56

we seem to be in a holding pattern at the minute - dont think anyone is ready to POAS - unfortunately ):

bzzbee · 12/02/2013 16:37

Hello all
Great to hear the updates and welcome but sorry-you're-here to the newcomers.
Re:job hunting, I have sent my CV out for a few roles now, no responses yet but it feels good to be "out there". Work is dull beyond belief. I think they are deliberately not giving me loads to do on account of the mc, that is the only explanation as where I work is notoriously tough in terms of workload etc. yawn. I'm not bothered enough to complain, energy levels very low.
It's week 4 since mc and apart from a few days last week when I got pains akin to ovulation pains and the bleeding petered off, I have had continuous bleeding. It's like a heavy/medium period now (actually hard to gauge after the horror of a mc..it's probably heavy but my expectations have risen!). Is this normal? Could this be AF? I guess the answer is there is no normal now!
X

AmelieRose · 12/02/2013 16:58

Hi everyone, good to hear all the updates.

Well I POAS again this morning as AF is still late and I'm still experiencing symptoms... still negative!

Presuming my cycle is still mixed up from the mc. Would quite like AF to arrive so I can get back to normal. I had a chocolate fudge cupcake to cheer myself up. Smile

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 12/02/2013 17:02

Hello All

hi Booty - where are you in your cycle at the moment?

I am CD4 (of second AF since Dec MC) - and very impatient this time. Feel like I'm wishing my life away. At least my CB Fertility Monitor will start asking me to POAS in a couple of days (this sates my POAS need Grin)

bzzbee - have you had a follow up scan? are you all clear from the actual MC? I guess everyone is different, but would hope the MC bleeding would stop by 6 weeks? My first AF afterwards came exactly 28 days after MC, and was pretty gory for the first 2 days.
What do you do for a job? (don't have to say if you don't want to)

Bakingtins · 12/02/2013 19:33

bootyboo welcome, hope things settle back to normal for you quickly.

spanishlady you have the patience of a saint to be sure you are ovulating and resist jumping into bed. Hope it will stand you in good stead when you are ready to TTC again, must save you a or tune in ov sticks.

diyqueen I'm ok thanks. The world seems to be turning unbelievably s-l-o-w-l-y. I got BFP just less than a week ago and it feels like forever. Don't feel very pregnant. I'm trying to just take it as it comes and not plan ahead at all.

arigold · 12/02/2013 20:57

My partner has just left me so I will be leaving here, we let the stress get the better of us unfortunately.

I hope everything goes well for everyone and you get your bfps soon xx

Lieslvontrapp · 12/02/2013 21:01

Hello all can i join? I found out i had a mmc before christmas and I had an erpc. I'm now still waiting for my first af. It's been nearly 7 weeks and still absolutely no sign. Starting to think ill have a 12 wk wait like when I came off the pill last year unless I get pregnant in the meantime as we're ttc again but due to cycle I very much doubt.

Lieslvontrapp · 12/02/2013 21:06

Bakingtins congrats on the bfp fx
Arigold -oh dear I hope you can resolve things with your partner.

Bakingtins · 13/02/2013 07:27

arigold I'm sorry. I hope you can work things out. Are you ok?

liesVT welcome. You'll find plenty of sympathy for the WTF cycle on here. Hope AF shows soon and you get back on track with a more normal cycle.

Bakingtins · 13/02/2013 07:28

amelie FX!

SpanishLady · 13/02/2013 09:15

Hi Arigold - I am so sorry but as others said hope you can resolve things with your partner. Hope you are ok.

Bakingtins - I tested negative for ovulation so may just be imagining things - my horoscope (believe it when I like it!) did say today that I shouldnt try to push things along before they are ready - so I am going to get back in my box now!

Also I imagine being pregnant after a MC must be nerve wracking so taking it day by day is all that you can do. Think everyone is hoping the best for you.

JanieLovesHerThreeLeggedCat · 13/02/2013 13:15

hey girls, been a bit awol over the last few days and haven't had much time to read through so i'm sorry if it seems i'm ignoring anyone. hi to all the newbies, and sorry to see you here, but welcome to the gang.

i hope you are ok arigold and hope you have lots of support in the real world at the minute.

had a tough day yesterday. my best friend (who i love dearly) gave birth a week to a perfect little baby boy. i'm over the moon for them, she hasn't had it easy getting pg either. but i just wept and wept and wept last night...all night. i was reading all the lovely messages on facebook and i think i was just jealous that it wasn't me announcing such great news. that probably makes me sound like a right cow but i don't mean it it that way. DH didn't really know what to do and just let me get on with it, which kinda made me feel worse... i tried to explain why i was crying but he just said 'oh come on love' :(

then i got my smear test reminder letter this morning...more hoking and poking ffs

moan moan moan...sorry about that

shellshock7 · 13/02/2013 13:22

Hi everyone, I took myself off for a few days after that rant...I was SO angry ha ha am a lot happier now, had a fab couple of days off with DS and it's CD10 on Saturday so DTD can start up again in earnest...defo feeling like this is my month, as I say to DH bring on the turbo sperm Grin (totally TMI ha ha)

Decided to cut booze out completely for the 2ww, we'll see how I get on with that! Blush

Re the discussions on GP tests, I was thinking of going to see my GP if I don't get PG this time....if I say that I've had two miscarriages and explain how bad AFs are for me, do you think they may refer my early?

Hi to all the newbies, so sorry you find yourself here.

How are we all doing, any POAS action at the min? We need more BFPs!

JanieLovesHerThreeLeggedCat · 13/02/2013 13:43

hey shell glad to hear you're feeling a bit more chipper. i would defo get to the GP, you shouldn't have to put up with that sort of pain so it's worth a shot.

we're heading away this weekend for my birthday for a couple of nights and hopefully next week should be (consenting) rape week! love the term turbo sperm! bring 'em on!!

i should have said that my friend had her baby a week EARLY so i just wasn't prepared yet

diyqueen · 13/02/2013 14:31

arigold I can't imagine how you must be feeling, hope you manage to sort things out.

Janie, I'm already dreading my best friend giving birth and she's not even 12 weeks yet! I know I'm unlikely to even be pg by then due to our fertility issues, unless a miracle happens, which will be hard. But I'm happy for her too, just envious of her good fortune.

Af still hasn't completely gone, got caught out this morning after thinking it was all done, after a week and a half. Feel fed up bleeding and like my body's a bit of a mess. Ah well. Just booked my smear test for next week after putting it off for about 2 years, dreading it too but will be good to get it over with.

Bakingtins · 13/02/2013 14:44

Hugs, Janie better to do your crying before you have to face her in person. It's very tough to be torn between jealousy and happiness for someone.

Janie and shell Good luck with those turbo sperm!

spanish laughing at your horoscope Grin Hope next week it says "a long term project will finally bear fruit"

JanieLovesHerThreeLeggedCat · 13/02/2013 14:49

hi diy i know what you mean - the text that she'd given birth just came as such a shock last night as she was due on monday (my birthday) - i know people go early but i just hadn't prepared myself to get the news yet!

sorry AF is being a big tease with you... hope she finally buggers off x

SpanishLady · 13/02/2013 14:49

Oh Janie - I can sympathise - I have two friends due to give birth first week of March so will need to 'man up' when it comes to visiting them - there is another girl on the periphery of my group of friends who I have a love-hate relationship with who I know is TTC and lets just say sometimes she and her DH lack any sensitivity (eg when she got pregnant with first baby - her DH said to our mutual friends - who had tried for 2 years to get pregnant - 'I got her pregnant first time - easy, Im not a jaffar' - whatever that means)

so I will have to plaster a smile on my face and you know I am pleased for people but it will hurt I wont lie