Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

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I couldn't bring myself to call her a bitch, we still need her help! Come on ladies, let's do this thing....

thanks Cam - I was worried I would come across as being precious - I dont expect people to dim down their excitement or even care about my situation as they can only live their lives but I did think she could have talked about something else at least for part of the afternoon.

My DH is planning all these social events for us and I dont want to go - I dont want to be a shut in and act all woe is me but I want to regroup first - I want to be nice and quiet and relax in my own little universe for a while - I dont want to go tearing around getting drunk and staying up to 6am - my DH doesnt understand this and thinks it would be good for me.

I know these arent the only answers but right now only 2 things will help me: 1) a baby 2) everything to be over in that regard eg be 50+ and start menopause so I can let it go

I was really happy on Sat as well - we dtd for the first time since I MC'd and it was lovely not to be baby related and I felt good that we can passed another milestone.

Hi fod, really tough times for you I know, unfortunately no one can say how it will be...I hope it's over quick now and you can start moving on. Second cam with the breathing, at least you'll know abt that from labour....and wine helped me, not everyone's way I know but over the counter pain relief ain't the best.

booty I knew nothing abt MC before mine and then found out so many people had had them It is so unfair and so sad.

Oh spanish hope you're ok...I went a bit wild after my first MC with nights out and it was daft cos I'd cry at end of the night drunk, then the next day hungover! Didn't make the same mistake this time round (tho DS is here now) and felt a lot better for it. Your DH prob just wants to make you feel better and thinks the quicker you get back to normal the better, hope you can talk it thru and feel a bit better soon

Nothing to report for me....just time is going sloooooooow, CD12 is that it?!

Hi ladies. Been away for a bit again. Trying to get my head together, being a bit useless recently. Hi to all the newbies, sorry to see you here.

To whoever asked about books (sorry, I am on phone) I have just bought 'gone girl'. Not started reading it yet, but is meant to be very good.

Completely get what you all mean about insensitive people too. I can't work out if it is me being overly sensitive ( which I know I am) or if people are actually just being complete arses at the moment. Suspect it a mix of both, which is why I am hibernating in the house and trying not to see anyone. Makes going to work tricky though!!!

Hello newbies and welcome to the last place in the world you wanted to be but under the circumstances is a good place to be.
Fod I really hope things get moving for you soon x

Question; do OPK's do the job as well as temping? (Honestly think I will mess up temping sounds too complex for my frazzled brain!)
Not convinced I'm ovulating. Also which brands do you use and what day do you start??? Thank you!

Haven't been on here for a while sorry to see the newbies. It's been nine weeks now since erpc and still haven't had af, got a negative preg test after about four weeks. Is it normal for af to take this long? It's getting me really down now :(

Hey ibip that's our book club book for next month, it looks really good (I sneakily read the start of it). This month is 'one for the money' which I haven't even started yet oops!

Flower my AF took 10 weeks to come, like you, I was beginning to get panicky. Are your cycles normally quite regular? I put mine down to having 50 day cycles but really there's no set time for them to come back. I really understand your frustration at just wanting to get on with things :( think if they don't come back within about 14 wks then you're advised to let your dr know, although I'm not sure what would do. I hope they come back soon x

garden I was totally baffled by temping, also i read that it changes after ovulation so dies that mean you've missed the boat? I didn't get it! But then I'm the sort if person that doesn't always read the instructions! Re opks, I tend to use Internet cheapies on eBay, mega cheap. I did splurge on some clearblue ones this month, so bloody expensive though!

Hi all, I've been a bit quiet on here recently, but have been reading... Hope you're all doing OK!

I can completely sympathise with the feeling of not wanting to go out and socialise, I more or less barricaded myself up at home pretty much during and after my mc/erpc. Everyone is different, but for me, it was the right thing. I didn't want to have to socialise or having to make small talk, I just wanted to live in a little safe bubble for a while, to be able to come to terms with what was happening.
The only people I felt comfortable talking to were the friends who I knew had also had mc... Where I didn't have to explain anything, they knew what I was going through and how I felt. I spent hours on the phone with them.

Well, my af has just come back for the first time, 5 weeks after my ERPC. I had been using OPKs to track what was going on, but did not pick up anything. Did I ovulate? I had ewcm on a number of days, but quite random. Who knows...
Hoping it's onwards and upwards from now on!

Hello everyone. floweroct, sorry it's taking so long for you, that must be a worry, and I so know what you mean about wanting to get on with things. Nice to see you again ibip, hope you're ok, I'm feeling pretty low too at the moment and just want to be pregnant again.

Are you still there thunderbuns? It looks like I'll be joining you in waiting another month thanks to poorly dp - thought I'd ov'd but caved and bought an opk and today's the day and he refused last night as he was tired and says he's not up for it today as he didn't sleep well and feels a bit funny (and is at work till quite late). Aaaaargh! I could understand if he had flu or something, if I was him I'd make an effort, but perhaps my longing to be pg again is making me a bit selfish. Feeling fed up and glum anyway.

Hi everyone, I, too have been rather quiet. Partly because I'm out this month but also because I'm busy and trying not to think about ttc too much.

Welcome to other newbies, sorry you're here. fod particularly horrible time for you, hope you're ok.

queeno I'm here! My oh had proper flu and he did try bless him, but no joy so I feel your pain. Af due for me between thurs (cd29 like the good old days) and next tues (day34 like last cycle) or at any time really.

Hey pink.

floweroct you could always ask for some advice re af if it doesn't come soon? It is horrible doing the waiting and not knowing game.

Hello All

Fod hope things have restarted for you - would you want to go for medical management or an ERPC if MC doesn't come naturally? As I would keep ringing EPU and see if they'll seee you back sooner than I assume they've said. It's tough not knowing what will happen.

Flower - I would second the calling either GP or the EPU again to see if they can give you any more advice?

Hi Shell CD 11 today for me - first High on the CB Fertility Monitor so the sex festival starts up tonight Have got zumba tonight too so busy busy. Garden - I can't work out temping and couldn't get cheapy OPK's to work (or I never ov'd when using them) so spending far too much on CB tests.

Keep seeing lots of bumps at work, but no one who knows about my MC. I think I'm going to find it the hardest when it get's closer to the due date, when I'm still at work but should have been on maternity leave. We have our busiest time in July and was looking forward to skiving off missing the fun!

Fod - hope you are ok.

Flower - I now exactly how you feel as I am a week behind you and its been almost 8 weeks since my erpc and no AF. I'm thinking I will wait until 10 weeks and then go see the GP. I did have to wait about 10 weeks for my AF after coming off the pill so its not a completely unexpected. Hope we both get our AF soon!

Ah thunder, I know that feeling. Avoiding thinking about it. Finding that hard right now though. Not long til you will be back in the game :)

Choc - they are everywhere aren't they?! Bumps all round!! Boo hiss. Doesn't help that I work above a maternity clinic, so regularly see bumps anyway. Pah.

So, am on cd10, and all of a sudden earlier had, Erm, quite a bit of ewcm. Don't usually even see this for another 4 days. Could my cycles be that messed up that it is now ov time early?! I hope not, DH is working late for this week so no time at all to dtd!!! Waaaaaaaahhh!!!!

Jump on him in the morning just in case IBIP!
Nice to see everyone checking in - hello to jbrd garden flower janie thunder and anyone I missed.

Thank you Janie and ChocCremeEggBag - gonna splurge on the CB and see what happens......

Yeah ibip, any chance of some morning lovin?

tins how are you doing?

garden yeah I tried cheapies, got confused, and then tried cb digi. Started on cd10, got smiley on cd13, very simple to use. Being able to use fmu especially makes them a winner for me.

GAH! DP has been out of action this week. He's not feeling great, we have a zombie bug going round here, and has pulled his neck lifting paving slabs. It's ironic really! We've tried to DTD 3 times this week and have ended up giving up and just going to sleep!
Given how early days it is, and dps big turn around on TTC I'm trying to not look remotely bothered and just go with the flow, and i know obsession is not a good thing, but inside I'm doing a dance of frustration!
I'm still waiting for AF to return post mc, and I feel like its on its way but no sign yet. I hope it hurries up. I would like to feel back to normal!

Sorry to hear your DHs are not cooperating, Queen and Saggy. It is very frustrating. I did not seem to be able to get DH to grasp that if we missed an opportunity it was a whole month to wait. He's not normally a stupid man.....

Hi thunder. I'm ok, thanks for asking. Nothing to report. I'm 6+3 and prev have miscarried between 8-10 weeks so those weeks are going to be difficult. Trying not to plan ahead at all, but of course it does affect all the decisions we make for later in the year, so putting them off until after Easter. Get a bit cross with DH as he keeps asking "How's Keith?" (Keith Cheggers = preggers = pet name for all prev bumps) and I'm thinking "I have no idea, I'd love to say fine, for all I know there is an empty sac there and I'm deluding myself"
Sorry, turned into a bit of a rant!

I haven't joined an antenatal thread, there are just too many people and they are all discussing prams etc already. I'm waiting for a little flurry of BFPs which of course are going to come soon and then we'll start a Laura Ashley/Creme Egg pregnancy thread.

Sex festival lol! Love it!! I'm going to sell it to hubby as that this month - last month I kept getting 'What, again!?' he's no spring chicken now bless him

I use the Clear Blue Fertility Monitor - have to say its really good (not sure that hubs would agree with all those high days tho!). I'm going to see Dr Shaggy again tomorrow & get the HSG (dye in tubes) done - bit nervous about it but I've read it can clear out any cobwebs & a lot of ladies get pregnant soon after. Worth a go anyways

For me one of the worst thing is the endless waiting and constantly wondering to myself 'will I, won't I' get pregnant again - so draining :( Just all seems to take so long - whether it's the 2ww, appointments, ov etc. fed up with it now! Want to obsess about something else! But hopefully it will be worth it.

I've also got 'Gone Girl' to read - heard its had great reviews

Hello,

Is there room on the bus for another one? Me: 1DC aged 2. MMC1 in Aug (found out at dating scan), MMC2 last week (found out after lying to get seen by EPAU at 8wks, after the hospital refused to take a MW referral). ERPCs after both (second one yesterday). Both MMCs showed an empty sac and lots of other things that have been variously thought to be cysts, clots or molar.

So, what next? Because both mcs were identical does anyone have any tips on whether I should start pushing for investigations? What causes empty sacs? EPAU seemed to suggest I'd be called back for an appt with a consultant there, but probably not for two months.

Despite the fact that this week would have been my EDD and not one, not two but THREE friends are in the process of giving birth, I am feeling quite positive and looking forward to TTC again. However, I'm dreading the next wave of pg announcements in RL. (On here at least) I make no apologies for being a bitter, twisted and resentful old harridan.

bumpkitty - were you kittybump on the Dec10 antenatal thread

hey girlies, well our sex fest (or rape week as my friend calls it) will commence tonight! woohoo! had my smear test on my lunch break - what a lovely way to spend it ha! but the nurse was lovely and asked what i would be having for my lunch while she was poking about! i feel more sorry for her!

so sorry to welcome you to the gang santa and feel free to rant like a monster as and when you feel fit. i hope you are doing as well as can be expected, pg friends don't help :( i was diagnosed with a partial molar pregnancy after my d&c in october, went for weeks and weeks of tests and then they decided they had misdiagnosed and that at further inspection, it was just a big mass of watery cysts. no one ever said if it was anything to worry about and i got the go ahead to ttc again so hopefully it won't happen again if we do get a bfp someday. will they do a pathologist report on your erpc results? fx all is ok xx

bakingtins i like your plan of the graduation to bfp thread! hope i'll manage to graduate there someday!

I'm loving rape week!
Welcome sadly WillSanta.
I've just had a call from the EPAU. My latest hCG test hasn't dropped much, I've stalled about 140. I've got to go in and see the Dr next Thursday. I'm concerned now. I've had a few cramps and though AF was on the way, but nothing. It's bloody typical! When I was pg I didn't want to see red, and did, now I'm not pg and want to, it's not there!

saggy try not to worry too much (although that's easy for me to say). i had my hcg levels tested every fortnight for a few months months after my d&c (as i mentioned in my last post i had been misdiagnosed with molar pg but they kept monitoring me anyway - still don't know why ). you had your erpc about 4 weeks ago is that right? for what it's worth, i had mine on 4th october, and 4 weeks later my levels were at 220. they gradually came down and finally got to normal on 17th January (so that was 15 weeks - it took AF 10 weeks to make an appearance). from all my research (i became a bit obsessed with hcg levels!!) 140 doesn't sound too worrying, relatively soon after your op. some girls find that levels drop quite considerably after first AF, so i hope your cramps are AF letting you know she's on her way and that you're mind will be put at rest as soon as possible. try not to let it stress you too much if you can help it xx

I MCd naturally about 3 weeks ago.

Hope fod is doing ok

flower that sounds hard, sorry I've no advice just hope AF arrives soon

Jbrd that's good, good luck for this month

Oooo good luck chocolate

saggy hope AF shows up soon and DH feels better

Welcome santa sorry you find yourself here, moan away if you need to and good luck getting the tests you need

pink snap?! I usually ovulate CD19 and only on CD14 and have some myself today, confused But I think I have flu, it's rubbish feel so terrible but don't have a cold?! Just achey and sleeping all day, we DTD CD10 but nothing since and now we have to tonight just in case and I really don't want to and DH won't want to come near me in case he gets it ha ha Will take one for the team tho

Thanks for your opinions girls. janie I have pcos and my cycles before were anything from 32 to over 100 so who knows when it'll appear! liesl I hope af appears for you too soon. santa sorry to see you here.

baking would be great if we could all graduate to a new thread soon!

Apologies for not name checking everyone as I'm in my phone!