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Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

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Thundercatsarego · 06/02/2013 21:32

I couldn't bring myself to call her a bitch, we still need her help! Come on ladies, let's do this thing....

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ChocolateCremeEggBag · 21/02/2013 18:30

Hi Christine - sorry that you are here, but you are among slightly mad friends

GardenWorm · 21/02/2013 20:24

Ha ha choccremeeggbag your:
He has also made comments like "you have to make me want to have sex" ( or some such other waffle)
just made me lol - particularly the waffle part!!!

I have decided to be a bit more glass half full - a couple of friends are going through far worse than me at the moment, time to appreciate just what I have and how lucky I am. In agreement; BFP's all round for March.

Hello Christine and welcome Smile

jmf294 · 21/02/2013 21:41

Thanks- interesting to hear that it could be ovulation on day 9- we are TTC this month and have been practising but it does get a bit repetitive every night!
I don't feel lucky and I am so bad at waiting- roll on mid-march and testing!!

Hi Christine- sorry for your loss, it's so rubbish!

JanieLovesCake · 22/02/2013 08:26

Woohoo we're back in the game! Kissed and made up. Come on little swimmers!! Happy Friday everyone :) xxx

JanieLovesCake · 22/02/2013 08:27

Oh hi Christine, welcome to the crazy house. Hugs xxxx

Thunderbuns · 22/02/2013 08:29

Cd1 here. OH announces he has agreed to go and work away for a few days 'the week after next'. FFS.

JanieLovesCake · 22/02/2013 09:05

Oh thunder. Jesus. Is there any way he can change it?

shellshock7 · 22/02/2013 09:18

Will catch up properly in a bit..but thunder NOOOO! This can't happen, March is your month...can you go with him and stay in his hotel room, ready and available to DTD at all times? Grin

Seriously tho, would that work...his work wouldn't even have to know you were there?

Thunderbuns · 22/02/2013 10:15

Thanks girls, I knew you'd understand my angst! Not sure if he can change it, he doesn't even know exactly what days it is yet. Basically I've told him that he needs to be around for the second half of the week at least. He works for himself so it's very difficult to turn down work when it comes up, even if they can't bloody tell him when exactly it is Grrr!
shell I could go with him- they wouldn't mind at all. Trouble is my new work definitely would! Damnit, just hoping that he can be here for the crucial time otherwise I fear for my sanity.

How's everyone else doing today? janie good work on the making up!

Anyone wanna be cycle buddies?

littlemissnorthernbird · 22/02/2013 10:36

Hi everyone, am so happy today! Don't laugh...but first month using CB ovulation sticks and have got my first smiley face this morning!!! After months of my body feeling completely messed up I'm so happy that I am getting back to some sort of normality. I could tell that ovulation was around the corner as started getting cramps the other night so feeling more intune with my body. So let the weekend baby dancing commence! I know how you feel Thunderbuns with the frustration of getting oh to be around at the right time. My oh has his own business and it really can mess up him being around at the right time! Hence why I have resorted to the ov sticks so can def pinpoint when we need to dd! Not very romantic I know...(smile)

WillSantaComeAgain · 22/02/2013 12:47

Hello all, DH away and been having a bit of a wobble, having thought I was fine. I've realised that unless I conceive this month (and remember, only had the ERPC on Monday), I'm going to miss the 2013 bus. Arrggghhh.

So, after successfully using the CBFM twice (if you count 2 MMCs as "success") my question is, will it work now, or do I have to wait till AF comes along. I think I read that HCG can get muddled up with LH- surely not, otherwise your CBFM would show a second peak at the end of a cycle in which you conceive?

Oh dear, this could become an obsessionat least we've all got that in common too Grin

Bakingtins · 22/02/2013 13:47

Sorry, Santa, you do need to wait for a period. My (borrowed) CBFM totally missed my ovulation peak but did tell me that I ovulated was pregnant at the end of the cycle when I conceived the baby I then lost in September. It can't distinguish between HCG and LH.

Thunder you have to sort that DH of yours out. March BFPs and Christmas babies are on the cards. Hope you can rejig things to suit.

Bakingtins · 22/02/2013 13:48

Good luck littlemiss and welcome Christine

SpanishLady · 22/02/2013 13:55

littlemiss - I understand - I always do a little jig of glee when the smiley face beams up at me - strangely DH always looks abit terrified!

good luck...know what you'll be up to tonight!!!!

Bootyboo · 22/02/2013 15:53

Hi all - particularly new ladies - baby dust to you all

Well I had the dye in tubes test - not something I'd want to repeat ouchy & had the joy of wearing a sanitary pad the size of a single bed duvet that they kindly gave me for the rest of yesterday but.... all looked clear so can't moan too much & just waiting for my peak on Clear Blue too.

On day 10 now so shouldn't be long - annoyingly husband is going away on a boys trip rolls eyes in a few days which might be just before ov so I am a little stressed about timing this month too. Seems such a waste to miss it & have to wait a whole other month. we've already negotiated what days we'll bd leading up to him going - so romantic lol. I hope some of us are lucky this month!!!

JanieLovesCake · 22/02/2013 18:59

So girls, what are your thoughts on having some wine during fertile days?

jmf294 · 22/02/2013 19:13

Janie- I think wine could help get you in the mood on fertile days!

Good luck littlemiss and I hope all absent partners are around for those vital days.
Hope you aren't sore Bootyboo- and hope it brings a positive result later this month.

I am still using the digital sticks even though I had a smiley face randomly on Tuesday.
Tonight we are all going out for my fathers birthday- I should have had my 12 week scan on Monday so had originally planned to tell them all tonight:(
Oh well- onwards and upwards!

Mummytothearkbuilder · 22/02/2013 19:52

Hello ladies - please can I join you?

I had a miscarriage last Friday after 2 long weeks of spotting and scans - I have stopped bleeding today and had a scan where they confirmed my womb was completely clear and we can start ttc again. They looked at my ovaries and said they looked normal but not about to release anything at the moment. I have really irregular and long cycles and got quite stressed when ttc before so not sure whether to use OPKs or just go for the more relaxed approached??

This will be baby number 2 for us - I already have a son who will be 4 in April and am stressed at the big age gap (although nothing I can do!!)

The support in here when going through the miscarriage was amazing and it would be great to share the ttc journey with you guys Smile xxx

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 22/02/2013 21:12

Hi MummyArk - I am a bit a lot of a control freak and I love my CBFM in that it gives me the highs and the peak fertility. My DS is 2.4 now and I'm 36.5 so while I know I should relax, I want to make sure I maximise my chances.

I'm not so worried about the age gap though, I fought with my brother who is 18 mo younger until we were in our 20's, I was much closer to my little brother and sister who are 7 and 9 years younger. We are all good friends now and the gap doesn't mean that much. At least he'll be able to help out when you do get number 2, and will be much more able to understand what is going on.

Janie - I think a little wine will just help to relax us all (and help any reluctant sperm providers Grin)

My CBFM is showing 4th high today, so hoping for a peak tomorrow, remember that sperm can live for 5 days up there so if DP/DH is going away make sure you DTD before he goes. Send him off with a smile so to speak!

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 22/02/2013 21:45

Hellooo! Grin
Dont worry about the age gap! My youngest is 14! Confused I think kids either fight or they don't whatever their ages!

WillSantaComeAgain · 22/02/2013 21:46

That makes me feel better chocolatebag -the age gap is really bothering me, esp when I see all my more fertile friends have they not heard of contraception with their perfect 2 yr age gap, or less "because you know, the funny thing is, we weren't even trying."

Urgh. Can you believe there were two of my friends giving birth as I was getting my diagnosis of a mmc. Such irony. On a brighter note, me third glass of wine has gone down very nicely. Grin

DIYandEatCake · 22/02/2013 22:06

janie I think yes to wine. I was really strict first time round but thinking about it logically it takes a week or so for the embryo to be connected with your blood supply... so I'll have a drink or two up to when I think I've ov'd and then hold off (am limited by still bf dd though so can't get trolleyed anyway).

mummyark sorry you're here. I'm ttc baby no 2 as well. I'd never used opks before but caved to temptation and did this cycle (first proper one after mc), and was quite surprised as I ov'd later than I would have assumed from the signs I've been going by. Made me think maybe I've been timing it wrong all along, and has definitely been useful in that respect.

thunder - noooooo! - fingers crossed your oh is around at the right time after all.

Well I'm a couple of days after ovulation (can't do cds really as had strange 2 week af) so dp gets a break for a while, which I think he is very relieved about. So that makes it a wait til about the 6th March...

DIYandEatCake · 22/02/2013 22:11

santa I'm not sure there is a perfect age gap. I thought I wanted a 2 year one but dd is coming up two and is very needy at the moment, in retrospect I'm sort of glad that I've got a longer gap than planned. If it makes you feel any better to know, I taught a 7 year old a while back who had a baby brother and was completely and utterly besotted with him.

SaggyOldClothCatpuss · 22/02/2013 23:27

I actually think my potential age gap is great! Dcs 16 and 14 are independent, sensible, caring and are gagging for a baby brother or sister. We will have built in baby sitters,Grin Baby will have older siblings for advice, spoiling and an escape from Mum and dad, DP and I only have one toddler to contend with and DD and DS get to see how much hard work babies are, and hopefully realise they need to be responsible with their bodies.

Mummytothearkbuilder · 23/02/2013 00:19

I know I worry about the age gap but I'm sure once it happens I will be fine - we had to wait a while as I knew we couldn't afford 2 lots of nursery fees so always knew it would be at least a 3.5 year gap. I will always find something to worry about and it's normally something I can't control. I thought the bleeding had all stopped but I have had some random pain and spotting this evening so guess I will have to wait a bit longer before ttc again - hopefully it won't be long x