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Elderberry Pavlovas And The Eternal Sausage of Wang (Part 4): a frightfully good thread for the over-30s TTC their first baby.

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viviennewestwould · 25/01/2013 18:58

Over here, sausage-wangers!

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captainmoll · 14/02/2013 18:46

Fx 2cats!

I finally got to talk to my gynae today. MRI result shows my lump is a harmless fibroid & both my ovaries are fine. I'm now on the waiting list for lap&dye. DH gets his SA results next week.

captainmoll · 14/02/2013 18:47

Fx 2cats!

I finally got to talk to my gynae today. MRI result shows my lump is a harmless fibroid & both my ovaries are fine. I'm now on the waiting list for lap&dye. DH gets his SA results next week.

2cats222 · 14/02/2013 18:52

Good news captain... You're getting answers which is positive

rache1 I was below cover line on cd8 and currently a decent way above it. Am praying!

Thank you all for your excitement and finger crossing... Suspect I may have to POaS later in the hope the line is visible enough to show to DH!!

happylass · 14/02/2013 18:56

Brilliant news about Humperdinck being harmless Captain and glad things are moving in the right direction for you Grin
2cats keep us posted!!

Hit the dreaded 35 today and just realised I won't have a baby before I'm 36 if I don't get upduffed in the next few months. When did I get so old gaaaaah!!

2cats222 · 14/02/2013 19:04

happy happy birthday!
Anyone doing anything nice tonight? We're having valentines tomorrow eve so tv and pee sticks for me

happylass · 14/02/2013 19:22

We had a lovely night away last night as DP has a 'vital' squash match this eve. But I'm cooking him a nice meal for when he comes in. Guess I'd better shift my butt off the sofa then and stop scoffing all my birthday chocs

Bunnygirlie · 14/02/2013 20:14

Omg 2cats FX and I am well jel

Bring on the bunch of BFPs for us all, I wanna graduate!!!!!

Captain good to hear your news!

Happy birthday happy another aquarius?

twinklestar2 · 14/02/2013 20:33

good news captain glad you are getting answers

Aquarius1 · 14/02/2013 21:13

Really pleased to hear your news captain - must be a relief

Happy I felt down about getting older too but really it's only another day... with cake and presents Grin

2cats hope it's good news for you!

2cats222 · 14/02/2013 21:21

Right.... I have been 'holding' since 6.30pm, should i POAS tonight? (I am not concerned/worried about getting a negative as am one of those people who enjoys POAS, and would prefer to also have a BFN than AF turn up unexpectedly, plus I am impatient, and plus I think my pee sticks cost about 15p each!!)

happylass · 14/02/2013 21:54

2catsmy sensible head says prob best to wait until morning as urine will be less diluted and result will be more accurate. But hey who am I kidding - if I had a stack of tests and there was a chance I'd get a BFP I'd be POAS morning, noon and night!

Bunnygirlie · 14/02/2013 22:19

I say wait 2cats you can do it!

happylass · 15/02/2013 08:02

Any news 2cats?? [impatient emoticon]

Bunnygirlie · 15/02/2013 08:16

Yes get piddling 2cats

Just realised that if I'd magically gotten pg first month of trying then I'd just be going on maternity leave now Sad

2cats222 · 15/02/2013 08:47

Ok give me 10 mins and I'll be back...have a feeling this will be a giant let down. Temps still nice and high though

Fairydogmother · 15/02/2013 08:51

Fingers xd for you x

2cats222 · 15/02/2013 09:01

Time limit not quite up but nothing i'm afraid. Could still be too early (or yesterday could have been a super super sensitive one), or yesterday was an evap. Will try again tomorrow

2cats222 · 15/02/2013 09:04

I take it back, there is a shadow. More visible than yesterday (ie i can see a tiny bit of colour down the side) of the strip but still very very very faint. I am not counting this as a positive as it comes so close towards the end of the time and is only visible because i have line eye but hopeful!

Fairydogmother · 15/02/2013 09:31

Hope it is! Get one of those clear blue digital tests that tells you without lines maybe?!

happylass · 15/02/2013 09:51

Still sounding hopeful 2cats!! Maybe invest in a FRER? When is AF actually due?

2cats222 · 15/02/2013 10:02

AF due Monday or wed (despite opk and temps still not clear when I Od). I have a frer digi test but I know the ones I'm using at the mo are more sensitive so waiting it out. It's gonna be a looooooong weekend!

navis176 · 15/02/2013 12:19

all still sounding promising 2cats - keep us posted....

Captain - I'm glad to hear you finally got your results

Did everyone have a nice valentines day? Not v romantic here - af still in full force and oh had double booked so had non romantic meal with him and his mate Grin

SidneyBristow · 15/02/2013 16:46

Happy belated birthday happy and aquarius! hope the birthday fairy delivered lots of cake and pressies

that's great news captain, must be such a relief to know it's harmless. Do they plan to leave it, or are they wanting to remove it?

2Cats all my fingers and toes are crossed, I really hope your one shag this month did the trick!

I had my infertility consult this morning. GP was happy to hear that my cycle is regular, and that I've had no gyn issues in the past apart from a series of abnormal pap smears which have been resolved. She gave me lab slips for bloodwork to check my FSH & LH levels, and a separate one to do on Day 21 for progesterone. Is faxing a request for a pelvic ultrasound, to be done at the hospital. It wound up being a hell of a long day, but I managed to get the FSH/LH done today, since I'm CD4 and it must be done between CD1-5. She said once all the results are in (bloodwork + ultrasound), to make an appt to review the results, and then she'll refer me to a fertility specialist.

Husband's SA consult is next week.

Honestly I have mixed feelings about it all. I'm happy that I've taken steps to find out if there actually is a problem, but I'm a bit taken aback that we're already talking about fertility treatments - I hadn't expected that, at all, even though it's comforting that it's available. Or rather might be - DH having kids already might bar me from qualifying for IVF Biscuit but we'll worry about that if/when the time comes.

Her parting words were that we ought to continue having plenty of sex, not stress about it at all and not to spend any more money on kits, thermometers, pee sticks, etc - 'just keep having sex and it will happen'. Ok then!

Does anyone know what this 'pelvic ultrasound' is all about? is this the dreaded dildocam that gets mentioned sometimes? Is a lap & dye something that's done based on the ultrasound's findings, or is it just another diagnostic test?

captainmoll · 15/02/2013 18:16

Sidney - it's great your gp is taking you seriously and getting things moving so quick. I've been on the nhs fertility ride for about 6 months now and no ones mentioned ivf to me yet, so I wouldn't worry. She's thinking pretty long term there.
The pelvic scan is what I had when they found the lump. It's initially the ultrasound that you see in movies, on top of your navel, but if they can't see clearly or, like in my case, they find something they need to get a better look at, they do the transvaginal scan - affectionately known as dildocam! This really isn't as bad as it sounds, and they will ask your permission before they do it. The device is very slender and has never caused me any discomfort (though I know some have found their cervix gets a bit of rough treatment if the sonographer is careless). My sonographer was nice and kept asking if I was ok, so feel like you can speak out if they get a bit "jabby"!!
The most uncomfortable thing for me was them pressing on my full bladder during the exterior scan (you have to attend with a full bladder so it doesn't get in the way). That was way worse than the dildocam!
Neither test is anything to worry about though, if you've had smear tests, it's nothing like as uncomfortable as that.

Are you asking what the lap&dye involves? If so, it's keyhole surgery (laparoscopy) where they insert a little camera under your belly button, squirt some dye up yer fanny and see if it comes out of your tubes to check for blockages. It bears no relation, as far as I can tell, to the ultrasounds, except in the sense that it is a standard procedure that comes after the ultrasound if no obvious problems are revealed at that stage. They basically get more invasive as they go along, which is a sensible way to go about it. If no cysts or obvious baddies show up in the scan, the next stage is to check tubes are clear.

Re my lump - they haven't decided if they're going to remove it yet, but I'm getting booked in for a lap&dye anyway, so they'll look at it then.

2cats still very much fx for you!

Boodle9 · 15/02/2013 19:37

Hello! Just checking in to say I have tightly crossed fingers for 2cats, but also feeling a bit jealous as AF has rolled in right on schedule at 9DPO (after 2 days of spotting). Am I absolutely bloody bonkers to wish I could have a normal, nail-biting 2 week wait like everyone else?

Happy belated birthdays to Happy and Aquarius. My birthday was very recent too, but I was too scared to say when it was as I have 'outing' fear! Smile

Sidney, good news that things are on the move; I do understand how you feel about having mixed feelings though! As Captain has already said, your pelvic scan may well involve the 'dildocam' - it's certainly what mine involved! When my doctor booked me in for the scans she said I might have to have it, depending on how good a 'view' the sonographer got from the abdominal scan. As it turned out, my sonographer said she got a great view from my abdominal scan but that she'd prefer to do the internal scan, just to cover all bases. She gave me the choice and I figured I might as well! It really was absolutely fine - much more dignified than a smear test as she only had to look at (ahem) "me" for a couple of seconds, and then she was concentrating on the screen. Can't remember if you were around at the time, but this was all last month just as my AF spotting was starting, so I had to explain and ask if that was OK before she started! Blush

Does anyone have any idea how long I should wait before my fertility specialist referral comes through? I saw the doctor 3 weeks ago now. I don't mind having to wait for the appointment...I just want to know when it is!

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