Should I do a test?

[AmelieRose]

I had a mc at the end of December and had an ERPC at the beginning of January. DH and I have DTD three times in the last two weeks.

I'm not sure when my next period is due exactly (my cycles can be a bit erratic), but had some very light bleeding last week that lasted three days - similar to implantation bleeding I had with pregnancy that ended in mc. Have been feeling a bit nauseous and very, very tired and a few other things that I have partially convinced myself are pregnancy symptoms.

So here's the thing. DH and I discussed what to do should I think I was pregnant again and agreed that I shouldn't test too early - last time I found out at 3 weeks and the waiting was excruciating, especially when things started to go wrong. I wanted to wait til my period was late before testing...but obviously as I'm not sure when my period is coming I don't know what to do.

I'm sure the 'symptoms' are just coincidental and the bleeding is nothing. I don't want to get a really early BFP again, but then if I was pregnant....what to do?!

Bump!

Hi AmelieRose
I am really sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I remember you from the thread for being due August/July. I was on the thread too but had a mc too just before christmas.

I had af at exactly the right time as it should have been had I never been pg which was weird so I am just about to have my second this week.

However, like you I feel I could be pg again. I think I am just being hopeful tbh as last time was an accident and this would be almost a miracle iykwim!!!

Anyway, with regards to your question, I would test. I think if I don't get my af by friday I will just test because I just want to know, then I can move on. Whether you find out earlier or in a couple of weeks time, it won't make any difference to the outcome. I know it is longer to wait to get to a scan for example, and it is excruciating, but so is waiting and not knowing.

If you do test, when do you think you will?

Hi woose. Thanks a lot for the reply and I'm sorry to hear about your mc too - pretty rubbish time of year for it wasn't it? Hope you're ok.

My January period didn't arrive, I think mainly because I had the ERPC on January 3rd and it would have arrived sometime around then (according to the app on my phone that is!). I've done a few calculations and my period should be due this week, probably Tuesday or Wednesday.

If it doesn't come I might think about testing this time next week... I know what you mean about just wanting to know. It is confusing isn't it? I do want to be pregnant again as soon as possible (which surprised me because initially I didn't think I did) but the thought of facing a similar situation to last time makes me feel ill.

Let me know how you get on. Fingers crossed for BFPs for both of us!

Yes, it was a rubbish time to have it happen wasn't it. I had a mc a few years ago and it felt so much worse this time, much more emotionally scarred from it.

It was difficult this time because my pg was an accident, and secretly I did want another dc, but my DH didn't want one, and the mc I had made me want to have another even more, and it has made my DH want another even less. He was quite thoughtless when it was all happening, so it is strange that he has been careless this month with contraception, well, we will see later this week. I am sure it is me just being totally too switched on to symptom spotting. The main one being that I remember from before christmas is feeling really dizzy. The chances of me actually being pg must be really slim.

Its going to be a long week. You will need will power to last until next week. I really hope you get a positive result next week, or whenever you decide to test. Let me know what happens for you too. Is it your first dc that you are trying for? I have two already aged 4 and 6 and I know I am so lucky to have them, but I am getting to that stage when I feel its now or never, getting old and I don't want to have a regret that will linger with me forever.

Anyway best of luck xxxx

Yep first dc for us when it comes along! Was feeling so sick this morning but then felt fine all day. Think I'd think anything was a symptom at the moment! Fingers crossed for both of us! Xx

Hi AmelieRose.
I stupidly did a test because I just felt pg. It was BFN boo!!! I feel a bit silly now that I thought could have been, we only did it once, even though I am pretty sure it was at the right time. Anyway, af due on Friday so still early.

I have heard of lots of people getting pg straight after having a mc, so it is possible you are. How are you doing?

Oh no! That's rubbish. Maybe it's just too early for you - I'll still be keeping my fingers crossed for you though.

I'm ok thanks, still feeling sick and have been sleeping for about ten hours a night and still feeling exhausted! Period still hasn't arrived...bought a test but am using all my willpower to avoid taking it for at least a few days yet.

I'll keep you posted!

Well done you, on the will power!!! I don't have any !

Sounds promising about your symptoms . Definitely keep me posted

Maybe it is too early. I am due tomorrow, so I think if I haven't had af by next Friday I will do another test, I have been feeling quite sick really and had a bit of a funny taste in my mouth but I think I am just being hopeful.

Hi woose - I finally caved and POAS! But it was negative. AF now 5 days late though... Think maybe the bleeding that I thought was implantation bleeding was perhaps a very light period.

Oh well, onwards and upwards. Still feeling sick so assuming I've got a virus or something. Hope I can keep it at bay in time to have a couple of glasses of wine tonight. Fancied a couple last night but didn't just in case it was positive this morning. Damn it!

Hope all ok with you

Hi Amelie, I have just stumbled across your thread. I had an EPRC at the end of Nov last year and I didn't have a period until 7th Jan I totally missed out Dec which is totally frustrating when you want to start trying again. I did like 5 pg tests in Dec coz I just didn't come on. I don't want to make you feel bad about your experience just wanted to share mine in case it helps at all

Sorry just realised the dates of the thread. I'm a bit late!!! Hope all is well x

Thanks Wardy. Have just done a test might have done two but I'm not saying and it was negative. Now thinking I'm clearly disturbed because I've been having all these fake pregnancy symptoms! Bizarre.

Hi there
Sorry about the BFN Amelie, but you never know, 5 days late!!! I had all the symptoms too, really weird, however I got af this morning, so I was imagining it all. Oh well.

Keep us posted xx