TTC 10+ months thread 12

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A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

mrsd Ialso said when I started trying I wouldn't so IVF- if it happened, it happened. Mmmm, those words are tasty.

frozen it was about the same period for us from last appointment at investigations clinic to first appointment with IVF clinic. Im not sure what they will do. Mine was a baseline scan and height and weight. Then we had a follow up where both of us were required to attend when I think we were talked through all the options, their recommendations and we both had out HIV, etc. tests.

Viv I think almost everyone re-blow dries their hair after the hairdressers, dont they? I eventually found one who leaves me looking like I want to and have refused to go to anyone else for over 5 years.

Well we finally are in the new house and have an internet connection. I have missed you ladies and have missed so much chat and momentous stuff. joycep I am so pleased that it is all systems go for you and really hope that this is your turn.

sarlat I am also pleased to read that you had your lap and that the situation is less grim than you at first thought.

I'm sorry mrsd that you are feeling a bit despondent at the moment. I think that this TTC saga goes in peaks and troughs. Sometimes it all does feel rather overwhelming and bleak.

Thanks to you for remembering and asking about my appointment. After all my worry it really was okay, just a long chat through the process really and more blood test forms including the one for HIV [great joy smiley] I am now waiting for CD1 to book a map drawing session of my cervix - I kid you not! All being well we will start the treatment the cycle after.
It all feels very strange to think that this is the start of either a new life or the start of the end of TTC IYSWIM. I think that I feel relieved by that though.

Sorry for such a crap post and not namechecking but MrP is chomping at the bit to watch Game of Thrones.

Busy on here for a Friday night!

penguin be prepared that they might want to do an internal scan on your first appointment. Mine did. They were really lovely at our clinic though and I'm sure yours will be too.

There were a bunch of other baby makers episodes on the Iplayer that I watched a while ago about a northern Irish fertility clinic. Seeing how many people don't get a bfp I guess is good mental preparation. And my consultant did say that even if we don't get pregnant on the first round we will learn lots from it for subsequent attempts.

mrsd I am totally with you on feeling like the decks are stacked against us. We don't have male factor issues please let this not have changed by MrM's next tests! but every time I think that we've gotten to the bottom of my issues something else comes up. Abscesses, chronic infections, ruined tubes, endometriosis - how on earth will an embie be able to find a safe place to bed down in my royally f**ked up womb? But, all of you can see that there is still hope for me and we can see that there is lots of hope for you

Very excited for your baby making holiday buzzy. Everyone's always saying just go away and relax. You can tell everyone that's all it took

Morning all.

Do any of the Londoners on here fancy another meet up soon? With so many of us moving towards AC over the past few months I think we would have a lot to talk about.

I'm just seeing if there is any interest at this point.

Pout-exciting about the progress. Cervix mapping is a good idea as bad transfers can tip the balance. Great that u r moved in, new house............

Euro-northener here but if u keep me in the loop there is a small posibility I could come depending on dates etc.

Frozen_my first appointment was recap discussion and ordering of day 3 bolod tests, hsg and sa etc along with recommendation for ivf. Also height amd weight.

Viv - they found I had hidden chlmydia and a bacterial infection. I took the results to a chlmydia expert here and he said there was nothing in it. A months worth of antibiotics did clear up a horrible post dtd smell though so I think sth was going on. We have been trying for nearly 3 years.

Euro - I don't really know how they collect the eggs , chosen to ignore it! I was on paracetemol every 4 hours yesterday. I feel a bit bruised and sore but not as bad as the lap. A bit like the hysteo. And yes would be keen to do another meet up.

Art - did they do icsi with you then? Goodness everything is 2 weeks wait in ttc and pregnancy land.

Gin- thanks for your words. Yes I have read that about Hugh Jackman. He sounds utterly lovely and he and his wife obviously went through a horrid time.

Madness - there is skmethig about 13 isn't there. Let's hope!

Buzz - glad you have an appt, that's great.

Had a call from the clinic. 11 have fertilised but the quality can't be decided until tomorrow. Goodness it's so nerve racking! One day at a time though but so far so ok. Breathe.

Pout - so glad you have moved and pleased appt went well. Yippee.

Madness - the antibiotics will clear up the infection and you'll have a bright spanking womb soon. AC will bypass tubes and an embie will be able to embed. This will be your year.

Sar - how are you feeling at the moment?

Morning,

We cross posted last night pout. Glad the house move is done and the appointment wasn't scary. Cervix mapping is a new one for me!!

joy 11 fertilised is great. I know that there's lots of hurdles to come but with so many to start with I'm sure you'll get some good ones to put back in and maybe even a couple to put on ice Thanks for the pep talk. Trying to focus on the positive stories rather than think of everything that's wrong. I hope that you can soon be added to my list of successes.

Wish I was London based although I hate crowds and the underground at rush hour so I could meet you all. I have promised MrM not to do the Facebook thing on here but I was tempted for the wedding photos but a face to face meet up would be lovely one day.

Pout, excellent news re the house move. What is 'cervix mapping', please?

Joy,I went all funny in my stomach when I read about your eleven eggs being fertilised. What a thrill! I know it's early days but I have such high hopes for you. Thanks for answering my questions.

Michael is away all day visiting his son. I am afraid I am not feeling good in the aftermath of his relapse. I feel shell-shocked and afraid - afraid that he has suddenly made us both vulnerable. I can't explain it exactly, just that I now feel less confident in my own recovery; like he has jinxed us somehow. 'Jinxed' is the wrong word as I am not at all superstitious - it may be that I am simply staring in the face of what could happen if I don't remain vigilant. Sorry, not making much sense but wanted to get it off my chest and 'on paper'.

I'm also a northerner but would welcome a chance to get together. Do you have your own facebook page on here or am I to wait until you 'know' me better? Don't want to be the new girl muscling her way into the group

afternoon ladies, I have just come back from taking my top off for another man I really am enjoying my osteopathy.

euro I am keen for a meet up :)

joy 11 eggs is good, hopefully you'll have frosties for future siblings :)

pout glad you are ok, was a little worried about you, glad you have settled in, are you still in the faux surrey area?

madness are you far away?? are you overseas??, I don't actually live in London but its not far for me to get to. We don't say anything on FB honest and we all look normal too

viv no we don't have our FB page, but that did make we are just friends on there. You need to worrya bout yourself and not Michael, he is responsible for himself and his behaviour. Your priority is you, and you need to need to feel happy with in yourself. Do something for yourself.

Last night Barry said one of his fb friends had put up that she had had a miscarriage, I thought it was tastless and why would you share that on fb, I know one of his friends lost her baby girl during labour so could understand her post informing people as everyone knew, but before 12 weeks, to be honest this girl is very sad and needy.

I am looking out the window waiting for any sign of snow whilst trying to undo what Kayla keeps doing to my laptop she also now likes to go up to the full length mirror stretch and scratch on the glass really fast.

Quick and feeble post, I've been missing in action due to work and now I am I'LL! A virusy thing has got me and I'm in bed, shivering, drugged up and feeling sorry for myself. For some reason this makes infertility feel worse!? Also I watched that prog. It educated me but made me very fearful indeed. Sorry no name checking, I'm reading. Excellent news joycep exciting stuff buzzy and how's the house pout? Glad the apt was ok.

Luffs and pathetic man flu drooping feather wave to you all

Ps does this mean my nk cells might not be so potent?

Right, so far it looks like Joy and Buzz for a meet up, with a possible from Sarlat. (Just keeping a tally!)

Wohoo 11 embryos is amazing joy! I wouldn't worry too much about the quality - our lowest grade one made it to blastocyst and arte's weren't grade 1 and did the job nicely. With that no. I assume it'll be a day 5 transfer? I still stand by what I said about you having the first 10 plusers twins.

viv sorry things are still a bit shit. Take one day at a time and try not to worry about the future too much, if that's possible.

madness pleased to hear you survived your 1st week back. Hope the extra meds are helping. Also I find being back at work can help even me out and stop me obsessing about ttc too much.

A big yes please to a meet up euro. I'd love to see you all again, including any preggers lurkers. Oh and the egg sucking needle will barely be near your fanjo with natural ivf. I think it'd take minutes to get 1 egg out and I've heard of people having no sedation for it.

pout pleased to hear you are all moved. Are you (and the fur babies) happy with the new place? V exciting about the ivf. They sound v thorough for the NHS.

sar hope you are still recovering well. Love the idea of earrings with pjs! As others have said, with new boss you can be a bit elusive about what your ops are about. Good luck for Monday! Can I ask about the FET? Do they literally just pop it in on the right date? Did you take any time off work? I was thinking about taking the day of ET off, if we get that far, and possibly an extra few days. To chill and watch trashy DVDs.

artemis all the waiting for scans and tests must be stressful. I think just spending time on MN makes you more aware of all the things that could go wrong, but this doesn't mean you have a higher chance of it than anyone else! The aspect of ET I'm worried about is the speculum. I find them massively uncomfortable. I've been told I have an extra soft fanjo/fanjo walls, so this may be why. Think I'm going to demand some Valium or something similar for the transfer.

doll hope the power is now back properly! And that you found the ivf programme.

mrsd I found the programme sad too, but I guess the stories reflect the stats. Before Xmas out of 4 of us having ivf, it worked for 1! I do find it helpful to see ivf as a several cycle procedure. And you mustn't give up hope. Hopefully your appointment next week will help. Having said that to you, having had 2 ivfs, I do genuinely feel that it will never happen for us!

penguin that's a good turn around time on the appointment. It's all the waiting that drives me nuts.

Waves to everyone else on t'other page wat I missed.

I'm going through a can't be bothered with it all phase at the moment. It's actually quite nice, although I'm sure next tues' appointment will turn me into a woman obsessed again. Work is really busy and I'm doing lots of interesting things there, so I think that's helping. I'm really pleased that no one at work other than my boss knows, as it makes it easier to not think about when there. Quite a few (in fact all in my department) of the women at my level don't have kids, so I don't feel such a freak!

X post lots of you!

I am sooo envious of Kayla buzzy I want a kitty! I've been watching kitten porn on the net far too much..I'm blaming euro as she linked to it.

Aww rabbits sorry about the bunny flu. Watch crap tv & eat chocolate in bed.

Me me me too euro for the meet up!

Hello all, quick shamefaced phone check in from airport as have been AWOL a lot - just to say hooray joy, 11 embies is amazing! Am so thrilled and hopeful for you.

Rabbit sorry you are ill, wishing you a speedy recovery.
Pout how is the new place, are you moved in yet?
Hello hello and general friendly wishes to den, buzz, naoko, gin, frozen, euro, doll, frozen, madness, viv and sar. Thinking of you all lots although have been crap with posting due to work woe. But off to Florida today, hooray! X x

Hello euro I may well be able to come, depending on the day? Wave at critter and gin

I just looked in the mirror. It is a Bad Sight!

rabbit A big squeeze, hope Hare is looking after you.

gin you should see the state of my work mobile charger

well my Canadian friend living in Australia has told me she is nearly 8 weeks pregnant, she has a little boy and has been trying for another for two years with 3 miscarriages and nothing all last year, anyway she has was told it was told it was due to her age 40, they put her on 600mgs of co enzyme q10 and 75 mgs of DHEA for 3 months, not saying its a cure, just putting it out there

Brilliant - so we have yeses from Buzz, joy and gin, and possibles from rabbit and sarlat.

joy 11 fertilised is amazing. Just think, it's possible your whole future family is currently sitting in a petri dish somewhere growing for you.

Critter enjoy Florida. Winter sun - yay!

Gin it's true what you way about it being a multicycle process. I'm definitely finding it helpful that we have a plan in place to try three cycles over the next few months and then take stock. It's taking the pressure off this first cycle a bit for me. (Although I am sure I will still be menkulling like anything when I am actually going through it.)

That's great about your friend Buzz. I do keep hearing good things about DHEA.

euro I do know some women who have taken it and have got pregnant but hasn't lasted, I've been on it for 2 months, had a bit of a break this week but will be back on it for my Feb bfp :) when were you thinking of meeting up??

That's the next question, buzz. I reckon we should aim for Feb so everyone has a couple of week's notice. For those on the list, when would suit you best? I think we did late afternoon/early evening on a weekday before and met around Waterloo. That suited us then. What about now?

Weekday evenings are generally pretty good for me, although I won't be there super early as I tend to finish work around 6 and then have to get there. Anywhere central is also good for me (work in the City, live in SE London).

I don't mind, I wonder if a weekend would be better for the northerners

Evening lovely ladies!

I'd love to meet up, I think, by now. But I am far away maybe abroad so I don't think I can, unless it is in a weekend I happen to be in the big smoke, and there's none planned at the moment.

YAY for 11 embies, joy. Keeping everything crossed for good development. SB scared the hell out of me by telling me he dreamt I was pregnant with triplets (which would involved the spontaneous splitting of one of the eggs, and of course all of them fertilising and implanting, highly unlikely but a little stressful all the same),

Hurrah for being moved and a good productive appointment pout. How is the new place? Tell us all! I was worried too.

Sorry you're ill rabbit. Hope you feel better, one should never look in the mirror full stop when ill.

Waves and tail feathers to the rest of you. Is it time to do a round up for the newbies? I can start one:

lemon (33, 33) TTC for 2,5 years, unexplained, 6xIUI, 1xBFP mc at 7.4, review in Feb.

Oh and a fabulous long-haul holiday in March :) which we booked!

oooh where are you going lemon

Great. So now I have to spend a small fortune on Co-enzyme Q10 for myself, too? I'm already shovelling 'em down t'other half's neck like there's no tomorrow. DHEA: done the research and don't like it. It has had rather adverse effects on some women's cycles.

Rabbit, hope you're feeling better? Well, girls, I think I'll wait for your next meet-up - when you're all in Manchester next