Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

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We've filled out thread - I do hope you all find your way here. I can't add a message on the old thread to let you know it is here...

This new thread, will no doubt have its own set of bfp's and babies. I am excited to see what it brings.

Well more tmi but I've definitely got a different smell, so my h so I googled it yesterday and it seems it can be. Hope this is your lucky month!

On phone, sorry. Meant so much so

Remnant, I googled too...nice, lol. Well...I just threw up rather profusely, after eating chocolate which I usually love! It started off with heartburn earlier, then after lunch felt queasy and then up it came! Feel rough but very pleased! But could be a tummy bug (am I the only one who keeps trying to rationalise symptoms? )

Aaargh. Too depressed for words. Effing period turned up bang on time following a month in which we shagged until we were sick of the sight of each other and our respective tender bits were, well, tender! I definitely ovulated. I then had 2 weeks of symptoms, and wallop. The bitch is here in full force and I just want to wail!

Sorry about the "me" post. Especially as there are ladies here who are having a much, MUCH worse time of it. It's just that I'm 46 this year and each period that arrives robs me of my much wanted first baby. Snot my fault it took so long to meet the love of my life

Oh, and the heating is on the blink in the new gaff and it's minus fucking 1 in here and I've been waiting for the engineer all day! BRRRRRR....

DrWhoFan, so you've joined this week's AF club too. Sorry. I know what you mean - I'd just never met anyone I wanted to have children with until I met DP, and it's frustrating when AF keeps on coming. I read about older women being so selfish, having put their careers first and expecting to have children in their 40's...I'm not sure that's such a bad thing anyway, but it's not even my case! As you say, not my fault I didn't meet the father of my future (I hope!) child sooner!

patches it all sounds very promising!

Have spent the day sleeping and feeling sorry for myself. Haven't been properly ill like this for years! DP is usually utterly crap when I'm poorly but this time, as he had it himself first and knows how horrible it is, he's being lovely and he's really looking after me.

remnant hope you're feeling better and that the cramping has stopped!

DoctorWho Sorry about AF turning up in spite of all your athletics effort. It's so frustrating when you think you literally sh**ed your brains out, but it still didn't work. Wail all you need!

NewPatches Are you feeling any better? Throwing up after chocolate is not good, let's hope it's not a tummy bug

Well - went back to the EPU today after a long phone call to discuss the options for the further mc management. I've decided to opt for the surgical procedure, as the medical one is basically like an induction. As soon as the nurse described it like that, I had made up my mind - I had a horrific induction with DS, and even though I know that this is nowhere near the same, the thought of doing anything remotely similar again just petrifies me. Unfortunately, the earliest they could book me in for the surgery was the 21st.

Then I get a phone call from the lovely EPU nurse at 7.30pm, one of the surgeons has an slot in her schedule - tomorrow morning So am now going in for 8am to get it done. And then hopefully can start to move on...

JBrd glad the EPU finally are sorting things out for you and you have some resolution, hope it goes ok tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you . x

Jbrd, I'm so sorry for all you have been through, I'll be (virtually) holding your hand tomorrow. I'm glad you're getting everything sorted tomorrow though and won't have to wait.
Indeed, up chucking chocolate would not be good, although my scales might disagree! Felt nauseous all afternoon but it seems to have eased of now.
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Drwho fan you have my sympathy, I know exactly how you feel ? well maybe I don?t because I had no promising signs this month whatsoever - having so many symptoms then for AF to turn up so darn promptly is just rubbish ? boo!

Like you and Morien, I only met my DP later in life - I was 40 ? if I had met him earlier (before my first foray round the block with DP number one ? who really turned out to be a P without the D bit!) I can?t help thinking I would be knee deep in kids by now. I do have a successful career but to be honest that is only because I didn?t have a family to occupy me during my 30?s. I worked hard because I could and for much of that time I had no-one waiting at home for me so late nights at the office were the norm. Now before it sounds like I am feeling sorry for myself and bemoaning my situation, if I am honest I had a cracking time ? I have many friends who like me were single, child-free and would come out and play during the week and at the weekends so I had a brilliant social life. I have travelled to many amazing places around the world both with work and on holiday and I know I wouldn?t have had all those experiences if I had children, but being a mum is the only thing I have always wanted. So, I finally met my lovely, lovely man late in the day (hopefully not too late) and here we are trying to have a baby together?I know it isn't the end of the world if we can?t and I am glad that I have been given the chance to try but dammit I have waited a long time!

Today I made an appointment for my first acupuncture session next week after having a long chat with the acupuncturist on the phone today ?she sounds great so I am optimistic it will be enjoyable if nothing else (whilst secretly hoping it will be the magic bullet in achieving the elusive bfp

jbrd Is good luck the right thing to say for tomorrow? It doesn't sound quite right but I really hope it goes ok for you. You have been so strong and brave (I am in awe)....am sending you positive, supportive thoughts. xxxx

ps. newpatches and hopeful it seems that you are now our torch bearers for bfps this month!!

You ladies are cracking. Thanks for being so sweet. My mood has improved slightly, even if the temperature in the house hasn't! DP is currently out bossing innocent wee scouts about. I've been under my duvet since he left with a snoring Staffy curled up next to me on the bed, even though he's not technically allowed in the bedroom! Ssssh, I won't tell if you won't.

JBrd, I really hope it all goes well in the morning. After all that fannying about, at least something is getting done so you can move on and get cracking again ehen you feel up to it. Sparkly - that sounds better for you all round. I hope things continue to get better at home.

Sure I've missed people. If so, I'll hopefully be back in better form next week. Plus I won't be trying to update things on my Android. It's a bit rubbish in compcomparison to the pc.

Love to all xx

Greenlizard, I'm thinking of giving acupuncture a go when I have a bit of money, so will you let me know how you get on? Churz x

JBrd, I'm sorry you've had such a difficult time over the past few weeks, but I'm really pleased that your determination to get it resolved has paid off - a lesson for us all I think. I hope the procedure is straightforward tomorrow and doesn't leave you feeling any more battered, I'll be thinking of you.

Drwho, sorry AF got you, especially when it all seemed so promising. Have you warmed up? hopeful are you doing ok? Morien, sorry you are unwell, but at least your DP is looking after you. Patches, what about you, are you feeling better? Remnant, I've been getting quite a bit of cramping, but have been since before the BFP when I was convinced AF was on the way. I can't pinpoint any symptoms with hindsight either. I hope you're ok and it's just an early pregnancy symptom. I too keep expecting to start bleeding just because of high risk of mc, but ok so far.

Welcome loublou and good luck.

My nights are over (hooray!) and I'm off next week, no plans but had loads of leave to use and as I was working over Christmas I thought a break would be nice. Major tidying/sorting to be done though. I've not had chance for further chat with DH, and he's out with a mate tonight which has been planned for a while, so I'm hoping we can have a proper chat tomorrow. I really hope that he is now ok and is not going to relapse into panic.

Thinking of you Jbrd. I hope it goes well. Having the ERPC was a way I could start to move on, but it doesn't in anyway change the feeling of loss. Sending love your way.

Greenlizard, I'll be handing the torch to newpatches, whose symptoms are definitely more promising than mine. My 's are still tender, but I noticed the tiniest bit of blood last night, so fully expect AF to turn up. I am 13 dpo today, was woken at 4.30am by DS so didn't take my temperature, so have no idea how that looks.

I am seriously considering weaning myself off the whole ttc thing. Perhaps giving up charting, opks, fertility monitor. But as soon as I think that, I then think,"but I only just bought the monitor, would be a waste if I don't use it", and,"if I don't temp and chart,I'll not know what is going on with my cycle,and won't know when to expect AF" (in other words,I am a control freak).

I guess I'll keep it up a bit longer, particularly as DH is going to be away the weekend I'm expecting ovulation, so that way I won't get my hopes up by being ignorant, IYKWIM.

Morien, Drwhofan and Greenlizard, I am definitely not in the same boat as you, as I started having my family young (at 24) and have had a handful of kids, but I think it is so unfair when blame is placed upon older women for "waiting" to have children. There are all sorts of reasons for the "wait", mostly they are out of y/our control. The longing for a baby, no matter your age, time ttc or circumstances is real and understandable. I hope everyone woman on this thread can have a take home baby, as everyone of us deserve to do so.

Crossed posts drwho. You sound nice and cosy though .

Cross post with you Sparkly, glad to hear your nights are finished (are you a nurse?) and that you can have a break. I'm sure you could use some rest and a chance to catch up, especially after having MIL in the house all that time. GOd knows I would have been done for murder if I'd had MIL or my mother in the house for longer than a few hours (and my MIL is quite nice).

at your MIL comment hopeful. No, I don't do anything as useful as nursing, I work for a big media organisation, so 24/7 is the thing.

JBrd - Just popping in to say I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. I've had 2 ERCP's & have found the procedure very straightforward with a good recovery.

I hope it goes as well as it can & you recover quickly. Take care xxx

Being the torch bearer is a lot of responsibility! I will try not to disappoint ladies. I have some very odd pains in my lower abdomen tonight, definitely not af as it's completely different, behind pelvic bone. Maybe implantation pains?
Take care lovely ladies
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Yes Jbrd, I'll be thinking of you tomorrow too. Glad that you don't have to wait. You want this behind you.

Very nice of you to about me under the circumstances. I've had a quiet day mostly at home with ds1, no dramatic symptoms to speak of. Busy knicker checking of course.

Ah, knicker checking, the domain of ttc crazed women everywhere. I sympathise x

Hi cheese how are you?

gum my MIL is lovely too but we've come to realise she's not going to cope on her own now FIL has died so we're thinking about selling both properties and buying something together, with some sort of annexe or independent living arrangement for her. It's hard to know how it will all work out but we haven't really got a choice as DH is an only child and she needs our support. I just hope we can all have our space and not drive each other crazy!
Sorry to hear you think AF is on the way,how frustrating that your DH will be away next month at the critical time.I was sure though that I had missed out this month when DH went away at the start of the week but fertility friend pinpointed ovulation on Monday and as we dtd Fri,Sat,Sun it gives an intercourse timing rating as "high" so I suppose you never know ,you might still be lucky with dates?

sparkly glad you're able to talk to your DH now and he's accepting the situation, hope you enjoy your well earned rest!

DrWho it is such a disappointment when AF turns up especially when you timed everything so well and the symptoms seemed so promising. Next cycle could be the one though.Hope you get the heating sorted out soon, in the meantime bet the staffie makes a brilliant hot water bottle!

Patches what a waste of chocolate! Hopefully it's nausea for all the right reasons though.

Welcome loublou, I think you've been given a very good summary on ttc from gum ,there's really nothing more to add!

How are you doing CaliBee ? hope you're managing ok with your DP away.

Hello to everyone else!

Morning ladies....

jbrd good luck to you for this morning. I will be thinking of you.

patches sounds good...I will be watching.
hopeful...definately dont waste the cbfm..they are too expensive. I must get round to listing mine on ebay.
remnant and sparkly how are you both feeling??

I'm still stuck in this dreadful limbo land. I think my brave face (over the phone) to DP has backfired a little....we had our first ever barney last night. I have been trying to sound upbeat and jolly when we speak in the evenings, despite that all consuming thought of "is my baby viable or not"....and, being his first weekend back, we decided that he would need to rest this weekend and so not make the journey down to me (aswell as cost factors). You can probably imagine my feeling when he told me his plans to spend the weekend in Newcastle on the lash for one of his army friends birthday. I was not impressed, and much snot and tears later I finally got him to understand that it was nothing to do with jealousy about him being out clubbing (way past that my darling!!!) more the fact that I am struggling to get through the days with this dreadful "not knowing whats going on" feeling, and I really would have appreciated his support at home but understood why the long/costly train journey was too much. Raaaaa...now I'm ranting...sorry.
So I have had no more bleeding but so few symptoms that I could almost be imagining them. I'm 8weeks (since lmp) although I know ovulation was delayed until at least cd16 so prob 7+ something. My boobs only hurt if I poke them, no nausea (to be fair I was never sick with my pregnancies in my 20's...but I certainly felt it), no tiredness (well no more than usual)...I have some constipation ( but I get that when not pregnant...so cant count) and have some lower pains (probably the constipation lol) apart from that I feel fine. Oh roll on a week on Monday when I hope above hope that I see my baby all well and fine.

There I feel so much better for expressing that....sorry to rant ladies x

I don't post often but regularly read all the posts and think of you all often. Nice to see so many new people! JBrd thinking of you today, hope all goes ok. Calibee maybe your symptoms will kick in later? Sorry you are having such a difficult time.
My cycle is a bit weird and I'm blaming stress for it. I think AF has turned up now, after having had a very long cycle. I did a test BFN which I wasn't surprised about really but it's still gutting to see. I'm being driven loopy by family at the moment.
Gum thank for posting that list of things to try, think I might go back to basics and work my way down the list! Hope you are ok.

Sparkly thinking of you, keep positive.
Best wishes to everyone else.