Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 2)

[Bunnygirlie]

Ladies,  Time for a new thread for us oldies (well not that old) TTC number 1 and our MN friends who have their BFP but are still coming along for the ride :-)

bunnygirlie, 32, TTC since June, AF due end Nov
Winkle, ttc 15 months, BFP due 19/11
Zombies, ttc 2 cycles, erratic cycle, PCOS. Next POAS not before 15 December. 
Pipbin, ttc 15 cycles, BFP due 27/11
BraveLilBear TTC cycle 1 after early mc, BFP due 18/11

Aquarius, 32, ttc 8 mths, bfp due mid dec
Happylass TTC cycle 3 BFP due 8/12
Janey, 38, six weeks pg
Rach, 34, PG 7+5. Booking appointment on Wednesday.
Quod, 33, six weeks pg
HazleNutt 8 weeks pg

Sorry if I missed anyone :-)

[BraveLilBear]

Lol Rache, think it's because I'm so convinced that I'm not pregnant. Have completely normal pre AF symptoms... But this is now day 6 of slightly sore boobs and occasional cramps, which is getting a bit ridiculous!

Plus, this is a first cycle after an early mc so figured mother nature was playing tricks. Now have two cheap boots tests in my possession, having practically begged the staff to let me buy them 1 minute before closing time.

I'm planning to wait til morning. Not sure if I'll make it that far but know that logically that's best... Damn you logical brain!

[Rache1S]

Do it, do it, do it!!! Even if you get a BFN now there's still another test for the morning
I had my usual pre-AF symptoms before getting my BFP so that doesn't mean anything. I'm on tenterhooks!

[winkle2]

Good luck brave!!

[HazleNutt]

Evening ladies! Just back from Paris - not used to big cities any more, got me quite tired. Was with a friend who is not drinking, so just claimed that I don't want to drink alone and had water with dinner. Didn't want to tell her yet, as she's the one I've mentioned, who has been trying for 10 years. And was telling me about how uncomfortable her IVF attempts were and that she's not going through another one.

Brave POAS! Oh and yes you probably need a 28D/DD, possibly 30D bra. POAS! POAS! You don't have to wait til morning if you're already late!

[escorpion]

Hi all (waves), I have just turned 32 and am on my second cycle ttc for the first time. Already feel stressed as it has taken so long for my partner to want kids and we have recently had a minor falling out over the fact that he doesn´t like feeling like a ´machine.´ This after only two cycles of every other day shennanigans after the end of my period. I think he thinks it takes just one time of unprotected sex (which in some cases it can) but in our case, it´s not that way and is going to need some serious commitment. I am getting upset as I just get the feeling this will never happen. What have you been finding has made your journey a bit more interesting and includes enthusiasm of both parties?

[Bunnygirlie]

Welcome to our merry band escorpion
It wasn't till cycle 5 last month where I felt truly distraught to see AF so this month has been difficult with pressure on both of us and the feeling of just doing it for the sake of it and it felt horrid. I think the pressure of having a positive on an ov stick made it worse!

Good luck brave hope you are the first of a new group of us getting our BFPs :-)

[HazleNutt]

Hi escorpion! Yes, partners often have only a very vague idea about TTC. Maybe some kind of "pregnancy for men" book would help to explain that it's not always that simple?

[escorpion]

That´s a good idea HazleNutt. I don´t want it to become too stressful for either of us, but would like to think that he wasn´t feeling stressed by it already after only the second cycle. Good luck to all of us trying to conceive!

[janey1234]

Hi escorpion! Welcome

And brave you're going to have to POAS - I will keep everything crossed for you. It's time for some more BFP's after a couple of quiet weeks! Really hoping it's good news for you...

[Pipbin]

I think that for my DP he now realises what I do each day, peeing on stuff etc, and now that I'm facing a lap and dye, having sex on demand is no big deal.

[captainmoll]

H escorpion welcome to the gang! My DH thought it would be simple at the beginning too (well, so did I) and was reluctant to get into the sex-to-schedule thing. We've now been ttc for over a year though, and after seeing me in tears at about 6 months in, he realised that a) it's incredibly stressful being the body that is waiting to change and b) we were going to have to take it more seriously if we weren't both going to lose our marbles. I think gently drip feeding information about things you can both do to help fertility helped us - saying "I'm off the booze this month to see if that helps, how about you drink less coffee and take some exercise". This made it a joint endeavour without (metaphorically!) throwing the cervical mucus and pee-sticks at him straight away.
Most couples take between 3 & 6 months to conceive, so no need to get out the big guns yet. Good luck!

In other news, just got home and did an OV stick - negative, so what the hell does that mean? Should I expect the temp rise tomorrow? Or have I missed it? Or does an lh surge with no temp rise mean I didn't actually OV and all DH's valiant efforts have ben for naught? (Well, naughty, I suppose)

brave very excited about the imminent poas! Good luck!

[ZombiesAreClammyDodgers]

Welcome escorpion!
brave that is very impressive, not POASing- you have iron willpower! I think if you can hold on and not POAS, then you should by all means! At least that you will be sure you won't get a false negative.
sits back and waits for the solid objects to be thrown her way

[ZombiesAreClammyDodgers]

In other news, I have decided to DTD every alternate day this cycle and see how that works out.
Smear test tomorrow bleurgh

[escorpion]

Thanks for all the welcomes. Yes captainmoll, I think I will throw the stats (not the CM and ovulation stick at my DP. Then he may understand that I am not a fertile goddess and will not get pregnant straight away after one quickie. My cycle is all over the place though, never the same amount of days so I know this may be a huge task in hand. Good luck for all those ready to POAS and for those waiting to.

[Bunnygirlie]

My cycle took months to settles down, I'm sure it's still not quite right judging my my weird periods too! Hopefully reflexology lady can get my body back in balance!

[Quodlibet]

Welcome escorpion!

My experience was that both DP and I got more stressed about it in the first few months of TTC, and he got worked up about sex to order. After a few months though the frisson and pressure kind of went out of it somewhat, certainly from his POV, and it became much more something we were on a level with. I reckon we had about 7 or 8 cycles TTCing before a BFP (but a few of those my cycle went on the total wonk). I also think when you start TTCing it is easy to get in a flap when it doesn't happen IMMEDIATELY and think that there must be something wrong with one of you, when the fact is that it does take a few months (3? 6? 12?) on average. When you think about it, we only hear about the people who got up the duff at the drop of a hat/accidentally and those people who can't conceive for love nor money. We don't really hear about the average everyday experience of it taking a few months, which is probably what our expectations should be.

My boobs are pissing me off today - the non-underwired comfy bra I bought 2 weeks ago is now too full. I don't like spending money on ugly underwear!!

I am VERY EXCITED about BraveLilBear POASing tomorrow.

[Lolcbcblemonlime]

Hi girls
Came back this evening. Had an amazing time.
Exciting news on poas tomorrow!!

[Pipbin]

So Brave have you POAS yet?

I'm 8dpo today and didn't have spotting when on my run this morning.
This doesn't happen. I always spot after ov when running.

[janey1234]

Yes, good luck brave....

[winkle2]

Good luck brave and let's hope that's a good sign pip.

[captainmoll]

Good luck Brave!
Really hope that's a good sign Pip, totally is your turn. Fingers crossed for you.

I finally got my temp rise this morning, after DTD again last night - DH really put the hours in this month . Pretty late OV (cd21 in a 31 day cycle) but that means I only have a 10 day wait instead if 2 weeks, right? Also it's my birthday today so I bloody well want a BFP as a present! I offer up as there's no cake picture..

[Quodlibet]

Happy birthday captain! Maybe you will actually conceive today (eg sperm meet egg) - that would be a good present. Unfortunately you've probably got more than 10 days to wait as the luteal phase (from OV to AF) generally stays the same with only the length of time until you OV varying. . So if OV was 3 days later than normal then it's likely your cycle will be 3 days longer than normal. I can't remember - is this the first time you have charted?

Pipbin that's good news.

Come on Brave - we are all waiting!

[HazleNutt]

Happy birthday captain!

[captainmoll]

Thanks!
Quod - birthday conception would be the best. And I knew the damn 2ww would have some kind of caveat - nothing's ever simple, eh? This is the first time I've charted, so it may be that I've just got my OV wrong for all these months. I generally go by CM, but didn't really get any this month (sorry tmi). My chart book tells me that sometimes happens, and I'm off dairy at the mo which might be the cause. A big hurray for conceive plus anyway..

Brave! News! Now! Can't type with my fingers crossed

[janey1234]

Yes, happy birthday captain! But yes that damned 2ww just won't go away... Having said that I got my BFP 10 days after ov courtesy of first response (too impatient to wait) so you might not have to wait the full 14 days...

Re dairy that may well be it - the month I conceived I switched to full fat milk and noticed a lot more EWCM than usual (sorry tmi ) so would imagine removing dairy could have the opposite effect. Still as you say conceive plus does the job even better!

Where are you brave...?