Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

[Thundercatsarego]

I couldn't bring myself to call her a bitch, we still need her help! Come on ladies, let's do this thing....

hey santa yep that's me! Changed my name around as 'B' names were lucky on this thread. Sorry to meet you here but lovely to see you :) DD is 2 and 2 months as I suspect is yours! I had an empty sac too back in October (ERPC in Nov) and still waiting for another BFP. I was told it was just one of those things so not sure what it signifies if you have two in row. Well done on the positive attitude though, my EDD is fast approaching and I'm not sure how I'll deal with it :(
big wave to everyone else, anyone testing soon? I had my first smiley face on Monday (previously only used non digi or ic) it was pretty exciting!

FFS! 3 facebook PG announcements in a week. All due within a fortnight of when I was due too. I suddenly feel like having my own baby is a long long way away.

Oh saggy that's so hard, my BF was pregnant with her first when I lost my first, we were due 4 weeks apart, it's so hard to see what could of been....stay positive, it WILL be you soon

I know. Im just happy for them and sad for me.
I thought Id be discharged by the EPAU today, but Im still on weekly bloods and have to see the doctor next week. I just want to move on.

In bed already. Headache - boo.

I'm two weeks post miscarriage tomorrow. Research has suggested you generally ovulate between two to four weeks later so we were considering starting TTC again basically as of the weekend. I thought I'd be dying to, but I actually think we may consider leaving it until after first AF. Coping pretty well with the whole thing at the mo but not sure I want to push my luck on it as still feel somewhat fragile. Someone in rl also suggested that they suggest you wait as getting pg can deplete stores of folic acid - does anyone know if this is true. I expect its not as I'm sure I would've read it elsewhere if it was. I don't feel up to being pg again just yet anyway but just wondering. I also got that job I applied for believe it or not which is also adding to the wanting to leave it a month or two. Yay! It's not quite the change I'd imagined for myself but it'll do for a (very) short while.

I'm suddenly a bit surprised at everyone's monitoring. I m/c in hospital but haven't had any follow up at all. Is that something I need to worry about. I stopped bleeding about 12 days later. Nothing feels amiss. No idea about my bloods but still getting positive pregnancy tests. Does anyone know whether you can ovulate with pregnancy hormone in your blood (out of curiosity and in case we throw caution to the wind at the weekend).

I agree; we need some BFPs... Or at least some more ovulating.... Or AFs would be nice (we're not asking a lot really are we!).

On phone so struggling to check all of the thread. There was someone new - hey. Sorry you have to be here but happy to have you.

Does anyone have any nice plans for the weekend to distract. I'm thinking of venturing to the swimming pool and taking hubby on a date (have a desire for tapas).

Im sure I read in another thread that you can ovulate with hCG in your blood. I'm being monitored because the scan couldnt find anything in utero. It was a PUL. They were worried it might have been ectopic.

Oh right. I can see what you mean by just wanting to move on, I imagine its a bit of a limbo situation. I really feel for you hon and hope that it all sorts itself out and AF come ASAP. Hugs. X

Santa sorry you find yourself here but you are very welcome.

Cam congrats on the new job. Probably an excellent thing to have a positive new focus.
Cam & Saggy I had bloods to follow up the 2nd MC because I was still getting positive pregnancy tests. My levels were low ( around 100) and I was told I probably had some retained material, but I got a BFN 4 weeks after MC and a heavy AF a week later. If you feel well I'd do a test once a week until you get a negative, and contact the EPU if that doesn't happen soon. Quite a lot of us have felt first AF was a "proper clear out". I haven't heard the folic acid thing, are you still taking a pre-preg supplement?

Hello everyone, alright?

Re epau support- I didn't get any follow up either, just sent home and told to expect a few weeks bleeding and af in insert random number weeks time.

Arse re the pg announcements and people giving birth right now!

tins, I'm on a mission for bfp in March- can you wait for me?

thunder me too for march....flu sex sucks, but mother natures gotta be proud of me and give me my BFP, right

Camo i only had my bloods tested as the results of my d&c were a bit skewiff (i've never written that word down) as they thought i'd had a molar pregnancy - that's the only reason. there's not normally reason to follow up. and congrats on your new job! that's great news and definitely a positive distraction from the upsetting times you are going through.

thunder and shell i'm so with you on that march train! should've started sex fest last night but DH was being a big grump and spoiled the mood. it really upset me as i was all geared up but he was getting on as if it was a hassle :( had a bit of an argument this morning along the lines of...don't you know how important this is to me... and i've been waiting for this week for nearly 2 fucking months due to my stupid long cycles aaaaarrrrgggghhhhh. he just doesn't get how infrequent our chances are :( not the best situation for needing/wanting to jump in the sack tonight sob sob

Come on then shell and janie, let's do this thing!

Janie I totally feel your pain with the angst of having to dtd which makes the whole dtd itself so much harder. I, too, have been pussed off with OH but then still had to be wily enough to get him into bed when at any other time sex would have been the last thing that was going to happen. Af hasnt arrived here yet so sexfest won't start for at least another week or so...

Janie- yes, anyone deserves a bfp for flu sex! Top marks!

FX for a flurry of March BFPs it is then.

Another name change, didn't feel right to have one without 'DIY' in there somewhere!

I might be in with a chance after all, dp very reluctantly managed it, so you never know. I've spent the last couple of days spoiling him rotten to make up for it, janie dp is the same, doesn't seem to understand the time pressure or see that it's a big deal for me. I'm resorting to endless pampering/sympathising/back rubs/nice dinners... And reminding him that after these few days he gets a break for a few weeks...
How things have changed since we got together all those years ago!

saggy try not to worry too much though that's hard I know, those numbers are quite low and if not going up lots then that's hopefully a sign nothing's growing... I had a natural mc too and it took 5 weeks to get a bfn, had to keep going back for blood tests too, it sucks doesn't it. Had arms like pincushions. They thought mine was ectopic for a while as didn't spot the sac in the first scan (said it was a clot) and numbers going up for a bit, it was scary so I can understand how you're feeling.

it does all seem quite inconsistent doesnt it? I started to MC 3 weeks ago today - went for my scan the next day and also told I was PUL. Had bloods done that day and told to go back 2 days later - had more bloods and meeting with consultant - told to look for a BFN in 2-3 weeks.

I bled for 7 days (from first spotting to last time I saw any discharge at all) and then it stopped so waited a few days - so a week and 2 days from when MC started - and tested and got a BFN. I didnt contact the hospital to say as assumed they only wanted me to get in touch if still testing positive for more then a few weeks so have had no follow up bloods etc and assume thats fine as testing BFN means the level has dropped to pre-pregnancy levels?

3 days later (eg last wednesday) lots of EWCM but tested negative for ovulation that day and next and gave up testing as didnt matter as waiting for first AFP.

I am now hoping AF will appear either this Sunday or next Wednesday (if going by my usual cycle and treating MC as a period) - I do feel a bit pre-menstrual but then I also convinced myself yesterday that my boobs felt tender like they do when I'm pg so wondered if we had in a sense cocked up as we dyd (unprotected) on Saturday morning.

Im frankly mad but hoping Im some miracle and got pregnant without realising it and get to keep it so it woudl all work out.

A friend who is 39 weeks with the baby she conceived about 5 months after her MC came round yesterday and it was so comforting to spoeak to someone who understood what I was saying but for whom it wasnt so raw given she has a baby on the way.

thanks thunder and diy (nice name change btw!) it's just so infuriating. i'm out for dinner with some girls tonight - dinner club - so i won't be home til about 9, i know he's going to be sitting in with a face on him and i'll have to be the one that brings it up and apologises. i know he does want it, just wish he could behave as if he wanted me to be pg as much as me!

Oooh! I think I've just had ovulation pain. I was fairly certain I saw a little EWCM last night. I have done research and apparently you can ovulate whilst waiting for the hCG to go away. DTD last night, and if I can manage it maybe again tonight. I know it's early days, but, stay positive and all that!

Hi all

I've been lurking but not posting much.
I think AF came last week, it felt like another mini miscarriage, to the point where i had to leave work early as I was terrified I'd start blacking out again (I never normally faint, but I fainted a lot when miscarrying, and had the cuts and bruises on my head/face to prove it!). Though I hadn't really ever stopped bleeding since mc about 5 weeks ago, it seemed much heavier and has now trailed off so I am hoping it's a sign of normality resuming.
Have no idea where I am cycle wise other than that. Never did a preg test after mc (was the last thing I wanted to do).

Congrats Camo on the new job! I've had some positive feedback but have more interviews to do before I can celebrate.

I still can't stop eating chocolate and now it's gone beyond a joke.
Am determined (every week) to make next Monday the Start Getting Fit day. I might dig out the 30 day shred DVD (bought some time ago but never opened it as I was running to work and getting plenty exercise before BFP). I am like a sloth now, sigh.

My OH is really keen to TTC again(he has even given up alcohol for a while), but, after 3 years of me being the one encouraging us to TTC, I am not really sure now I want to go through all of that again. This mc has really knocked me for six, I feel like I am a shadow of the person I was (not literally, as I have gained weight post-mc unfortunately!).
Does anyone else feel a bit like that? Sigh.

xx

Bzzbee I know how you fell sort of. I've been wanting a baby for more than a decade! I got pregnant by accident and was SOOO excited. DP changed face completely and was happy, then I MC. Now, I'm desperate to conceive again, and DP actually agree! But am also absolutely terrified I what might happen.

Hi there- may I join you ladies on this thread.
I recognise some of your names sadly from the September thread.
For those I don't know:
I'm 36 and have 2 children aged 5 and 2.
At the end of December I found out that I was unexpectedly pregnant again.
I had always wanted a 3rd, my husband didn't- but not enough to be careful with contraception! He was shocked but pleased when I told him.
I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks and I had a ERPC as I was too scared just to wait and I wanted it to be over.
My husband agreed that we could try again- bless him, not sure I could have coped if he had said no.
So I got my period on the 12th feb which I was pleased about as I know it can take a while. I thought that I would buy digital ovulation sticks just to see when I am ovulating. I used when on day 8 and I was shocked to see a smiley face- indicating the LH surge and then the next 2 days it has gone. I did have some ovulation pain the next day as well.
I really have no idea what is going on. I know that HcG will give you a false positive on the ovulation sticks but after 41/2 weeks after an ERPC I would have thought it wouldn't still be present. Do you think I could have ovulated really early??
I will keep testing to see what is happenineg but its very odd.
I do want to be pregnant but we had so not planned this to be happening right now. I was thinking orginally that I might be able to convince my husband to try in a year or two before.
Nice to be here and I hope this thread brings us all lots of luck and BFPs!!

I remember you from 'September'.

Hi jmf - did you get a BFN betwen your erpc and period starting as then for sure I would think your HCG levels cannot be interfering - also when I used OPKs (also the clear blue digital) for my cycle length I am to start testing on day 7 - the two times I used OPks and got pregnant I got a smiley face on day 13 or 14. so the question is - isa clearblue trying to make us spend more money by testing needlessly or is it more plausibly that ovulation can be fickle and wont necessarily occur the same time everry month and therefore the period of time they give you to test within is to give you the best chance of catching the surge.

so I think it is oerfectly reasonable to have a + opk on day 8 even if you are not used to ov so early in your cycle. as I read on one of the MC threads when it comes to cycles immediately following an MC - think anything goes and can be 'normal'

did you dtd when you got your smiley??

Hi jmf - I think I ov'd about 8-10days after my natural mc. Had the ov pain and EWCM. But hcg and LH both give same result on an opk so it's not going to be a safe test to go by. You may have ov'd in which case AF ( if you didn't ttc) should at least come sooner, or you may still ov in this cycle.

*Shell Thunder Janie" - I too am trying to battle through "sex week" with a stinky cold. Dh got a bit of shock last night when I had a coughing fit mid go He has also made comments like "you have to make me want to have sex" ( or some such other waffle) as he feels like "sperm donor" - but I don't think he really means it but maybe I should stop saying "Sex me now, big boy"

Hey y'all. Still here. Somewhat surly. In 2ww limbo but utterly convinced this is not my month. AF due Wednesday, assuming 10 day LP holds.

Sorry to see new people. Hope everyone's holding up.

Hi all, can I join in? Waiting for the post MC bleeding to stop then getting back to TTC.