Fantastic Forty Plus, part 9, this time is our time,bring on the bfp's!

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We've filled out thread - I do hope you all find your way here. I can't add a message on the old thread to let you know it is here...

This new thread, will no doubt have its own set of bfp's and babies. I am excited to see what it brings.

Ooh that is pretty isabeller . May I add my congratuations too calibee - you've got a good-un there - and also pleased for you that the dreaded first day is over and done with x
Fingers crossed for everyone waiting to test - anxious/exciting times. I have a feeling there'll be a bfp in the next week or so - we are due one!
Ok here - all dcs finally well and I'm in the process of getting cleared to mark for the exam scripts I'm doing on top of usual job. Very stressful but oh so worth it for the money
Love to all x

Waves to *drwhofan> Glad to see you back - I've missed you

Ohhh isabeller thats lovely...and very clever
diege so glad that heathiness prevails again in your household...long may it reign eh? Good luck with the marking x
Drwhofan..ah well I cant say I blame you...the offender appears to have scuttled off, tail between her legs lol. Silly silly person. lol. Hey...never say never. Somebody is due a BFP ..it could just be you x

Oh Diege, thanks love. Glad to hear everyone's getting better in your household. You've had more than your fair share of illness lately, haven't you?

Thanks for the nice words Calibee. I keep hoping it might happen for me. Frankly, much as I adore my DP, all that shagging....holy moly! Phooey!

Giggling at drwhofan....personally I miss it like hell. I think I send DP back to barracks more worn out than when hes arrived home for r&r....oopsie

Congratulations Calibee...
Dr who...hi again!!!
Hi everybody! I went upstairs to write my little piece earlier and decided to go downstairs with the vacuum cleaner and fell half a flight of stairs As I am round as a gorgeous ball I bounced everywhere bruising both arms and a ankle! My right wrist is also bruised and in bandages. My ribs hurt a bit and my back has black marks...and my bottom is bruised...
Should have stayed upstairs on mumsnet!
DH reckons I am pregnant as I always have a bad fall when pregnant. But although I wanted to write here that we are dpo9 and symptoms galore ( minus boobs- therefore bad news...) I could not resist and poas and got a fat fat fat bfn!
So lesson for today...leave the vacuum cleaner alone and go shagging or stay on the thread

Sorry not namechecking but always reading the posts

Drwho...holy moly indeed...lol

Ouch notsoold, bugger about falling down the stairs, but clumsiness in pregnancy - I definitely believe that one.

Greenlizard and Drwhofan, the EWCM thingy sounds promising. I hope you both get BFP's, how nice that would be. I'll be insanely but I'll also be really happy for you .

So, I am 9/10ths definitely not pregnant, the only thing that hasn't sealed the deal is I haven't got my period yet. But there's not the slightest tenderness in the 's and temperature has dropped below cover line. C'est la vie,a there's nout I can do about it.

Besides I have enough stress going on this week what with juggling half kindy days, daycare and teaching. DS's first afternoon at kindy was a bloody nightmare. He was the only child who gripped tightly to his mama, screaming bloody murder when I tried to leave. Two teacher's assistants had to claw him off me. It was harrowing to say the least. The worst of it is I have to teach period one this morning, and DS's school is a 10-15 minute drive from my school. I start teaching at 9.50 and I can't leave him before 8.30. I am really worried about having to do the drop off in a hurry with a reluctant child. Hence I was awake at 4.30 and couldn't get back to sleep. I can see my first day of teaching will be a struggle. And to top it off I have been given (thanks a bunch admin team)a year nine health class and I am teaching them reproduction I know it is going to be excrutiating. What did I do in my last life to deserve this???? At least I do know a tonne about ttc, but I'm not sure that we need to get into the likes of what supplements to take, how acupuncture might help etc, when it is all about teaching them to use contraception so those young spritely sperm stay the fuck away from their sparkling jewel-like eggs....It is going to interesting

Oh, and waiting to pick up DS yesterday, I felt positively ancient - every other mama looked at least 10 years younger than me and there was a fair share of baby bumps too. I felt like the proverbial fish......(out of water)

Deige, glad to hear everyone is well again, and as for the marking...you have my sympathies, but I know how lovely the extra cash will be.

Ieabeller, that was so pretty, what you did for calibee - well done. And cali - glad you survived your first day back at work.

Right, I'm off to peruse some of the other threads, as I have mountains of time up my sleeve having gotten up at sparrow's fart

Awww gum it sounds like your having a bit of a downer just now. Just flying in quickly before bed to wish you a lovely day and hope that you manage to fit it all in. You strike me as one of those people who performs better whilst busy....."if you want a job doing, ask a busy lady " comes to mind.
By the way...I hated the playground, even when I was a young mum...should I ever be priviledged enough to stand there again I will be keeping myself absolutely to myself.
notsoold oh my...hope you're ok. Give that hoover a damn good kicking....

Gum fx for you tomorrow!!!
I know what you mean being the older mum at the playground...i stress about that and other social things...

Calibee...can't kick the thing as foot is hurting. At least ds made my a cup pf the most sugary tea( 2 heaped tsps of sugar) and a kit kat. He said that I needed it. Lol....
Dh and I dtd when possible around ov ( cbfm played up, but still...)
I never ever in all our years of marriage shagged that poor man as much since ttc...

Calibee xxx
Isabeller xxx and fx for you

Saphire and deige...hi there

Ouch notsoold, hope you're ok? That sounded painful.

Gum, it aint over until the fat lady and all that...well, I'm warming up my vocal pipes (I was actually a singer once!) for myself, cos clear watery cm notwithstanding, I can feel af gearing up for today is the day the witch comes to break my buzz yet another month. If I ever get a bfp, I think I may just die from shock!

Happy Tuesday all...

Morning all

14DPO and still a fecking BFN!! No additional signs of impending AF as I am still cramping away, can't tell about my EWCM yet as dtd last night. Temps dropped to 36.65 which is still well above coverline but could be the start of the drop. I was getting quite hopeful yesterday but I feel less optimistic today If it is coming I wish it would just get on with it....this waiting is painful (and time consuming what with all the knicker checking going on!)

Had a chat with DP about where we are going next ahead of my docs appointment this morning and we have decided to go for a consultation at a fertility clinic to see what the next steps might be for us. He is very nervous about assisted conception (his BF and wife split up over the stress of their IVF treatments and ended having the worlds most bitter divorce - so he is not keen!) Obviously being old folk we will be paying for this so he was looking at the price list and nearly had kittens! The success rates for IVF in my age group (43-44) are a woeful 3% and one total cycle will cost about £3,500 I worry that he is going to get cold feet about it.

Has anyone tried IVF? What are your experiences of any other assisted conception? Any advice?

Did you test this morning drwhofan or are you disciplined?

Hopeful yesterday sounded like a very stressful day for you and you LO...you know that in no time at all he will be running into kindergarten without a care in the world but I can't imagine how difficult it must be him to see him so upset. Sorry it sounds like this isn't your month.

notsoold my mum has a fridge magnet that says "Housework never killed anyone but why take the chance?".....there might be something in that! Hope your bumps and bruises are not feeling too bad.

Well done calibee for surviving your first day back at work, I am sure it will get easier from now on.

Isabeller still got everything crossed for you. xxxx

Hello to everyone else..

Morning green. No theres no need for me to test as I can feel af arriving, the bitch. But to be honest, I didn't think for a moment I was pregnant this month as no symptoms whatsoever. It's so unfair, cos I was ovulating.., and we had so much sex that I thought my lady bits would never recover, and now we have to do it all again this month. This will be my 25th cycle. I'm wondering whether I should just give up to be honest. But the idea makes my eyes prick with tears. I just want one child with my beloved DP, that's all...

Sorry you are feeling so down about it drwho it is so tough. Sending you a virtual hug. x

Thanks honey. It's just been a long road, and I haven't yet conquered my anxiety to go and sign on at a new doctors. So no tests. I need to make phone calls today regarding the water rates etc., and it's sending me into a panic. I feel so sodding pathetic - you can tell my hormones have taken a dip, can't you? Right, I'm going to make those calls while I still can

Drwho (virtual hug to you hun)...up and downs seems to follow ttc does it not???

Green I don't have any experience in ivf but just wanted to say hi and I can totally sympathize with the need to seat down with the high price!!!

Back to bed after many herbs for the bruises...when I put my nightie last night dh saw the bruises and for a moment I thought maybe should have it checked at the hospital???
But decided otherwise, as nothing is broken just bruised...hence herbs ...and because I am left hand I can still type here ( albeit with typos!!)

If you have a vaccum cleaner kick it for me!!! Lol

Morning everyone
Just a quick check-in, I'm supposed to be working Ah well.
drwho, gum Sorry to hear that you're having a rough time at the moment - hope things pick up for you soon!
cali take it easy at work, I promise it does get easier! I found the first few days the hardest, getting back into the 'normal' mindset and leaving that bubble that I had been living in for the last weeks. Hope your colleague realises what a b* she is, though!
green Hope that you and your DH will get some some useful information and reassurance about what route to take next - I can imagine that it must be difficult to decide wether to go for IVF, both financially and emotionally!

Not much to report from my side... I would quite like to know where I am in my cycle, but it's not bugging me too much (yet). No signs of af or ovulation, but plenty of ewcm on and off, so I think we're heading in the right direction.
Struggling a bit emotionally, if I'm honest - feeling generally really low, which isn't helped by stressing over jobs. And now DH is gone to Germany for a couple of days for work - which I knew about, but not that he had to leave earlier than usual this morning because he had to go to London for a meeting as well! Which means I have to do the drop-off of DS at the childminders. Now generally that's not a problem, but he forgot to tell me and sprung it on me this morning on short notice, which I hate (I am not a morning person). This keeps happening, and makes me very grumpy I keep telling him he needs to let me know, so that I can plan around it.
So I went up in a huff and had a go at him, feeling all victimised and 'all I do is sorting out childcare arrangements around here'-like Not great, especially since it really isn't a big deal. But you know how small things get blown out of proportion when you're in a bad mood, sigh...

Oh, and notsoold - ouchy-ouch!!! I think the lesson from that is, don't hoover Hope you heal quickly, take care of yourself.

Hi greenlizard you wanted some information about IVF.

I am doing it partly because of age and partly consequences of a cancer scare. I have taken a relatively expensive path (not sure how wise given my financial circumstances). We are going to a UK clinic recommended by friends of DP who were treated there. I need donor eggs and this took me a while to get my head around but the chance of successful treatment is much higher than anyone in their 40s being treated with their own eggs (unless frozen when younger).

The egg sharing programme means me paying for the donor's IVF and her sharing her eggs. I am thinking of my donor and hoping she is ok and I think the clinic will be able to tell me if her treatment succeeds. She has no fertility problems but her husband does.

If there's anything you want to ask I'd be happy to try and answer

Waves to everyone, am trying not to go mad

notsoold, that fall sounds really painful, are you sure you're ok? I shall take your advice and step away from the hoover - not that I need much encouragement.

JBrd, sorry that you're feeling low, it's going take a while before you have mostly good days. I'm not a morning person either, I sympathise, and if I didn't get the childcare sorted, it just wouldn't happen and I'd be dealing with it at very short notice, so no wonder you weren't pleased this morning. Your field of work, even if not your current job, sounds amazing, I hope you find something more satisfactory soon.

Calibee, glad you survived your first day back, that was probably the best you could hope for. I'm sure you'll get used to being back, but it does take time, take it easy on yourself.

Drwho, sorry you're feeling down about ttc, and completely understand the idea of giving up is upsetting. Good luck for your next cycle.

Green, how was your doctor's appointment. I hope it was useful, and you get to see a fertility consultant soon.

Gum, sorry your DS had a hard time at kindergarten yesterday, I hope it'll get easier. Teaching reproduction to year 9 (is that 13-14ish?), that must have been bottom of wish list, I hope it's better than you expect.

I have finally made a doctors appointment, but the earliest they could pre-book me one is next Monday. This will be after 2 hours sleep coming off a night shift. I tried phoning at the allotted time this morning, only for it to be engaged on every re-dial, and I only had a couple of minutes. When I did get through after dropping DD off, the receptionist was very helpful when in desperation I told her that I'm pregnant, so she pre-booked me there and then. However (apologies for TMI), after some enthusiastic DTD last night there was a little bit of dark brown blood when I wiped, and CM is again very faintly tinged today, also I don't think my boobs are as sore. I'm trying to remain optimistic, and definitely going to the doctor's tomorrow, however long I have to spend re-dialling.

love to everyone. xx

Just wanted to pop on and say...AS IF IT'S SNOWING AGAIN!!!! I'm in the East Mids and it's tipping it down! There are no words for how unimpressed I am! GRRRRR

Snowing here too Drwhofan! I am as equally unimpressed . It doesn't seem to be sticking though - epic fail for weather forcast for here yet again!
Sparky You have been very patient and I too would be on the phone from opening time tomorow. I am assuming you don't have a walk-in epu (where does?! The bleeding sounds like a cervical erosion which is very common in pregnancy and harmless. It's very common after sex as the blood vessels in the cervix are engorged and the tissues very soft, hence the bleed. How is the spotting now? If it settles I would assume it was sex-related, but obviously you need some reassurance x

Diege, thanks for the reassurance, there doesn't seem to be any more bleeding at moment, & I don't think there's enough at this stage to bother the EPU. I'm hoping it is just sex related, but obviously I'll keep an eye on it. Glad health has returned to your house.
No snow here, but I don't think we're expecting it. It's very gloomy though. Oh damn, now I don't have time to vacuum before I pick DD up...

Sparkly...nnnoooo...you have my blessings not to hoover :)