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TTC 10+ months Part 13

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buzzybee123 · 04/02/2013 11:56

A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

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mrsden · 22/02/2013 10:07

madness big hug for you. You've been coping so amazingly well so far so a little stay in the tent is ok from time to time. Just remember that you dont want your ex's baby. It's hard. My ex had his first last year. I know what you mean about worrying about if the infection is back, I keep worrying that the cyst will grow back and stop ivf treatment once again.

My boss has returned from one of those courses where they teach you how to be a better manager Hmm so far today she has made us all coffee which is totally unheard of. And has told us all individually that we are valued members of the team, we're all a bit Hmm .

EuroShaggleton · 22/02/2013 10:52

If that happened at my place mrsd I would think someone had slipped something in the water supply!

Sorry about the tent visit Madness. It gets us all sometimes.

Sorry you are feeling under the weather Drizz.

Talking of the weather, it was snowing lightly in London this morning. Brrr. This is all wrong. I distinctly put an order in for Spring!

mrsden · 22/02/2013 11:17

it's been snowing on and off here since December euro. I think since then there has been 3 days max when there hasn't been snow on the ground. Temperatures are struggling to rise above 1°C. I'm so fed up of it, it looks pretty but is a PITA when you have to be out and about. It's forecast the same for the next week so I think spring is still some way off. I am so British, everyone here looks at me like this Hmm when I'm constantly moaning about it.

gin I think you asked me ages ago about what genetic tests we had done and I don't think I answered. This is what we had, it's probably the same as you: We both had a karotype test which looks at the chromosomes. DH's were fine, mine had one balanced translocation where the bits have swapped around so nothing is missing, they've just swapped places. Apparently 1% of the population have this and shouldn't have any bearing on ttc or health. DH had his Y chromosome analysed to check for microdeletions, again all was fine. We also both had the full check for the CF mutations, this wasn't just the 36 most common but for the 900 or so known ones. This was clear on both of us which is why they've concluded that our chances of having a child with CF are negligible.

lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 22/02/2013 11:24

Meh, I am running a high fever. So I am not wimpish, but really quite ill. And we have a friend from abroad coming to stay and I am stabbing, not sure if and how this will affect the egglets.

mrsden · 22/02/2013 12:01

Get yourself dosed up on paracetamol lemons, that will help get your temp down. Plenty of drinks too. I hope you feel better soon.

buzzybee123 · 22/02/2013 14:16

afternoon ladies

madness sorry about the tent stay

lemon hope you feel better soon, agree with mrsd about the paracetamol, hot lemon and honey drinks too.

mrsd as long as your boss is genuine and it lasts, pity they have to go on a course to realise the obvious.

well I am home again with my migraine, think it more a bad stress headache from the crap day yesterday, just waiting for AF to start, I don't think we'll get another natural cycle in before starting DR. Kayla is being a good nurse again

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lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 22/02/2013 15:12

Officially ill. IUI cycle canceled, I get to stop stabbing and am v unhappy with that. Never call the clinic in doubt Wink

buzzybee123 · 22/02/2013 15:38

sorry to hear that lemon, its frustrating, rest up for next cycle, it will be your lucky one

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lovesLemonDrizzleCake · 22/02/2013 15:41

Next cycle we'll be away, and the beginning of the one after that. So at this rate, barring a miracle, I'll be undiffed by The Due Date. Not looking forward to that. :(

buzzybee123 · 22/02/2013 16:12

due dates are tough lemon plan something nice for that day, I lit a candle to remember mine by, I also have a little momento that I can look at and hold, its good to remember but its also good to look forward as well

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Poutintrout · 22/02/2013 18:06

Bollocks lemons I can understand why you would be mightily pissed off. I decree that you will be diffed by your due date Wink

Buzzy sorry that you too have been struck down by the dreaded migraine. That is one of the things I have promised myself actually that if the IVF is a washout then I am going to the GP to discuss beta blockers or something and try to get a handle on mine.

madness I can understand the visit to the tent.

mrsd I don't like the snow much. I have a ridiculous phobia about falling over so slippy pavements fill me with horror which unfortunately means that I start to walk like a pratt and end up slipping anyway. shudders at incident many years ago when a punter thought I was a prostitute because I was loitering too long on a snowy corner

euro Symptom spot away on here. You are allowed to be diffed Smile

Well the latest FFSakery is finding that my injections have frozen a bit at the back of the fridge. It seems to be just the packaging I've pulled them forward and am putting my fingers in my ears and going lalala because I can't face another trauma

GinSoaked · 22/02/2013 18:23

Quick paw squeeze for lemon. My FET was cancelled this cycle due to the stupid flu, but I'm pleased as want to give it the best chance of working and not waste ££s on a dud cycle. My flu was at a similar stage in my cycle to yours and although I got a positive opk at the right time, I've had lots of odd ewcm since then, so my cycle is a bit fooked please may there not be a cyst fertility gods Look after yourself and you'll be back on the ttc merry go round before you know it.

Friday luffs and Wine Wine to all, apart from buzz who needs to get rid off the migraine so isn't allowed booze.

MuddyWellyNelly · 22/02/2013 19:31

Oh lemon it's a bit rubbish that you think you will miss another couple of cycles. I will join in with Pout's decree that you will be diffed soon. It is a fact.

By the way I loved the thought that someone gave life to up thread (Rabbit maybe?) about us getting all pregnant in a clutch (fertile eggy reference!), and quietly closing the thread down, turning off the lights with a reflective backwards glance as we shut the door, and all walk off into the graduate sunset. I would LOVE that to happen :)

I'm sure the drugs'll be fine pout. If they were that fragile, surely they wouldn't let us idiot barrens who let ourselves get too old non medically trained sorts loose with them.

Ah madness the tent dwelling is poop. You have been on the drugs way longer than most, so allow yourself to feel rubbish for a bit.

buzzy that was good advice to Lemon to not look back too much. We must all have a shot with your LC I think! Oooh, I got an exciting package in the post today Grin. Thank you so much. They are massive though Shock.

mrsden I much prefer snow to the usual rain we get. I am actually feeling very happy as it's been dry for a whole week or so. That hasn't happened in so long (literally, the last time I remember was last May :( ) and it just makes everything so much better. Cold crisp snow is lovely though. It just makes me want to get my skis on though.

Sorry for another short catch up. Had a busy day at work then got a scary email (don't want to say too much, but something we thought we had loads of time to get on with suddenly has a deadline rather close) so I need to go and do some important internet research. And it's not even TTC related, difficult though that is to imagine!

Happy weekend everyone. Wine.

buzzybee123 · 22/02/2013 19:53

gin :( to the no booze, I am hoping to have a couple of glasses tomorrow

nelly that was quick, hopefully they will do the trick, don't forget the deal if they do Wink I think personal experience has taught me not to look back, my first due dates were horrendous but this year I have managed better, I still have one more to go which is around my IVF time Hmm

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CritterPants · 22/02/2013 20:40

Hi guys

Sorry to have been so awol this week. Work woe.

joy I am so sorry that you're still in limbo land. I can understand how incredibly frustrating it must feel to not be able to relax and enjoy your pregnancy . It's crap for all 10 plussers because we work so hard to get to that BFP and know how fragile it is, but I can imagine it must be particularly stressful for you with the dates measuring behind and the general rollercoaster of emotions you must be on right now. I am willing your two little beans to just be late bloomers. They are hanging in there and those heartbeats are still going. I've got everything crossed for you and am thinking about you loads.

lemon what a pain that you're not only ill but have to delay your next cycle. And I'm so sorry about the due date coming up - I know that's going to be really hard for you. buzz's suggestion of lighting a candle is a really lovely one. I take my hat off to you with how you've coped with all this. You're a brave lady and you so deserve to have a little one.

rabbit interesting about the clomid. How do you feel about going down that route instead of the IVF route?

pout gah, frozen drugs and headaches... Sad what a nightmare. Hang in there - I hear that downregging is awful and you're nearly through to the other side. When your future little toddler misbehaves, you can complain to them about what crap you had to go through to bring them onto the earth! I wish one of us was cycling with you - hope that virtual handholding does the trick instead. Also, loved the dog beating comment Grin!

euro don't go! I forbid it. And I like hearing about your symptoms - you are allowed, nay encouraged! Gives us hope.

buzz hope the migraine is a little better. Poor you. Sad

nelly I loved your tale about the early morning mating ritual Grin Grin Grin your husband sounds brilliant.

mrsd ooh, snow. No snow here, just miserable weather! I do agree though, I am so over winter. Let it be spring already! Smile at the manager coming back from the 'how to be a better manager' course. Hope she keeps up the coffee-making!

madness I am sorry about the itchiness. Maybe some nice warm baths? And sorry you've been in the tent. I'm impressed you're FB friends with your ex - I am definitely not with mine - although I can see the appeal for stalky purposes - it's more that he never friend-requested me and I refuse to friend-request him Grin .

gin how's the devil's disease?

doll I loved the 'are you an alcoholic' question. Grin Grin

art I also loved you saying you'd 'porked up' - not because you have - I'm sure you haven't! but because it's such a British phrase. Made me smile. Smile

sar hope you're ok my lovely and not feeling as sad as you were.

All ok here - apart from the shite weather - it's what they call a 'wintry mix' which sounds like pick n mix to me. I have the Oscars to look forward to on Sunday, and tonight I'm going out to eat stinky cheese and charcuterie with a couple of pals here (both glamorous and child-free - I do so love having child-free friends). Then on Saturday we're going to a fancy restaurant for a friend's birthday, that MrC tells me 'was a favourite of the Bush twins' Grin. Those Bush twins always seemed to know how to have a good time, so I have high hopes! Ooh and yesterday I spotted Hillary Clinton out walking around again . Grin

EuroShaggleton · 22/02/2013 21:24

critter someone at my place over there "summers" with the Bushes. They get about, it seems!

driz I am so sorry you are feeling poorly. Get well soon.

pout our fridge does that. We ended up keeping the drugs in one of the door compartments.

I hope everyone else is doing ok.

sweetgrouch · 23/02/2013 01:43

Pout - I have to say I would take snow any day over rain. It?s been hovering around -1C lately which is just fantastic.
Lemon and gin - that sucks about the cycle delays, but hopefully it means it will work.
Buzzy - your suggestion is very nice. Definitely beats crying your eyes out like I did.
Critter- the charcuterie and cheese sounds delicious.
Madness- I hope the itchiness subsides.
Joy-I?m still hoping things work out with the twins.
Euro - the symptom spotting gives me hope that one day I will get there.

Hello to anyone I may have forgotten.

I just had my first set of tests. The cd3 ultrasound resulted in the tech informing me that both my ovaries are very polycystic. Which means I may be moving away from unexplained - the only part that is odd is that the previous horomone tests looked good. So the positive from a shit week is that I might at least get a diagnosis.

I hope everyone has a nice weekend.

sarlat · 23/02/2013 10:25

Good morning lovely ladies

Gosh - it has been busy on here. I will do my best to catch up.

Joy - I am soooo delighted that the London 2 are hanging on. Where there is life, there is hope. All of these tests are frightening and stressful. But do you know what, Dr's don't know everything and there is every chance that your babies are developing normally in relation to what is normal for your body. Someone else earlier said, how many women normally get the amount of checks that we do. There could be pregnant women walking around now with similar hcg and measurement results who are none the wiser. My Drs have been wrong on so many levels about things with me. I admire the strategies you are using. This is such a stressful time and it is great to hear you have positive and loving people all around you. Take care dearest Joy. xxxx

Kellie - welcome. It is a horrible feeling when those around keep getting pregnant so easily. This process really shakes us to the inner core of who we are. Sit tight and see what those test results bring - you are a step closer to your baby.

Pout - ooooo sorry for the headaches. It does seem to be a common side effect of down regging. It is not a nice process and moaning and being upset is 100% ok. Who else in the real world would just put up with these sorts of symptoms if they had to take medications that caused these types of side effects? Becuase it is fertility treatmemnt we are expected to soilder on.....but do you know what, these treatments are tough going and it is important to let off steam and say it sucks. You will be fine and will you will get your goal and although a cliche, it will be worth it. But very big hugs in the mean time sweetheart.

Rabbit - I am soooo glad you had a nice sympathetic Dr. I never quite know how to take it when people say they took a while to concecive. Usually that means 6 months and that type of experience just doesn't touch what we go through. However I am really pleased that your GP could empathise with what is happening. The post viral thing sounds likely - is there any treatment for that? Is the thryoid thing not treatable with short term meds? And how do you feel about the IUI option? Is she speaking from clinical experience with that recommendation? I think a second opinion is a great idea. One thing that is important to keep in mind is that you do have options (hopefully this applies to me too). IVF may be our answer but not the only way to conceive either. And none of your tests have ever been bad. I think you are like me and have a few mild multifactoral issues holding you back. From a statistical point of view, this just means it will take longer. From a real life point of view, it is heartbreaking and shattering. Glad you are out of the tent. Keep doing nice things and look in to that second opinion. I have heard about a lady Dr in the Birmingham area who is supposed to be brilliant with fertility via non IVF route - sorry don't know any more than that but maybe do some searches? The pelvic scan will be fine, I PROMISE. There is nothing to indicate you have new broids / cysts or other things of evil. But I know the worry will continue until the scan is over with. Not sure I entirely believe that bleeding is a sign of weak ovulation - I mean what does that mean? That the eggs doesn't pop out easily, or they are bad quality??? Someone with regular cycles and positive opk's and ok FSH such as yourself surely does not have weak ovulation. hmmmm

Nellie - sorry I am very behind with whats happening with you. But hooray for marching on with IVF round 2, ding ding. I thought Mr Nellie asked a brilliant question when he said "does the fact that you two produced good embryos overcome the AMH score issue". Please personally thank Mr Nellie from me. Although I have never had and hopefully never will have the AMH, it is reassuring to hear that by producing the embryos this is an indicater that AMH is no longer a huge hurdle. Doll's recent success is an enourmous boost to you and I. Often it just doesn't happen on the first go. Also I wanted to say sorry you were dupped by our freind Viv / whoever she is. But.....but but but, I have to say I am glad that you are the sort of person who would go to the aid of a stranger with some helpful and reassuring advice. In this awful cynical world in which we live I am always impressed when someone sticks their neck out and offers help even when there is a small niggle of doubt. I think it is great when people will do the right thing and don't stop doing the right thing even though there are others out there who will abuse it. Am I making sense? I just admire people who let the good shine through - that is you my lovely lady!!! However I am glad we now know she is back under her new name so we can be on guard.

Madness - you are not selfish at all. You are a lovely lady going through a hell of a tough time and are always here to pick others up when they are down. The side effects and doomy feeling are 100% normal. In fact if we all didn't take a trip to the tent now and again I think I would be more worried. It is inevitable with what we have to go through that we are going to get down. Sometimes I can hardly believe that we all manage to hold down busy jobs, social lives, run houses, have hobbies, do family things etc when you consider the level of burden upon us. I just don't think other people in real life could handle it. Being in the tent can be helpful as it enables us to get in touch with our feelings and fears and then create a new plan of action. Sorry about the ex-bf. But thank goodness you aren't having babies with him and thank goodness you will be having babies with Mr Madness to create a mini madness. Grin. I understand the fear that the scarring has grown back. Wish we had a window to peek inside. But in all honestly it would take years for things to get back in to the condition they were again. Onwards and upwards towards stimming for you sweetheart - not much longer.

Euro - I am sooo excited to hear that you need a bigger bra (said in the way that ony ttc 10+ ers could say of course Wink). And I am glad to hear you have been a bit sicky and sleepy. No - I want to hear it all!! I am 100% crazy happy for you and the other girls with the BFP's and I want you here to help steer our crazy ship of conception. When you described your symptoms, it does remind me of my pregnancy - I had all those symptoms to an extreme extent from around 9 dpo of my pregnant cycle. However, the extent of my symptoms may have meant something was probably wrong. But what you and Doll have been experiencing sounds perfect. Have you had any more spotting? Have you told anyone in real life?

Doll - how are you? Are you coping ok with the early pregnancy symptoms and your little one to look after? You have got an unusual situation I agree. Most first pregnancies can be accomodated with extra naps and snacks - but you already have your hands full. I am so excited to think of how wonderful family life will be for you - the 4 of you together forever. xxx

Den - your boss sounds interesting! And how fake, does he not realise that you all see straight through him???? I agree the snow is a pita. When do you two start IVF?

Ahhhh Lemon - how disappointing. I am sorry for the cold and the cancelled IUI. It sounds like you should be tucked up with a hot water bottle. Better to let your body rest and recover and be all shiny and strong for next month instead. Sending some hot toddy's your way - whisky??? Nellie is that the right spelling? I think it is natural to think of due dates and hope / expect to be updiffed again. The best piece of advice I can give you (although not entirely mastered this myself) is let go of dates and times as benchmarks for when things should happen. Easier siad than done. I am struggling with the idea of not having a baby when my sibling annouces her happy news presumably sometime this year or next. It is sooo hard sometimes.

Buzz - sorry for yet another migraine. Goodness me, are they stress or hormone related? Thank goodness for Kyla - she is a member of this TTC thread in her own right with the amount of comfort and giggles she has sent our way. I should have opened this message with morning ladies and feline. I am sorry that the last natural cycle hadn't worked out. However you seem very at peace with where you are heading (both emotionally and geographically) and in a way you can really start getting on with things now. Never have I been so certain that someone will become a mother - and what a lucky child it will be to have a mother like you.

Gin - sorry you had a weird cycle last month - are you ready for FET? Excited for you.

Critter - your weekend sounds fun. I am always impressed with your positive energy and attempts to make sure nice things happen. Where are you up to - is the plan still do do IVF very soon?

Sweet - OK, honey. First of all, sorry for the nasty shock of learning there is somethng. That isn't nice. But you are right, with a diagnosis, you can work towards putting it right. I don't know much about polycystic ovaries but I think clomid is a drug they use to help ovulation to occur. In fact a good freind of mie who ttc for 3 years got pregnant the first month she was on clomid. Stay positive, lots of ways forward for you. Take care and do something nice this weekend.

Well I am less sad then I was, the hormones were definatly not helping just before my period last week. I discussed my last cycle with my reflexologist last night. She agrees implantation was the likely culpret of dull crampyness and ovary activity on 6/7 dpo last month. She thinks it was simply a case of "not this time". I feel like something is coming to an end as I march towards the 3 year mark. In my sad moments I feel me and DH might call it quits as if this 3rd IVF cycle fails then we may need to face reality. But in my positive moments, I feel that the small repair work of the lap has put me back at the start with a fresh slate if that makes sense. Although I am a bit worried that this corpus leteum cyst might cause some tempory problems. Anyway, I think the next 2-3 months are going to be interesting for me and DH - not saying it will result in a baby but I think we might end up changing somehow. All a bit scary but then nothing really wrong either.

I am cd 7 of my natural FET cycle. I have a scan on Thursday and transfer will likely be around cd 20ish. However, I keep having to slap myself to remember all this. Its as if my brain really hasn't registered what I am doing. I have been drinking wine without thinking etc. I guess I have been in this IVF process for so long now that it doesn't really register any more. Confused. I don't know what will happen, but maybe I am living one day at a time for now which is good. My new obsession is getting to the coast as often as possible. Also want to get bit fitter so will attempt some early morning swimming sessions. I keep having very weird dreams too. Two nights a go I dreamt I was 5.5 weeks pregnant (and 5.5 weeks exactly for some weird reason) as a result of my last cycle even though I had had a period. Last night I dreamt I saved a freind from drowning from a boggy lake in my garden (does not exist), she then got in to my bed to recover. I brought her up a toffee yoghurt( just like the ones I use at work in assessments) and when I opened it it was full of hairs and a teddy bears head. Confused Confused Blush

On that note, have a lovely weekend.

buzzybee123 · 23/02/2013 12:00

morning ladies, man is it freezing here,

rabbit how is your bunny doing ??

sweet after my first miscarriage my obsession was to be pregnant by my first due date, I got pregnant but miscarried again, not helped by a colleague being pregnant at the same time. First due date came I was an emotional mess, again main obsession was to be pregnant by second due date, didn't happen and I had a melt down over it all. I just think that although I haven't forgotten them and do sometimes wonder what they would be like now, they are in the past and I cannot change the past and cannot predict the future so best to get on with now and make the most of it. Having a cat helps as we fuss her and treat her like a baby, which she loves Grin
Sorry about the diagnosis, although hopefully they will put a plan in place to tackle this and could prove to be the key to success for you

sar oooh very exciting about your FET, can I ask are you thinking of uterine scratching or assisted hatching?? You brought a tear to my eye with lovely kind things you said thank you, I do feel at peace and accepting that we won't do it ourselves, although did hope we would, it also just affirms for me that DE is the way to go for us, I'm not really fussed with trying again naturally, might even sell my cbfm.
I'm not sure if Kayla is keen on the idea of a baby buzzy she has tried to 'ruin the moment' a few times Wink, she is very spoiled, Barry seems to think she'll come round to the idea as it will be another person to love her, I think she won't as it will a person to compete with for attention Grin oh dear I am becoming a crazy cat lady Grin

gin when will you be starting you FET cycle???

critter enjoy you child free time, it won't belong before the big finger points your way

well i'm off for my boozy lunch :)

Kayla sends you all whisker tickling kisses

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buzzybee123 · 23/02/2013 19:56

Oh dear I am pissed and have stilen flowers from the posh bar in knightsbridge Blush but a bloody good time was had by all Grin what is barry going to say when I get home

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EuroShaggleton · 23/02/2013 20:47

Heh. It sounds like you had a fab day! I wasn't too far from you - seeing the Wildlife Photography exhibition at the NHM in South Ken.

buzzybee123 · 23/02/2013 21:08

ah we could have met for a drink, well I could have had a drink for you Grin

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EuroShaggleton · 23/02/2013 21:12

It sounds like you did anyway! Wink

buzzybee123 · 23/02/2013 21:17

ha it is Fay she is a bad influence on me, last time we met for drinks at this place, we ended up drinking someone elses dom peri and I had my wedding dress and underwear, I managed to get on the tube, change at green park and get on the train home, have a nap and get off with wedding dress and underwear still in my hand Grin my flowers look so pretty

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MuddyWellyNelly · 24/02/2013 09:07

Buzzy GrinGrinGrin. How's the head today Wink