Elderberry Pavlovas Unite - the over 30s TTC number 1 (thread 2)

[Bunnygirlie]

Ladies, Time for a new thread for us oldies (well not that old) TTC number 1 and our MN friends who have their BFP but are still coming along for the ride :-)

bunnygirlie, 32, TTC since June, AF due end Nov
Winkle, ttc 15 months, BFP due 19/11
Zombies, ttc 2 cycles, erratic cycle, PCOS. Next POAS not before 15 December.
Pipbin, ttc 15 cycles, BFP due 27/11
BraveLilBear TTC cycle 1 after early mc, BFP due 18/11

Aquarius, 32, ttc 8 mths, bfp due mid dec
Happylass TTC cycle 3 BFP due 8/12
Janey, 38, six weeks pg
Rach, 34, PG 7+5. Booking appointment on Wednesday.
Quod, 33, six weeks pg
HazleNutt 8 weeks pg

Sorry if I missed anyone :-)

namechanged and updated stats!

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bottlered76, 36, ttc since March, due to POAS 16th Dec
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
twinklestar2, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve
Mulberry, 35, ttc 1, trying 8 months, AF/BFP due 28 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Purple, 30, 12 week scan FINALLY booked for 20th December
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Quod, 33, twelve week scan also on 24 Dec
BraveLilBear, 32, 12 week scan sometime Edd 28th July (approx)
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

Cross-posts! I fell off the list:

Happylass cycle 3 AF due 8th Dec
escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bottlered76, 36, ttc since March, due to POAS 16th Dec
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
twinklestar2, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve
Mulberry, 35, ttc 1, trying 8 months, AF/BFP due 28 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
Captainmoll, 32, TTC about 16 months (13ish of really TTC), OV due Dec21st(ish) BFP New Years Day!

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Purple, 30, 12 week scan FINALLY booked for 20th December
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Quod, 33, twelve week scan also on 24 Dec
BraveLilBear, 32, 12 week scan sometime Edd 28th July (approx)
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

Hello Ladies, and new ladies.

So I was on a course today, which meant I was home before DH. He got home and I told him that the internet wasn't working. He went off to check and came back saying it was an area fault. 'Well' he said 'it's things like this that mean families get started' and off we went to bed!

Also, did anyone see the item on BBC Breakfast this morning? It was saying that there has been a rise in the birth rate and it's thought to be down to the olympics. Seems that all that winning got people shagging. DH and I are geeks though so it takes a lack of internet for us.

Right, schools. Here is how it works. They have a staggered intake into nursery, they start the term after they turn 3 (I think), then, here at least, all move up to Reception, the academic year they turn 5. So an August birthday who would turn 5 next year would have started Reception this September. It also means that some children can have nearly two full years in Nursery. Children are not compulsory school age until the term after they turn 5. I would definitely advocate getting your child into school as soon as you can, however, because they are not compulsory school age then it does mean you can take them out during school time if you want, for a holiday for example.

As for the difference of being a summer baby academically, yes it can be an issue, for example I have a girl in my class who turned 5 in the first week of September, there is also a boy who turned 4 only 2 weeks before and he is in the same class. Damn near as a year different in age, but then that will always be the case, the line has to be drawn somewhere.
As for what this means academically, my honest opinion is that parenting makes far far more difference. One of my most able children in a July birthday. The difference is that his mother reads and works with him.
As for alphabetical, I have to confess that this can make a difference.
I tend to work down an alphabetical list of children when I am going to hear them read, work with them, write their reports etc, by the time you get to the bottom of the list you have lost impetus. For that reason I try to change the order and mix it up a bit.

Captain, thanks - I did know about maternity allowance thanks, it's just not the same as having the same kind of % of salary you'd get with most decent employers. I will have to work out how to play it, because I will need to keep my hand in with my regular freelance job, but I think you are not allowed to do more than about 5 'keeping in touch' days otherwise you lose MA (which is about £100/wk I think - not easy to live on in London!)

Thanks Pip, very interesting, my maiden name was end of alphabet, my married name starts with a C so maybe that will make a difference. I also intend to be like my friends who are mums and work a lot on reading and numbers before they start school.

Well that's me out for 2012 ladies. AF showed up this morning 2 days early . A 24 day cycle this month, what's that all about??
Moving myself to the bottom of the list boo hoo. Hoping for a good start to 2013!

escorpion, due to POAS 10th Dec
Aquarius1, 31 ttc about 8mths, next due 14 Dec
Bottlered76, 36, ttc since March, due to POAS 16th Dec
MeanMrsMustard, 31, ttc 1 month, AF due 18th Dec
twinklestar2, 33, ttc1, cycle 16, BFP due 19 Dec
Navis, 35, ttc1, cycle 2, BFP due 21 Dec
Pipbin 37, cycle 16, BFP due Xmas Eve
Mulberry, 35, ttc 1, trying 8 months, AF/BFP due 28 Dec
Bunnygirlie, 32, been trying since june, AF due New Years Eve!!!
Captainmoll, 32, TTC about 16 months (13ish of really TTC), OV due Dec21st(ish) BFP New Years Day!
Happylass, 34, cycle 4 BFP due 1st Jan 2013

HazleNutt, 34, Twelve week scan on 7th of Dec.
Rach, 34, twelve week scan on 14th Dec.
Purple, 30, 12 week scan FINALLY booked for 20th December
Janey, 38, twelve week scan on 24th Dec.
Quod, 33, twelve week scan also on 24 Dec
BraveLilBear, 32, 12 week scan sometime Edd 28th July (approx)
Lol, 38. Edd 4th August I think

I'm sorry happy. That sucks

New Year baby would be nice though? Also means boozing would be OK over Christmas...?
Every cloud...
Still sucks though
FWIW my cycle was all over the place - from 23 days to 28 - but I've conceived, so I don't necessarily think it's a bad thing. Just might make it worth using clear blue ovulation sticks or something if your OV date is jumping around the place, as mine was...

Sorry to hear that Happy.

Has anyone else got HORRENDOUS bloating? I am having to eat smaller and smaller portions, feeling stuffed after a tiny meal, and am going to bed hours after eating anything feeling packed to the rafters and really sore. It's like my digestion has just stalled.

Yes to the horrendous bloating. Still managing to eat as much though! In Dubai it reached disgusting proportions - did not like being in my bikini next to my 28 year old, size 8 stunning friend. I looked about 5 months gone by the end of each day (bloating increases during the day, attractively).
Have warned DP about how I'll look in my bikini in Thailand. Not sure he'll care (or so I'm telling myself!)

Oh Happy That is rubbish news. Sorry to hear that

Thanks for the insight Pip - very interesting to hear about alphabeticalness making a difference.

And didn't see the BBC Breakfast report, but it explains a lot - ie everyone on Facebook making announcements every five minutes, not being able to see mw for ages and ages. This will upset my OH considerably - he hates the Olympics. Hates it. He will be pigsick if anyone thinks we were inspired by it!

Could also be bad news for all those ladies with BFPs - fewer school places in 4/5 years time. But still, very glad to be pg!

Bah humbug to AF Happy

10+6 and very bloated here. I popped the button on my best fitted work trousers last week I think it's safe to take Gaviscon, Rennies, etc. to help with indigestion and bloating but I have found so far that a glass of ice cold milk about half an hour after eating seems to help so have avoided taking any actual medication so far.

Quod I have an allegedly decent employer who posted pre tax profits of 13 million last year but all I will get is the minimum legal requirement of 90% salary for 6 weeks and then SMP @ £135.45 for the next 33 weeks (which I will have to pay tax on due to my company car) and then sweet FA after that if I choose to take the full year's maternity leave. Not all of us PAYE employees have it good

Rache bought some gaviscon yesterday as I've been struggling so much with acid reflux it's making me feel sick. This is really really unusual for me and I'm not enjoying it much but have discovered newfound sympathy for my father who because he smokes and drinks alcohol and coffee too much and has a terrible diet but I love him dearly suffers really badly with acid reflux all the time.

It was the aniseed flavour and I bought it out of desperation when I discovered I was feeling worse after eating! Took a couple of spoonfuls before bed. Flavour wasn't so bad but the aftertaste nearly made me yack. Amazingly though, 20 minutes later, stopped feeling so grim... but then it started to reappear about 45 minutes later!

Anyone else had the revolting, but apprently quite common pregnancy symptom of nosebleeds or is it just me?

Just got back from my ultrasound.
Turns out I have a 5cm wide cyst on my left ovary that also appears to be blocking the fallopian tube. The right ovary looks healthy but is a bit bigger than usual.
The ultrasound lady (radiographer?) didn't know what the effect of any of this would be on my fertility, but I can't imagine a 5cm cyst growing off my ovary (and apparently for a really long time too) could ever be a good thing.

Does anyone have any experience of similar? I don't think it's the same as PCOS, since there's only one cyst, although it's clearly a whopper. The woman was pretty jaw-on-floor about it, although very firm that it was totally benign. She was amazed I wasn't in pain from it at all..

(Obviously, will be going to see docs to discuss in full, but just after some idea of things in the meantime)

AAAARRGGHHHH!!!! I just looked up the type of cyst it is - Dermoid.

MS sufferers - vom warning!

Dermoid cysts are a form of teratoma, so it's got hair and possibly teeth and glands and things! It's basically one of my ova that has decided to develop itself on my ovary despite not meeting any sperm to do it properly. I am so disgusted with myself!

I am putting Dr Google away now. Calm.

Oh no Captain that sounds like a nasty shock. Sorry to hear that. Please don't be disgusted with yourself - it's not your fault, just a part of your body has gone all independent.

Definitely put Dr Google away. He is no help at all.

Good news? It's benign. The rest you can find out later from the doc. When do you see the doctor about it all?

Thinking of you

Captain sorry you've had a rough bit of news. I actually have a friend who had one of them (she even gave it a nickname). Good news is she conceived while waiting to have it removed and I think ended up having it taken out between her first pregnancy and her second - she now has 2 healthy children. Not surprised you feel a bit floored though .

Quod very reassuring to hear your friend conceived whilst having one of these monsters. I'm quite tempted to give mine a nickname too..
Brave looks like I can't get a doctors appointment for about two weeks!

Independent is definitely the word! Silly impatient ovum..

Still, I have reassured myself that these Dermoid cysts are fairly common, and almost always harmless. Does look like surgery though (keyhole), and also putting off any more TTC until it's been dealt with, which is the biggest disappointment really. Could be a couple of months or more before I'm back on the TTC wagon.

What? No docs for two weeks? That's madness! Is that a consultant or something?

Don't get too downhearted - you might not have to put off TTC. Fx you'll be on the road to babyhood and cyst-free health really soon x

oh no, bad news day
Captain - sorry for your bad news and hope you get an appointment sorted soon. Quod's post sounds reassuring though...
Happy - sorry AF got you

So sorry to hear that captain hope you get it sorted soon.

Captain, my friend had a similar massive cyst (size of an orange!) which was only discovered when they investigated why she was bleeding during pregnancy so it's not ALL doom and gloom hopefully?

Sorry happy. Af can be a bitch.
Captain my aunt had a massive cyst a few years ago, similar to yours from what you described and after the op she lost almost a stone!! Silver lining and all that. At the time she was past conceiving age but I remember doc telling her it would have no impact. When do you go back to doc?
Nothing much happening here. Had a meeting and managed to forget I'm pregnant for a whole three hours!
Have an overwhelming tiredness. Will it end?

Happy sorry about AF - I was too freaked out by the discovery of my hairy toothy internal ball to say so earlier. FX for the next round.

BLol Crikey! A stone! It must have been huuuge! I don't think I'll be losing that much - mine is, it turns out, only small compared to many Dermoid cysts.

I won't get to see the doc til Friday week at the very earliest, and that's only if I call on the day and see if they have any cancellations. Otherwise I'll be looking at an appt end of the next week. Ridiculously, even though the ultrasound person told me the results, I have to wait a week for the same results to get to my GP, and then wait for her availability to see me to discuss them.

I think the cyst will only be causing fertility issues if it is restricting the fallopian tube (which is looks like it might be), but even then, the other ovary looks fine and many many many women conceive easily with just the one functioning ovary. So it's freaky and interesting, but probably not the main answer behind our fertility problems.

I think I'll call it Humperdink.